Vorkosigan Saga Quotes

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Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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If you can't be seven feet tall, be seven feet smart.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Labyrinth (Vorkosigan Saga, #5.2))
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Some prices are just too high, no matter how much you may want the prize. The one thing you can't trade for your heart's desire is your heart.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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When you choose an action, you choose the consequences of that action. When you desire a consequence you had damned well better take the action that would create it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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Don't wish to be normal. Wish to be yourself. To the hilt. Find out what you're best at, and develop it, and hopscotch your weaknesses. Wish to be great at whatever you are.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Labyrinth (Vorkosigan Saga, #5.2))
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I've always thought tests are a gift. And great tests are a great gift. To fail the test is a misfortune. But to refuse the test is to refuse the gift, and something worse, more irrevocable, than misfortune.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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Since no one is perfect, it follows that all great deeds have been accomplished out of imperfection. Yet they were accomplished, somehow, all the same.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Mirror Dance (Vorkosigan Saga, #8))
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Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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My home is not a place, it is people.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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Some people grow into their dreams, instead of out of them.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Komarr (Vorkosigan Saga, #11))
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A weapon is a device for making your enemy change his mind.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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But pain... seems to me an insufficient reason not to embrace life. Being dead is quite painless. Pain, like time, is going to come on regardless. Question is, what glorious moments can you win from life in addition to the pain?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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I am who I choose to be. I have always been what I chose, though not always what I pleased.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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I don't want power. I just object to idiots having power over me.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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We should have taken our chances back then, when we were young and beautiful and didn't even know it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Diplomatic Immunity (Vorkosigan Saga, #13))
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When the time comes to leap in faith whether you have your eyes open or closed or scream all the way down or not makes no practical difference.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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The dead cannot cry out for justice; it is a duty of the living to do so for them.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Diplomatic Immunity (Vorkosigan Saga, #13))
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The world is made by the people who show up for the job.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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All the geniuses I ever met were so just part of the time. To qualify, you only have to be great once, you know. Once when it matters.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Komarr (Vorkosigan Saga, #11))
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The will to be stupid is a very powerful force, but there are always alternatives.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Brothers in Arms (Vorkosigan Saga, #5))
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The really unforgivable acts are committed by calm men in beautiful green silk rooms, who deal death wholesale, by the shipload, without lust, or anger, or desire, or any redeeming emotion to excuse them but cold fear of some pretended future. But the crimes they hope to prevent in that future are imaginary. The ones they commit in the present β€” they are real.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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On the sixth day God saw He couldn't do it all, so He created ENGINEERS
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Falling Free (Vorkosigan Saga, #4))
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One step at a time,” Vorkosigan returned grimly, β€œI can walk around the world. Watch me.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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An honor is not diminished for being shared.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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I do think, half of what we call madness is just some poor slob dealing with pain by a strategy that annoys the people around him.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Mirror Dance (Vorkosigan Saga, #8))
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When you give each other everything, it becomes an even trade. Each wins all.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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If you make it plain you like people, it's hard for them to resist liking you back.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Diplomatic Immunity (Vorkosigan Saga, #13))
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There is no more hollow feeling than to stand with your honor shattered at your feet while soaring public reputation wraps you in rewards. That's soul-destroying. The other way around is merely very, very irritating.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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Too late, he recalled Miles's dictum that the reward for a job well done was usually a harder job.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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Have you ever heard the phrase, Living well is the best revenge?" "Where I come from, someone's head in a bag is generally considered the best revenge
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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Miles clutched Quinn's elbow. "Don't Panic." "I'm not panicking," Quinn observed, "I'm watching you panic. It's more entertaining .
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Brothers in Arms (Vorkosigan Saga, #5))
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I've got forward momentum. There's no virtue in it. It's just a balancing act. I don't dare stop.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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Experience suggests it doesn't matter so much how you got here, as what you do after you arrive.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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Not that I haven't leaped up into the blinding light of competence now and then. It's sustaining the altitude that defeats me.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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If the truth doesn't save us, what does that say about us?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Diplomatic Immunity (Vorkosigan Saga, #13))
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You go on. You just go on. There's nothing more to it, and there's no trick to make it easier. You just go on.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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[Koudelka] looked back, "You?! I know you! You trust beyond reason!" [Cordelia] met his eyes steadily, "Yes, it's how I get results beyond hope, as you may recall.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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The Imperial Service could win a war without coffee, but would prefer not to have to.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Captain Vorpatril's Alliance (Vorkosigan Saga, #15))
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Children might or might not be a blessing, but to create them and then fail them was surely damnation.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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I am not a fate worse than death, dammit!
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Captain Vorpatril's Alliance (Vorkosigan Saga, #15))
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If power was an illusion, wasn't weakness necessarily one also?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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Cecil flashed a grin. "Quite. Plus your rather irritating habit of treating your superior officers as your, ah..." Cecil paused, apparently groping again for just the right word. "Equals?" Miles hazarded. "Cattle," Cecil corrected judiciously.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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But when he’s cut, I bleed.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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You try to give away what you want yourself.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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It was hell to be so tired, and still care.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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Anything worth achieving is worth overachieving.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Captain Vorpatril's Alliance (Vorkosigan Saga, #15))
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Money, power, sex ... and elephants.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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You don't pay back your parents. You can't. The debt you owe them gets collected by your children, who hand it down in turn. It's a sort of entailment. Or if you don't have children of the body, it's left as a debt to your common humanity. Or to your God, if you possess or are possessed by one. The family economy evades calculation in the gross planetary product. It's the only deal I know where, when you give more than you get, you aren't bankrupted - but rather, vastly enriched.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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…the trouble with oaths of the form, death before dishonor, is that eventually, given enough time and abrasion, they separate the world into two sorts of people: the dead, and the forsworn.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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My dinner party,' Miles grated. 'It's just breaking up.' And sinking. All souls feared lost.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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The good face pain. But the great? They embrace it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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Oh, was that liquor of yours a stimulant?" asked Elena. "I wondered why he didn't fall asleep." "Couldn't you tell?" chuckled Mayhew. "Not really." Miles twisted his head to take in Elena's upside-down worried face, and smile in weak reassurance. Sparkly black and purple whirlpools clouded his vision. Mayhew's laughter faded. "My God," he said hollowly, "you mean he's like that all the time?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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Yes," Vorkosigan agreed, "I could take over the universe with this army if I could ever get all their weapons pointed in the same direction.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself... Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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I don't confuse greatness with perfection. To be great anyhow is…the higher achievement.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Mirror Dance (Vorkosigan Saga, #8))
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Bleeding ulcers run in my family, we give them to each other.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Borders of Infinity (Vorkosigan Saga [Publication] #5.1-5.3))
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It’s not that I’m not upset; it’s just that I’m too tired to run up and down the corridor screaming.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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Women shouldn't be in combat," said Vorkosigan, grimly glum. "Neither should men, in my opinion.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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Hunting hawks did not belong in cages, no matter how much a man coveted their grace, no matter how golden the bars. They were far more beautiful soaring free. Heartbreakingly beautiful.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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I wanted to give you a victory. But by their essential nature triumphs can’t be given.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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Miles exhaled carefully, faint with rage and reminded grief. He does not know, he told himself. He cannot know... "Ivan, one of these days somebody is going to pull out a weapon and plug you, and you're going to die in bewilderment, crying, "What did I say? What did I say?" "What did I say?" asked Ivan indignantly.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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It's an ancient and honorable term for the final step in any engineering project. Turn it on, see if it smokes.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Falling Free (Vorkosigan Saga, #4))
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Suicidal glory is the luxury of the irresponsible.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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It’s important that someone celebrate our existence," she objected amiably. "People are the only mirror we have to see ourselves in. The domain of all meaning. All virtue, all evil, are contained only in people. There is none in the universe at large. Solitary confinement is a punishment in every human culture.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Mirror Dance (Vorkosigan Saga, #8))
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The fourth approved approach for the problem of frontally attacking a guarded wormhole was to shoot the officer who suggested it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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And this was your friend?" Cordelia raised her eyebrows. "Seems to me the only difference between your friends and your enemies is how long the stand around chatting before they shoot you.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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No, no, never send interim reports," said Miles. "Only final ones. Interim reports tend to elicit orders. Which you must then either obey, or spend valuable time and energy evading, which you could be using to solve the problem.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Brothers in Arms (Vorkosigan Saga, #5))
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War is not its own end, except in some catastrophic slide into absolute damnation. It's peace that's wanted. Some better peace than the one you started with.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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History does not so much repeat as echo, I suppose.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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A true Vor, Miles told himself severely, does not bury his face in his liegewoman's breasts and cryβ€”even if he is at a convenient height for it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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It was suicide, wasn't it?" "In an involuntary sort of way," said Vorob'yev. "These Cetagandan political suicides can get awfully messy, when the principal won't cooperate." "Thirty-two stab wounds in the back, worst case of suicide they ever saw?" murmured Ivan, clearly fascinated by the gossip. "Exactly, my lord.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Cetaganda (Vorkosigan Saga, #9))
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It reminded him of that definition of his father's. A weapon is a device for making your enemy change his mind. The mind was the first and final battleground; the stuff in between was just noise.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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Damn it," he mumbled apologetically, "things like this never happened to Vorthalia the Bold." She raised a thoughtful eyebrow. "How do you know? The histories of those times were all written by minstrels and poets. You try and think of a word that rhymes with 'bleeding ulcer
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Warrior's Apprentice (Vorkosigan Saga, #2))
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He wanted to know what I saw in you. I told him..." he paused again, and then continued almost shyly, "that you poured out honor like a fountain, all around you." "That's weird. I don't feel full of honor, or anything else, except maybe confusion." "Naturally not. Fountains keep nothing for themselves.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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The man who assumes everything is a lie is at least as mistaken as the one who assumes everything is true.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Brothers in Arms (Vorkosigan Saga, #5))
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He was shaken by an unwelcome insight. Lives did not add as integers. They added as infinities.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Borders of Infinity (Vorkosigan Saga [Publication] #5.1-5.3))
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One foot in front of the other, wasn't that the grownup way of solving problems? Surely he ought to be a grownup at his age.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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Well, one couldn't help one's thoughts. One could help opening one's mouth and saying something really stupid, though.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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All true wealth is biological (Aral Vorkosigan)
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Mirror Dance (Vorkosigan Saga, #8))
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Miles added it to his life's lessons list. Call it Rule 27B. Never make key tactical decisions while having electro-convulsive seizures.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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Change is possible.' 'Change is inevitable.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Shards of Honour (Vorkosigan Saga, #1))
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One corner of his mouth crooked up, then the quirk vanished in a thoughtful pursing of his lips. "He's bisexual, you know." He took a delicate sip of his wine. "Was bisexual," she corrected absently, looking fondly across the room. "Now he's monogamous." Vordarian choked, sputtering.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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I am not schizoid. A little manic-depressive, maybe." "'Know thyself.'" "We try, sir.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Borders of Infinity (Vorkosigan Saga [Publication] #5.1-5.3))
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I miss it every minute, and I have no wish at all to go back.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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All the worry people expend over not existing after they die, yet nary a one ever seems to spare a moment to worry about not having existed before they were conceived. Or at all. After all, one sperm over and we would have been our sisters, and we'd never have been missed.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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stupidity can be as bad as malice
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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integrity is a disease, and you can only catch it from someone who has it.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Winterfair Gifts (Vorkosigan Saga, #13.1))
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Never underestimate the human capacity for wishful thinking and willful blindness,' said Miles. Such as a whole society of people who became so wrapped up in avoiding death, they forgot to be alive?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (CryoBurn (Vorkosigan Saga, #14))
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You go on. You just go on. There's nothing more to it, and there's no trick to make it easier. You just go on." "What do you find on the other side? When you go on?" She shrugged. "Your life again. What else?
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Memory (Vorkosigan Saga, #10))
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Welcome to Barrayar, son. Here you go: have a world of wealth and poverty, wrenching change and rooted history. Have a birth; have two. Have a name. Miles means "soldier," but don't let the power of suggestion overwhelm you. Have a twisted form in a society that loathes and fears the mutations that have been its deepest agony. Have a title, wealth, power, and all the hatred and envy they will draw. Have your body ripped apart and re-arranged. Inherit an array of friends and enemies you never made. Have a grandfather from hell. Endure pain, find joy, and make your own meaning, because the universe certainly isn't going to supply it. Always be a moving target. Live. Live. Live.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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So the difference between a criminal and a hero is the order in which their vile crimes are committed. And justice comes with a sell-by date. In that case, you’d better hurry. You wouldn't want your heroism to spoil.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Komarr (Vorkosigan Saga, #11))
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It’s a . . . transcendental act. Making life. . . . β€˜By this act, I bring one death into the world.’ One birth, one death, and all the pain and acts of will between. . . . Our children change us . . . whether they live or not.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Barrayar (Vorkosigan Saga, #7))
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I know girls who pine for it. They like to play dress-up and pretend being Vor ladies of old, rescued from menace by romantic Vor youths. For some reason they never play 'dying in childbirth', or 'vomiting your guts out from the red dysentery', or 'weaving till you go blind and crippled from arthritis and dye poisoning', or 'infanticide'. Well, they do die romantically of disease sometimes, but somehow it's always an illness that makes you interestingly pale and everyone sorry and doesn't involve losing bowel control.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Komarr (Vorkosigan Saga, #11))
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Pym!" The Countess spotted a new victim, and her voice went a little dangerous. "I seconded you to look after Miles. Would you care to explain this scene?" There was a thoughtful pause. In a voice of simple honesty, Pym replied, "No, Milady.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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Think of the glory. Think of your reputation. Think how great it'll look on your next resume." On my cenotaph, you mean. Nobody will be able to collect enough of my scattered atoms to bury. You going to cover my funeral expenses, son?" Splendidly. Banners, dancing girls, and enough beer to float your coffin to Valhalla." - Miles coaxing Ky Tung to agree to an almost suicidal mission
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Lois McMaster Bujold (The Vor Game (Vorkosigan Saga, #6))
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Miles was…the thing is, he was afflicted with a severe birth injury. He grew up pretty much crippled, so he poured all his frustrated energy into his intellect. Since the Vorkosigan family motto might as well be, Anything worth achieving is worth overachieving, the effect was pretty frightening. And it worked for him, so he did it some more.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Captain Vorpatril's Alliance (Vorkosigan Saga, #15))
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There's something to that in both directions," said Ekaterin mildly. "Nothing is more guaranteed to make one start acting like a child than to be treated like one. It's so infuriating. It took me the longest time to figure out how to stop falling into that trap." "Yes, exactly," said Kareen eagerly. "You understand! Soβ€”how did you make them stop?" "You can't make themβ€”whoever your particular them isβ€”do anything, really," said Ekaterin slowly. "Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste . . . years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just . . . take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that, and walk away. But that's hard.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))
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This is the most important thing I will ever say to you. The human mind is the ultimate testing device. You can take all the notes you want on the technical data, anything you forget you can look up again, but this must be engraved on your hearts in letters of fire. There is nothing, nothing, nothing, more important to me in the men and women I train than their absolute personal integrity. Whether you function as welders or inspectors, the laws of physics are implacable lie detectors. You may fool men. You will never fool metal. That’s all.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Falling Free (Vorkosigan Saga, #4))
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Emperors per se did not unnerve Miles . . . . Emperor Gregor had been raised along with Miles practically as his foster-brother; somewhere in the back of Miles's mind the term emperor was coupled with such identifiers as somebody to play hide-and-seek with. In this context those hidden assumptions could be a psychosocial land mine.
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Lois McMaster Bujold (Cetaganda (Vorkosigan Saga, #9))
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Dear Madam Vorsoisson, I am sorry. This is the eleventh draft of this letter. They’ve all started with those three words, even the horrible version in rhyme, so I guess they stay. You once asked me never to lie to you. All right, so. I’ll tell you the truth now even if it isn’t the best or cleverest thing, and not abject enough either. I tried to be the thief of you, to ambush and take prisoner what I thought I could never earn or be given. You were not a ship to be hijacked, but I couldn’t think of any other plan but subterfuge and surprise. Though not as much of a surprise as what happened at dinner. The revolution started prematurely because the idiot conspirator blew up his secret ammo dump and lit the sky with his intentions. Sometimes these accidents end in new nations, but more often they end badly, in hangings and beheadings. And people running into the night. I can’t be sorry that I asked you to marry me, because that was the one true part in all the smoke and rubble, but I’m sick as hell that I asked you so badly. Even though I’d kept my counsel from you, I should have at least had the courtesy to keep it from others as well, till you’d had the year of grace and rest you’d asked for. But I became terrified that you’d choose another first. So I used the garden as a ploy to get near you. I deliberately and consciously shaped your heart’s desire into a trap. For this I am more than sorry, I am ashamed. You’d earned every chance to grow. I’d like to pretend I didn’t see it would be a conflict of interest for me to be the one to give you some of those chances, but that would be another lie. But it made me crazy to watch you constrained to tiny steps, when you could be outrunning time. There is only a brief moment of apogee to do that, in most lives. I love you. But I lust after and covet so much more than your body. I wanted to possess the power of your eyes, the way they see form and beauty that isn’t even there yet and draw it up out of nothing into the solid world. I wanted to own the honor of your heart, unbowed in the vilest horrors of Komarr. I wanted your courage and your will, your caution and your serenity. I wanted, I suppose, your soul, and that was too much to want. I wanted to give you a victory. But by their essential nature triumphs can’t be given. They must be taken, and the worse the odds and the fiercer the resistance, the greater the honor. Victories can’t be gifts. But gifts can be victories, can’t they. It’s what you said. The garden could have been your gift, a dowry of talent, skill, and vision. I know it’s too late now, but I just wanted to say, it would have been a victory most worthy of our House. Yours to command, Miles Vorkosigan
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Lois McMaster Bujold (A Civil Campaign (Vorkosigan Saga, #12))