Unsupported Partner Quotes

Because self-critics often come from unsupportive family backgrounds, they tend not to trust others and assume that those they care about will eventually try to hurt them. This creates a steady state of fear that causes problems in interpersonal interactions. For instance, research shows that highly self-critical people tend to be dissatisfied in their romantic relationships because they assume their partners are judging them as harshly as they judge themselves. The misperception of even fairly neutral statements as disparaging often leads to oversensitive reactions and unnecessary conflicts. This means that self-critics often undermine the closeness and supportiveness in relationships that they so desperately seek.

Now we are in a very profound relationship. I know who you are and what your goals are. We are in the top 20 percent of all the people alive because we have clarity regarding the other person. Did that take time or drama?” I asked. She said no. “So here is the reality of filling in the relationship formula . . . you don’t get a choice of what your partner’s goals are. You cannot change them or manipulate them in any way. People are going to do what they are going to do with or without you. Once you have expressed clarity with each other, you can then decide to support with 100 percent of yourself, which I will tell you is the only way to go. Or you can leave. Which is also very powerful. The worst thing you can do is stay in an unsupportive relationship. One in which you do like what the other person is doing and don’t try to help them achieve their goals. Personally, I think this is why so many people get divorced and so many leaders fail,” I said.

Order is the stability of your marriage. It's buttressed by the traditions of the past and by your expectations-grounded, often invisibly, in those traditions. Chaos is that stability crumbling under your feet when you discover your partner's infidelity. Chaos is the experience of reeling unbound and unsupported through space when your guiding routines and traditions collapse.