The Self Confidence Workbook Quotes

True self-confidence is part courage, part competence, with a healthy dose of self-compassion mixed in.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by a goal, it helps to remember the adage, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

Remember, self-confidence doesn’t mean you won’t sometimes fail. But you’ll know you can handle challenges and not be crippled by them.

What does it mean to be self aware? In a sense, it's what it sounds like, but it also goes deeper than that. Self awareness is awareness that goes beyond the surface of the self; it's becoming aware not just of who we are, but what we stand for, and all the little things that make us up. When you become self aware, you learn about what makes you tick. You delve into the experiences that make you up as well as your thought patterns, perspectives, predominant emotions, and overarching beliefs. Self awareness without judgement is the key to a deep understanding of oneself, and the beginning of the healing process. Becoming self aware helps us to better understand our wants and needs, and only then can we move forward in taking care of ourself the right way, meeting our needs, and being secure enough in ourselves to go after our dreams.

Self care, in a sense, is the act of giving yourself that love you so desperately seek from someone else. Self care is taking initiative to love yourself, and then going one step further and putting that love in action. Self care is treating yourself the way you would treat anyone that you deeply love. It's accepting both your strengths and your flaws and caressing your imperfections until you realize that your imperfections might just be the most perfect thing about you. It's the first step to living a fulfilling life. Self care is self love in action.

These are things to have under your belt in order to make and strengthen boundaries: Educate them. To be blunt, narcissists aren’t exactly in tune with their interpersonal or communication skills. Try using incentives or other motivators to get them to pay attention to how their behavior affects others. They may not empathize or seem to get what you’re saying, but at least you can say you tried to look at it from your point of view. Understand your personal rights. In order to demand being treated fairly and with respect, it’s important to know what your rights are. You’re allowed to say no, you have a right to your feelings, you are allowed privacy—and there are no wedding or relationship vows that say you are at the beck and call of your partner. When a person has been abused for a long time, they may lack the confidence or self-esteem to take a stand on their rights. The more power they take back, though, the less the abuser has. Be assertive. This is something that depends on confidence, and will take practice, but it’s worth it. Being assertive means standing up for yourself and exuding pride in who you are. Put your strategies into play. After the information you’ve absorbed so far, you have an advantage in that you are aware of your wants, what the narcissist demands, what you are able to do and those secret tiny areas you may have power over. Tap into these areas to put together your own strategies. Re-set your boundaries. A boundary is an unseen line in the sand. It determines the point you won’t allow others to cross over or they’ll hurt you. These are non-negotiable and others must be aware of them and respect them. But you have to know what those lines are before making them clear to others. Have consequences. As an extension of the above point, if a person tries ignoring your boundaries, make sure you give a consequence. There doesn't need to be a threat, but more saying, “If you ________, we can’t hang out/date/talk/etc.” You’re just saying that crossing the boundary hurts you so if they choose to disregard it, you choose not to accept that treatment. The narcissist will not tolerate you standing up for yourself, but it’s still important. The act of advocating for yourself will increase your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. Then you’ll be ready to recover and heal.

Although we all wish there was, there really is no overnight recipe for success; instead, you need to know who you are to know what you want, and within that process of self discovery and self care you develop the clarity and drive to get to where you need to be.

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If you acknowledge your power of choice in your situation, you will instantly boost your self-confidence and open yourself up to new possibilities.

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A person with healthy self-esteem has the confidence to seek what he wants without making another person feel unworthy.

There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” —SUSAN CAIN

Actions come before feelings. Actions are guided by values—the things you care about. Process is more important than outcome.

If taking action in the face of fear, doubt, or lack of motivation were easy, our real lives might look more like our wildest dreams.

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As another example, imagine two people at a dance. Both lack confidence in their dancing skills, but one has healthy self-esteem and the other does not. The person with high self-esteem is able to have fun with their friends, busting out moves and acting silly on the dance floor, unfazed by what other people think. But the person with low self-esteem may not even set foot on the dance floor, fearing that everyone will notice how ridiculous they look. Low self-esteem holds us back and makes us dwell on our insecurities or low levels of confidence. Healthy self-esteem allows us to see beyond moments of self-doubt and enjoy life without unnecessary fear.