Teal Swan Quotes

What would someone who loves themselves do?

decide to make how you feel the number one priority in your life—in

Truly happy people see the value in negativity.

It is sad to me how intense fear frosts my happiest moments. This is a trend in my life due to years of losing everything that I loved. If I love something, I fear the loss of that thing to a degree that my bone marrow begins to ache. I mourn it before it is even gone.

We are afraid of what will be in the room with us if we stop being busy.

A thousand times we die in one life. We crumble, break and tear apart until the layers of illusion are burned away and all that is left, is the truth of who and what we really are.

One of the leading techniques that is used in trauma integration involves a process where you consciously revisit traumatizing memories, rescue your childhood self out of each of those memories, and then bring those childhood versions of you to a safe space where you then reparent them.

If you remove yourself far enough from the limited point of view of pain, you will see that at the root of all things that are negative in this world is the physical fact that we are all nothing but the victims of victims.

Observing and then letting go is one of the most important skills to acquire in the quest to create positive change, as is knowledge of stillness.

Without a healthy emotional life, a relationship is not a relationship; it is a social arrangement where no intimacy or connection exists.

Never downplay the power and importance of imagination. Nothing manifests in your reality without having been imagined first. Every single thing that you eventually come to life has been imagined first.

Frustration to what has been binds you to what has been. Healthy acceptance sets you free.

You cannot be happy if you run from pain, because to run from or try to avoid something is to be focused backward, toward the problem.

True forgiveness is forgetfulness.

All too often, people take no action until the fear goes away. But life cannot be lived like that. It cannot be lived like that anymore than it can be lived in spite of fear.

The emptiness that we feel is the result of those rejected (and therefore suppressed) parts of ourselves. Your soul wants only one thing, and that is to make you whole again.

It may be uncomfortable to express your own thoughts and feelings. It may also be uncomfortable to hear the truth of someone else's current thoughts and feelings. But those thoughts and feelings should never be suppressed. The only way that anyone can be in a real relationship is if those current truths are out on the table. Otherwise we can not really love the person we think we love, because we don't even see the truth of who they are in this moment. We are in essence, in love with an illusion. We are in essence, asking people to love an illusion of ourselves unless we are willing to be vulnerable and open enough to show them the truth of who we are in this moment.

The truth is that an enlightened person has made a practice of releasing all resistance from his or her being. It’s not that they never experience conflict or pain. It’s that they are willing to be open to experiencing conflict and pain.

But you will know the more you get it touch with your transcendental mind (and therefore truth) that there is no such thing as a victim. The negative benefits you more than anything else in your evolution and the evolution of all that is.

Your true nature is unquantifiable.

Your thinking mind is a tool for your observing mind.

self-rejection is the birth of self-hate.

I was unfixable, I saw that my innocence didn’t go anywhere. Like the tiny flame on the end of a matchstick, it may have flickered, but it didn’t die. I found my inherent goodness again. I found the part of me that couldn’t be harmed by the people who found a way to harm everything else about me. Gradually, I began to reparent myself. By loving and caring for my inner

Your existence in the physical dimension is all the justification you will ever need of worth.

you can shift the angles at which you perceive something.

how” we think we will get happiness is the middleman,

We can also develop an aversion to happiness when we are acquainted with happy people who are often unwilling to look at anything they feel is negative.

In a world that sees dirt as a negative, it is like seeing the dirt’s worth to the flower.

Stop trying to feel better, instead become better at feeling.

Once you develop a willingness to feel, eventually your emotions will no longer frighten you.

There is a huge difference between doing something that scares us and that we really don’t want to do, and doing something that scares us but that we really do want to do.

Parents and adults in our society found a way to preserve their own self-concept, and that was through feeding themselves, as well as you, with the belief “It’s for your own good.” We are fed this lie from day one. Even those of us who grow up in the most loving households are fed this lie. We make our children sit through hours of lessons in the prison-like environment we call school and tell them it’s for their own good. We discipline them in ways that are painful to their minds and bodies and tell them that it’s for their own good.

Frustration at what has been binds you to what has been.

What thought do I want to think most about the world?

All that exists of the future is what part of the future you have made part of your current thoughts now.

It’s far better to view our extreme negative reactions to other people, and our extreme positive ones, as the perfect opportunity to develop our own self-awareness.

In the beginning, spirituality is a seeking practice. We seek peace, we seek joy, we seek wisdom, we seek awakening, we seek self betterment. Farther down the road, the realization comes that we already are the peace and joy and wisdom and awakening and self betterment that we seek. At that point, spirituality becomes what it is… Not a practice of seeking anything. But a practice of uncovering what was there inside you all along. You already are the light at the end of the tunnel. You already are the wisdom, you already are the peace, you already are the joy. You already are awakened, you already are perfect. All that’s left is for you to discover that you are.

Children who are raised in unhealthy emotional environments aren’t able to soothe themselves. Very often, they fail to emotionally connect with their family. If they don’t develop intimacy at home, they feel desperately isolated and alone, which may also lead to health problems.

do you give yourself enough attention? Do you settle for second best? When you look in the mirror, does your attention immediately gravitate toward flaws? When you are sad, do you tell yourself to “get over it”? Do you try to suppress or silence your feelings by being passive-aggressive or indulging in an addiction? Just take some time to look at your life, and write down all the ways in which

Worth is defined as the quality that renders something desirable, useful, or of quality. But the question is, to whom is something desirable, useful, or of quality?

nothing worth doing is hard to do. Inspiration is your higher self calling you forward toward action, and when your higher self is initiating an action, it is effortless.

the entire purpose of physical life and the physical dimension in general is to help Source know itself by becoming exactly what it is we dream up for it to coexist with our wanting.

Self-awareness doesn’t come naturally to those who avoid pain because to become aware of those lost aspects, you must stop trying to escape the emptiness within you where those missing parts should be

People who have suffered as a result of certain aspects of themselves not being accepted, included, wanted, valued, appreciated or loved, heal by experiencing those thing being accepted, included, wanted, valued, appreciated and loved.

We all know on some level that it is important to love ourselves. But when people say that “all you have to do is love yourself,” it’s kind of like telling a child in kindergarten that he or she has to solve a college physics equation. Like that bewildered child, we have no idea where to begin. We are standing in a place where we don’t love ourselves and haven’t for some time. We simply have no idea where to start and where to go from here.

It is hard to do nothing, especially in this physical world that is addicted to the drug of action. You think that when you are not doing something, you are wasting your time. But your time exists for the sole reason for you to be, not for you to do. The fertile ground for inspired action is to first be.

The word loneliness never seems adequate to describe the torment of starvation for closeness. My life had been plagued by loneliness. And fame, which came as a natural accessory to my career, only served to accentuate it like a magnifying glass. I had spent my life never feeling seen, heard, understood or wanted. Fame made finding that closeness that I craved so desperately even harder to attain. To the outside world it seemed that everyone valued and wanted me, but nothing could be further from the truth. People saw me, felt me and understood me less than before. I was surrounded by people but I was nothing more to them than the projections they placed on me. The only value I had, and the only reason they wanted me, was for what they could get through me.

The word loneliness never seems adequate to describe the torment of starvation for closeness.

If you remove yourself far enough from the limited point of view of pain, you will see that at the root of all things that are negative in this world is the physical fact that we are all nothing but the victims of victims. Remove yourself even farther than that, and you will see that there is no such thing as a victim. Victimhood is just a prison of illusion restricted to physical life—and forgiveness is the way out of it.

Therefore, the only hand you can ever shake is your own. The only street you can walk on is yours. The only thing you can ever love is yourself. You meet yourself in everything you see. Your life is a liberated existence the second that you know it is. Your joy, will, and wants can never be separate from those of Source, because you are Source, and Source is you. There is no sculptor in the sky designing your life for you, because the sculptor in the sky is you.

Connection is not something that you can earn. Like the air that you breathe, it is a necessity of life itself. To earn connection means the person you earned that connection from was never there for connection to begin with. It means you were a means to an end for them. It means being connected with you got them something else that they wanted. It was never about you and it was not the value of the connection itself that they were getting from you. Genuine connection is something that occurs for the sake of connection. It is something that happens for the gift of the experience of closeness. It's for the gift of the experience of seeing, hearing, feeling and understanding someone and being seen, being heard, being felt, and being understood in return.

Swan had used them to send Sophie messages. He fished out the tiny velvet pouch and Sophie caught herself clutching her allergy remedy necklace. She still kept the silver moonlark pin that Calla had given her attached to the cord—a reminder of the friend she’d lost, and a symbol of the role she needed to figure out how to play. “Looks like we’re good,” Sandor said, handing her the small boobrie pin—a strange black bird with bright yellow tail feathers. “Can’t imagine that means anything important.” Sophie couldn’t either. Especially since the Black Swan had been annoyingly silent. No notes. No clues. No answers during their brief meetings. Apparently they were “regrouping.” And it was taking forever. At least the Council was doing something—setting up goblin patrols and trying to arrange an ogre Peace Summit. The Black Swan should at least be . . . Actually, Sophie didn’t know what they should be doing. That was the problem with having her friend join the enemy. “There you are!” a familiar voice said behind her. “I was starting to think you’d ditched us.” The deep, crisp accent was instantly recognizable. And yet, the teasing words made Sophie wish she’d turn and find a different boy. Fitz looked as cute as ever in his red Level Five uniform, but his perfect smile didn’t reach his trademark teal eyes. The recent revelations had been a huge blow for all of her friends, but Fitz had taken it the hardest. Both his brother and his best friend had run off with the Neverseen. Alvar’s betrayal had made Fitz wary—made him doubt every memory. But Keefe’s?

This is Earth Where each breath and step is none but progression toward death. Where pain is the loud and bloody birthing ground for peace. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice. It leaks like sweat from the pores It's dried in the sun of our commitment to live. Where a trillion lives are spinning through the cosmos, at a thousand miles per hour with no destionation in sight. Our faith is placed in the colour of our blood, in the salt of our tears. Where the heart is broken and it keeps of beating just the same. Where love is the only evidence we have that God exists something greater than ourselves and the blindness with which we fumble through life. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice. Where no matter how careful you are, you will die. some of us simply arrive at death safely. But in honest defeat, with a life half lived. Drenched in the sweat of our own cowardice, having made no commitment to fully live. Where in some distant desert, a flower opens, offing its frailty to the world. And therein lies its strength. A coward is incapable of love. And so he has no evidence that God exists, something greater than himself. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice... So love because This is Earth. This is Earth.

This is Earth Where each breath and step is none but progression toward death. Where pain is the loud and bloody birthing ground for peace. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice. It leaks like sweat from the pores It's dried in the sun of our commitment to live. Where a trillion lives are spinning through the cosmos, at a thousand miles per hour with no destination in sight. Our faith is placed in the colour of our blood, in the salt of our tears. Where the heart is broken and it keeps of beating just the same. Where love is the only evidence we have that God exists something greater than ourselves and the blindness with which we fumble through life. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice. Where no matter how careful you are, you will die. some of us simply arrive at death safely. But in honest defeat, with a life half lived. Drenched in the sweat of our own cowardice, having made no commitment to fully live. Where in some distant desert, a flower opens, offering its frailty to the world. And therein lies its strength. A coward is incapable of love. And so he has no evidence that God exists, something greater than himself. Our cowardice saves us from nothing in a world where bravery was never a choice... So love because This is Earth. This is Earth.

The most dominant ones are the ones that protect you from hurt, especially rejection, in the specific environment that you grew up in.

Love is an instinctual reaction to pull something closer to you. Fear is an instinctual reaction to push something away from you. And shame is an instinctual reaction to push yourself away from yourself. Of course, you cannot actually do this because your consciousness experiences a singular embodiment. The only way to push yourself away from yourself is through fragmentation. For this reason, we could say that shame is the mechanism for fragmentation as well as suppression. And shame creates internal separation.

There is only one type of pain in this universe and it is separation. There is only one kind of happiness in this universe and it is unity. Any time you feel pain of any kind, it means that you feel separate from something and any time you feel happiness of any kind, it means that you feel united with something.

Be aware that your disowned or denied aspects will be completely invisible to you, but completely obvious to other people.

the more we hate something in someone else, the more we rejected it within our self long ago. And the opposite is true: the more we love something in someone else, the more we sorrowfully disowned it in our self.

This kind of self-rejection is the birth of self-hate and the deep loneliness that we feel is the result of those missing rejected or disowned parts of our self. The soul wants one thing and that is to make us whole again. We will be provided with every single opportunity to become whole again as we proceed through life. But in order to become whole again, we need to see and accept the aspects of ourselves that we disowned, denied and rejected. This is painful.

The fragmentation in the external world is nothing but a mirror of the fragmentation of your internal world.

Essentially, we are only shown love in response to things that people around us want to include as part of themselves and their lives.

When a strong emotion arises, face it within yourself instead of reacting to it or reacting in order to try to get away from it. When you feel it, use the feeling as a reminder that this is the emotional body becoming activated or charged like an electric fence. Remember, it’s not the emotion itself that is causing the suffering, it’s the fact that you identify with it.

When you feel shame, you feel like something about you is so bad and so wrong that it’s inconceivable that someone or something could be attached to and connected to you. You run around desperately trying to be valuable enough or to earn the right to not be abandoned. But because you don’t believe that you are worthy of connection, it always feels like abandonment is right around the corner. The only attachment you can recognize is the attachment that you have to others. You cannot recognize the attachment that they have to you.

The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers. They are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being. –Teal Swan

Christmas banquet, served over two courses. The first course included: Oysters, brawn, mutton stew with marrow bone, a grand salad, capon pottage, breast of veal, boiled partridges, roast beef, mince pies, mutton in anchovy sauce, sweetbreads, roasted swan, venison pasties, a kid with a pudding in his belly, a steak pie, chickens in puff pastry, two geese (one roast, one larded) [covered with bacon or fat while cooking], roast venison, roast turkey stuck with cloves, two capons, and a custard. If guests had any room left after all that, the second course comprised: Oranges and lemons, a young Lamb or Kid, Rabbits, two larded, a pig sauced with tongues, ducks, some larded, two pheasants, one larded, a Swan or goose pie cold, partridges, some larded, Bologna sausages, anchovies, mushrooms, caviar, pickled oysters, teales, some larded, a gammon of Westphalia [smoked] bacon, plovers, some larded, a quince or warden pie, woodcocks, some larded, a tart in puff pastry, preserved fruit and pippins, a dish of larks, neats’ [ox] tongues, sturgeon and anchovies, and jellies.