Stephan Labossiere Quotes

Some people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone, but that does not always mean they are supposed to get it back.

If you continue to entertain "boys", don't be upset when you can't find a "man".

His attention means nothing if you don't have his respect.

Don't let feeling lonely push you into the arms of a person who will make you miserable.

Many times we are our worst enemy. If we could learn to conquer ourselves, then we will have a much easier time overcoming the obstacles that are in front of us.

Be the man she can depend on, not the man that constantly lets her down.

Don't let the belief that nobody will love you, keep you in a relationship where you aren't getting the love you need.

Everyone isn't going to embrace your value, but that doesn't mean you need to go and change your price.

You may know where to touch her, but that doesn't mean you know how to touch her. Take time to learn what she truly desires.

I'd rather die holding on to the love I believe in, than to live embracing a love that's a lie.

Sometimes the guy you think is too nice, is just the guy trying his hardest to love you.

Always put your best foot forward, because you never know where your next step may lead you.

Exploration of her body will open the doors to pleasuring her in ways she has yet to experience.

If your absence doesn't motivate them to do better, then your presence never will.

Ignoring your intuition telling you this person is not for you will likely lead to more time wasted and more disappointments along the way.

To an unhealed heart, true love is a scary thing to face.

When you're confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to chase and beg anyone to sit down and eat.

As much as we all know that some things are easier said than done, we have to understand that if we don't say it, we may never do it.

What is common sense to one, is not always so common to another.

God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7 NLT

Never be envious of what someone else has.You don't know the price they paid to get it, and you don't know the price they are paying to keep it.

A man of God doesn't lead a woman through dictatorship, he leads her through a partnership guided by God.

God doesn't need your help, He needs your obedience.

Be open, and trust that God knows what you need and when you need it,

God’s path to your blessing may not always make sense.

Sometimes it’s the right guy, but the wrong time. God may need you and Him to go through a process first before He can bring you two into a successful relationship together.

You will never be good enough for the wrong person.

There is consistency in the truth and confusion in lies.

there are lessons to be learned and you can't grow unless you go through the trials, experience the lessons and embrace them for what they are.

with every test there is an opportunity for a testimony.

I always say you cannot create, nor destroy, a genuine connection.

Sometimes it's not that you "fell out of love" it's that you finally came to the realization that you were never truly "in love" to begin with.

The same walls you think you're using to protect yourself are the same walls blocking your blessings. How can God release the love you deserve, in the form of a life partner, if you continue to restrict love from properly flowing in and out of you

In actuality Boaz respected and recognized Ruth’s character first. As a result he held her in high regard. You can instantly catch a man's attention, but if you don’t have his respect you won’t get the relationship you deserve.

It all comes together when you get right yourself and find your purpose. When you love yourself, heal, get rid of past hurts, disappointments, and flush that negative energy out of your system. You become the woman you were created to be and that is a beautiful thing.

To rely solely on logic is in essence to operate within a structure of limited knowledge and understanding

Love has never hurt you...the absence of love has.

Holding pain and hurt inside is unhealthy and locks in a lot of toxic energy that works against what we really want, which is healthy love.

Don’t remain in bondage to the negative energy produced by past pain and disappointment. Let forgiveness be your freedom.

Perfect love, casts out all fear." 1 John 4:18

Master your mind and you'll master the world around you.

Seeking God’s guidance will help you sort through the men that are simply a waste of your time.

people should be careful of only looking for signs from God.” Remember the Devil can put up billboards too.

When a man is walking in his purpose there is only room for one woman to walk with him.

Walking with God isn't instant gratification. It's a process of growth that will lead you to amazing things.

While in this process, you are doing your part and becoming your best self. Regardless of what happens romantically in your life, becoming your best self is most important.

Many times a woman can find herself latching on to the wrong kind of man because she’s never experienced a healthy loving relationship with a man before. The initial example should come from a father/daughter relationship. A father’s love teaches a girl how a man’s love should feel. A father’s love, protects, provides security and let’s her know she’s valued.

As a woman of God I believe intuition grows stronger. However, it serves no purpose if you’re going to try and convince yourself of reasons why you should go against your gut feelings and disregard the warning signs. Prepare and position yourself are two important things to remember as you begin to discover other obstacles that may be hindering you from getting the man and love you deserve.

If you’re being the woman God wants you to be and a man still doesn't respect you, surely that isn't the man God has for you. Always hold to the standard of respect you deserve and a great man will easily recognize the caliber of woman you are and treat you accordingly.

The trials God allows us to go through are for our own good in the long run. It may not seem like it at the moment but with every test there is an opportunity for a testimony. Also, look at God as a teacher. He allows us to retake tests over and over again, no matter how many times we’ve failed before. We always have a chance to finally pass. Just know the test is not going anywhere and you can’t move forward until you actually do what is necessary to pass it.

the longer you hold on to a person who isn't for you, the longer you will go without receiving the person who is. Get the help you need to break away from these unhealthy attachments. Also, understand it doesn't have to necessarily be a "bad" relationship to validate walking away. The relationship may seem to be going well, but if they're not the right person for you, this relationship is bound to take a bad turn eventually. Ask God for the strength to do what is truly best for you, which is walk away.

God doesn't require perfection, he requires progression.

Strength and character are built through adversity.

The same walls you think you're using to protect yourself are the same walls blocking your blessings.

Stop saying “I'm waiting for my Boaz,” change it to, “I'm preparing for my Boaz.

Positive energy is power. Use it more in your life, and see for yourself the success it creates.

prepare and position yourself.

Wants change but Needs are consistent.

God is not FedEx

Get to know who you are, love who you are, show the world. Then, the man that is for you, who truly loves you, will embrace that person.

If there is no effort to make better choices or walk a better path, then it is not a mistake but a real issue.

is not going to be the perfect in that he will never do anything wrong. We all slip up. We are human beings. We sin, we do bad things sometimes—that is life.

When you conquer fear, you unleash a greater power from within you.

God knows best. He knows the man to provide what you need for the long run vs. the man, who is just currently trying to give you what you want right now, that is always subject to change.

You have to understand everyone has a different path to walk and therefore your preparation may be different from other people you know. Your preparation will include making sure you have healed from past hurts and embraced your true value and potential as a woman. Your preparation is a process and it’s all about becoming and being the woman God has truly designed you to be.

What we practice becomes our habits. Our habits become our behavior. Our behavior becomes our character. Our character is who we are below the surface. Choose to go deep and you’ll get the best results.

Not healing from your past prevents you from moving forward and when love comes your way, you will run. Of course, it sounds crazy to run from love and not take advantage of it when it comes your way; however, when you haven’t let go of past hurt and pain, it blocks you from being vulnerable. Vulnerability is necessary for you to not just receive love, but also give it. It is the bridge that assists with nurturing the type of relationship God wants for you. Lack of healing will prevent you from accepting that love.

Can you imagine what God thinks as He watches us put Him on the back burner for the other things we want that we are relying on Him to give us? He probably says to himself, "why that ungrateful piece of..." Ok, maybe He isn't thinking that at all, but you get the point. He needs us to keep our eyes on Him and when we do, He takes care of the rest.

However, when the circumstances in front of you are too overwhelming, you may turn around and run away. The battle appears to be all uphill and impossible and for what? You feel like the relationship holds no guarantee. Especially, if you’ve already been through a lot in your life, it may not seem worth it to fight through the chaos for the possibility of true love.

Perfection is unrealistic; therefore, there is no perfect man and there is no perfect man of God. Many times we place expectations on people once they have accepted God. It is an assumption that now they are supposed to get it all right. They are not allowed to sin, have faults, or struggle. The minute we view it, we take it as proof that they are not serious, not truly a believer, a hypocrite, or just playing games.

Be willing to give all of yourself and if you are not ready, then you know there is work to be done. Do not be afraid of it. We all have room for improvement and things we need to work on in life. We all have to embrace learning, growing, evolving and healing because we have all been hurt. We have all been damaged at some point. But there are those who work, resolve, and arise from it greater than ever, and those who dwell in it. Make sure you are not the one who is dwelling in it.

There is not enough encouragement for people to seek counseling. Seeking counseling or third party, unbiased assistance is good for you. It is healthy. We all need a greater state of emotional health and we gain that by being able to process what we have been through, how we are feeling, as well as work through the issues we have ignored throughout our lives. Whether we want to acknowledge it or not, it is impacting our physical, mental, and, emotional health. Addressing these issues is important, so if you see a problem encourage counseling.

You don't know what they had to go through to get it and you don't know the ongoing price they may have to pay to keep it.

A mistake happens once with the issue being acknowledged. Even if it happened twice, it is unlikely for the two incidents to occur in a short span of time and still be regarded as a mistake.

If a person does not acknowledge what they did, if they do not take ownership of it, then you are not dealing with a mistake_it is a real issue. It is a much bigger problem because nothing can be fixed if that person sees no wrong in what they did, if they continually defend, validate or excuse it. It is a clear indication that it will, without a doubt, happen again.

It is possible you were raised in a dysfunctional home. A lot of people have been around negative, unhealthy, toxic behavior and, to some extent, tried to normalize it. They paint the picture as “this is just what happens in relationships.” When this environment is normalized, you do not realize or grasp how unhealthy it is. You begin to validate, rationalize, explain and sweep it under the rug. What is evident is that it is a problem and should not be dismissed.

You know what, I have someone in my life but I’m a little scared of the situation,

But you can also run away from a connection. When you are afraid to be vulnerable, you put up walls and hold back which can cause the man to do the same. You may believe the wall is there to protect and guard your heart, but as I mentioned in God Where Is My Boaz, you are actually just blocking your blessings.

Side note: Do not be an emotional manipulator. If you do not want a man to play with your emotions, do not play with his. As of late I’ve found physical attraction is no longer enough. I need genuine connection. I need to undress the layers of a soul…passion remains the fire, but now intimacy strikes the match, and friendship has become the fuel. – Beau Tapin

There are people who have not seen each other in ten, twenty, or thirty years and when they get together, it is as if nothing has changed, the feelings resurface.

I can’t tell you how many women I come across who fear being with a really good looking guy. For just as many women who love being with a man other women desire, there are just as many who fear it. It is clear there is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed

There are plenty of women right now, who are not walking in their purpose because they are trying to walk with the wrong man, and he is holding them back. He becomes an anchor in their life. They are stuck, unable to progress the way God intended.

Time will work with you to heal. However, it won’t do the work for you. You still need to do what’s required to make sure you experience the healing you need.

However, if you’ve given him an adequate amount of time to figure it out, expressed your desire to spend more time with him, and he makes no effort to change his schedule, it’s a huge red flag you shouldn’t ignore. If he continues to pacify you with excuses, you’ll need to allow that to carry more weight than your attraction to him or you’re interest in a relationship.

Don’t be fooled by boyfriend behavior initially. A man who is serious about you, a man who really wants to be with you, won’t just be content with acting like your boyfriend. He will make sure he makes things official and takes you off the market. He will want to ensure that you’re all his, leaving no room for chance or him losing you.