Sonia Choquette Quotes

Your own words are the bricks and mortar of the dreams you want to realize. Your words are the greatest power you have. The words you choose and their use establish the life you experience.

Remember that you’re intimately connected to everyone else in the world, so when you attack another person, you attack yourself.

One difference between spiritual and ego law is that spiritual law is very playful and creative, while ego law is fixed and routine.

Being calm is a skill that starts with proper breathing. Dr. Tully taught me that breathing deeply and regularly is not only the key to remaining calm, but also instantly connects us to a higher vibration.

We have bodies. We have personalities. We have histories, stories and experiences. But we are not those things - we are Spirit.

Intuition doesn't tell you what you want to hear; it tells you what you need to hear.

Another spiritual suggestion for remaining calm is to refrain from trying to control everyone around you. The more controlling you are, the more you’ll get lost in ego land and removed from your spirit.

if you’re on the right track doing what serves your soul, then you’re going to feel good, relaxed, and peaceful. Your heart will beat steadily, your energy will remain high, and you’ll be relatively free from aches, pains, anxiety, or stress.

In order to trust your vibes, you have to first be able to sense them—and to do this, you must quiet your mind.

the best way to stay healthy is to talk to your body first:

go to bed early, secure in the knowledge that God is in control, not you.

Amazing things happen when you get enough sleep, eat properly, and take it easy. Your nerve endings relax, and your spirit, or the six-sensory part of you, rejuvenates and begins to shine light on your path.

People are unaware of how delicate the spirit is and how it needs a safe and grounded home in the body.

Your vibes are useless if you don’t trust them.

We psychically influence each other at all times, and those of us who live in a higher way know this as fact and don’t question it.

The more capable people are of inflicting pain, the deeper, more buried they are in illusion and fear.

Once you choose to love yourself and align with your Spirit, life aligns with you.

Whenever a transition is called for, view it as your soul knocking at the door of your life, bearing more gifts for you to bring to the world. Change is a call from your soul to grow. —Sonia Choquette

if your body is neglected, exhausted, or abused, it becomes energetically toxic. Your spirit actually leaves via what’s known as the “silver cord” (a shimmering cord of light extending from your solar plexus to your auric field), and your psychic engines shut down.

go. If you can’t sleep at night, perhaps your body can’t get your attention during the day.

If I was not in touch with my needs, then how could anyone else meet them?

When we trust our vibes, we restore our balance and experience within—which, ultimately, leads to peace without.

Small steps work—grandiose goals don’t.

I began to understand that we have everything to do with what happens to us, and as spiritual beings we actually co-create with the Universe all the events we experience. Every one. Even the two people who were murdered.

Synchronicities are not flukes or random events—they’re intentional reflections of our intuition working with the perfect order of all things in the unseen world. It’s why fish swim upstream, birds fly south, and bears hibernate. Everything in nature intuitively gravitates toward what best serves its growth, and that includes the human race. The only difference is that we have the choice to follow our intuition or not. So if you want your sixth sense to work, stop resisting your vibes, and change the rules you live by instead.

Choosing self-love challenges the collective paradigm of guilt and shame that has controlled us for thousands of years. If we go the route of the ego, we’ll never feel worthy of self-love. If we choose to live our Spirit, we’ll be instantly liberated.

I call your head a bad neighborhood because your head is full of a lot of babbling, conflicting information; most of it not yours, and most of it really bad.

She was a very old soul, which meant that her life was driven by love and not ego.

The point of our Earthly journey is to create and express our loving spirit.

The way telepathy ordinarily works is that we mentally tune in to the same vibratory frequency we send out, and we especially tune in the frequencies that we focus on or care about. It’s a simple case of like attracting like: If we dwell on fear, focus on danger and injury, and feel like victims, we’re going to draw the same to us. If, on the other hand, we focus on positive, life-affirming, and loving experiences, these will be returned to our field of consciousness by others.

The only thing that brought me peace was to fully feel my human experience and accept that no matter what had transpired, in this or any life, underneath it all people do what they think is right or necessary at the time, and because of that, we are all both victims and perpetrators. We are all wounded, and wound one another because of it.

Get your appointment book out and schedule do-nothing-but-relax periods during the week, and then keep those appointments.

the more you practice getting quiet, the quicker you’ll sense your vibes.

We needed to get rid of the belief that we couldn't rest until our work was done. Work is never done.

Real healing begins in life, and real awakening starts to happen when we stop living through emotion and start living through love.

All her life she had striven to do the right thing, but right according to whom?

These services become affordable when you value them.

Your peace won’t begin after you heal, but when you agree to heal.

A true soul mate is one who grows your capacity to love.

If we think of our life as a journey [...] we don't want to move into our future lugging along the heavy baggage of our past. One way to lighten the load is to work on forgiveness and acceptance.

We humans are all manifestations of one Divine spirit vibrating at different levels of consciousness and frequencies at one time. Like cells in a body, we’re all on this planet together, and when one cell attacks another in the body, we call that cancer. Similarly, when we attack one another (or ourselves) through condemnation and judgment, it’s no less cancerous and toxic to our entire being—body, mind, and soul.

Did You Know That … … my teacher Dr. Tully once told me that the best thing you can do for others, for yourself, and for the world is to be happy? This is the best way to appreciate your blessings and your guides’ support.

If your intuitive channel is open but your tuner isn’t dialed to your Higher Self, you may accidentally pick up on that negative energy without even knowing it. You may unconsciously tune in to another’s anxiety, depression, or fear,

(P.S. If you have addictions, not only do they ruin your sixth sense, they ruin everything else as well. Keep in mind that as you reach for higher ground, it’s necessary to leave the swamp. Before you can go one step further, you must be honest and admit you need help. Then get it. It’s time.)

Go to community [for emotional support], but I'm talking about reassuring, sensitive others; not just anybody hanging around. Pay attention to who you're talking to. Are they catastrophizers? Are they unconscious? Neither one of those are going to help you. Be aware and mindful of where you seek your support.

What people call woo-woo is transcending logic and tuning in to the voice of your spirit, your true Self, your Divine personal power. We all need a little woo-woo to rise above the fray of an ordinary life of struggle and survival, to free ourselves from the tyranny that comes with endlessly trying to figure things out, and to happily get on our way to living a life of wonder, grace, and flow.

And yet, I also understood the need for this journey. To simply say to myself or anyone else, “I am forgiven” or “I forgive” could not shift my past karmic energy as well as walking the Camino. I was walking myself out of trauma and grief and anger and shame and righteous indignation and feelings of worthlessness and over-thinking and every other faulty human perception that blocked the truth of my being from shining through.

You gotta learn to trust your spirit. But you can't trust your spirit to drive the car if you have little practice. You gotta practice on the little things before you get into the big things. [...] Play games like which elevator is gonna come [first] before you [ask your intuition big life-changing questions like]: "Should I pack up and leave?" Get a little practice going so you know what it feels like to get in the flow of the vibe. Have little baby steps. Have little tiny games.

Please, Holy Mother God,” I whispered in prayer, “help me cut the invisible cords that bind me, and set me free. Give me the inner strength to let go of all that I have created up until now, on every level, and which no longer reflects the highest path for me, and for those I love and serve. Help calm my more masculine energies so I can settle into my own divine feminine nature and cool the angry fires of hurt and fear that have burned in my heart for so long.” After making my prayerful request, I got up and lit a candle to the Divine Mother, to say “thank you” for hearing me. I was ready to surrender. I knew it was time to release control over my life and let God take over. I spoke my intention aloud: “This life of mine is now finished. My present way is no longer serving me or allowing my greater Spirit to express through me. I ask for the cocoon to break open and free my true divine light. I surrender all attachments on all levels to the past and am now ready for what the Universe has in store for me. And so it is.” At that moment time stood still. I knew my intention was heard and registered by the heavens, and that my request would be honored and met with divine support. I sensed an inner shift take place in me. I didn’t feel euphoric. I didn’t even feel happy. Rather, I felt somber and quiet in spite of the thousand sounds swirling around me, the Universe saying, Okay, get ready. The next morning, I suddenly had a powerful intuitive hit from my Higher Self that said, “Sonia, it is time to heal your life, and the only way to do that is to walk the Camino de Santiago. And go alone.

was physically and emotionally painful and exhausting, but I was grateful for the chance to so thoroughly learn to let go of my earthly attachments and trust all would be well.

I was amazed at just how powerful it is to have something totally new, uncharted, and exciting to look forward to when your life falls apart.

Now, as I slowed down and Sabrina stepped away, I was faced with what I had been secretly running from: the death of my old life, as well as the fear of being all alone in this new one.

had been dragged under by a riptide of negative self-talk: I am not enough. I am rejected, no matter how hard I try and no matter what good I do. I am alone and not wanted. All fears that ending my marriage had stirred up and brought to the surface.

well. I believe that is the secret gift of Paris and the real reason it casts such a spell on people all over the world. It demands that you recognize and insist on the most beautiful version of life, inside and out. Like polishing a diamond, living in Paris casts off the shadow and forces your true light to shine. And the process hurts. Marion became a steady companion and grounding force as I settled ever more fully into my life here. She also jump-started me into consciously calling in the kinds of people I really wanted to meet. I began to pray for new and uplifting people to show up, and my prayers started being answered. Soon after Lilou introduced me to Marion, I met a great guy named David Brower. A fellow American who had moved to Paris in his early 20s and had

believe that is the secret gift of Paris and the real reason it casts such a spell on people all over the world. It demands that you recognize and insist on the most beautiful version of life, inside and out. Like polishing a diamond, living in Paris casts off the shadow and forces your true light to shine. And the process hurts.

Sonia, there just comes a moment when you decide it’s time to be happy and that is all.” I had that moment in Malta, but it was good to hear it again.

Café Philosophe on rue de Temple in the Marais,

the healing power of letting go. I’ve had to let go of my anger and hurt.

It is my responsibility to feel good, and it is my fault if I don’t.

Life is too short to waste on being committed to what is not authentically fulfilling while avoiding what could be. So mostly what I’m doing here is enjoying life fully.

for a life that is rich, beautiful, soul satisfying, uplifting, and authentic instead of one that beats them down.

The endless challenge no matter where any of us lives is to choose what we take from all that our surroundings have to offer and put it together in a way that creates our own happiness.

But we each do have to let go of what isn’t working for us; face our deepest fears; ask for help; and be messy, vulnerable, and willing to give up being in control.

Paris finally woke me up from the poison apple spell that lifetimes of self-rejection had put me under, causing me to desperately search for authentic love

There were two big lessons to be learned in all of this: first, the pain of the past is unfortunately not so easily stripped away, and second, not to allow anyone ever again to take a literal or figurative whack at me.

There were days when I struggled with the feeling that I had wasted my life, remaining way too long in a marriage that wasn’t working, and worried that it was now too late, or that I was too old, to ever have the kind of deep, comforting love and companionship I so yearned for and honestly felt I’d never fully had.

All I knew now was that I was no longer inspired to be the warrior. I had no more “war” in me. It was over. All I wanted was to end all battles and find deep inner peace for the first time in my life.

everywhere I looked, Paris was an aesthetic banquet that fed my soul.

Paris had such a strong outer feminine identity, maybe it could help me build a new, more feminine one of my own. One that was as committed to my own grace and

just how it had been painfully answered. By not being married, I was now free to focus on healing me. That was my gift in all of this. I was determined to accept it.

was now being asked by my soul to become fully and uncompromisingly self-loving for the first time in my life. It had long been my prayer. Divorce was

Café Marly,

following your spirit is not about staying in control and avoiding pain in life. It’s about surrendering control and meeting life head-on.

How to Be Parisian at the English bookstore on

Un petit échantillon,

First was a clearing mantra called the Gayatri mantra, beautifully sung by a German woman named Deva Premal, which cleared away all negative energy both within and around us and called in peace and love in its place.

the divorce wasn’t a failure, just a destined ending, and it was simply time for my journey to continue in a different direction.

«Mente subconsciente, permite a mi Ser Superior, y sólo a él, que me guíe a través de este día».

Your Turn Whenever you’re in doubt or in need of guidance, say aloud: “Let me ask my guides,” and then do exactly that. Next, let them answer by saying, “They say [fill in the blank].” Don’t worry that you’re making things up—just listen to the content and vibration of the words that emerge as you let your inner being speak freely. Practice this for 10 to 15 minutes a day.

Like cells in a body, we’re all on this planet together, and when one cell attacks another in the body, we call that cancer. Similarly, when we attack one another (or ourselves) through condemnation and judgment, it’s no less cancerous and toxic to our entire being—body, mind, and soul.

Affirm: I forgive myself for judging and resenting. I release myself from all of my judgments and resentments, as well as from all negative perceptions. With my breath, I share my spirit with all and return to peace and balance. So be it.

One of the greatest obstacles to connecting with your guides is having unrealistic expectations of what receiving guidance should be like. Most people are surprised by how understated spirit guides can be. Conditioned by Hollywood and bad horror novels, they expect strange beings in space suits to beam down to them in the night when, in reality, most spirit guidance is as subtle as the brush of a butterfly’s wing on your cheek. So, if you’re waiting for a booming voice or an apparition of Merlin to appear at the foot of your bed, you’ll most likely be disappointed.

Did You Know That . . . Healer guides will always leave you feeling peaceful, self-loving, and self-accepting. They are gentle, noncoercive, and forgiving. They speak to your heart, not your ego; to your eternal essence, not your mortal self.

I decided with this new awareness to dedicate my day to moving at my own natural, calm pace, and not pressuring myself to get going, get moving, or hurry up at all, something quite different from what I otherwise did.

May you walk in beauty.

The Camino does pull you into an alternative Universe filled with grace and magic if you are open to it. I’m sure that once he committed to his pilgrimage, he left planet Earth and was in another realm entirely.

I offer my dreams as a source of love to the world. In their fulfillment I will bring a message of light to all that I touch.

We tend to manage our lives intellectually—in other words, we get stuck in our heads, keeping ourselves preoccupied with juggling an assortment of activities and responsibilities in order to manage the surface of life. Meanwhile, underneath we feel empty, hungry for meaning, restless, somewhat lost, and frequently ungrounded—as if we aren’t really inhabiting our own bodies. This is why we keep ourselves so busy. It’s one way to distract ourselves, at least temporarily, from experiencing the low-grade inner anxiety that haunts us. Change

Without such rejuvenating contact with our inner Self, we become depleted of Spirit and our lives reflect this emptiness. For example, I know individuals—and you may, as well—who seem to have it all (at least on a material level, living prosperous, comfortable lives) but are still deeply unhappy because they’re out of touch with their Spirit. Others feel this loss of contact with their Spirit but try to fill the void through drinking, drugging, gambling, having meaningless sex, and more. With

Disruptive awakening is your signal that you’re ready to take the initial step toward attaining your authentic identity and moving into a more deeply guided awareness of your personal path and purpose in life. While awakening experiences are often unexpected, and even scary, in truth they are invitations from your Spirit to remember and begin living at the highest level of your inner truth.

TV and media create in many people a sense of entitlement to happiness, love and care from others. [...] The problem with this [...] is that we are stuck looking for lovability, worth and our true place in life from other mere mortals. If everyone is looking for it, who has a surplus of love and care to give to fill our need? [...] We must accept that our lovability and worth don't come from others. They come from ourselves!

A currently popular misinterpretation of metaphysical wisdom is the notion that we cause - and are responsible for - the behavior of everyone around us at all times. The truth is, we are responsible only for ourselves. We can control only our response to and interpretation of events. [...] Not everything in your life happens TO you - or even AT you. [...] For example, if you are around a chronically angry person, you will be "angered upon". Nothing personal!

A storyteller's form of healing [is] being a counselor, and healing people with ideas, with stories and kind, loving guidance.

[If you think you're lost in life] even though your mind didn't know it, your soul has never been lost. It knows exactly where it's going, and if your ego will step out of the way and allow you to be guided, you will move directly towards you purpose in life.

Soul worker: [...] To find peace: it meant she had to stop scorning the souls around her hooked on drugs, reproducing countless babies, living on welfare. Instead she had to minister to their souls, give them dignity by showing basic love and kindness. Her mission was not to save them, help them, change them - just simply to salute the good within them. That is the job of a soul worker. And when people do their job and fulfill their spiritual goals, they become peaceful and secure. Joy wells up from within.

[Intuition doesn't necessarily lead you to the "one path that will be your path forever", because energy shifts, and when it does, your path shifts with it.] [Intuition] is a moment to moment reading of the energy. That's why [when your intuition tells you to dance] you get up and dance as fast as you can so that when the energy shifts, you're practised and prepared to shift with it.

Waitressing: [...] She was a very old soul, which meant that her life was driven by love and not ego. [...] She, on a soul level, had decided to commit a huge part of her life to serving people, to being kind and caring and wouldn't seek a lot of attention for it. The work was its own reward.

Challenge yourself. Try to shed an outgrown identity.

A key to whether friendship is good is: Who am I being in this connection? Do I like me? (Never mind do I like you!) Am I liking how I'm showing up? Does this feel good to me?

Never assume that what you know is all there is to know.