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I have a theory that selflessness and bravery aren't all that different.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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Itβs always been fascinating to me how things can be simultaneously true and false, how people can be good and bad all in one, how someone can love you in a way that is beautifully selfless while serving themselves ruthlessly.
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Taylor Jenkins Reid (The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo)
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...there is power in self-sacrifice.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.
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Dalai Lama XIV
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We've all started to put down the virtues of the other factions in the process of bolstering our own. I don't want to do that. I want to be brave, and selfless, and smart, and kind, and honest." He clears his throat. "I continually struggle with kindness.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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Selflessness. It should be the basis of every relationship. If a person truly cares about you, they'll get more pleasure from the way they make you feel, rather than the way you make them feel.
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Colleen Hoover (Confess)
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I do not love; I do not love anybody except myself. That is a rather shocking thing to admit. I have none of the selfless love of my mother. I have none of the plodding, practical love. . . . . I am, to be blunt and concise, in love only with myself, my puny being with its small inadequate breasts and meager, thin talents. I am capable of affection for those who reflect my own world.
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Sylvia Plath (The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath)
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Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a person's sexual choice is the result and sum of their fundamental convictions. Tell me what a person finds sexually attractive and I will tell you their entire philosophy of life. Show me the person they sleep with and I will tell you their valuation of themselves. No matter what corruption they're taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which they cannot perform for any motive but their own enjoyment - just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! - an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exultation, only on the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces them to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and accept their real ego as their standard of value. They will always be attracted to the person who reflects their deepest vision of themselves, the person whose surrender permits them to experience - or to fake - a sense of self-esteem .. Love is our response to our highest values - and can be nothing else.
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Ayn Rand
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A person can learn a lot from a dog, even a loopy one like ours. Marley taught me about living each day with unbridled exuberance and joy, about seizing the moment and following your heart. He taught me to appreciate the simple things-a walk in the woods, a fresh snowfall, a nap in a shaft of winter sunlight. And as he grew old and achy, he taught me about optimism in the face of adversity. Mostly, he taught me about friendship and selflessness and, above all else, unwavering loyalty.
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John Grogan (Marley and Me: Life and Love With the Worldβs Worst Dog)
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Yeah, well," I say, "I left Abnegation because I wasn't selfless enough, no matter how hard I tried to be."
"That's not entirely true." He smiles at me. "That girl who let someone throw knives at her to spare a friend, who hit my dad with a belt to protect me-that selfless girl, that's not you?"...
"You've been paying close attention, haven't you?"
"I like to observe people/"
"Maybe you were cut out for Candor, Four, because you're a terrible liar.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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Friendship is selfless love, care, respect, and honor not a profitable opportunity.
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Santosh Kalwar
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It's that wonderful old-fashioned idea that others come first and you come second. This was the whole ethic by which I was brought up. Others matter more than you do, so 'don't fuss, dear; get on with it'.
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Audrey Hepburn
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The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.
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Gretchen Rubin (The Happiness Project)
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Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of lightβyears and in the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty, and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual. So are our emotions in the presence of great art or music or literature, or acts of exemplary selfless courage such as those of Mohandas Gandhi or Martin Luther King, Jr. The notion that science and spirituality are somehow mutually exclusive does a disservice to both.
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Carl Sagan (The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark)
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When faith replaces doubt, when selfless service eliminates selfish striving, the power of God brings to pass His purposes.
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Thomas S. Monson
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Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves.
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Stephen Kendrick (The Love Dare)
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Knees suddenly weak, she reached for his forearms to stabilize herself. βYou came for me.β
He beamed, looking for all the world like a selfless, daring hero.
βDonβt sound so surprised.β Dropping the cane, he pulled her into a crushing embrace that tore her away from Wolf and lifted her clean off the floor. βIt turns out you are worth a lot of money on the black market.
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Marissa Meyer (Cress (The Lunar Chronicles, #3))
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I want to be brave, and selfless, and smart, and kind, and honest.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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If she loved him the way she said she did, she wanted him whole. Maybe this was what love meant after all: sacrifice and selflessness. It did not mean hearts and flowers and a happy ending, but the knowledge that another's well-being is more important than one's own.
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Melissa de la Cruz (Lost in Time (Blue Bloods, #6))
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Sometimes standing against evil is more important than defeating it. The greatest heroes stand because it is right to do so, not because they believe they will walk away with their lives. Such selfless courage is a victory in itself.
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N.D. Wilson (Dandelion Fire (100 Cupboards, #2))
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The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that is wants to live humbly for one.
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Wilhelm Stekel
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Is there any real purpose in being alive if all we are going to do is get up every day and live only for ourselves?
Live your life to help others. Give & live selflessly.
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Joyce Meyer
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But love is complicated, itβs messy. It can inspire selflessness, selfishness, our greatest accomplishments and our hardest mistakes. It brings us together and it can just as easily drive us apart.
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Courtney Summers (Sadie)
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Love is another kind of power, which shouldn't surprise you. Magic comes from emotions, among other things. And when two people are together, in that intimacy, when they really, selflessly love each other it changes them both. It lingers on in the energy of their lives, even when they are apart.
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Jim Butcher (Blood Rites (The Dresden Files, #6))
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Truth is neither ojectivity nor the balanced view; truth is a selfless subjectivity.
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Knut Hamsun (Hunger (Dover Literature: Literary Fiction))
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One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Daemon Black could be as prickly as a hedgehog having a really bad day, but underneath all that spindly armor, he was sweet, protective, and incredibly selfless.
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Jennifer L. Armentrout (Origin (Lux, #4))
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You will have to make up for the smallness of your size by your courage and selfless devotion to duty, for it is not life that matters, but the courage, fortitude and determination you bring to it.
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Muhammad Ali Jinnah
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We try to preserve life, even when we know it has no chance of enduring its body. We feed it, keep it comfortable, bathe it, medicate it, caress it, even sing to it. We tend to these basic functions not because we are brave or selfless but because, like breath, it is the most fundamental act of our species: to sustain the body until time leaves it behind.
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Ocean Vuong (On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous)
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My beautiful soul,"he murmured and caressed my cheek."When you have the ultimate selfless sacrifice it paid my wrong.You proved to be worthy of my devotion.Of Death's...love.
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Abbi Glines (Existence (Existence, #1))
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With faith, discipline and selfless devotion to duty, there is nothing worthwhile that you cannot achieve.
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Muhammad Ali Jinnah
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I think we've made a mistake," he says softly. "We've all started to put down virtues of the other faction in the process of bolstering our own. I don't want to do that. I want to be brave, and selfless, and smart, and kind, and honest.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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Suicide to them is an act of selfishness. Someone who is truly selfless does not think of himself often enough to desire death.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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To say that I am made in the image of God is to say that love is the reason for my existence, for God is love. Love is my true identity. Selflessness is my true self. Love is my true character. Love is my name.
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Thomas Merton
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It's when you're acting selflessly that you are at your bravest.
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Veronica Roth
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My mateβwho had worked so hard and so selflessly, all without hope that I would ever be with him. We had both fought for that love, bled for it. Rhys had died for it.
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Sarah J. Maas (A Court of Frost and Starlight (A Court of Thorns and Roses, #3.5))
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When women lose themselves, the world loses its way. We do not need more selfless women. What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world's expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.
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Glennon Doyle (Untamed)
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...writers are a savage breed, Mr. Strike. If you want life-long friendship and selfless camaraderie, join the army and learn to kill. If you want a lifetime of temporary alliances with peers who will glory in your every failure, write novels.
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Robert Galbraith (The Silkworm (Cormoran Strike, #2))
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My mother told me that life isn't always about pleasing yourself and that sometimes you have to do things for the sole benefit of another human being. I completely agreed with her, but reminded her that that was what blow jobs were for.
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Chelsea Handler (My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands)
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Love" is a that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy
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Robert A. Heinlein
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A body is simply a package for the true gifts inside. And you are full of gifts. Selflessness, kindness, compassion. All the things that matter.
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Colleen Hoover (November 9)
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It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for oneself and others.
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Dalai Lama XIV
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Just as blueprints don't necessarily specify blue buildings, selfish genes don't necessarily specify selfish organisms. As we shall see, sometimes the most selfish thing a gene can do is build a selfless brain. Genes are a play within a play, not the interior monologue of the players.
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Steven Pinker (How the Mind Works)
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The greatest gift you can ever give another person is your own happiness
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Esther Hicks
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Day, the champion of the people, the one who can't bear to see those around him suffer on his behalf, who would gladly give his life for those he loves.
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Marie Lu (Champion (Legend, #3))
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I am no longer Tris, the selfless, or Tris, the brave.
I suppose that now, I must become more than either.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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A dog has one aim in life... to bestow his heart.
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J.R. Ackerley
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Above all the grace and the gifts that Christ gives to his beloved is that of overcoming self.
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Francis of Assisi
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Real love is selfless.
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Yvonne Woon (Dead Beautiful (Dead Beautiful, #1))
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He smiled, a real one this time, though his voice remained teasing. βSo, what do you think I am?β Naive, I thought at once. Naive, brave, selfless, incredible and much too kind to survive this world. Itβll break you in the end, if you keep going like this. Good things never last.
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Julie Kagawa (The Immortal Rules (Blood of Eden, #1))
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I've decided that it's possible to love someone for entirely selfless reasons, for all of their flaws and weaknesses, and still not succeed in having them love you back. It's sad, perhaps, but not tragic, unless you dwell forever in the pursuit of their elusive affections.
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Cammie McGovern (Say What You Will)
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Thorne glared at him. "Whatever, Doctor. It's just, when Cress thought she was in love with me, she was actually in love with this other guy she'd made up in her head, who was brave and selfless and stuff. I mean, he was a real catch, so who could blame her? Even I liked that guy. I kind of wish I was that guy." He shrugged.
"Are you so sure you're not?
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Marissa Meyer (Winter (The Lunar Chronicles, #4))
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If our love is a sin, then heaven must be full of such tender and selfless sinning as ours.
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Radclyffe Hall (The Well of Loneliness)
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The funny thing about the heart is a soft heart is a strong heart, and a hard heart is a weak heart.
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Criss Jami (Healology)
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The greatest achievement is selflessness.
The greatest worth is self-mastery.
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
The greatest precept is continual awareness.
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
The greatest patience is humility.
The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.
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Chris: I don't know why it is, but every time I reach out for something I want, I have to pull back because other people will suffer.
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Arthur Miller (All My Sons)
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Not one day in anyoneβs life is an uneventful day, no day without profound meaning, no matter how dull and boring it might seem, no matter whether you are a seamstress or a queen, a shoeshine boy, or a movie star, a renowned philosopher or a Downβs-syndrome child. Because in every day of your life, there are opportunities to perform little kindnesses for others, both by conscious acts of will and unconscious example. Each smallest act of kindnessβeven just words of hope when they are needed, the remembrance of a birthday, a compliment that engenders a smileβreverberates across great distances and spans of time, affecting lives unknown to the one whose generous spirit was the source of this good echo, because kindness is passed on and grows each time itβs passed, until a simple courtesy becomes an act of selfless courage years later and far away. Likewise, each small meanness, each thoughtless expression of hatred, each envious and bitter act, regardless of how petty, can inspire others, and is therefore the seed that ultimately produces evil fruit, poisoning people whom you have never met and never will. All human lives are so profoundly and intricately entwinedβthose dead, those living, those generations yet to comeβthat the fate of all is the fate of each, and the hope of humanity rests in every heart and in every pair of hands. Therefore, after every failure, we are obliged to strive again for success, and when faced with the end of one thing, we must build something new and better in the ashes, just as from pain and grief, we must weave hope, for each of us is a thread critical to the strengthβto the very survival of the human tapestry. Every hour in every life contains such often-unrecognized potential to affect the world that the great days and thrilling possibilities are combined always in this momentous day.
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Dean Koontz (From the Corner of His Eye)
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I donβt want to be just one thing. I want to be brave and selfless and intelligent and honest and kind.
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Veronica Roth (Divergent (Divergent, #1))
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I recall certain moments, let us call them icebergs in paradise, when after having had my fill of her βafter fabulous, insane exertions that left me limp and azure-barredβI would gather her in my arms with, at last, a mute moan of human tenderness (her skin glistening in the neon light coming from the paved court through the slits in the blind, her soot-black lashes matted, her grave gray eyes more vacant than everβfor all the world a little patient still in the confusion of a drug after a major operation)βand the tenderness would deepen to shame and despair, and I would lull and rock my lone light Lolita in my marble arms, and moan in her warm hair, and caress her at random and mutely ask her blessing, and at the peak of this human agonized selfless tenderness (with my soul actually hanging around her naked body and ready to repent), all at once, ironically, horribly, lust would swell againβand 'oh, no,' Lolita would say with a sigh to heaven, and the next moment the tenderness and the azureβall would be shattered.
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Vladimir Nabokov (Lolita)
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How many generations of women had delayed their greatness only to have time extinguish it completely? How many women had run out of time while the men didnβt know what to do with theirs? And what a mean trick to call such things holy or selfless. How evil to praise women for giving up each and every dream.
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Rachel Yoder (Nightbitch)
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If someone asked me to name the first two attributes of Ryke Meadows, aggressive wouldn't even be on the list. In the heart of his soul lies kindness, wrapped tightly in selflessness that shows in almost every action.
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Krista Ritchie (Fuel the Fire (Calloway Sisters, #3))
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If the entire world sought to make itself worthy of happiness rather than make itself happy, then the entire world would be happy.
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Criss Jami (Venus in Arms)
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A body is simply a package for the true gifts inside. And you are full of gifts. Selflessness, kindness, compassion. All the things that matter. Youth and beauty fade. Human decency doesn't.
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Colleen Hoover (November 9)
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Nobody knows you as well as our spouse. And that means no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants and wishes to make sure his or her needs are met.
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Stephen Kendrick (The Love Dare)
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It was a kind love, a selfless love. I was a dreamer, and you were a traveler. We met at the crossroads. I saw love in your smile, and I recognized it for the first time in my life. But you had a plane to catch, and I was already home.
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Lang Leav (The Universe of Us (Volume 4) (Lang Leav))
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In the beginning, the price of giving great love is risking that it won't be returned. Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned. With interest.
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Mike Dooley
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We werenβt born distrusting and fearing ourselves. That was part of our taming. We were taught to believe that who we are in our natural state is bad and dangerous. They convinced us to be afraid of ourselves. So we do not honor our own bodies, curiosity, hunger, judgment, experience, or ambition. Instead, we lock away our true selves. Women who are best at this disappearing act earn the highest praise: She is so selfless. Can you imagine? The epitome of womanhood is to lose oneβs self completely. That is the end goal of every patriarchal culture. Because a very effective way to control women is to convince women to control themselves.
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Glennon Doyle (Untamed)
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It was desperate, this kiss. Violent, even.
But of course it was. It had been building up between them for such a long time, as the battle about this boy who had destroyed her life had raged inside her. This boy who had saved her life, who was cruel and kind, strong and weak. Who was selfish and selfless all at once.
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Morgan Rhodes (Gathering Darkness (Falling Kingdoms, #3))
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Great calm, generous detachment, selfless love, disinterested effort: these are what make for success in life. If you can find peace in yourself and can spread comfort around you, you will be happier than an empress.
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Rabindranath Tagore
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I've never met anyone as quietly brave and strong as you. I've never met a woman so unassuming, so kind, and so selfless. You are a complex lady." His mouth curled up at the corners. "And you are smart, and passionate, and funny, and exciting, and you blow me fucking away.
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Samantha Young (Down London Road (On Dublin Street, #2))
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I come in a world of iron...to make a world of gold
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Dale Wasserman (Man of La Mancha: A Musical Play)
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Trustful people are the pure at heart, as they are moved by the zeal of their own trustworthiness.
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Criss Jami (Healology)
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And heβs right to say that every faction loses something when it gains a virtue: the Dauntless, brave but cruel; the Erudite, intelligent but vain; the Amity, peaceful but passive; the Candor, honest but inconsiderate; the Abnegation, selfless but stifling.
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Veronica Roth (Allegiant (Divergent, #3))
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I always tell my kids to cut a sandwich in half right when you get it, and the first thought you should have is somebody else. You only ever need half a burger.
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Louis C.K.
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Each smallest act of kindness, reverberates across great distances and spans of time --affecting lives unknown to the one whoβs generous spirit, was the source of this good echo. Because kindness is passed on and grows each time itβs passed until a simple courtesy becomes an act of selfless courage, years later, and far away. Likewise, each small meanness, each expression of hatred, each act of evil.
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Dean Koontz (From the Corner of His Eye)
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God favors men and women who delight in being made worthy of happiness before the happiness itself.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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To love is to be selfless. To be selfless is to be fearless. To be fearless is to strip enemies of their greatest weapon. Even if they break our bodies and drain our blood, we are unvanquished. Our goal was never to live; our goal is to love. It is the goal of all noble men and women. Give all that can be given. Give even your live itself.
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N.D. Wilson (Empire of Bones (Ashtown Burials #3))
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It is completely selfless love: Tereza did not want anything of Karenin; She did not ever ask him to love her back. Nor has she ever asked herself the questions that plague human couples: Does he love me? Does he love anybody more than me? Does he love me more than I love him? Perhaps all the questions we ask of love, to measure, test, probe, and save it, have the additional effect of cutting it short. Perhaps the reason we are unable to love is that we yearn to be loved, that is, we demand something (love) from our partner instead of delivering ourselves to him demand-free and asking for nothing but his company.
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Milan Kundera (The Unbearable Lightness of Being)
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And still the brain continues to yearn, continues to burn, foolishly, with desire. My old man's brain is mocked by a body that still longs to stretch in the sun and form a beautiful shape in someone else's gaze, to lie under a blue sky and dream of helpless, selfless love, to behold itself, illuminated, in the golden light of another's eyes.
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Meg Rosoff (What I Was)
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But to mean it when I say that I want my life to count for His glory is to drive a stake through the heart of self - a painful and determined dying to me that must be a part of every day I live.
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Louie Giglio
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We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.
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Henry Melvill
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To love without need or without expectation of restitution, that is how we ought to love.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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A man who loves others based solely on how they make him feel, or what they do for him, is really not loving others at all - but loving only himself.
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Criss Jami (Healology)
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Love does not dwell on how much one receives in return. If there is ever any balance in love, it is in a contest of who can love who more.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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Worship is the submission of all of our nature to God. It is the quickening of the conscience by his holiness; the nourishment of mind with his truth; the purifying of imagination by his beauty; the opening of the heart to his love; the surrender of will to his purpose--all this gathered up in adoration, the most selfless emotion of which our nature is capable.
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William Temple
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Through the reciprocation of energy, always, and every time, we will get exactly what we put out there to others. Like Karma, whatever we do will indefinitely come back to us in some way shape or form.
When goodness is given, it is likely to returned.
When you support someone, you will be supported.
When you Love, you will be Loved.
If you give someone your last dollar, someone will help you equally.
This is the law of the universe. What selfless characteristics do you portray to benefit your reality? Expand.
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Will Barnes (The Expansion of The Soul)
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People shouldn't have everything they want. No one is entitled to their every desire. To live in balance, we must willingly decide not to take all that we can from the world, and from others.
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F.C. Yee (The Shadow of Kyoshi (The Kyoshi Novels, #2))
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The event of falling in love is of such a nature that we are right to reject as intolerable the idea that it should be transitory. In one high bound it has overleaped the massive of our selfhood; it has made appetite itself altruistic, tossed personal happiness aside as a triviality and planted the interests of another in the centre of our being. Spontaneously and without effort we have fulfilled the law (towards one person) by loving our neighbour as ourselves. It is an image, a foretaste, of what we must become to all if Love Himself rules in us without a rival. It is even (well used) a preparation for that.
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C.S. Lewis (The Four Loves)
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Every society needs heroes. And every society has them. The reason we don't often see them is because we don't bother to look.
There are two kinds of heroes. Heroes who shine in the face of great adversity, who perform an amazing feat in a difficult situation. And heroes who live among us, who do their work unceremoniously, unnoticed by many of us, but who make a difference in the lives of others.
Heroes are selfless people who perform extraordinary acts. The mark of heroes is not necessarily the result of their action, but what they are willing to do for others and for their chosen cause. Even if they fail, their determination lives on for others to follow. The glory lies not in the achievement, but in the sacrifice.
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Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono
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It's for us that the University exists, for the dispossessed of the world; not for the students, not for the selfless pursuit of knowledge, not for any of the reasons that you hear. We give out the reasons, and we let a few of the ordinary ones in, those that would do in the world; but that's just protective coloration. Like the church in the Middle Ages, which didn't give a damn about the laity or even about God, we have our pretenses in order to survive. And we shall surviveβbecause we have to.
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John Williams (Stoner)
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Give us this day our daily Faith, but deliver us, dear God, from Belief.
Faith is something very different from belief. Belief is the systematic taking of unanalyzed words much too seriously. Paul's words, Mohammed's words, Marx's words, Hitler's words---people take them too seriously, and what happens? What happens is the senseless ambivalence of history---sadism versus duty, or (incomparably worse) sadism as duty; devotion counterbalanced by organized paranoia; sisters of charity selflessly tending the victims of their own church's inquisitors and crusaders. Faith, on the contrary, can never be taken too seriously. For Faith is the empirically justified confidence in our capacity to know who in fact we are, to forget the belief-intoxicated Manichee in Good Being.
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Her beauty is not justβor even primarilyβphysical. In her face, I see her wisdom, her compassion, her courage, her eternal glory. This other beauty, this spiritual beautyβwhich is the deepest truth of herβsustains me in times of fear and despair, as other truths might sustain a priest enduring martyrdom at the hands of a tyrant. I see nothing blasphemous in equating her grace with the mercy of God, for the one is a reflection of the other. The selfless love that we give to others to the point of being willing to sacrifice our lives for them, is all the proof I need that human beings are not mere animals of self-interest; we carry within us a divine spark, and if we chose to recognize it, our lives have dignity, meaning, hope. In her it is spark is bright, a light that heals rather than wounds me.
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Dean Koontz (Seize the Night (Moonlight Bay, #2))
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At the beginning of the semester, when you asked who I loved the most, an image of my mother popped in my head. When you asked me who I loved the most for the second time, it wasnβt an image of my mother. Instead, it was replaced by an image of a strawberry blonde with big, blue eyes.
It took me a long time to figure out the exact moment I fell in love with her, partly because I denied that I did until it was too late.
I fucked up so badly and did so many things wrong, to the point of no return, so I let her go. The selfless part inside of me wants to say I did the right thing, and the selfish part of me thinks I made the biggest mistake of my life. I guess the selfless side won out because, every time I look at her and see what I did, I realize I donβt deserve her.
I was never supposed to fall in love with her, but that was the best mistake of my life. I will always love her; I have ever since I purposely bumped into her in the hallway.
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Sarah Brianne (Nero (Made Men, #1))
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The people at the center of these stories of power couples mostly choose to see their own motives as selfless. In Elizabeth Edwardsβ autobiography Resilience, she wrote of her marriage to John, U.S. senator from North Carolina, βWe were lovers, life companions, crusaders, side by side, for a vision of what the country could be.β When she found out he was cheating on her, the crusading together became βthe glueβ that kept them together. βI grabbed hold of it. I needed to,β Edwards wrote. βAlthough I no longer knew what I could trust between the two of us, I knew I could trust in our work together.β She wanted βan intact family fighting for causes more important than any one of us.
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To the untrained eye ego-climbing and selfless climbing may appear identical. Both kinds of climbers place one foot in front of the other. Both breathe in and out at the same rate. Both stop when tired. Both go forward when rested. But what a difference! The ego-climber is like an instrument thatβs out of adjustment. He puts his foot down an instant too soon or too late. Heβs likely to miss a beautiful passage of sunlight through the trees. He goes on when the sloppiness of his step shows heβs tired. He rests at odd times. He looks up the trail trying to see whatβs ahead even when he knows whatβs ahead because he just looked a second before. He goes too fast or too slow for the conditions and when he talks his talk is forever about somewhere else, something else. Heβs here but heβs not here. He rejects the here, heβs unhappy with it, wants to be farther up the trail but when he gets there will be just as unhappy because then *it* will be βhereβ. What heβs looking for, what he wants, is all around him, but he doesnβt want that because it *is* all around him. Every stepβs an effort, both physically and spiritually, because he imagines his goal to be external and distant.
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Robert M. Pirsig (Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance: An Inquiry Into Values (Phaedrus, #1))
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You're neither unnatural, nor abominable, nor mad; you're as much a part of what people call nature as anyone else; only you're unexplained as yet--you've not got your niche in creation. But some day that will come, and meanwhile don't shrink from yourself, but face yourself calmly and bravely. Have courage; do the best you can with your burden. But above all be honourable. Cling to your honour for the sake of those others who share the same burden. For their sakes show the world that people like you and they can be quite as selfless and fine as the rest of mankind. Let your life go to prove this--it would be a really great life-work, Stephen.
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Radclyffe Hall (The Well of Loneliness)
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God has no needs. Human love, as Plato teaches us, is the child of Poverty β of want or lack; it is caused by a real or supposed goal in its beloved which the lover needs and desires. But God's love, far from being caused by goodness in the object, causes all the goodness which the object has, loving it first into existence, and then into real, though derivative, lovability. God is Goodness. He can give good, but cannot need or get it. In that sense , His love is, as it were, bottomlessly selfless by very definition; it has everything to give, and nothing to receive.
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C.S. Lewis (The Problem of Pain)
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Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a manβs sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption heβs taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoymentβjust try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!βan act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.
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Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)
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SELFLESS LOVE.
If you have a special person in your life, but you find yourselves arguing, irritated and/or fighting out of the blue⦠you both need to try to step back and be selfless and think of the other person... with no ego of your own. No ego. We are ALL dealing with our own tough issues. We may keep them to ourselves, but we all have struggles. If you BOTH allow yourselves to step into each others shoes- to have the awareness and respect for each others issues and struggles... that will most likely allow the love that you have for each other to shine through at its brightest.
There will be ups and downs- feelings of being under-appreciated for both. It will happen. But let that be the worst that happens. Unity through diversity. That's the greatest love. A selfless love. Itβs paradoxical, but you each would get back more than you give out. That's the love that conquers all things thatβs mentioned in the Bible. It will be challenging for both of you, but well worth it.
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One cannot prove anything here, but it is possible to be convinced.'
How? By what?'
By the experience of active love. Try to love your neighbors actively and tirelessly. The more you succeed in loving, the more you'll be convinced of the existence of God and the immortality of your soul. And if you reach complete selflessness in the love of your neighbor, then undoubtedly you will believe, and no doubt will even be able to enter your soul. This has been tested. It is certain...
Active love is a harsh and fearful thing compared with love in dreams. Love in dreams thirsts for immediate action, quickly performed, and with everyone watching. Indeed, it will go as far as the giving even of one's life, provided it does not take long but is soon over, as on stage, and everyone is looking on and praising. Whereas active love is labor and perseverance, and for some people, perhaps, a whole science...in that very moment when you see with horror that despite all your efforts, you not only have not come nearer your goal but seem to have gotten farther from it, at that very moment...you will suddenly reach your goal and will clearly behold over you the wonder-working power of the Lord, who all the while has been loving you, and all the while has been mysteriously guiding you.
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Fyodor Dostoevsky (The Brothers Karamazov)