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Don't get me wrong. I love to be alone. When I am by myself, I get to create my own version of reality where I am the popular girl and really pretty, and friends can't wait to talk to me. -Madisyn
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Tara Michener (No Longer Besties: And Other Assorted Teenage Drama)
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educational television had a dramatic effect on relational aggression. The more the kids watched, the crueler they’d be to their classmates. This correlation was 2.5 times higher than the correlation between violent media and physical aggression.
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Po Bronson (NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children)
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You are real! Everyone has to be different or the world would be really boring. If we all looked the same, then no one could tell us apart. -Janelle
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Tara Michener (100% Real: A Who I Am Book)
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Girls in virtual networks are subjected to hundreds of times more social comparison than girls had experienced for all of human evolution. They are exposed to more cruelty and bullying because social media platforms incentivize and facilitate relational aggression. Their openness and willingness to share emotions with other girls espouses them to depression and other disorders. The twisted incentive structures of social media reward the most extreme presentations of symptoms.
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Jonathan Haidt (The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness)
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It's about the ways in which girls deal with anger and aggression, as opposed to the ways in which boys do. The premise is that boys tend to be more direct in their aggression - physical confrontation - while in contrast, girls use an indirect approach known as relational aggression. Relational aggression is a form of aggression where the group is used as a weapon to assault others and others' relationships. It uses lies, secrets, betrayals and a host of other two-faced tactics to destroy or damage the relationships and social standing of others in the group.
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Anonymous
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Girls may be suffering more than boys [mental illnesses] because they are more adversely affected by social comparisons (especially based on digitally enhanced beauty), by signals that they are being left out, and by relational aggression, all of which became easier to enact and harder to escape when adolescents acquired smartphones and social media.
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Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt (The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure)
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Girls, in contrast, are more “relationally” aggressive; they try to hurt their rivals’ relationships, reputations, and social status—for example, by using social media to make sure other girls know who is intentionally being left out.
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Jonathan Haidt (The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure)
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It may surprise you that healthcare workers are among the most likely to experience work-related aggression or violence, second only to police officers, who experience the highest rates of violence from the public (LeBlanc & Kelloway, 2002). Even the fear or anticipation of violence can be related to poor psychological health effects on workers (Rogers & Kelloway, 1997). Thankfully, there is some evidence that a work climate emphasizing violence prevention can offset some of these effects (Mueller & Tschan, 2011).
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Christopher J. L. Cunningham (Essentials of Occupational Health Psychology (Essentials of Industrial and Organizational Psychology))
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series of identity-related aggressions (IRAs) she faced in this prestigious setting. IRAs, a term we coined to remove the “micro” from microaggressions, would come in all forms—from patients, fellow peers, and supervisors.
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Stephanie Pinder-Amaker (Did That Just Happen?!: Beyond "Diversity" —Creating Sustainable and Inclusive Organizations)
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why social media has been especially damaging to girls, including chronic social comparison and relational aggression.
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Jonathan Haidt (The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness)
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And with this frailty of mind, society in general acts like the petulant child in the sandbox, relational aggression occasionally frothing above the surface.
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Lotte Roy (Lotus-eating Japan: Who is this man I hardly know?)
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Debunking the myth of the ‘mean girl,’ new research has found that boys use relational aggression — malicious rumors, social exclusion and rejection — to harm or manipulate others more often than girls. The longitudinal study followed a cohort of students from middle to high school and found that, at every grade level, boys engaged in relationally aggressive behavior more often than girls.
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Anonymous
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Nice Girl Culture, instead of producing girls who are honest, kind, strong, brave—the kind of truly good women who can change the world—actually produces the opposite: catty girls who believe their only option is to use relational aggression to both get what they want and to protect themselves from the shame of not measuring up to their culture’s unrealistic standards. Girls learn to lie to each other, not because [girls] are born untrustworthy or devious, but because it just seems too risky to speak the truth.
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Paul Coughlin (No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends)
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But [social media] is also the greatest enabler of relational aggression since the invention of language, and the evidence available today suggests that girls' mental health has suffered as a result.
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Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt (The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure)
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Instead of physical violence, women tend to use softer forms of relational aggression such as bullying, exclusion and defamation.
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Bernhard Bogerts (Where Does Violence Come From?: A Multidimensional Approach to Its Causes and Manifestations)
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Don’t you think this is a little cliché, being mean to the outsider? Relational aggression is a terrible plague among young women. When did torturing others become a rite of passage?
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Emiko Jean (Tokyo Ever After (Tokyo Ever After, #1))
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Research shows that women with psychopathy are much more likely to engage in relational aggression (spreading rumours, exclusion, mean comments), while men with psychopathy are much more likely to be physically aggressive.
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Essi Viding (Psychopathy: A Very Short Introduction)
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I drop down into a black lacquered chair and try not to burn to ashes under my twin cousins' withering stares. Things I wish I could say to them. Don't you think this is a little cliché, being mean to the outsider? Relational aggression is a terrible plague among young women. When did torturing others become a rite of passage?
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Emiko Jean (Tokyo Ever After (Tokyo Ever After, #1))
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high levels of time spent engaging in media can have a negative impact on romantic relationships, specifically on levels of relational aggression.
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Douglas A. Gentile (Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition (ADVANCES IN APPLIED DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY))