Reboot Relationship Quotes

After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot.

People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this "network of life" and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.

Social Networking Reality Check: After you’ve met, reunited, scheduled, confirmed, celebrated and reminisced, re-boot and remind yourself that your closest friends are probably not even on FaceBook. Life’s most intimate personal details, insecurities, conflicts and “drama” should not play out on a public website. Your discretion, dignity and self respect should not log off when you log on.

Time and again I’ve watched hearts break open, so that true and authentic leaders can emerge. But that process depends on a brave first step: facing the reality of what is and not being deluded by the powerful, seductive dreams of what can be. Of course, this doesn’t mean there’s no role for dreams. We need dreams. But willfully ignoring what is true is not the same as dreaming. It’s delusion; and delusion leads to terrible decisions and, even worse, the destruction of trust. The first act of becoming a leader is to recognize this being so. From that place, we get to recognize what skills we need to develop and who we really are (and are not) as leaders, and to share our truth in a way that creates authentic, powerful relationships—with our peers, colleagues, and families. Grant us leaders who can do this and we just may create institutions that are less violent to the self, our communities, and our planet.

It’s painfully simple but also challenging to execute because it requires a rewrite, a re-rendering, a reboot, and a reframe. And the best part is that it requires nothing from your partner—this is entirely within your control. It is the most unromantic piece of advice you will ever receive: Manage your expectations. Let go of the rescue fantasy. If you don’t, and you decide to stay, it will only destroy you, bit by bit. So now that you know the beast is never going to turn into a prince.

Effective schooling requires rigor, relevance, and relationships.

Establishing a student-centered learning culture means creating the conditions and ethos that best support every learner’s ability to master a high-challenge, standards-based curriculum. Through a variety of means—including developing high teacher expectations for each student, creating a safe and orderly learning environment, providing academic press along with meaningful academic and social supports, affording supportive peer norms, and fostering helpful and respectful relationships—teachers and principals can re-boot their school’s culture in ways that advance the likelihood of every child’s academic success.

Relationships are essential means for accomplishing important professional goals.

Strong relationships with teachers and other school adults can help young people foster their resilience to overcome difficult family circumstances, frustrating school experiences, and negative peer norms.

Research finds that children who experience chronic adversity fare better or recover more successfully when they have a positive, stable emotional relationship with a competent adult, are good learners and problem solvers, are likeable, and have areas of competence and perceived efficacy valued by self or society.

Twenty-first-century schooling challenges teachers to balance competing goals for education: equity and excellence, standards and customization, efficiency and relationships.

In the early grades, being in positive classroom climates with friendly, considerate teachers is linked to greater self-regulation, less disruptive behavior, and higher teacher-rated social competence among elementary and middle school students. Middle school teachers whose classrooms support increasing student autonomy and competence can build personal relationships in which students feel known, valued, and respected. Gains in middle grade achievement and reduced levels of disruptive behavior are evidence in classrooms in which expectations are clear, time is used well and productively, and teachers respond effectively to variations in students’ motivation and focus. Similarly, strong, positive, and cooperative relationships with teachers increase high school students’ likelihood of graduating.

Strong and caring relationships with teachers help students achieve well at all grade levels.

Now, take our existing structure and add some 40 years to the average life span. What happens? You have perhaps five generations instead of three as the typical unit: children, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great-grandparents, and nonbiological family. Add in the fact that people will still have life bumps and changes, divorce will still happen, and blended families will grow. Families will become tribes rather than small units. Most of all, enhanced longevity underscores the importance of strong relationships—romantic, familial, and platonic—as they are a major source of optimum health. Keeping connected as we age is critical, especially for the very old (relationships keep us in the present, not the past).

The key to loving relationships, research has found, is what’s called “emotional responsiveness.” This is just what it sounds like: being there for the people around you, not physically, but in an emotionally engaged way. This applies not just to romantic relationships, but to friendships as well.

Board and Staff relationships are critical in any business reboot—don’t overlook or undervalue them!

Respect yourself. (Stop beating yourself up). OK, this is kind of a repeat of the idea of improving your relationship with yourself. But I’m repeating it because, ultimately, nothing you do to improve your eating habits is going to work or stick or become a regular part of your life if you don’t respect yourself.

The banking industry has always been about relationships. Social media is about relationships. The two go hand-in-hand. —Frank Eliason, Director of Global Social Media, Citi Group

Make memories not madness.

Fight for not with your spouse.

Remember your future and dream with your eyes wide open.

What we feed grows. What we starve dies.

See the best, believe the best and speak the best.

Prefer one another's need over your own.

Pursue intimacy not just sex.

Lift the lid and dare to dream together.

Don't let what you can't do stop you from doing what you can do.

Fight for unity.

When you can't change how you feel, change the way you think.

Manage for margin. Replenish together.

Extend the same love, acceptance, and grace that you need and forgive freely.

Begin with the end in mind.

Live intentionally to stay connected.

We will be intentional, be present and seek to understand,

Be a partner, not an opponent. Change your me first to we first.

You reap what you sow. Plant the right seeds.

Don't let you How To get in the way of your Want to.

Don't let what you don't know stop you from remembering what you do know.

The power of life and death are in the tongue. Speak life!

Vision trumps discipline.

Build on common ground.

You will find what you are looking for...we will find what we love, not what is lacking.

Serve instead of expecting to be served.

Speak gratitude not complaints.

The strength in a team is found in its diversity. We will celebrate our differences.

Envision your ideal marriage and seize it.

Progress involves process. Do the next right thing.

What you feed grows. What you starve dies. Starve the lies. Feed the truth.

Instead of thinking about what you don't want, think about what you want.

Concentrate your attention on God's intention.

Don't settle for what's good. Pursue what's great.

But the quest to preserve your brain is not just about avoiding something that’s scary. It’s also about preserving and extending youth, and youthful curiosity, learning, playfulness, and relationship building.

Building better relationships isn’t rocket science—it’s more like Wi-Fi. Show up, stay connected, and don’t forget to reboot when things get messy!