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Does she still love you?"
"I don't think so," Magnus said dryly. "She wasn't very pleasant the last time I saw her. Of course, that could be because I've got an eighteen year-old boyfriend with a stamina rune and she doesn't."
Alec sputtered. "As the person being objectified, I ... object to that description of me.
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Cassandra Clare (City of Lost Souls (The Mortal Instruments, #5))
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The fact is that we have no way of knowing if the person who we think we are is at the core of our being. Are you a decent girl with the potential to someday become an evil monster, or are you an evil monster that thinks it's a decent girl?"
"Wouldn't I know which one I was?"
"Good God, no. The lies we tell other people are nothing to the lies we tell ourselves.
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Derek Landy (Death Bringer (Skulduggery Pleasant, #6))
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Mad Eye' Moody on the Avada Kedavra curse: "Not nice," he said calmly. "Not pleasant. And there's no counter curse. There's no blocking it. Only one known person has ever survived it, and he's sitting right in front of me.
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J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (Harry Potter, #4))
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She had been a teenager once, and she knew that, despite the apparent contradictions, a person's teenage years lasted well into their fifties.
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Derek Landy (Mortal Coil (Skulduggery Pleasant, #5))
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If you want to have a more pleasant,cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, emphatic, consistent, loving parent.
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Stephen R. Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change)
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Each of us is born with a box of matches inside us but we can't strike them all by ourselves; we need oxygen and a candle to help. In this case, the oxygen for example, would come from the breath of the person you love; the candle would be any kind of food, music, caress, word, or sound that engenders the explosion that lights one of the matches. For a moment we are dazzled by an intense emotion. A pleasant warmth grows within us, fading slowly as time goes by, until a new explosion comes along to revive it. Each person has to discover what will set off those explosions in order to live, since the combustion that occurs when one of them is ignited is what nourishes the soul. That fire, in short, is its food. If one doesn't find out in time what will set off these explosions, the box of matches dampens, and not a single match will ever be lighted.
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Laura Esquivel (Like Water for Chocolate)
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And in that moment, you realize how little control you have over your own destiny. From the time you're born, you have no control; you can't choose your parents, and, unless you're suicidal, you can't choose your death. The only thing you can do is choose the person you love, be kind to others, and make your brutally short stint on earth as pleasant as possible.
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Renee Carlino (Before We Were Strangers)
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Personally, I think knees should be kept for the eighth or ninth date, or the wedding day. As a nice surprise you know? 'oh, my darling, you have knees! I never would have thought
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Derek Landy (Mortal Coil (Skulduggery Pleasant, #5))
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Good. I would hate to have you eaten before we even started,โ he purred, raking his claws across the wood. โYou appear to have the same recklessness as your sister, always rushing into things without thinking them through.โ
โDonโt compare me to Meghan,โ I said, narrowing my eyes. โIโm not like her.โ
โIndeed. She, at least, had a pleasant personality.
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Julie Kagawa (The Lost Prince (The Iron Fey: Call of the Forgotten, #1))
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You put in expired contacts?โ He sounded personally offended
โJust a little expired.โ
โWhatโs โa littleโ?โ
โI donโt know. A few years?โ
โWhat?โ His consonants were sharp and precise. Crisp. Pleasant.
โOnly a couple, I think.โ
โJust a couple of years?โ
โItโs okay. Expiration dates are for the weak.โ
A sharp sound - some kind of snort. โExpiration dates are so I donโt find you weeping in the corner of my bathroom.โ
Unless this dude was Mr. Stanford himself, he really needed to stop calling it his bathroom.
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Ali Hazelwood (The Love Hypothesis)
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Many Introverts are also "highly sensitive," which sounds poetic, but is actually a technical term in psychology. If you are a sensitive sort, then you're more apt than the average person to feel pleasantly overwhelmed by Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata" or a well-turned phrase or an act of extraordinary kindness. You may be quicker than others to feel sickened by violence and ugliness, and you likely have a very strong conscience.
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Susan Cain (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking)
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Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we donโt even recognize that growth is what is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book or person who explained it to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger, spiritually, than we were before. Whenever we grow, we tend to feel it, as a young seed must feel the weight and inertia of the earth as it seeks to break out of its shell on its way to becoming a plant. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing what is happening . . . Those long periods when something inside ourselves seems to be waiting, holding its breath, unsure about what the next step should be, eventually become the periods we wait for, for it is in those periods that we realize that we are being prepared for the next phase of our life and that, in all probability, a new level of the personality is about to be revealed.
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Alice Walker (Living by the Word: Essays)
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Valkyrie Cain got out of the passenger side. She zipped up
her black jacket against the cold, and joined Skulduggery as he
walked up to the front door. She glanced at him, and saw that he was smiling.
"Stop doing that,โ she sighed.
โStop doing what?โ Skulduggery responded in that gloriously velvet voice of his.
โStop smiling. The person we want to talk to lives in the only dark house on a bright street. Thatโs not a good sign.โ
โI didnโt realise I was smiling,โ he said.
They stopped at the door, and Skulduggery made a concerted effort to shift his features. His mouth twitched
downwards. โAm I smiling now?โ
โNo.โ
โExcellent,โ he said, and the smile immediately sprang back up.
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Derek Landy (Mortal Coil (Skulduggery Pleasant, #5))
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Annis had never been a people person, unless โpeople personโ was defined as a person who ate people.
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Derek Landy (The Maleficent Seven (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7.5))
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It turned out that if you saw the same person with some degree of regularity, then the conversation was immediately pleasant and comfortable -- you could pick up where you left off, as it were, rather than having to start afresh each time.
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Gail Honeyman (Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine)
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Optimist" is a word which here refers to a person, such as Phil, who thinks hopeful and pleasant thoughts about nearly everything. For instance, if an optimist had his left arm chewed off by an alligator, he might say, in a pleasant and hopeful voice, "Well, this isn't too bad. I don't have my left arm anymore, but at least nobody will ever ask me whether I am right-handed or left-handed," but most of us would say something more along the lines of "Aaaaah! My arm! My arm!
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Lemony Snicket (The Miserable Mill (A Series of Unfortunate Events, #4))
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He crouched at the care window and looked in. "What a lovely family you have. What a charming family. They're all lovely. Except for that one." His finger jabbed the glass. "That one's a bit ugly."
The American stepped towards him. "What? What did you say?"
"Oh, don't worry. I'm sure his personality makes up for his face.
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Derek Landy (Death Bringer (Skulduggery Pleasant, #6))
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I don't think so," Magnus said dryly. "She wasn't very pleasant the last time I saw her.Of course that could be because I've got an eighteen-year-old boyfriend with a stamina rune and she doesn't."
Alec sputtered. "As the person being objectified, I ... object to that description of me.
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Cassandra Clare (City of Lost Souls (The Mortal Instruments, #5))
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While my insides may be rotten, I still like a good reason to kill someone. It has to be either business, personal, or out of sheer boredom.
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Derek Landy (The Maleficent Seven (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7.5))
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If, by the virtue of charity or the circumstance of desperation, you ever chance to spend a little time around a Substance-recovery halfway facility like Enfield MA's state-funded Ennet House, you will acquire many exotic new facts [...] That certain persons simply will not like you no matter what you do. Then that most nonaddicted adult civilians have already absorbed and accepted this fact, often rather early on [...] That sleeping can be a form of emotional escape and can with sustained effort be abused [...] That purposeful sleep-deprivation can also be an abusable escape. That gambling can be an abusable escape, too, and work, shopping, and shoplifting, and sex, and abstention, and masturbation, and food, and exercise, and meditation/prayer [...] That loneliness is not a function of solitude [...] That if enough people in a silent room are drinking coffee it is possible to make out the sound of steam coming off the coffee. That sometimes human beings have to just sit in one place and, like, hurt [...] That there is such a thing as raw, unalloyed, agendaless kindness [...] That the effects of too many cups of coffee are in no way pleasant or intoxicating [...] That if you do something nice for somebody in secret, anonymously, without letting the person you did it for know it was you or anybody else know what it was you did or in any way or form trying to get credit for it, it's almost its own form of intoxicating buzz.
That anonymous generosity, too, can be abused [...]
That it is permissible to want [...]
That there might not be angels, but there are people who might as well be angels.
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David Foster Wallace (Infinite Jest)
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I understand perfectly. Darquesse isn't a separate entity. She isn't another person. She's you. If you make the wrong choices, if you stop loving the people who love you, if you allow the world to twist and turn and change you, then yes, the future we've seen will come to pass. But if you fight, and if you kick, and struggle, and refuse to give in to the apathy, or the anger, or the hopelessness, then you'll change the future, and you'll walk your own path. And I'll be right there beside you, Valkyrie. I'll always be beside you.
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Derek Landy (Mortal Coil (Skulduggery Pleasant, #5))
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4. Religion. Your reason is now mature enough to examine this object. In the first place, divest yourself of all bias in favor of novelty & singularity of opinion... shake off all the fears & servile prejudices, under which weak minds are servilely crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call to her tribunal every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blindfolded fear. You will naturally examine first, the religion of your own country. Read the Bible, then as you would read Livy or Tacitus. The facts which are within the ordinary course of nature, you will believe on the authority of the writer, as you do those of the same kind in Livy and Tacitus. The testimony of the writer weighs in their favor, in one scale, and their not being against the laws of nature, does not weigh against them. But those facts in the Bible which contradict the laws of nature, must be examined with more care, and under a variety of faces. Here you must recur to the pretensions of the writer to inspiration from God. Examine upon what evidence his pretensions are founded, and whether that evidence is so strong, as that its falsehood would be more improbable than a change in the laws of nature, in the case he relates. For example in the book of Joshua we are told the sun stood still several hours. Were we to read that fact in Livy or Tacitus we should class it with their showers of blood, speaking of statues, beasts, &c. But it is said that the writer of that book was inspired. Examine therefore candidly what evidence there is of his having been inspired. The pretension is entitled to your inquiry, because millions believe it. On the other hand you are astronomer enough to know how contrary it is to the law of nature that a body revolving on its axis as the earth does, should have stopped, should not by that sudden stoppage have prostrated animals, trees, buildings, and should after a certain time have resumed its revolution, & that without a second general prostration. Is this arrest of the earth's motion, or the evidence which affirms it, most within the law of probabilities? You will next read the New Testament. It is the history of a personage called Jesus. Keep in your eye the opposite pretensions: 1, of those who say he was begotten by God, born of a virgin, suspended & reversed the laws of nature at will, & ascended bodily into heaven; and 2, of those who say he was a man of illegitimate birth, of a benevolent heart, enthusiastic mind, who set out without pretensions to divinity, ended in believing them, and was punished capitally for sedition, by being gibbeted, according to the Roman law, which punished the first commission of that offence by whipping, & the second by exile, or death in fureรข.
...Do not be frightened from this inquiry by any fear of its consequences. If it ends in a belief that there is no God, you will find incitements to virtue in the comfort and pleasantness you feel in its exercise, and the love of others which it will procure you... In fine, I repeat, you must lay aside all prejudice on both sides, and neither believe nor reject anything, because any other persons, or description of persons, have rejected or believed it... I forgot to observe, when speaking of the New Testament, that you should read all the histories of Christ, as well of those whom a council of ecclesiastics have decided for us, to be Pseudo-evangelists, as those they named Evangelists. Because these Pseudo-evangelists pretended to inspiration, as much as the others, and you are to judge their pretensions by your own reason, and not by the reason of those ecclesiastics. Most of these are lost...
[Letter to his nephew, Peter Carr, advising him in matters of religion, 1787]
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Thomas Jefferson (Letters of Thomas Jefferson)
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Youโre seventeen. Youโre supposed to be dealing with school and hormones and dim-witted parents. Youโre supposed to be finding out who you are as a person.โ
โBut I already know who I am,โ Valkyrie said. โIโm a world-breaker.
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Derek Landy (Kingdom of the Wicked (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7))
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It sounded old. Deserve. Old and tired and beaten to death. Deserve. Now it seemed to him that he was always saying or thinking that he didn't deserve some bad luck, or some bad treatment from others. He'd told Guitar that he didn't "deserve" his family's dependence, hatred, or whatever. That he didn't even "deserve" to hear all the misery and mutual accusations his parents unloaded on him. Nor did he "deserve" Hagar's vengeance. But why shouldn't his parents tell him their personal problems? If not him, then who? And if a stranger could try to kill him, surely Hagar, who knew him and whom he'd thrown away like a wad of chewing gum after the flavor was goneโโshe had a right to try to kill him too.
Apparently he though he deserved only to be loved--from a distance, though--and given what he wanted. And in return he would be...what? Pleasant? Generous? Maybe all he was really saying was: I am not responsible for your pain; share your happiness with me but not your unhappiness.
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Toni Morrison (Song of Solomon)
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I am perfectly satisfied that my Father and my god is a cheerful, pleasant, lively, and good-natured Being. Why? Because I am cheerful, pleasant, lively and good-natured when I have His Spiritโฆ. That arises from the perfection of His attributes; He is a jovial, lively person, and a beautiful man.
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Heber C. Kimball
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Though I have always made it my practice to be pleasant to everybody, I have not once actually experienced friendship. I have only the most painful recollections of my various acquaintances with the exception of such companions in pleasure as Horiki. I have frantically played the clown in order to disentangle myself from these painful relationships, only to wear myself out as a result. Even now it comes as a shock if by chance I notice in the street a face resembling someone I know however slightly, and I am at once seized by a shivering violent enough to make me dizzy. I know that I am liked by other people, but I seem to be deficient in the faculty to love others. (I should add that I have very strong doubts as to whether even human beings really possess this faculty.) It was hardly to be expected that someone like myself could ever develop any close friendsโbesides, I lacked even the ability to pay visits. The front door of another personโs house terrified me more than the gate of Inferno in the Divine Comedy, and I am not exaggerating when I say that I really felt I could detect within the door the presence of a horrible dragon-like monster writhing there with a dank, raw smell.
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Osamu Dazai (No Longer Human)
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Lucius shrugged. "Perhaps in time you will find it useful."
"Sure. I'll keep it on my shelf right next to The Idiot's Guide to Becoming a Mythical Creature.''
Lucius actually laughed. "Very funny. I didn't know you made jokes."
"I'm a funny person," I defended myself. "And by the wayโI don't snore."
"You do snore. And you mumble, too."
My blood froze. The dream . . . "What? What did you hear?"
"Nothing too intelligible. But it must have been a rather pleasant dream. You sounded ecstatic.
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Beth Fantaskey (Jessica's Guide to Dating on the Dark Side (Jessica, #1))
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Skulduggery."
"Fletcher."
Fletcher stuck out his hand. Skulduggery observed it for a moment.
"I'm sorry, what are we doing now?"
"Shaking hands," Fletcher said. "Like adults. I just want you to know that this past year has changed me. I've grown, as a person. I'm not the same Fletcher you used to know.
"You look a lot like him."
"Well, yeah, but-"
"And you have the same ridiculous hair."
"Can we just shake hands?"
"Of course we can," Skulduggery said, and they shook. "Now what?"
"I, uh...I don't really know. What do adults usually do after they shake hands?"
"Generally, the first thing they do is let go."
"Oh, right," Fletcher said, and Skulduggery took his hand back. "So, Skulduggery, how have you been? You're looking well. That's a really nice tie.
"It's blue."
"And such a nice shade."
Skulduggery looked at Valkyrie. "You promised me he wouldn't be annoying.
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Derek Landy (Kingdom of the Wicked (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7))
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When we hear a little good and no harm of a person, it is easy and pleasant to imagine more.
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Anne Brontรซ (Agnes Grey)
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To have a film where there's an evil figure and a good person fights against the evil figure and everything becomes a happy ending, that's one way to make a film. But then that means you have to draw, as an animator, the evil figure. And it's not very pleasant to draw evil figures
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Hayao Miyazaki
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We seem to feel that a person like Helen Keller can be an inspiration only so long as she remains uncontroversial, one-dimensional. We don't want complicated icons. "People do not like to think. If one thinks, one must reach conclusions," Helen Keller pointed out. "Conclusions are not always pleasant.
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James W. Loewen
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but when a personโs so stuck in their own hole of darkness โ it hurts like hell when someone shines a light on them. Your eyes have to adjust, and letโs just say it isnโt a pleasant experience; itโs why people stay there.
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Rachel Van Dyken (Toxic (Ruin, #2))
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In my opinion, if 100% of the people were farming it would be ideal. If each person were given one quarter-acre, that is 1 1/4 acres to a family of five, that would be more than enough land to support the family for the whole year. If natural farming were practiced, a farmer would also have plenty of time for leisure and social activities within the village community. I think this is the most direct path toward making this country a happy, pleasant land.
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Masanobu Fukuoka (The One-Straw Revolution)
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He said, โI know somebody you could kiss.โ
โWho?โ She realized his eyes were amused. โOh, wait.โ
He shrugged. He was maybe the only person Blue knew who could preserve the integrity of a shrug while lying down. โItโs not like youโre going to kill me. I mean, if you were curious.โ
She hadnโt thought she was curious. It hadnโt been an option, after all. Not being able to kiss someone was a lot like being poor. She tried not to dwell on the things she couldnโt have.
But nowโ
โOkay,โ she said.
โWhat?โ
โI said okay.โ
He blushed. Or rather, because he was dead, he became normal colored. โUh.โ He propped himself on an elbow. โWell.โ She unburied her face from the pillow. โJust, likeโโ
He leaned toward her. Blue felt a thrill for a half a second. No, more like a quarter second. Because after that she felt the too-firm pucker of his tense lips. His mouth mashed her lips until it met teeth. The entire thing was at once slimy and ticklish and hilarious.
They both gasped an embarrassed laugh. Noah said, โBah!โ Blue considered wiping her mouth, but felt that would be rude. It was all fairly underwhelming.
She said, โWell.โ
โWait,โ Noah replied, โwaitwaitwait.โ He pulled one of Blueโs hairs out of his mouth. โI wasnโt ready.โ
He shook out his hands as if Blueโs lips were a sporting event and cramping was a very real possibility.
โGo,โ Blue said.
This time they only got within a breath of each otherโs lips when they both began to laugh. She closed the distance and was rewarded with another kiss that felt a lot like kissing a dishwasher.
โIโm doing something wrong?โ she suggested.
โSometimes itโs better with tongue,โ he replied dubiously.
They regarded each other.
Blue squinted, โAre you sure youโve done this before?โ
โHey!โ he protested. โItโs weird for me, โcause itโs you.โ
โWell, itโs weird for me because itโs you.โ
โWe can stop.โ
โMaybe we should.โ
Noah pushed himself up farther on his elbow and gazed at the ceiling vaguely. Finally, he dropped his eyes back to her. โYouโve seen, like, movies. Of kisses, right? Your lips need to be, like, wanting to be kissed.โ
Blue touched her mouth. โWhat are they doing now?โ
โLike, bracing themselves.โ
She pursed and unpursed her lips. She saw his point.
โSo imagine one of those,โ Noah suggested.
She sighed and sifted through her memories until she found one that would do. It wasnโt a movie kiss, however. It was the kiss the dreaming tree had showed her in Cabeswater. Her first and only kiss with Gansey, right before he died. She thought about his nice mouth when he smiled. About his pleasant eyes when he laughed. She closed her eyes.
Placing an elbow on the other side of her head, Noah leaned close and kissed her once more. This time, it was more of a thought than a feeling, a soft heat that began at her mouth and unfurled through the rest of her. One of his cold hands slid behind her neck and he kissed her again, lips parted. It was not just a touch, an action. It was a simplification of both of them: They were no longer Noah Czerny and Blue Sargent. They were now just him and her. Not even that. They were only the time that they held between them.
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Maggie Stiefvater (The Dream Thieves (The Raven Cycle, #2))
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This book is dedicated to you.
Whether you are a Minion or a Skuttlebug or just, you know, a normal person, itโs because of you that I get to do what I love and laughingly call it work.
I know some of you by name and some of you by sight (and some of you by smell, but letโs not get into that) but there are still countless others I have never met, and to all of you I say thank you for your support, your passion, and your lunacy.
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Derek Landy (Last Stand of Dead Men (Skulduggery Pleasant, #8))
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From the time youโre born, you have no control; you canโt choose your parents, and, unless youโre suicidal, you canโt choose your death. The only thing you can do is choose the person you love, be kind to others, and make your brutally short stint on earth as pleasant as possible.
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Renee Carlino (Before We Were Strangers)
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The machete was needed anytime you had to slash out your own trail. This necessity arose more often than a person who is not a kid with a machete might think.
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Patrick F. McManus (A Fine and Pleasant Misery)
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Personally, I think knees should be kept for the eight or ninth date, or the wedding day. As a nice surprise, you know? 'Oh, my darling, you have knees! I never would have thought!
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Derek Landy (Mortal Coil (Skulduggery Pleasant, #5))
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Consider the capacity of the human body for pleasure. Sometimes, it is pleasant to eat, to drink, to see, to touch, to smell, to hear, to make love. The mouth. The eyes. The fingertips, The nose. The ears. The genitals. Our voluptific faculties (if you will forgive me the coinage) are not exclusively concentrated here. The whole body is susceptible to pleasure, but in places there are wells from which it may be drawn up in greater quantity. But not inexhaustibly. How long is it possible to know pleasure? Rich Romans ate to satiety, and then purged their overburdened bellies and ate again. But they could not eat for ever. A rose is sweet, but the nose becomes habituated to its scent. And what of the most intense pleasures, the personality-annihilating ecstasies of sex? I am no longer a young man; even if I chose to discard my celibacy I would surely have lost my stamina, re-erecting in half-hours where once it was minutes. And yet if youth were restored to me fully, and I engaged again in what was once my greatest delight โ to be fellated at stool by nymphet with mouth still blood-heavy from the necessary precautions โ what then? What if my supply of anodontic premenstruals were never-ending, what then? Surely, in time, I should sicken of it.
โEven if I were a woman, and could string orgasm on orgasm like beads on a necklace, in time I should sicken of it. Do you think Messalina, in that competition of hers with a courtesan, knew pleasure as much on the first occasion as the last? Impossible.
โYet consider.
โConsider pain.
โGive me a cubic centimeter of your flesh and I could give you pain that would swallow you as the ocean swallows a grain of salt. And you would always be ripe for it, from before the time of your birth to the moment of your death, we are always in season for the embrace of pain. To experience pain requires no intelligence, no maturity, no wisdom, no slow working of the hormones in the moist midnight of our innards. We are always ripe for it. All life is ripe for it. Always.
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Jesus I. Aldapuerta (The Eyes: Emetic Fables from the Andalusian De Sade)
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I believe that if a person wants to reach their full potential, he or she canโt avoid discomfort. Doing things that might not be entirely pleasant is key to achieving long-term objectives
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Martin Meadows (365 Days With Self-Discipline (Simple Self-Discipline #5))
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Aurora sagged. "Why is it," she asked, "that every time I'm with you two we end up stealing something big?"
"We always return it," Donegan said, a little defensively. "Maybe not always in one piece or necessarily to the right person but return it we do, and so it is not stealing, it is merely borrowing."
Gracious looked at him. "It's a little bit stealing."
"Anyone who leaves a private jet just lying around deserves to have it stolen."
"It wasn't lying around," said Gracious. "It was locked up tight. It took us an hour to dismantle the security system and get inside."
Donegan looked at him. "You're not helping.
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Derek Landy (The Maleficent Seven (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7.5))
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That dead-eyed anhedonia is but a remora on the ventral flank of the true predator, the Great White Shark of pain. Authorities term this condition clinical depression or involutional depression or unipolar dysphoria. Instead of just an incapacity for feeling, a deadening of soul, the predator-grade depression Kate Gompert always feels as she Withdraws from secret marijuana is itself a feeling. It goes by many names โ anguish, despair, torment, or q.v. Burton's melancholia or Yevtuschenko's more authoritative psychotic depression โ but Kate Gompert, down in the trenches with the thing itself, knows it simply as It.
It is a level of psychic pain wholly incompatible with human life as we know it. It is a sense of radical and thoroughgoing evil not just as a feature but as the essence of conscious existence. It is a sense of poisoning that pervades the self at the self's most elementary levels. It is a nausea of the cells and soul. It is an unnumb intuition in which the world is fully rich and animate and un-map-like and also thoroughly painful and malignant and antagonistic to the self, which depressed self It billows on and coagulates around and wraps in Its black folds and absorbs into Itself, so that an almost mystical unity is achieved with a world every constituent of which means painful harm to the self. Its emotional character, the feeling Gompert describes It as, is probably mostly indescribable except as a sort of double bind in which any/all of the alternatives we associate with human agency โ sitting or standing, doing or resting, speaking or keeping silent, living or dying โ are not just unpleasant but literally horrible.
It is also lonely on a level that cannot be conveyed. There is no way Kate Gompert could ever even begin to make someone else understand what clinical depression feels like, not even another person who is herself clinically depressed, because a person in such a state is incapable of empathy with any other living thing. This anhedonic Inability To Identify is also an integral part of It. If a person in physical pain has a hard time attending to anything except that pain, a clinically depressed person cannot even perceive any other person or thing as independent of the universal pain that is digesting her cell by cell. Everything is part of the problem, and there is no solution. It is a hell for one.
The authoritative term psychotic depression makes Kate Gompert feel especially lonely. Specifically the psychotic part. Think of it this way. Two people are screaming in pain. One of them is being tortured with electric current. The other is not. The screamer who's being tortured with electric current is not psychotic: her screams are circumstantially appropriate. The screaming person who's not being tortured, however, is psychotic, since the outside parties making the diagnoses can see no electrodes or measurable amperage. One of the least pleasant things about being psychotically depressed on a ward full of psychotically depressed patients is coming to see that none of them is really psychotic, that their screams are entirely appropriate to certain circumstances part of whose special charm is that they are undetectable by any outside party. Thus the loneliness: it's a closed circuit: the current is both applied and received from within.
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David Foster Wallace (Infinite Jest)
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This memory was both happy and sad: happy because it was so pleasant, and sad because it made Penelope think about how much she missed Swanburne--the girls, the teachers, Miss Mortimer. Or perhaps it was her own much younger self, that pint-sized person whom she could never be again, whom she missed. It was hard to say.
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Maryrose Wood (The Mysterious Howling (The Incorrigible Children of Ashton Place, #1))
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Once I stopped expecting to like it, once I stopped demanding that losing weight be easy or pleasant, once I stopped waiting for the band to start playing, paying attention to what went into my mouth became tolerable. Because I wasnโt waiting for it to get better. Itโs NEVER going to get better. It justย .ย .ย . sucks.
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Shonda Rhimes (Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person)
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Most people are pleasant when the world is going the way they want. But a personโs character can be seen most clearly when the brokenness of the world has invaded his or her peace, when the way he or she thinks things ought to be is interrupted, disrupted, and dismantled.
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Matt Chandler (The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption)
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To reach only for that which pleasantly enchants you is the least of imagination, if even imagination at all, by the obvious reality of remaining within your means. The greater of imagination is parallel to risk. It extends beyond your comfort zone or haven, or sense of beauty, or what you personally believe suits you in exploration of what may not.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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What is to be done with the millions of facts that bear witness that men, consciously, that is fully understanding their real interests, have left them in the background and have rushed headlong on another path, to meet peril and danger, compelled to this course by nobody and by nothing, but, as it were, simply disliking the beaten track, and have obstinately, wilfully, struck out another difficult, absurd way, seeking it almost in the darkness. So, I suppose, this obstinacy and perversity were pleasanter to them than any advantage...
The fact is, gentlemen, it seems there must really exist something that is dearer to almost every man than his greatest advantages, or (not to be illogical) there is a most advantageous advantage (the very one omitted of which we spoke just now) which is more important and more advantageous than all other advantages, for the sake of which a man if necessary is ready to act in opposition to all laws; that is, in opposition to reason, honour, peace, prosperity -- in fact, in opposition to all those excellent and useful things if only he can attain that fundamental, most advantageous advantage which is dearer to him than all. "Yes, but it's advantage all the same," you will retort. But excuse me, I'll make the point clear, and it is not a case of playing upon words. What matters is, that this advantage is remarkable from the very fact that it breaks down all our classifications, and continually shatters every system constructed by lovers of mankind for the benefit of mankind. In fact, it upsets everything...
One's own free unfettered choice, one's own caprice, however wild it may be, one's own fancy worked up at times to frenzy -- is that very "most advantageous advantage" which we have overlooked, which comes under no classification and against which all systems and theories are continually being shattered to atoms. And how do these wiseacres know that man wants a normal, a virtuous choice? What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice? What man wants is simply independent choice, whatever that independence may cost and wherever it may lead. And choice, of course, the devil only knows what choice.
Of course, this very stupid thing, this caprice of ours, may be in reality, gentlemen, more advantageous for us than anything else on earth, especially in certain casesโฆ for in any circumstances it preserves for us what is most precious and most important -- that is, our personality, our individuality. Some, you see, maintain that this really is the most precious thing for mankind; choice can, of course, if it chooses, be in agreement with reasonโฆ It is profitable and sometimes even praiseworthy. But very often, and even most often, choice is utterly and stubbornly opposed to reason ... and ... and ... do you know that that, too, is profitable, sometimes even praiseworthy?
I believe in it, I answer for it, for the whole work of man really seems to consist in nothing but proving to himself every minute that he is a man and not a piano-key! โฆAnd this being so, can one help being tempted to rejoice that it has not yet come off, and that desire still depends on something we don't know?
You will scream at me (that is, if you condescend to do so) that no one is touching my free will, that all they are concerned with is that my will should of itself, of its own free will, coincide with my own normal interests, with the laws of nature and arithmetic. Good heavens, gentlemen, what sort of free will is left when we come to tabulation and arithmetic, when it will all be a case of twice two make four? Twice two makes four without my will. As if free will meant that!
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Fyodor Dostoevsky (Notes from Underground, White Nights, The Dream of a Ridiculous Man, and Selections from The House of the Dead)
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Integrity is unity of the personality; it implies being brutally honest with ourselves about our intentionality. Since intentionality is inextricably bound up with the daimonic, this is never an easy, nor always pleasant pursuit. But being willing to admit our daimonic tendencies - to know them consciously and to wisely oversee them - brings with it the invaluable blessing of freedom, vigor, inner strength, and self-acceptance.
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Stephen A. Diamond (Anger, Madness, and the Daimonic: The Psychological Genesis of Violence, Evil and Creativity (Suny Series in the Philosophy of Psychology))
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When you gossip about another person, listeners unconsciously associate you with the characteristics you are describing, ultimately leading to those characteristicsโ being โtransferredโ to you. So, say positive and pleasant things about friends and colleagues, and you are seen as a nice person. In contrast, constantly complain about their failings, and people will unconsciously apply the negative traits and incompetence to you.
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Richard Wiseman (59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change a Lot)
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Ah...Dectective, this is a very private and personal moment for them both. I'm sure you can understand their need for-"
A man stumbled out clutching a sheet round his waist and Valkyrie's eyes widened. "Whoa," she said as he hummed into a table. He was tall and sandy-haired and his physique was jaw-dropping lay amazing. "No way," she said. "Scapegrace?"
The man looked at her, and shook his head. The a woman came charging out of the back room, slammed into the man and they both went rolling across the floor.
"Give it to me!" The woman screamed. "Give it to me!"
Nye scuttled over. "Mr Scapegrace, you know the procedure cannot be repeated, your brains are in far too deteriorated a condition."
"You! Gave! Me! The! Wrong! Body!
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Derek Landy (Kingdom of the Wicked (Skulduggery Pleasant, #7))
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Could it be that we donโt want to think badly of Woodrow Wilson? We seem to feel that a person like Helen Keller can be an inspiration only so long as she remains uncontroversial, one-dimensional. We donโt want complicated icons. โPeople do not like to think. If one thinks, one must reach conclusions,โ Helen Keller pointed out. โConclusions are not always pleasant.โ41 Most of us automatically shy away from conflict, and understandably so. We particularly seek to avoid conflict in the classroom.
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James W. Loewen (Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong)
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The most pleasant and useful persons are those who leave some of the problems of the universe for God to worry about.
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Don Marquis
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As I sit today, I am a genuine, often pleasant person. I am able to imitate a human being for long spurts of time, do solid work for a reputable organization, and have, over the breadth of time, proven to be an attentive father and husband. So how to reconcile my past with my current circumstances? Drugs, it seems to me, do not conjure demons, they access them. Was I faking it then, or am I faking it now? Which, you might ask, of my two selves did I make up?
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David Carr (The Night of the Gun)
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Fast rather than slow, more rather than less--this flashy "development" is linked directly to society's impending collapse. It has only served to separate man from nature. Humanity must stop indulging the desire for material possessions and personal gain and move instead toward spiritual awareness.
Agriculture must change from large mechanical operations to small farms attached only to life itself. Material life and diet should be given a simple place. If this is done, work becomes pleasant, and spiritual breathing space becomes plentiful.
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Masanobu Fukuoka (The One-Straw Revolution)
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Immediately when you arrive in Sahara, for the first or the tenth time, you notice the stillness. An incredible, absolute silence prevails outside the towns; and within, even in busy places like the markets, there is a hushed quality in the air, as if the quiet were a conscious force which, resenting the intrusion of sound, minimizes and disperses sound straightaway. Then there is the sky, compared to which all other skies seem fainthearted efforts. Solid and luminous, it is always the focal point of the landscape. At sunset, the precise, curved shadow of the earth rises into it swiftly from the horizon, cutting into light section and dark section. When all daylight is gone, and the space is thick with stars, it is still of an intense and burning blue, darkest directly overhead and paling toward the earth, so that the night never really goes dark.
You leave the gate of the fort or town behind, pass the camels lying outside, go up into the dunes, or out onto the hard, stony plain and stand awhile alone. Presently, you will either shiver and hurry back inside the walls, or you will go on standing there and let something very peculiar happen to you, something that everyone who lives there has undergone and which the French call 'le bapteme de solitude.' It is a unique sensation, and it has nothing to do with loneliness, for loneliness presupposes memory. Here in this wholly mineral landscape lighted by stars like flares, even memory disappears...A strange, and by no means pleasant, process of reintergration begins inside you, and you have the choice of fighting against it, and insisting on remaining the person you have always been, or letting it take its course. For no one who has stayed in the Sahara for a while is quite the same as when he came.
...Perhaps the logical question to ask at this point is: Why go? The answer is that when a man has been there and undergone the baptism of solitude he can't help himself. Once he has been under the spell of the vast luminous, silent country, no other place is quite strong enough for him, no other surroundings can provide the supremely satisfying sensation of existing in the midst of something that is absolute. He will go back, whatever the cost in time or money, for the absolute has no price.
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Paul Bowles (Their Heads are Green and Their Hands are Blue: Scenes from the Non-Christian World)
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It might be pleasant just to give up, live in the present, enjoying existential personal experiences, living like lotus-eaters from our amazing productive system, without personal responsibility, self-discipline, or thought about the future. But this is impossible, because the productive system could itself collapse, and our external enemies would soon destroy us.
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Carroll Quigley (Tragedy and Hope: A History of the World in Our Time)
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There were some people, it seemed, who were incapable of being pleasant about anything. Of course, the cars that such people drove tended to be difficult as well. Nice cars have nice drivers; bad cars have bad drivers. A person's gearbox revealed everything that you could want to know about that person, thought Mr J.L.B. Matekoni.
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Alexander McCall Smith (The Good Husband of Zebra Drive (No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency, #8))
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It does seem so pleasant to talk with an old acquaintance that knows what you know. I see so many of these new folks nowadays, that seem to have neither past nor future. Conversation's got to have some root in the past, or else you've got to explain every remark you make, an' it wears a person out.
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Sarah Orne Jewett (The Country of the Pointed Firs)
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Because I am not a touchy-feely person, I always feel this light shock, this surprise, really, when my skin comes into contact with another personโs skin. Sometimes that shock is pleasant, like Oh, here is my body in the world. Sometimes, it is not. I never know which it will be.
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Roxane Gay (Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body)
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Obviously it wonโt do to love somebody and enjoy that personโs company but then, when things between you get difficult, to abandon the person. No, it is clear that as pleasant as love is, it must also be unpleasant, because people are sometimes unpleasant or go through unpleasant things, and if we abandon them at those times and run away from them because they or their situation has become unpleasant, we would have to conclude that there wasnโt much to our loving in the first place.
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Norman Fischer (Training in Compassion: Zen Teachings on the Practice of Lojong)
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Third places are those needed spaces, neither home nor work, where we are known by our names and valued for being whatever we decide to be -- the clown, the intellectual, the quiet person. Being part of a family is a wonderful thing, and I'm all for team-building at work, but having a place where you don't have to be anything to anyone makes a pleasant breather.
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Wendy Welch (The Little Bookstore of Big Stone Gap: A Memoir of Friendship, Community, and the Uncommon Pleasure of a Good Book)
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It was the usual noontime university scene, but as I sat watching it with renewed attention, I became aware of a certain fact. In his or her own way, each person I saw before me looked happy. Whether they really were happy or just looked it, I couldn't tell. But they did look happy on this pleasant early afternoon at the end of September, and because of that I felt a kind of loneliness that was new to me, as if I were the only one here who was not truly part of the scene.
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Haruki Murakami (Norwegian Wood)
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Why is it that at a bachelor's establishment the servants invariably drink the champagne? I ask merely for information.
I attribute it to the superior quality of the wine, sir. I have often observed that in married households the champagne is rarely of a first-rate brand.
Good Heavens! Is marriage so demoralizing as that?
I believe it is a very pleasant state, sir. I have had very little experience of it myself up to the present. I have only been married once. That was in consequence of a misunderstanding between myself and a young person.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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Without curiosity and passion, the world will seem to lack possibility and everything in life will appear pre-ordained. It is important for a person to spend the majority of the day pursuing their passionate interests and enlisting their innate inquisitiveness. Life is so much sweeter when we contemplate pleasant as opposed to distasteful thoughts. We feel most alive when we create an apt channel for our creative impulses, and engage in thoughtful discourse relating to our concordant values.
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Kilroy J. Oldster (Dead Toad Scrolls)
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We're authors, too," Donegan said, "and we've been trying to get into the picture-book market. We have this idea for a Where's Wally type thing, except in ours, you'd have to find the one living person hiding in among all the dismembered corpses while the chainsaw-wielding killer hunts him down. You know, for kids."
"We're going to call is Save the Survivor," Gracious said.
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Derek Landy (Last Stand of Dead Men (Skulduggery Pleasant, #8))
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This is where I find myself now on the journey that God and I have been on, at the station called hope, the one that comes right after gratitude and somewhere not far from journey's end. It has been "God and I" the whole way. Not so much because he has always been pleasant company. Not because I could always feel his presence when I got up in the morning or when I was afraid to sleep at night. It was because he did not trust me to travel alone. Personally I liked the last miles of the journey better than the first. But, since I could not have the ending without first having the beginning, I thank God for getting me going and bringing me home. And sticking with me all the way.
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Lewis B. Smedes (My God and I: A Spiritual Memoir)
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At the end of the party, each person will have selected certain players he would like to see more of, while others he will discard, regardless of how skillfully or pleasantly they each engaged in the pastime. The ones he selects are those who seem the most likely candidates for more complex relationshipsโthat is, games. This sorting system, however well rationalized, is actually largely unconscious and intuitive.
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Eric Berne (Games People Play)
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I know now that a writer cannot afford to give in to feelings of rage, disgust, or contempt. Did you answer someone in a temper? If so, you didn't hear him out and lost track of his system of opinions. You avoided someone out of disgustโand a completely unknown personality slipped out of your kenโprecisely the type you would have needed someday. But, however tardily, I nonetheless caught myself and realized I had always devoted my time and attention to people who fascinated me and were pleasant, who engaged my sympathy, and that as a result I was seeing society like the Moon, always from one side.
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Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn (The Gulag Archipelago, 1918-1956: An Experiment in Literary Investigation, Books III-IV)
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As he lay there, fragments of past states of emotion, fugitive felicities of thought and sensation, rose and floated on the surface of his thoughts. It was one of those moments when the accumulated impressions of life converge on heart and brain, elucidating, enlacing each other, in a mysterious confusion of beauty. He had had glimpses of such a state before, of such mergings of the personal with the general life that one felt one's self a mere wave on the wild stream of being, yet thrilled with a sharper sense of individuality than can be known within the mere bounds of the actual. But now he knew the sensation in its fulness, and with it came the releasing power of language. Words were flashing like brilliant birds through the boughs overhead; he had but to wave his magic wand to have them flutter down to him. Only they were so beautiful up there, weaving their fantastic flights against the blue, that it was pleasanter, for the moment, to watch them and let the wand lie.
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Edith Wharton (The Custom of the Country)
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The neighbors... hadn't, thankfully, done the usual by saying that Losley was a pleasant neighbor who'd kept herself to herself. (Always delivered in a tone of voice that suggested that, since keeping oneself to oneself was the single greatest thing one English person could do for another, the suspect ought to be excused whatever psychopathic shit they'd visited on other people.)
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Paul Cornell (London Falling (Shadow Police, #1))
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The Nightside CSI is only one man, pleasant enough, calm and easy going, and very professional. It probably helps that he has multiple personality disorder with a sub-personality for every speciality and discipline in his profession. One to handle fingerprints, another to examine blood splatter or look for magical residues...He's really quite good at his job though he does tend to argue with himself.
Between himself he knows everything he needs to know. Each sub-personality has a different voice. Some of them are women. I've never asked.
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Simon R. Green (A Hard Day's Knight (Nightside, #11))
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The highest and most fruitful form of human freedom is found in accepting, even more than in dominating. We show the greatness of our freedom when we transform reality, but still more when we accept it trustingly as it is given to us day after day.
It is natural and easy to go along with pleasant situations that arise without our choosing them. It becomes a problem, obviously, when things are unpleasant, go against us, or make us suffer. But it is precisely then that, in order to become truly free, we are often called to choose to accept what we did not want, and even what we would not have wanted at any price. There is a paradoxical law of human life here: one cannot become truly free unless one accepts not always being free!
To achieve true interior freedom we must train ourselves to accept, peacefully and willingly, plenty of things that seem to contradict our freedom. This means consenting to our personal limitations, our weaknesses, our powerlessness, this or that situation that life imposes on us, and so on. We find it difficult to do this, because we feel a natural revulsion for situations we cannot control. But the fact is that the situations that really make us grow are precisely those we do not control.
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Jacques Philippe (Interior Freedom)
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
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Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โIn true love
The distinction between loved ones and loved ones
does not exist.
Your pain is my pain.
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๋ถ๋ฒ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-์ฉ๋, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๊ณณ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๋ค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํจ๊ณผ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผํ๋งค
My happiness is your happiness.
Loved ones and loved ones are one bodyโ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ,โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
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โ
๋์๋ฌ์ฌํํผ์ ํ๊ตฌ์
ํ๊ธฐ ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผํ๋งคโณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ๊ตฌ์
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โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
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Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
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๋ฌผ๋ฝํ๋๋ค ํด๋ฝํํฐ์ ์ฉ ์ ํghbํ๋งค โณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
โณ ๋ฌผ๋ฝ๊ตฌ์
๋ฌผ๋ฝ์ฝํจ ๋ฌผ๋ฝ๊ตฌ์
๋ฐฉ๋ฒ!
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๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ๊ตฌ์
ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผ ํ๋งค โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ ๊ตฌ์
โThere must be joy (mudita) in love. If love brings only sorrow, what will you love for? If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please the other person as well as the whole world.
๋ฏฟ๊ณ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํด์ฃผ์ธ์~์ ํฌ๋ ์ ํํ๋งค๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๊ฐ๋๋ค๊ณผ ์ ์ฉ๊ณผ์ ๋ขฐ์ ๊ฑฐ๋๋ก ํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค.
โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โ
โ
๋์๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
๊ฐ๊ฒฉ ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผํ๋งคโณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ๊ตฌ์
โ
โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โIn true love
The distinction between loved ones and loved ones
does not exist.
Your pain is my pain.
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๋ถ๋ฒ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-์ฉ๋, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๊ณณ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๋ค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํจ๊ณผ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผํ๋งค
My happiness is your happiness.
Loved ones and loved ones are one bodyโ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ,โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
โ
โ
๋์๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
ํ๊ธฐ ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผํ๋งคโณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ๊ตฌ์
โ
There must be joy (mudita) in love. If love brings only sorrow, what will you love for? If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please the other person as well as the whole world.
๋ฏฟ๊ณ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํด์ฃผ์ธ์~์ ํฌ๋ ์ ํํ๋งค๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๊ฐ๋๋ค๊ณผ ์ ์ฉ๊ณผ์ ๋ขฐ์ ๊ฑฐ๋๋ก ํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค.
โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โIn true love
The distinction between loved ones and loved ones
does not exist.
Your pain is my pain.
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๋ถ๋ฒ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-์ฉ๋, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๊ณณ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๋ค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํจ๊ณผ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผํ๋งค
My happiness is your happiness.
Loved ones and loved ones are one body
โ
โ
์ ํ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ,โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ๊ตฌ์
ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผ ํ๋งค โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ ๊ตฌ์
โThere must be joy (mudita) in love. If love brings only sorrow, what will you love for? If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please the other person as well as the whole world.
๋ฏฟ๊ณ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํด์ฃผ์ธ์~์ ํฌ๋ ์ ํํ๋งค๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๊ฐ๋๋ค๊ณผ ์ ์ฉ๊ณผ์ ๋ขฐ์ ๊ฑฐ๋๋ก ํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค.
โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โ
โ
๋์๋ฌ์ฌํํผ์ ํ๊ตฌ์
๊ฐ๊ฒฉ ํ๊ฐ์ ํํผํ๋งคโณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
ํํผ ํ๋๋ค ํํผ์ฝ๋๋ค ํํผ๊ตฌ์
โ
There must be joy (mudita) in love. If love brings only sorrow, what will you love for? If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please the other person as well as the whole world.
๋ฏฟ๊ณ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํด์ฃผ์ธ์~์ ํฌ๋ ์ ํํ๋งค๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๊ฐ๋๋ค๊ณผ ์ ์ฉ๊ณผ์ ๋ขฐ์ ๊ฑฐ๋๋ก ํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค.
โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โIn true love
The distinction between loved ones and loved ones
does not exist.
Your pain is my pain.
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๋ถ๋ฒ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-์ฉ๋, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๊ณณ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๋ค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํจ๊ณผ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผํ๋งค
My happiness is your happiness.
Loved ones and loved ones are one body
โ
โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ,โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
โ
Mr. Bingley was good-looking and gentlemanlike; he had a pleasant countenance, and easy, unaffected manners. His sisters were fine women, with an air of decided fashion. His brother-in-law, Mr. Hurst, merely looked the gentleman; but his friend Mr. Darcy soon drew the attention of the room by his fine, tall person, handsome features, noble mien, and the report which was in general circulation within five minutes after his entrance, of his having ten thousand a year. The gentlemen pronounced him to be a fine figure of a man, the ladies declared he was much handsomer than Mr. Bingley, and he was looked at with great admiration for about half the evening, till his manners gave a disgust which turned the tide of his popularity; for he was discovered to be proud; to be above his company, and above being pleased; and not all his large estate in Derbyshire could then save him from having a most forbidding, disagreeable countenance, and being unworthy to be compared with his friend.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
โ
High performers whom exhibit tremendous self-control tend to be burden by their own competence. Studies indicate that being extraordinary competent can place a person under an unusual amount of stress because it raises other peopleโs expectation of them. The more task that an exemplary employee produces with a โgo-getting personalityโ while maintaining high quality relationships with peers and clients, the more an organization tends to underestimates their actual effort and the more it expects of them. Other people do not comprehend how difficult it is for a high performer to complete multifaceted tasks. They also tend to underestimate how much effort an enterprising person exerts who maintains a positive and pleasant attitude while completing difficult assignments.
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Kilroy J. Oldster (Dead Toad Scrolls)
โ
I feel conscious that I should find no reason to regret abandoning so pleasant a manner of life and such valuable privileges to become a wife of anyone. Beside, marriag is not in my opinion, so exceedingly desirable as some persons think. A woman's career is over when she marries. Once married, all is fixed - certainty takes the place of all her pleasant dreams. For her, no more hopes, no more doubts, no more suspense, no more possibility of anything better. She knows what she is and will be until death. For my part, I like to give free scope to my thoughts.
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Klementyna Tanska Hoffmanowa (The Journal of Countess Franรงoise Krasinska)
โ
The first time someone young and vibrant dies - someone you look up to, someone you relate to - it blows you back, right off your feet. Oh *#ck, we're all gonna die, nobody knows when, nobody knows how, you think. And in that moment, you realize how little control you have over your own destiny. From the time you're born, you have no control; you can't choose your parents, and, unless you're suicidal, you can't choose you're death. The only thing you can do is choose the person you love, be kind to others, and make your brutally short stint on earth as pleasant as possible.
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Renee Carlino (Before We Were Strangers)
โ
Let me say something about that word: miracle. For too long it's been used to characterize things or events that, though pleasant, are entirely normal. Peeping chicks at Easter time, spring generally, a clear sunrise after an overcast week - a miracle, people say, as if they've been educated from greeting cards. I'm sorry, but nope. Such things are worth our notice every day of the week, but to call them miracles evaporates the strength of the word. Real miracles bother people, like strange sudden pains unknown in medical literature. It's true: They rebut every rule all we good citizens take comfort in. Lazarus obeying order and climbing up out of the grave - now there's a miracle, and you can bet it upset a lot of folks who were standing around at the time When a person dies, the earth is generally unwilling to cough him back up. A miracle contradicts the will of the earth. My sister, Swede, who often sees to the nub, offered this: People fear mirales because they fear being changed - though ignoring them will change you also. Swede said another thing, too, and it rang in me like a bell: No miracle happens without a witness. Someone to declare, Here's what I saw. Here's how it went. Make of it what you will.
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Leif Enger
โ
You make someone into a object of โ not so much of pity as of weakness, sickness, stupidity, inefectiveness, do you see what I mean? You hit them for their stupidity and their inability to respond, and when youโve hurt them, marked them, theyโre even more sick and ugly, arenโt they? And theyโre afraid and cringing too. Oh, I know this isnโt very pleasant, but you did ask.โ
โGo onโ he said.
โSo youโve got a frightened, stupid, even disabled person, silenced, made ugly, and what can you do with someone like that, someone whoโs unworthy of being treated well? You treat them badly because thatโs what they deserve. One thinks of poor little kids that no one love because theyโre dirty, sovered in snot and shit, and always screaming. So you beat them because theyโre hateful, theyโre low, theyโre sub-human. Thatโs all theyโre good for, being hit, being reduced even further.
โ
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Ruth Rendell (Simisola (Inspector Wexford, #16))
โ
Without knowing it he drew a very pleasant picture of an affectionate, happy family who lived unpretentiously in circumstances of moderate affluence at peace with themselves and the world and undisturbed by any fear that anything might happen to affect their security. The life he described lacked neither grace nor dignity; it was healthy and normal, and through its intellectual interests not entirely material; the persons who led it were simple and honest, neither ambitious nor envious, prepared to do their duty by the state and by their neighbors according to their lights; and there was in them neither harm nor malice. If Lydia saw how much of their good nature, their kindliness, their unpleasing self-complacency depended on the long-established and well-ordered prosperity of the country that had given them birth; if she had an inkling that, like children building castles on the sea sand, they might at any moment be swept away by a tidal wave, she allowed no sign of it to appear on her face.
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W. Somerset Maugham (Christmas Holiday)
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If there is something, though, if there is...well, I believe in the things I love...the feel of a good horse under me, the blue along those mountains over yonder, the firm, confident feel of a good gunbutt in my hand, the way the red gold of your hair looks against your throat.
The creak of a saddle in the hot sun and the long riding, the way you feel when you come to the top of a ridge and look down across miles and miles of land you have never seen, or maybe no man has ever seen. I believe in the pleasant sound of running water, the way the leaves turn red in the fall. I believe in the smell of autumn leaves burning, and the crackle of a burning log. Sort of sounds like it was chuckling over the memories of a time when it was a tree.
I like the sound of rain on a roof, and the look of a fire in a fireplace, and the embers of a campfire and coffee in the morning. I believe in the solid, hearty, healthy feel of a of a fist landing, the feel of a girl in my arms, warm and close. Those are the things that matter.
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Louis L'Amour (Westward the Tide)
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โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
ํ
๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
์๋ก๋งํฅ ๋ฌ์์์ฐ ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ ์ ํ์ผ๋ก๋ง ํ๋งคํ๊ณ ์์ต๋๋ค
๊ตฌ๋งค์ ์ ์ ํ๋ ์ ํ์ด์ง๋ง ๋ฌด์๋ณด๋ค ์์ ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์
๋๋ค
์ ํฌ๋ ์์ ์ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ผ๋ก ๊ฒฝ์ํ๊ณ ์๋ ๊ฑด๊ฐํ๊ณ ๊น๋ํ์
์ฒด์
๋๋ค
๊ณ ๊ฐ๋์ ์ฃผ๋ฌธ์ ์ฌ๋์
๋๋ค
์ค๋๋ ์ด๋ป์ง์๊ตฌ์ ๊ธฐ์ํ๋ฃจ ๋์ธ์~ใ
ใ
Joy is not only for others, but also for yourself. Joy is just joy. If you are truly enjoying joy and healthy joy, it is good for others. But it is not good for others, unless it is pleasant, refreshing, and smiling. If you always have joy and joy, you can be a good person to those around you without doing anything.
Peace (upeksha), tranquility or discrimination. There is no distinction between a loved one and a loved one in true love. Your pain is my pain. My happiness is your happiness. Loved ones and loved ones are one body.
There is an element of self-disposal in true love. Happiness is no longer personal. Pain is no longer personal. There is no distinction between us.
โIn true love
The distinction between loved ones and loved ones
does not exist.
Your pain is my pain.
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๋ถ๋ฒ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-์ฉ๋, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๊ณณ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํ๋๋ค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-ํจ๊ณผ, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ๊ตฌ์
, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผํ๋งค
My happiness is your happiness.
Loved ones and loved ones are one bodyโ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ฐ๊ฒฉ,โ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ๋งค, ๋ฌ์ฌํํผ-๊ตฌ์
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์ ํ์์คํฐ์๊ตฌ๋งคํ๊ธฐ "์ฝ๋ฆฌ์ํ" ์์คํฐ์๊ตฌ์
๋ฐฉ๋ฒ,โณโ
์นดํก:kodak8โ
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๋ ๊ทธ๋จ:Komen68โ
โณ์์คํฐ์์ ํํ๋งค,์์คํฐ์ํ๋งค,์ ํ๋ชฐ๋ฆฌ๊ตฌ์
๋ฐฉ๋ฒ,
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You are not really dying,โ he said, the oddest tone to his voice, โare you?โJem nodded. โSo they tell me.โโI am sorry,โ Will said.โNo,โ Jem said softly. He drew his jacket aside and took a knife from the belt at his waist.โDonโt be ordinary like that. Donโt say youโre sorry. Say youโll train with me.โ
He held out the knife to Will, hilt rst. Charlotte held her breath, afraid to move. She feltas if she were watching something very important happen, though she could not have saidwhat.Will reached out and took the knife, his eyes never leaving Jemโs face. His fingers brushedthe other boyโs as he took the weapon from him. It was the rst time, Charlotte thought,that she had ever seen him touch any other person willingly.โIโll train with you,โ he said.
Jem, Willโs parabatai, treated her with the distant sweet kindness reserved for the littlesisters of oneโs friends, but he would always side with Will. Kindly, but rmly, he put Willabove everything else in the world.Well, nearly everything. She had been most struck by Jem when she rst came to theInstituteโhe had an unearthly, unusual beauty, with his silvery hair and eyes and delicate features. He looked like a prince in a fairy-tale book, and she might have considered developing an attachment to him, were it not so absolutely clear that he was entirely inlove with Tessa Gray. His eyes followed her where she went, and his voice changed when hespoke to her. Cecily had once heard her mother say in amusement that one of theirneighborsโ boys looked at a girl as if she were โthe only star in the skyโ and that was theway Jem looked at Tessa.Cecily didnโt resent it: Tessa was pleasant and kind to her, if a little shy, and with herface always stuck in a book, like Will. If that was the sort of girl Jem wanted, she and henever would have suitedโand the longer she remained at the Institute, the more sherealized how awkward it would have made things with Will. He was ferociously protectiveof Jem, and he would have watched her constantly in case she ever distressed or hurt him inany way. Noโshe was far better out of the whole thing.
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Cassandra Clare (Clockwork Princess (The Infernal Devices, #3))
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This was his healthy state and it made him cheerful, pleasant, and very attractive to intelligent men and to all women. In this state he considered that he would one day accomplish some quiet subtle thing that the elect would deem worthy and, passing on, would join the dimmer stars in a nebulous, indeterminate heaven half-way between death and immortality. Until the time came for this effort he would be Anthony Patchโnot a portrait of a man but a distinct and dynamic personality, opinionated, contemptuous, functioning from within outwardโa man who was aware that there could be no honor and yet had honor, who knew the sophistry of courage and yet was brave.
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F. Scott Fitzgerald (The Beautiful and Damned)
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Why do we view the boundaries people create for themselves as challenges? Why do we see someone setting a limit and then try to push? Once, I was at a restaurant with a large group of people and the waitress kept touching me. It was really fucking annoying because I don't want to be touched like that unless we are in a sexual relationship. Every time she passed by, she would rub my shoulders or run her hand down my arm and I kept getting more and more irritated but I said nothing. I never do. Do my boundaries exist if I don't voice them? Can people not see my body, the mass of it, as one very big boundary? Do they not know how much effort went into this?
Because I am not a touchy-feely person, I always feel this light shock, this surprise, really, when my skin comes into contact with another person's skin. Sometimes that shock is pleasant, like Oh, here is my body in the world. Sometimes, it is not. I never know which it will be.
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Roxane Gay (Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body)
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...those who deny or oppose these so pleasant delights (of virtue), do so only from jealousy, you may be sure, from the barbarous pleasure of making others as guilty and unhappy as they are. They are blind and would like everyone to be the same, they are mistaken, and would like everyone else to be mistaken; but if you could see into the depths of their hearts you would find only sorrow and repentance; all these apostles of crime are only evil and desperate people; you would not find a sincere person among them who would not admit, if he were truthful, that their poisonous words or dangerous writings had not been guided only by their passions. And what man in fact can say in cold blood that the bases of morality can be shaken without risk? What being would dare maintain that doing good and desiring good are not essentially the aim of mankind? And how can a man who will do only evil expect to be happy in a society whose strongest concern is the perpetual increase of good? But will not this apologist of crime not shudder himself when he had uprooted from all hearts the only thing which could lead to his conversion? What will stop his servants ruining him, if they have ceased to be virtuous?
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Marquis de Sade (Gothic Tales of the Marquis de Sade)
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Deception is the natural defence of the weak against the strong, and the South used it for many years against its conquerors; to-day it must be prepared to see its black proletariat turn that same two-edged weapon against itself. And how natural this is! The death of Denmark Vesey and Nat Turner proved long since to the Negro the present hopelessness of physical defence. Political defence is becoming less and less available, and economic defence is still only partially effective. But there is a patent defence at hand,โthe defence of deception and flattery, of cajoling and lying. It is the same defence which peasants of the Middle Age used and which left its stamp on their character for centuries. To-day the young Negro of the South who would succeed cannot be frank and outspoken, honest and self-assertive, but rather he is daily tempted to be silent and wary, politic and sly; he must flatter and be pleasant, endure petty insults with a smile, shut his eyes to wrong; in too many cases he sees positive personal advantage in deception and lying. His real thoughts, his real aspirations, must be guarded in whispers; he must not criticise, he must not complain. Patience, humility, and adroitness must, in these growing black youth, replace impulse, manliness, and courage. With this sacrifice there is an economic opening, and perhaps peace and some prosperity. Without this there is riot, migration, or crime. Nor is this situation peculiar to the Southern United States, is it not rather the only method by which undeveloped races have gained the right to share modern culture? The price of culture is a Lie.
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W.E.B. Du Bois (The Souls of Black Folk)
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I'll be right here. Good luck, or break a leg, or something.โ
As Jay and Gregory turned and headed into the crowd, my traitorous eyes returned to the corner and found another pair or eyes staring darkly back.
I dropped my gaze for three full seconds, and then lifted my eyes again, hesitant. The drummer was still staring at me, oblivious to the three girls trying to win back his attention. He put up one finger at the girls and said something that looked like, โExcuse me.โ
Oh, my goodness. Was he...? Oh, no. Yes, he was walking this way.
My nerves shot into high alert. I looked around, but nobody else was near. When I looked back up, there he was, standing right in front of me. Good gracious, he was sexy-a word that had not existed in my personal vocabulary until that moment. This guy was sexy like it was his job or something.
He looked straight into my eyes, which threw me off guard, because nobody ever looked me in the eye like that. Maybe Patti and Jay, but they didn't hold my stare like he was doing now. He didn't look away, and I found that I couldn't take my gaze off those blue eyes.
โWho are you?โ he asked in a blunt, almost confrontational way.
I blinked. It was the strangest greeting I'd ever received.
โI'm...Anna.โ
โRight. Anna. How very nice.โ I tried to focus on his words and not his luxuriously accented voice, which made everything sound lovely. He leaned in closer. โBut who are you?โ
What did that mean? Did I need to have some sort of title or social standing to enter his presence?
โI just came with my friend Jay?โ Oh, I hated when I got nervous and started talking in questions. I pointed in the general direction of the guys, but he didn't take his eyes off me. I began rambling. โThey just wrote some songs. Jay and Gregory. That they wanted you to hear. Your band, I mean. They're really...good?โ
His eyes roamed all around my body, stopping to evaluate my sad, meager chest. I crossed my arms. When his gaze landed on that stupid freckle above my lip, I was hit by the scent of oranges and limes and something earthy, like the forest floor. It was pleasant in a masculine way.
โUh-huh.โ He was closer to my face now, growling in that deep voice, but looking into my eyes again. โVery cute. And where is your angel?โ
My what? Was that some kind of British slang for boyfriend? I didn't know how to answer without continuing to sound pitiful. He lifted his dark eyebrows, waiting.
โIf you mean Jay, he's over there talking to some man in a suit. But he's not my boyfriend or my angel or whatever.โ
My face flushed with heat and I tightened my arms over my chest. I'd never met anyone with an accent like his, and I was ashamed of the effect it had on me. He was obviously rude, and yet I wanted him to keep talking to me. It didn't make any sense.
His stance softened and he took a step back, seeming confused, although I still couldn't read his emotions. Why didn't he show any colors? He didn't seem drunk or high. And that red thing...what was that? It was hard not to stare at it.
He finally looked over at Jay, who was deep in conversation with the manager-type man.
โNot your boyfriend, eh?โ He was smirking at me now. I looked away, refusing to answer.
โAre you certain he doesn't fancy you?โ Kaidan asked. I looked at him again. His smirk was now a naughty smile.
โYes,โ I assured him with confidence. โI am.โ
โHow do you know?โ
I couldn't very well tell him that the only time Jay's color had shown mild attraction to me was when I accidentally flashed him one day as I was taking off my sweatshirt, and my undershirt got pulled up too high. And even then it lasted only a few seconds before our embarrassment set in.
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Wendy Higgins (Sweet Evil (Sweet, #1))
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The Christian up to his eyes in trouble can take comfort from the knowledge that in Godโs kindly plan it all has a positive purpose, to further his sanctification. In this world, royal children have to undergo extra training and discipline which other children escape, in order to fit them for their high destiny. It is the same with the children of the King of kings. The clue to understanding all his dealings with them is to remember that throughout their lives he is training them for what awaits them, and chiseling them into the image of Christ. Sometimes the chiseling process is painful and the discipline irksome, but then the Scripture reminds us: โThe Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son. Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons . . . No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by itโ (Heb 12:6-7,11). Only the person who has grasped this can make sense of Romans 8:28, โAll things work together for good to them that love Godโ (KJV); equally, only he can maintain his assurance of sonship against satanic assault as things go wrong. But he who has mastered the truth of adoption both retains assurance and receives blessing in the day of trouble: this is one aspect of faithโs victory over the world. Meanwhile, however, the point stands that the Christianโs primary motive for holy living is not negative, the hope (vain!) that hereby he may avoid chastening, but positive, the impulse to show his love and gratitude to his adopting God by identifying himself with the Fatherโs will for him.
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J.I. Packer (Knowing God)
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Let us reflect in another way, and we shall see that there is great reason to hope that death is a good; for one of two thingsโeither death is a state of nothingness and utter unconsciousness, or, as men say, there is a change and migration of the soul from this world to another. Now if you suppose that there is no consciousness, but a sleep like the sleep of him who is undisturbed even by dreams, death will be an unspeakable gain. For if a person were to select the night in which his sleep was undisturbed even by dreams, and were to compare with this the other days and nights of his life, and then were to tell us how many days and nights he had passed in the course of his life better and more pleasantly than this one, I think that any man, I will not say a private man, but even the great king will not find many such days or nights, when compared with the others. Now if death be of such a nature, I say that to die is gain; for eternity is then only a single night. But if death is the journey to another place, and there, as men say, all the dead abide, what good, O my friends and judges, can be greater than this? If indeed when the pilgrim arrives in the world below, he is delivered from the professors of justice in this world, and finds the true judges who are said to give judgment there, Minos and Rhadamanthus and Aeacus and Triptolemus, and other sons of God who were righteous in their own life, that pilgrimage will be worth making. What would not a man give if he might converse with Orpheus and Musaeus and Hesiod and Homer? Nay, if this be true, let me die again and again.
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Socrates (Apology, Crito And Phaedo Of Socrates.)
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In the early months of World War II, San Francisco's Fill-more district, or the Western Addition, experienced a visible revolution. On the surface it appeared to be totally peaceful and almost a refutation of the term โrevolution.โ The Yakamoto Sea Food Market quietly became Sammy's Shoe Shine Parlor and Smoke Shop. Yashigira's Hardware metamorphosed into La Salon de Beautรฉ owned by Miss Clorinda Jackson. The Japanese shops which sold products to Nisei customers were taken over by enterprising Negro businessmen, and in less than a year became permanent homes away from home for the newly arrived Southern Blacks. Where the odors of tempura, raw fish and cha had dominated, the aroma of chitlings, greens and ham hocks now prevailed. The Asian population dwindled before my eyes. I was unable to tell the Japanese from the Chinese and as yet found no real difference in the national origin of such sounds as Ching and Chan or Moto and Kano. As the Japanese disappeared, soundlessly and without protest, the Negroes entered with their loud jukeboxes, their just-released animosities and the relief of escape from Southern bonds. The Japanese area became San Francisco's Harlem in a matter of months. A person unaware of all the factors that make up oppression might have expected sympathy or even support from the Negro newcomers for the dislodged Japanese. Especially in view of the fact that they (the Blacks) had themselves undergone concentration-camp living for centuries in slavery's plantations and later in sharecroppers' cabins. But the sensations of common relationship were missing. The Black newcomer had been recruited on the desiccated farm lands of Georgia and Mississippi by war-plant labor scouts. The chance to live in two-or three-story apartment buildings (which became instant slums), and to earn two-and even three-figured weekly checks, was blinding. For the first time he could think of himself as a Boss, a Spender. He was able to pay other people to work for him, i.e. the dry cleaners, taxi drivers, waitresses, etc. The shipyards and ammunition plants brought to booming life by the war let him know that he was needed and even appreciated. A completely alien yet very pleasant position for him to experience. Who could expect this man to share his new and dizzying importance with concern for a race that he had never known to exist? Another reason for his indifference to the Japanese removal was more subtle but was more profoundly felt. The Japanese were not whitefolks. Their eyes, language and customs belied the white skin and proved to their dark successors that since they didn't have to be feared, neither did they have to be considered. All this was decided unconsciously.
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Maya Angelou (I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings (Maya Angelou's Autobiography, #1))
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Hope does not mean that our protests will suddenly awaken the dead consciences, the atrophied souls, of the plutocrats running Halliburton, Goldman Sachs, Exxon Mobil or the government.
Hope does not mean we will reform Wall Street swindlers and speculators.
Hope does not mean that the nationโs ministers and rabbis, who know the words of the great Hebrew prophets, will leave their houses of worship to practice the religious beliefs they preach. Most clerics like fine, abstract words about justice and full collection plates, but know little of real hope.
Hope knows that unless we physically defy government control we are complicit in the violence of the state. All who resist keep hope alive. All who succumb to fear, despair and apathy become enemies of hope.
Hope has a cost. Hope is not comfortable or easy. Hope requires personal risk. Hope does not come with the right attitude. Hope is not about peace of mind. Hope is an action. Hope is doing something.
Hope, which is always nonviolent, exposes in its powerlessness the lies, fraud and coercion employed by the state. Hope does not believe in force. Hope knows that an injustice visited on our neighbor is an injustice visited on us all.
Hope sees in our enemy our own face.
Hope is not for the practical and the sophisticated, the cynics and the complacent, the defeated and the fearful. Hope is what the corporate state, which saturates our airwaves with lies, seeks to obliterate. Hope is what our corporate overlords are determined to crush. Be afraid, they tell us. Surrender your liberties to us so we can make the world safe from terror. Donโt resist. Embrace the alienation of our cheerful conformity. Buy our products. Without them you are worthless. Become our brands. Do not look up from your electronic hallucinations to think. No. Above all do not think. Obey.
The powerful do not understand hope. Hope is not part of their vocabulary. They speak in the cold, dead words of national security, global markets, electoral strategy, staying on message, image and money.
Those addicted to power, blinded by self-exaltation, cannot decipher the words of hope any more than most of us can decipher hieroglyphics. Hope to Wall Street bankers and politicians, to the masters of war and commerce, is not practical. It is gibberish. It means nothing.
I cannot promise you fine weather or an easy time. I cannot pretend that being handcuffed is pleasant. If we resist and carry out acts, no matter how small, of open defiance, hope will not be extinguished.
Any act of rebellion, any physical defiance of those who make war, of those who perpetuate corporate greed and are responsible for state crimes, anything that seeks to draw the good to the good, nourishes our souls and holds out the possibility that we can touch and transform the souls of others. Hope affirms that which we must affirm. And every act that imparts hope is a victory in itself.
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Chris Hedges
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What can we do when we have hurt people and nowthey consider us to be their enemy?
Thereare few things to do. The first thing is to take the time to say, โI am sorry, I hurt you out of my ignorance, out of my lack of mindfulness, out of my lack of skillfulness. I will try my best to change myself. I donโt
dare to say anything more to you.โ Sometimes, we do not have the intention to hurt, but because we are not mindful or skillful enough, we hurt someone. Being mindful in our daily life is important, speaking in a way that will not hurt anyone.
The second thing to do is to try to bring out the best part in ourselves, to transform ourselves. That is the only way to demonstrate what you have just said. When you have become fresh and pleasant, the other person will notice very soon. Then when there is a chance to approach that person, you can come to her as a flower and she will notice immediately that you are quite different. You may not have to say anything. Just seeing you like that, she will accept you and forgive you. That is called โspeaking with your life and not just with words.โ
When you begin to see that your enemy is suffering, that is the beginning of insight. When you see in yourself the wish that the other person stop suffering,that is a sign of real love. But be careful. Sometimes you may think that you are stronger than you actually are.
To test your real strength, try going to the other person to listen and talk to him or her, and you will discover right away whether your loving compassion is real. You need the other person in order to test. If you just meditate on some abstract principle such as understanding or love, it may be just your imagination and not real understanding or real love. Reconciliation opposes all forms
of ambition, without taking sides.
Most of us want to take sides in each encounter or conflict. We distinguish right from wrong based on partial evidence or hearsay. We need indignation in order to act, but even righteous,
legitimate indignation is not enough. Our world does not lack people willing to throw themselves into action. What we need are people who are capable of loving, of
not taking sides so that they can embrace the whole of reality.
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Thich Nhat Hanh
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ultimately, most of us would choose a rich and meaningful life over an empty, happy one, if such a thing is even possible. โMisery serves a purpose,โ says psychologist David Myers. Heโs right. Misery alerts us to dangers. Itโs what spurs our imagination. As Iceland proves, misery has its own tasty appeal. A headline on the BBCโs website caught my eye the other day. It read: โDirt Exposure Boosts Happiness.โ Researchers at Bristol University in Britain treated lung-cancer patients with โfriendlyโ bacteria found in soil, otherwise known as dirt. The patients reported feeling happier and had an improved quality of life. The research, while far from conclusive, points to an essential truth: We thrive on messiness. โThe good life . . . cannot be mere indulgence. It must contain a measure of grit and truth,โ observed geographer Yi-Fu Tuan. Tuan is the great unheralded geographer of our time and a man whose writing has accompanied me throughout my journeys. He called one chapter of his autobiography โSalvation by Geography.โ The title is tongue-in-cheek, but only slightly, for geography can be our salvation. We are shaped by our environment and, if you take this Taoist belief one step further, you might say we are our environment. Out there. In here. No difference. Viewed that way, life seems a lot less lonely. The word โutopiaโ has two meanings. It means both โgood placeโ and โnowhere.โ Thatโs the way it should be. The happiest places, I think, are the ones that reside just this side of paradise. The perfect person would be insufferable to live with; likewise, we wouldnโt want to live in the perfect place, either. โA lifetime of happiness! No man could bear it: It would be hell on Earth,โ wrote George Bernard Shaw, in his play Man and Superman. Ruut Veenhoven, keeper of the database, got it right when he said: โHappiness requires livable conditions, but not paradise.โ We humans are imminently adaptable. We survived an Ice Age. We can survive anything. We find happiness in a variety of places and, as the residents of frumpy Slough demonstrated, places can change. Any atlas of bliss must be etched in pencil. My passport is tucked into my desk drawer again. I am relearning the pleasures of home. The simple joys of waking up in the same bed each morning. The pleasant realization that familiarity breeds contentment and not only contempt. Every now and then, though, my travels resurface and in unexpected ways. My iPod crashed the other day. I lost my entire music collection, nearly two thousand songs. In the past, I would have gone through the roof with rage. This time, though, my anger dissipated like a summer thunderstorm and, to my surprise, I found the Thai words mai pen lai on my lips. Never mind. Let it go. I am more aware of the corrosive nature of envy and try my best to squelch it before it grows. I donโt take my failures quite so hard anymore. I see beauty in a dark winter sky. I can recognize a genuine smile from twenty yards. I have a newfound appreciation for fresh fruits and vegetables. Of all the places I visited, of all the people I met, one keeps coming back to me again and again: Karma Ura,
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Eric Weiner (The Geography of Bliss: One Grump's Search for the Happiest Places in the World)