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People don't become gay, bisexual, pansexual, transexual. People just fall in love with another person.
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Calum Hood
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I don't even know what it would be like to not be attracted to a person because of their gender.
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Hank Green (An Absolutely Remarkable Thing (The Carls, #1))
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Never, ever let anyone tell you that who you are is wrong.
It's okay to be gay. Or straight. Or bisexual.
It's also okay to be asexual, demisexual, pansexual, or aromantic.
You do you, and if anyone gives you grief for that, remember one thing:
You are exactly the way you're supposed to be.
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T.J. Klune (How to Be a Normal Person (How to Be, #1))
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For the record, I consider myself pansexual.” “Does that mean you like to fuck cookware?” “It means I like to fuck everything.
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Anonymous
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We come to a corner where there are a few people protesting the festivities. I don't understand this at all. It's like protesting the fact that some people are red-haired.
In my experience, desire is desire, love is love. I have never fallen in love with a gender. I have fallen for individuals. I know this is hard for people to do, but I don't understand why it's so hard, when it's so obvious.
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David Levithan (Every Day (Every Day, #1))
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In the middle of the broadcast: Amy at the front of the cheering crowd wearing June’s yellow History, huh? T-shirt and a trans flag pin. Next to her: Cash, with Amy’s wife on his shoulders in what Alex can now tell is the jean jacket Amy was embroidering in the plane in the colors of the pansexual flag. He whoops so hard he spills his coffee on George Bush’s favorite rug.
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Casey McQuiston (Red, White & Royal Blue)
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Apart from the fact that you’re not really a dyke. You’re probably bisexual. But most of all you’re sexual—you like sex and you don’t care about what gender. You’re an entropic chaos factor.
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Stieg Larsson
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Hey, let's increase science literacy by having someone sing about pansexual wood sprites and power bottoms." - Jeff Holiday
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Jeremy Maddux
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It is so hard for a queer person to become an adult. Deprived of the markers of life's passage, they lolled about in a neverland dreamworld. They didn't get married. They didn't have children. They didn't buy homes or have job-jobs. The best that could be aimed for was an academic placement and a lover who eventually tired of pansexual sport-fucking and settled down with you to raise a rescue animal in a rent-controlled apartment.
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Michelle Tea (Black Wave (City Lights/Sister Spit))
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I tell myself not to feel sexually threatened. I am of no special interest; he could just as easily be angling for the printer.
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Joe Dunthorne (Submarine)
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His parents always visit in June so they can join the rest of us at LA Pride with JJ, proudly wearing their pansexual flag ally pins.
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Hannah Grace (Icebreaker)
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Elliot thinks I’m pansexual. Although, I feel totally fucking straight when I’m with you.
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T.L. Swan (Our Way)
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When you eat a chocolate bar, sure, the wrapper might be pretty, full of bold colours and fancy details ... but ultimately, what do you care about? The wrapper? Or what's inside the wrapper?
The chocolate. I care about the chocolate inside the wrapper.
Exactly! For me, it's the same with people. I don't care about what's on the outside. I care about what's on the inside. Someone's mind. Their heart and soul. For me, it doesn't matter whether they're a man or a woman. That's only the wrapper they come in. What I really care about is the chocolate. It's called being pan-sexual. ~ Isla
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Carrie Hope Fletcher (On the Other Side)
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Illustration is to cartooning as prison sodomy is to pansexual orgy.
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Matthew Klam (Who Is Rich?)
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They can pry my husband away from my cold, dead, pansexual ass, because I’m not giving him up for all the haters in the world.
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Eden Finley (Irresponsible Puckboy (Puckboys, #2))
Juno Dawson (This Book Is Gay)
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Were we dealing with a spectrum-based system that described male and female sexuality with equal accuracy, data taken from gay males would look similar to data taken from straight females—and yet this is not what we see in practice. Instead, the data associated with gay male sexuality presents a mirror image of data associated with straight males: Most gay men are as likely to find the female form aversive as straight men are likely to find the male form aversive. In gay females we observe a similar phenomenon, in which they mirror straight females instead of appearing in the same position on the spectrum as straight men—in other words, gay women are just as unlikely to find the male form aversive as straight females are to find the female form aversive.
Some of the research highlighting these trends has been conducted with technology like laser doppler imaging (LDI), which measures genital blood flow when individuals are presented with pornographic images. The findings can, therefore, not be written off as a product of men lying to hide middling positions on the Kinsey scale due to a higher social stigma against what is thought of in the vernacular as male bisexuality/pansexuality. We should, however, note that laser Doppler imaging systems are hardly perfect, especially when measuring arousal in females.
It is difficult to attribute these patterns to socialization, as they are observed across cultures and even within the earliest of gay communities that emerged in America, which had to overcome a huge amount of systemic oppression to exist. It’s a little crazy to argue that the socially oppressed sexuality of the early American gay community was largely a product of socialization given how much they had overcome just to come out.
If, however, one works off the assumptions of our model, this pattern makes perfect sense. There must be a stage in male brain development that determines which set of gendered stimuli is dominant, then applies a negative modifier to stimuli associated with other genders. This stage does not apparently take place during female sexual development.
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Simone Collins (The Pragmatist's Guide to Sexuality)
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The “confusion” that straight and gay colonizers claim bisexuals experience is because there are no influential cultural templates for bisexuals/ fluid/pansexual people to cling to, nor is their experience politically validated.
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Ross Victory (Panorama: The Missing Chapter: From the Memoir Views from the Cockpit)
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-Mais comment feras-tu si tu tombes amoureuse?
-Ben, je tomberai amoureuse, et alors?
-Mais d'un mâle, ou d'une femelle?
-Ca n'a pas non plus d'importance pour moi, vous savez.
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Morgan of Glencoe (Dans l'ombre de Paris (La Dernière Geste, #1))
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She guessed she was pansexual, a word acquired from the internet, from people who seemed more confident in it than she was: Yes, she still couldn’t say, I could want anyone, any gender, any type. Any person in the universe. Past layer and layer of self-consciousness, she knew it was true. But admitting the want was excruciating. The idea that somebody could look at her and just see it made her want to cry.
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Riley Redgate (Final Draft)
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The expressive individual is now the sexually expressive individual. And education and socialization are to be marked not by the cultivation of traditional sexual interdicts and taboos but rather by the abolition of such and the enabling of pansexual expression even among children. One might regard this change as obnoxious, but it reflects the logic of expressive individualism in the sexualized world that is the progeny of the consummation of the Marx-Freud nuptials. . . .
At the same time, the psychologizing of oppression by the New Left massively expanded the potential number of victims. One did not need to be in a concentration camp or a gulag or to be subject to segregation or even to have experience of serious poverty to claim such status. Now one could point to other forms of nonrecognition as constituting victimization - not having one's sexual preferences positively affirmed by wider society, for example, or not being allowed to marry a same-sex partner. And merely tolerating certain sexual proclivities and activities would not be enough, for tolerance is not the same as recognition. Indeed, it actually implies a degree of disapproval, or nonrecognition by society. Only full equality before the law and in the culture at large can provide that. When the political struggle became a psychological struggle, it also became a therapeutic struggle.
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Carl R. Trueman (The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self: Cultural Amnesia, Expressive Individualism, and the Road to Sexual Revolution)
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Doesn't count," Mark told them. "Either of you. Whether you're pansexual like Chance, demisexual like Dez, hetero, homo, bisexual." He shook his head. "It's not a flaw. Sorry, guys.
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Auryn Hadley (Flawed (Gamer Girls, #1))
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Carl Jung was Freud’s protégé. Then one day Carl had a dream that wasn’t about sex. He hesitated before telling Freud something quite that embarrassing. Confessing to a psychoanalyst that you’ve had an innocent dream is rather like confessing to your grandmother that you’ve had a dirty one. Freud was outraged. What sort of fruitcake, he demanded, has a dream that isn’t dirty? It was inconceivable. Freud decided that Jung had gone quite mad, that the dream really had been dirty, and that Jung was just being coy.
Jung insisted that his dream wasn’t about sex and that, in fact, it was about his grandparents being hidden in a cellar. So he rejected Freud’s pansexualism (not a sin of cookery, but the belief that everything comes down to nooky) and ran off to become a Jungian.
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Mark Forsyth (The Etymologicon: A Circular Stroll through the Hidden Connections of the English Language)
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What even is your sexuality Denki?" asked Ojiro.
"Pansexual! No one's safe and I'm a permanent mess!" groaned the other.
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whimsical_girl_357 (The Emerald Prince)
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It might be true I still haven’t found another guy attractive, but Grant’s pansexual explanation made me do a little research. Which made me fall into the world of Schitt’s Creek. All I can say is, David’s phrase “I like the wine and not the label” definitely appeals to me.
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Eden Finley (Face Offs & Cheap Shots (CU Hockey, #2))
Layla Heart (Omega Phoenix: Claimed (Her Shifter Harem’s Babies, #1))
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For those of you who may not be familiar with the concept of a genderbread person, let me explain. A main part of this is that romantic attraction and sexual attraction are two separate things. You can be romantically attracted to one group of people and sexually attracted to the same group, plus one or two more. For me, I realized that I am more straight in terms of romance, as I always find myself romantically attracted to women. But, in terms of sexual attraction, I am more pansexual.
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Michael J. Mantsourani (Life is Staged: A Memoir on Finding Myself in High School Theater)
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My parents assure me that God hates gays,” I elaborate when he says nothing. “They do not. In general, non-humans practice pansexuality. It doesn’t make sense to limit your options to one gender when some species that you might be sexually compatible with don’t have binary genders. The god Yah—that is the god that your parents worship—is non-binary. It would make no sense for them to have a preference for a specific gender pairing when they don’t have a binary gender themselves.
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Jennifer Cody (Promote (Shattered Pawns, #3))
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Well, I thought it was better than telling the boy I was engaging in superhot D/s sex with his mother. Besides, it’s true. I do intend to marry you. I thought that putting my very good intentions out there would ease his mind. I don’t understand kids. After I explained I would marry you, he threatened to cut off my penis with a rusty knife and shove it someplace where a heterosexual male doesn’t want a penis stuffed, though I suspect a gay man wouldn’t want his own penis shoved up his ass, either. It’s a truly pansexual threat.” He gave her a slow smile. “Though if you want to experiment, babe, I’m willing. I’ve never tried it myself, but I’ve heard it can be pleasurable.” She
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Lexi Blake (The Dom Who Loved Me (Masters and Mercenaries, #1))
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Real friends don't care if you're gay, bisexual, pansexual or just plain weird. They stand by you always and help you up if you fall...
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Anonymous
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Oberlin being a liberal haven where opposition was king, the coolest clique at school was a group of rugby-playing, neon-wearing lesbians. They dominated every party with their Kate Bush-heavy mix tapes, abstract face paint, and pansexual energy.
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Lena Dunham (Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned")
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I’d call her pansexual but really, she’s more of a pan-slut. Which, obviously, coming from me is a compliment. I don’t slut-shame.
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C.M. Stunich (Victory at Prescott High (The Havoc Boys, #5))
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An honest account of the gay bar must include bisexual, pansexual, confused, questioning, transitioning bars.
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Jeremy Atherton Lin (Gay Bar: Why We Went Out)
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people must recognize that many of them who are not visibly queer in some way are afforded some modicum of heterosexual privilege—an argument that also comes up often when gay people discuss bisexual, polysexual,[19] and pansexual[20] people, who might be seen as straight by society part of the time depending on whether their relationships happen to be cross-gender (or perceived that way) at the time.
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Julie Sondra Decker (The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality)
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No matter the response though, I still and will always believe that representation of all kinds is essential. My work-the memoirs, anthologies, novels, television pilots, magazine articles-is just one long attempt to make sure that people from different backgrounds are seen and heard, especially people who are in some practical way challenging the status quo, and offering different interpretations of what it means to be a human being right now. What it means to be a feminist, for example, what it means to be a man in a culture that demands toxic masculinity. What it means to spend your days challenging the racism coded into artificial intelligence, to be pansexual and polyamorous, to be the third generation in your family to struggle with schizophrenia, to embark on the arduous search for your identity as a transracial adoptee. To have a family member in prison.
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Rebecca Walker (Well-Read Black Girl: Finding Our Stories, Discovering Ourselves)
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So, the difference between bisexual and pansexual is fairly nuanced, and some people define it different ways, but to me, bisexual means that you’re attracted to more than one gender, and pansexual means that you’re attracted to a person regardless of their gender.
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Rachel Lacey (Stars Collide)
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Agender Pride Day,” “International Asexuality Day,” “Bisexual Awareness Week,” “Genderfluid Visibility Week,” “Drag Day,” “Intersex Day of Remembrance,” “Non-Binary People’s Day,” “Trans Awareness Month,” “Pansexual & Panromantic Awareness Day,” and “Pride Month” all mark our calendars with cult celebrations.
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Logan Lancing (The Queering of the American Child: How a New School Religious Cult Poisons the Minds and Bodies of Normal Kids)
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Look, babe, I’m not that kind of gay. I’m pansexual. We don’t know shit about jackets.” “That’s reductive,” Dom quips. “It’s a bomber jacket, for your pansexual information.” “I’ll let the other pansexuals know.
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Ryan La Sala (Beholder)
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It’s not everywhere. I mean Betty’s Diner was a safe place to come. Then again, you saw Stevie walk into a table when I smiled at him. Stick this handsome, twenty-seven-year-old pansexual specimen of sensual glory in a yoga studio with a bunch of people in their prime, and what do you think’s going to happen?
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Chloe Liese (If Only You (Bergman Brothers, #6))
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From the stories she'd told, Shar had a very broad dating pool, which included ghosts, elemental forces, and, once, a pansexual quasar. Exhausting, she'd said. Don't date anything that has a radioactive corona.
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Jes Battis (The Winter Knight)
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People are taught that they’re expected to like cross-sex partners. When asexual people find themselves not feeling heterosexual attraction, they look at the orientations available to them and sometimes think being gay is the only other option. They may also think they are bisexual, polysexual, or pansexual. Observing that their interest in one gender is the same as any other, they may pick up one of the terms that seems to describe that, without realizing asexuality is a possibility.
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Julie Sondra Decker (The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality)
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Nikandre was pansexual, like most immortals.
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May Sage (Midnight Academy)
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Kertbeny coined 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' as a pair on purpose: having two marked categories instead of only one generates a certain amount of equality, which was precisely his point. The paired words suggest that both 'homo' and 'hetero' are marked categories whose specialization sets them off from the unmarked human universal, the undifferentiated 'sexual'.
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Hanne Blank (Straight: The Surprisingly Short History Of Heterosexuality)
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I call on all of you to usher in a new era of stories where the gay, or bi, or lesbian, or asexual, or pansexual, or trans character lives happily ever after. Buy those stories. Make those stories profitable.
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Chuck Tingle (Bury Your Gays)