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Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.
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Oscar Wilde (De Profundis)
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It is hard enough to remember my opinions, without also remembering my reasons for them!
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Friedrich Nietzsche
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Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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When a man gives his opinion, he's a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she's a bitch.
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Bette Davis
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Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.
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Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind.
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Friedrich Nietzsche
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Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.
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Harlan Ellison
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Laugh as much as you choose, but you will not laugh me out of my opinion.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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We are of opinion that instead of letting books grow moldy behind an iron grating, far from the vulgar gaze, it is better to let them wear out by being read.
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Jules Verne (Journey to the Center of the Earth)
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It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson (The Complete Prose Works Of Ralph Waldo Emerson)
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Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.
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J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (Harry Potter, #7))
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They're certainly entitled to think that, and they're entitled to full respect for their opinions... but before I can live with other folks I've got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn't abide by majority rule is a person's conscience.
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Harper Lee (To Kill a Mockingbird)
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Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.
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Paulo Coelho
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Don't let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It's your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don't let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality β not yours. There is more to life than pleasing people. There is much more to life than following others' prescribed path. There is so much more to life than what you experience right now. You need to decide who you are for yourself. Become a whole being. Adventure.
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Roy T. Bennett
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Everywhere I go I'm asked if I think the university stifles writers. My opinion is that they don't stifle enough of them. There's many a best-seller that could have been prevented by a good teacher.
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Flannery O'Connor
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People can tell you to keep your mouth shut, but that doesn't stop you from having your own opinion.
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Anne Frank (The Diary of a Young Girl)
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A baby is God's opinion that the world should go on.
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Carl Sandburg
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Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself.
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The smart way to keep people passive and obedient is to strictly limit the spectrum of acceptable opinion, but allow very lively debate within that spectrum....
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Noam Chomsky (The Common Good)
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I do this real moron thing, and it's called thinking. And apparently I'm not a very good American because I like to form my own opinions.
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George Carlin
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Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion.
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Jack Kerouac
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Well, that's your opinion, isn't it? And I'm not about to waste my time trying to change it.
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Lady Gaga
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Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.
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Alan Alda
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In my opinion, we don't devote nearly enough scientific research to finding a cure for jerks.
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Bill Watterson
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Do you know what we call opinion in the absence of evidence? We call it prejudice.
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Michael Crichton (State of Fear)
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My good opinion once lost is lost forever.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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Indeed I have always been of the opinion that hard work is simply the refuge of people who have nothing to do.
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Oscar Wilde
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I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations β one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it β you will regret both.
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SΓΈren Kierkegaard (Either/Or: A Fragment of Life)
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The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.
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Elizabeth Cady Stanton
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Donβt let the noise of othersβ opinions drown out your own inner voice."
[Stanford University commencement speech, 2005]
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Steve Jobs
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Give me your honest opinion. I don't want truth with a veil onβI like naked ladies naked.
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Christina Stead (Miss Herbert (the suburban wife) (A Harvest/HBJ book))
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People do not seem to realise that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
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Steve Jobs
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If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
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Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)
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It is useless for the sheep to pass resolutions in favor of vegetarianism, while the wolf remains of a different opinion.
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William Ralph Inge
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All opinions are not equal. Some are a very great deal more robust, sophisticated and well supported in logic and argument than others.
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Douglas Adams (The Salmon of Doubt)
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A woman knows very well that, though a wit sends her his poems, praises her judgment, solicits her criticism, and drinks her tea, this by no means signifies that he respects her opinions, admires her understanding, or will refuse, though the rapier is denied him, to run through the body with his pen.
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Virginia Woolf (Orlando)
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They think they're better than everyone else."
"No," said Jace. "I think I'm better than everyone else. An opinion that has been backed up with ample evidence."
Kyle looked at Simon. "Does he always talk like this?"
"Yes.
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Cassandra Clare (City of Fallen Angels (The Mortal Instruments, #4))
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There is a technical term for someone who confuses the opinions of a character in a book with those of the author. That term is idiot.
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S.M. Stirling
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Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social enviroment. Most people are incapable of forming such opinions."
(Essay to Leo Baeck, 1953)
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Albert Einstein
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Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.
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I see you're determined to miss my point."
"If you're point is that there was a pretty girl in the room and it was distracting you, then I think I've taken your point handily."
"You think she's pretty?" Will was surprised; Jem rarely opinioned this sort of thing.
"Yes, and you do too."
"I hadn't noticed, really."
"Yes, you have, and I've noticed you noticing.
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Cassandra Clare (Clockwork Angel (The Infernal Devices, #1))
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I have lived a great deal among grown-ups. I have seen them intimately, close at hand. And that hasnβt much improved my opinion of them.
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Antoine de Saint-ExupΓ©ry (The Little Prince)
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The cleverest of all, in my opinion, is the man who calls himself a fool at least once a month.
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Fyodor Dostoevsky
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The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water, and breeds reptiles of the mind.
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William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
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It is inhumane, in my opinion, to force people who have a genuine medical need for coffee to wait in line behind people who apparently view it as some kind of recreational activity.
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Dave Barry
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Literature is strewn with the wreckage of those who have minded beyond reason the opinion of others.
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Virginia Woolf (A Room of One's Own)
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Red hair, sir, in my opinion, is dangerous.
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P.G. Wodehouse (Very Good, Jeeves! (Jeeves, #4))
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Our civil rights have no dependence on our religious opinions any more than our opinions in physics or geometry...
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Thomas Jefferson (Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom)
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But collective thinking is usually short-lived. We're fickle, stupid beings with poor memories and a great gift for self-destruction.
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Suzanne Collins (Mockingjay (The Hunger Games, #3))
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People are stupid. They will believe a lie because they want to believe it's true, or because they are afraid it might be true.
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Terry Goodkind (Wizard's First Rule (Sword of Truth, #1))
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How would your life be different ifβ¦You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the dayβ¦You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
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Miguel Ruiz
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When another blames you or hates you, or people voice similar criticisms, go to their souls, penetrate inside and see what sort of people they are. You will realize that there is no need to be racked with anxiety that they should hold any particular opinion about you.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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Take some more tea," the March Hare said to Alice, very earnestly.
"I've had nothing yet," Alice replied in an offended tone, "so I can't take more."
"You mean you can't take less," said the Hatter: "it's very easy to take more than nothing."
"Nobody asked your opinion," said Alice.
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Lewis Carroll (Alice in Wonderland)
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My opinions may have changed, but not the fact that I'm right.
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Ashleigh Brilliant
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The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.
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Leonardo da Vinci
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I have faults enough, but they are not, I hope, of understanding. My temper I dare not vouch for. It is, I believe, too little yieldingβ certainly too little for the convenience of the world. I cannot forget the follies and vices of other so soon as I ought, nor their offenses against myself. My feelings are not puffed about with every attempt to move them. My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost, is lost forever.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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You have to accept that sometimes that's how things happen in this world. People's opinions, their feelings, they go one way, then the other. It just so happens you grew up at a certain point in this process.
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Kazuo Ishiguro (Never Let Me Go)
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Some who have read the book, or at any rate have reviewed it, have found it boring, absurd, or contemptible, and I have no cause to complain, since I have similar opinions of their works, or of the kinds of writing that they evidently prefer.
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J.R.R. Tolkien (The Lord of the Rings)
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A lion doesn't concern itself with the opinion of sheep.
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George R.R. Martin (A Game of Thrones (A Song of Ice and Fire, #1))
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It must be very fragile, if a handful of berries can bring it down.
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Suzanne Collins (Catching Fire (The Hunger Games, #2))
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Donβt waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when youβre the boss. Or they wonβt. Who cares? Do your thing, and donβt care if they like it.
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Tina Fey (Bossypants)
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Donβt be intimidated by other peopleβs opinions. Only mediocrity is sure of itself, so take risks and do what you really want to do.
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Paulo Coelho (Aleph)
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I am only resolved to act in that manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you, or to any person so wholly unconnected with me.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson (Emerson in His Journals)
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You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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To be independent of public opinion is the first formal condition of achieving anything great.
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Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel
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I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat, or a prostitute.
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Although I'm only fourteen, I know quite well what I want, I know who is right and who is wrong. I have my opinions, my own ideas and principles, and although it may sound pretty mad from an adolescent, I feel more of a person than a child, I feel quite indepedent of anyone.
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Anne Frank (The Diary of Anne Frank)
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I like the way I feel about myself when I'm with him." I say quietly. "Warner thinks I'm strong and smart and capable and he actually values my opinion. He makes me feel like his equal--like I can accomplish just as much as he can, and more. And if I do something incredible, he's not even surprised. He expects it. He doesn't treat me like I'm some fragile little girl who needs to be protected all the time.
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Tahereh Mafi (Ignite Me (Shatter Me, #3))
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To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.
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Jocelyn Soriano (Mend My Broken Heart)
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you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness on my tongue so i could be easy to swallow i was made heavy half blade and half silk difficult to forget and not easy for the mind to follow
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Rupi Kaur (Milk and Honey)
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The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.
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Christopher Hitchens (Letters to a Young Contrarian)
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Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts.
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Daniel Patrick Moynihan
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What other people think and say about you is none of your business. The most destructive thing you would ever do is to believe someone else's opinion of you. You have to stop letting other people's opinions control you.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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7 things negative people will do to you. They will...
1. Demean your value;
2. Destroy your image
3. Drive you crazily!
4. Dispose your dreams!
5. Discredit your imagination!
6. Deframe your abilities and
7. Disbelieve your opinions!
Stay away from negative people!
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Nothing is more deceitful," said Darcy, "than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life.
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Will Durant (The Story of Philosophy: The Lives and Opinions of the World's Greatest Philosophers)
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If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won't need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.
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Toni Bentley
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Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.
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Sherry Argov (Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to DreamgirlβA Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship)
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You think because he doesn't love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn't want you anymore that he is right -- that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don't. It's a bad word, 'belong.' Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn't be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can't even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, beacuse the clouds let him; they don't wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can't own a human being. You can't lose what you don't own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don't, do you? And neither does he. You're turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can't value you more than you value yourself.
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Toni Morrison
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Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you canβt change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Some things are not forgiveable. Deliberate cruelty is not forgiveable. It is the most unforgiveable thing in my opinion, and the one thing in which I have never, ever been guilty.
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Tennessee Williams (A Streetcar Named Desire)
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Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledgeβ¦ is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in anotherβs world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.
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Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?
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Brigham Young
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Like my grandmother always said, βYour opinions are valid and important. Unless itβs some stupid bullshit youβre being shitty about, in which case you can just go fuck yourself.
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There are in fact two things, science and opinion; the former begets knowledge, the latter ignorance.
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Well, it's true that I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But it's also true that I have loved, and been loved. and that carries a weight of its own. A greater weight, in my opinion. It's like that pie chart we talked about earlier. in the end, I'll look back on my life and see that the greatest piece of it was love. The problems, the divorces, the sadness... those will be there too, but just smaller slivers, tiny pieces.
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Sarah Dessen (This Lullaby)
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No opinion is worth burning your neighbor for.
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Voltaire
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My own opinion is enough for me, and I claim the right to have it defended against any consensus, any majority, anywhere, any place, any time. And anyone who disagrees with this can pick a number, get in line, and kiss my ass.
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Christopher Hitchens
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As we ride the elevator Gale finally says βYou're still angry.β
βAnd you're still not sorry,β I reply.
"I will stand by what I said. Do you want me to lie about it?β he asks.
βNo, I want you to rethink it and come up with the right opinion,β I tell him.
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Suzanne Collins (Mockingjay (The Hunger Games, #3))
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It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn't give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don't like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.
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Dignity
/ΛdignitΔ/ noun
1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.
2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that donβt involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.
3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parentβs wisdom.
4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. Peopleβs opinions donβt matter.
5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.
6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didnβt want it, need it or God prevented it.
7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don't want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.
8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.
9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.
10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.
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You see, a conflict always begins with an issue - a difference of opinion, an argument. But by the time it turns into a war, the issue doesn't matter anymore, because now it's about one thing and one thing only: how much each side hates the other.
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It is clear that the individual who persecutes a man, his brother, because he is not of the same opinion, is a monster.
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You have to remember one thing about the will of the people: it wasn't that long ago that we were swept away by the Macarena.
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As long as we continue to live as if we are what we do, what we have, and what other people think about us, we will remain filled with judgments, opinions, evaluations, and condemnations. We will remain addicted to putting people and things in their "right" place.
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Don't waste your energy trying to change opinions ... Do your thing, and don't care if they like it.
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Tina Fey (Bossypants)
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I've always sort of wondered: If everyone else's opinion is what matters, then do you ever really have one of your own?
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Jodi Picoult
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Everyone has a sense of humor. If you don't laugh at jokes, you probably laugh at opinions.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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The opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours.
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I know what I want, I have a goal, an opinion, I have a religion and love. Let me be myself and then I am satisfied. I know that Iβm a woman, a woman with inward strength and plenty of courage.
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Religion is something between you and other people; itβs full of interpretations and theories and opinions. But faithΒ .Β .Β . thatβs just between you and God.
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Fredrik Backman (Beartown (Beartown, #1))
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Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one but they think each others stink.
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New opinions are always suspected, and usually opposed, without any other reason but because they are not common.
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John Locke
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To have opinions is to sell out to youself. To have no opinions is to exist. To have every opinion is to be a poet.
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We will gradually become indifferent to what goes on in the minds of other people when we acquire a knowledge of the superficial nature of their thoughts, the narrowness of their views and of the number of their errors. Whoever attaches a lot of value to the opinions of others pays them too much honor.
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He licked his lips. βWell, if you want my opinion-β
βI donβt, β She said. βI have my own.
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Toni Morrison (Beloved)
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I want your opinion.ΚΊ
ΚΊThat,ΚΊ Adrian said, ΚΊis not something I hear a lot.ΚΊ
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Richelle Mead (Last Sacrifice (Vampire Academy, #6))
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Real freedom is freedom from the opinions of others. Above all, freedom from your opinions about yourself.
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Brennan Manning (The Wisdom of Tenderness: What Happens When God's Fierce Mercy Transforms Our Lives)
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Men in general judge more by the sense of sight than by the sense of touch, because everyone can see but few can test by feeling. Everyone sees what you seem to be, few know what you really are; and those few do not dare take a stand against the general opinion.
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NiccolΓ² Machiavelli (The Prince)
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Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment. Cleverness is mere opinion, bewilderment is intuition.
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Rumi
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I swore an oath before the altar of God to protect this woman. And if you're tellin' me that ye consider your own authority to be greater than that of the Almighty, then I must inform ye that I'm not of that opinion, myself.
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Diana Gabaldon (Outlander (Outlander, #1))
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Psychedelics are illegal not because a loving government is concerned that you may jump out of a third story window. Psychedelics are illegal because they dissolve opinion structures and culturally laid down models of behaviour and information processing. They open you up to the possibility that everything you know is wrong.
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Terence McKenna
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Life is painful and messed up. It gets complicated at the worst of times, and sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do. Lots of times people just let themselves get lost, dropping into a wide open, huge abyss. But that's why we have to keep trying. We have to push through all that hurts us, work past all our memories that are haunting us. Sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strongest. A life without experience, in my opinion, is no life at all. And that's why I tell everyone that, even when it hurts, never stop yourself from living.
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Alysha Speer
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If youβre really spiritual, then you should be totally independent of the good and the bad opinions of the worldβ¦you should have faith in yourself.
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Deepak Chopra
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Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
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Les Brown (Live Your Dreams)
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Don't judge a man by his opinions, but what his opinions have made of him.
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Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
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We must love them both, those whose opinions we share and those whose opinions we reject, for both have labored in the search for truth, and both have helped us in finding it.
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Thomas Aquinas
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Too often we hold fast to the clichΓ©s of our forebears. We subject all facts to a prefabricated set of interpretations. We enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.
[Commencement Address at Yale University, June 11 1962]
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John F. Kennedy
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The only reason people do not know much is because they do not care to know. They are incurious. Incuriousity is the oddest and most foolish failing there is.
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Stephen Fry (The Fry Chronicles)
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Who are these people, and why do they think their own opinions are the only right ones?
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Huntley Fitzpatrick (My Life Next Door)
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He couldnβt see why people made such a fuss about people eating their silly old fruit anyway, but life would be a lot less fun if they didnβt. And there was never an apple, in Adamβs opinion, that wasnβt worth the trouble you got into for eating it.
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Neil Gaiman (Good Omens: The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter, Witch)
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Do not think of knocking out another person's brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago.
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Horace Mann
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If you're going to say what you want to say, you're going to hear what you don't want to hear.
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Roberto BolaΓ±o (The Insufferable Gaucho (New Directions Books))
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Having a low opinion of yourself is not 'modesty.' It's self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not 'egotism.' It's a necessary precondition to happiness and success.
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Bobbe Sommer
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Do not let another day go by where your dedication to other people's opinions is greater than your dedication to your own emotions!
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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Love of music, of sunsets and sea; a liking for the same kind of people; political opinions that are not radically divergent; a similar stance as we look at the stars and think of the marvelous strangeness of the universe - these are what build a marriage. And it is never to be taken for granted.
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Madeleine L'Engle (Two-Part Invention: The Story of a Marriage (Crosswicks Journals, #4))
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After all, what can a first impression tell us about someone weβve just met for a minute in the lobby of a hotel? For that matter, what can a first impression tell us about anyone? Why, no more than a chord can tell us about Beethoven, or a brushstroke about Botticelli. By their very nature, human beings are so capricious, so complex, so delightfully contradictory, that they deserve not only our consideration, but our reconsiderationβand our unwavering determination to withhold our opinion until we have engaged with them in every possible setting at every possible hour.
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Amor Towles (A Gentleman in Moscow)
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In my opinion, the only good spider is a dead spider, and women's rights aren't worth dick if they mean I can't ask a man to do my bug squashing.
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Janet Evanovich (One for the Money (Stephanie Plum, #1))
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All empty souls tend toward extreme opinions.
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W.B. Yeats
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It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.
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Those who never retract their opinions love themselves more than they love truth.
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Joseph Joubert
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One should as a rule respect public opinion in so far as is necessary to avoid starvation and to keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyranny, and is likely to interfere with happiness in all kinds of ways.
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Bertrand Russell (The Conquest of Happiness)
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Fatβ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is βfatβ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is βfatβ worse than βvindictiveβ, βjealousβ, βshallowβ, βvainβ, βboringβ or βcruelβ? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? Iβm not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brainβ¦
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadnβt seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? βYouβve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!β
βWell,β I said, slightly nonplussed, βthe last time you saw me Iβd just had a baby.β
What I felt like saying was, βIβve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Arenβt either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?β But no β my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
Iβve got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I donβt want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; Iβd rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny β a thousand things, before βthinβ. And frankly, Iβd rather they didnβt give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons.
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J.K. Rowling
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What is considered impossible is someone elseβs opinion. What is possible is my decision.
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Idowu Koyenikan (All You Need Is a Ball: What Soccer Teaches Us about Success in Life and Business)
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The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd; indeed in view of the silliness of the majority of mankind, a widely spread belief is more likely to be foolish than sensible.
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Bertrand Russell (Marriage and Morals)
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Why do girls always feel like they have to apologize for giving an opinion or taking up space in the world? Have you ever noticed that?" Nicole asked. "You go on websites and some girl leaves a post and if it's longer than three sentences or she's expressing her thoughts about some topic, she usually ends with, 'Sorry for the rant' or 'That may be dumb, but that's what I think.
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Libba Bray (Beauty Queens)
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If all mankind minus one, were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind.
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John Stuart Mill (On Liberty)
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Deep down, below the surface of the average man's conscience, he hears a voice whispering, "There is something not right," no matter how much his rightness is supported by public opinion or moral code.
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C.G. Jung
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Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and expression; this right includes freedom to hold opinions without interference and to seek, receive and impart information and ideas through any media and regardless of frontiers.
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At first, they'll only dislike what you say, but the more correct you start sounding the more they'll dislike you.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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The great enemy of truth is very often not the lie--deliberate, contrived and dishonest--but the myth--persistent, persuasive and unrealistic. Too often we hold fast to the cliches of our forebears. We subject all facts to a prefabricated set of interpretations. We enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.
[Commencement Address at Yale University, June 11 1962]
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John F. Kennedy
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Whoever controls the media, the
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Allen Ginsberg
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I don't care what you think unless it is about me.
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Kurt Cobain
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Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions courageously and honestly.
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Albert Einstein
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Student is not a container you have to fill but a torch you have to light up.
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Albert Einstein (Ideas and Opinions)
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...when two opposite points of view are expressed with equal intensity, the truth does not necessarily lie exactly halfway between them. It is possible for one side to be simply wrong.
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Richard Dawkins
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Truth always rests with the minority, and the minority is always stronger than the majority, because the minority is generally formed by those who really have an opinion, while the strength of a majority is illusory, formed by the gangs who have no opinion β and who, therefore, in the next instant (when it is evident that the minority is the stronger) assume its opinionβ¦ while truth again reverts to a new minority.
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It is no crime to be ignorant of economics, which is, after all, a specialized discipline and one that most people consider to be a βdismal science.β But it is totally irresponsible to have a loud and vociferous opinion on economic subjects while remaining in this state of ignorance.
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It's like you said the other day," said Adam. "You grow up readin' about pirates and cowboys and spacemen and stuff, and jus' when you think the world's full of amazin' things, they tell you it's really all dead whales and chopped-down forests and nucular waste hangin' about for millions of years. 'Snot worth growin' up for, if you ask my opinion.
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Neil Gaiman (Good Omens: The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter, Witch)
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Everyone has their own ways of expression. I believe we all have a lot to say, but finding ways to say it is more than half the battle.
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Criss Jami (SalomΓ©: In Every Inch In Every Mile)
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I read," I say. "I study and read. I bet I've read everything you read. Don't think I haven't. I consume libraries. I wear out spines and ROM-drives. I do things like get in a taxi and say, "The library, and step on it." My instincts concerning syntax and mechanics are better than your own, I can tell, with all due respect. But it transcends the mechanics. I'm not a machine. I feel and believe. I have opinions. Some of them are interesting. I could, if you'd let me, talk and talk.
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David Foster Wallace
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Why did you ask me to live with you? Werewolves hate vampires.β
βI donβt,β said Kyle.β Iβm not too fond of their kind, though.β He jabbed a finger at Jace. βThey think theyβre better than everyone else.β
βNo,β said Jace. βI think Iβm better than everyone else. An opinion that has been backed up with ample evidence.β
Kyle looked at Simon. βDoes he always talk like this?β
βYes.
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Cassandra Clare (City of Fallen Angels (The Mortal Instruments, #4))
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Understand: people will constantly attack you in life. One of their main weapons will be to instill in you doubts about yourself β your worth, your abilities, your potential. They will often disguise this as their objective opinion, but invariably it has a political purpose β they want to keep you down.
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Robert Greene (The 50th Law)
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Find out who you are and figure out what you believe in. Even if it's different from what your neighbors believe in and different from what your parents believe in. Stay true to yourself. Have your own opinion. Don't worry about what people say about you or think about you. Let the naysayers nay. They will eventually grow tired of naying.
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Ellen DeGeneres (Seriously... I'm Kidding)
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Everybody is wrong about everything, just about all the time.
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Chuck Klosterman (Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto)
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If not to God, you will surrender to the opinions or expectations of others, to money, to resentment, to fear, or to your own pride, lusts, or ego. You were designed to worship God and if you fail to worship Him, you will create other things (idols) to give your life to. You are free to choose, what you surrender to but you are not free from the consequence of that choice.
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Rick Warren (The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here for?)
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The one thing I know for sure is that feelings are rarely mutual, so when they are, drop everything, forget belongings and expectations, forget the games, the two days between texts, the hard to gets because this is it, this is what the entire world is after and youβve stumbled upon it by chance, by accidentββso take a deep breath, take a step forward, now run, collide like planets in the system of a dying sun, embrace each other with both arms and let all the rules, the opinions and common sense crash down around you. Because this is love kid, and itβs all yours. Believe me, you're in for one hell of a ride, after allββthis is the one thing I know for sure.
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Beau Taplin
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When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.
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Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead)
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If any man despises me, that is his problem. My only concern is not doing or saying anything deserving of contempt.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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One of the most important of lifeΒ΄s lessons is to learn independance, to understand freedom. This means independence from attachments, from results, from opinions, and from expectations. Breaking attachments leads to freedom, but breaking attachments does not mean abandoning a loving and meaningful relationship, a relationship that nourrishes your soul. It means ending dependency on any person or thing. Love is never a dependency.
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Brian L. Weiss (Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love)
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He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion... Nor is it enough that he should hear the opinions of adversaries from his own teachers, presented as they state them, and accompanied by what they offer as refutations. He must be able to hear them from persons who actually believe them...he must know them in their most plausible and persuasive form.
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John Stuart Mill (On Liberty)
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Donβt concern yourself with being right in othersβ eyes. And donβt secretly hope that their lives will fall apart so that your opinion will be vindicated. Instead, concentrate on obeying God in your own life and, when possible, helping others to obey Him as well. You donβt have to prove others wrong to continue on the course you know God has shown you.
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Joshua Harris (I Kissed Dating Goodbye)
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...legitimate powers of government reach actions only, & not opinions, I contemplate with sovereign reverence that act of the whole American people which declared that their legislature should 'make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof,' thus building a wall of separation between Church & State. Adhering to this expression of the supreme will of the nation in behalf of the rights of conscience, I shall see with sincere satisfaction the progress of those sentiments which tend to restore to man all his natural rights, convinced he has no natural right in opposition to his social duties.
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Thomas Jefferson (Letters of Thomas Jefferson)
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People can have their opinions about everything in the world, but people's opinions end where the tip of my nose begins. Your opinions of others can only go so far as to where their own shoreline is. The world is for your taking, but other people are not. One is only allowed to have an opinion of me, if that person is done educating him/herself on everything about me. Before people educate themselves on everything about you, they're not allowed to open their venomous mouthes and have an opinion about you.
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It's not about going around trying to stir up trouble. As long as you're honest and you articulate what you believe to be true, somebody somewhere will become your enemy whether you like it or not.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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We judge others instantly by their clothes, their cars, their appearance, their race, their education, their social status. The list is endless. What gets me is that most people decide who another person is before they have even spoken to them. What's even worse is that these same people decide who someone else is, and don't even know who they are themselves.
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Ashly Lorenzana
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Whenever you feel afraid, just remember. Courage is the root of change - and change is what we're chemically designed to do. So when you wake up tomorrow, make this pledge. No more holding yourself back. No more subscribing to others' opinions of what you can and cannot achieve. And no more allowing anyone to pigeonhole you into useless categories of sex, race, economic status, and religion. Do not allow your talents to lie dormant, ladies. Design your own future. When you go home today, ask yourself what YOU will change. And then get started.
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Bonnie Garmus (Lessons in Chemistry)
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Nobody can say anything about you. Whatsoever people say is about themselves. But you become very shaky, because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center depends on others, so you are always looking to what people are saying about you. And you are always following other people, you are always trying to satisfy them. You are always trying to be respectable, you are always trying to decorate your ego. This is suicidal. Rather than being disturbed by what others say, you should start looking inside yourselfβ¦
Whenever you are self-conscious you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. You donβt know who you are. If you had known, then there would have been no problemβ then you are not seeking opinions. Then you are not worried what others say about youβ it is irrelevant!
When you are self-conscious you are in trouble. When you are self-conscious you are really showing symptoms that you donβt know who you are. Your very self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home yet.
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It's a factβeveryone is ignorant in some way or another.
Ignorance is our deepest secret.
And it is one of the scariest things out there, because those of us who are most ignorant are also the ones who often don't know it or don't want to admit it.
Here is a quick test:
If you have never changed your mind about some fundamental tenet of your belief, if you have never questioned the basics, and if you have no wish to do so, then you are likely ignorant.
Before it is too late, go out there and find someone who, in your opinion, believes, assumes, or considers certain things very strongly and very differently from you, and just have a basic honest conversation.
It will do both of you good.
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Vera Nazarian (The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration)
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This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. Being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
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George Bernard Shaw
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One of the things that baffles me (and there are quite a few) is how there can be so much lingering stigma with regards to mental illness, specifically bipolar disorder. In my opinion, living with manic depression takes a tremendous amount of balls. Not unlike a tour of Afghanistan (though the bombs and bullets, in this case, come from the inside). At times, being bipolar can be an all-consuming challenge, requiring a lot of stamina and even more courage, so if you're living with this illness and functioning at all, it's something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
They should issue medals along with the steady stream of medication.
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Carrie Fisher (Wishful Drinking)
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What I must do, is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson (Self-Reliance: An Excerpt from Collected Essays, First Series)
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I am a strong and powerful woman.
I am proud to be a woman and I celebrate the qualities that I have as a woman.
I am not defined by other peopleβs opinion of who I should be or what I should do as a woman. I determine that, not anyone else.
I am not passed up for a position, title, or promotion because I am a woman.
I fully deserve all the good things that comes my way.
Irrespective of what anyone might think, being a woman places no boundaries or limits on my abilities.
I can do anything I set my mind to.
I celebrate my womanhood and I am beautiful both inside and out.
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His eyes remained on Isobel as he began a slow backward walk. He was doing it again, speaking to her with his eyes. She remained trapped in his stare, trying to hear him, to read the underlying message. Finally his gaze broke from hers and he turned away, walking off through the cafeteria doors.
There was a pause before Gwen spoke. "Let me guess," she said. "Right now, you're trying to decide if that was hot or annoying." She paused, as though formulating her own opinion.... "It was so totally hot.
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Kelly Creagh (Nevermore (Nevermore, #1))
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Readers have the right to say whatever the fuck they want about a book. Period. They have that right. If they hate the book because the MC says the word βdeliciousβ and the reader believes itβs the Devilβs word and only evil people use it, they can shout from the rooftops βThis book is shit and donβt read itβ if they want. If they want to write a review entirely about how much they hate the cover, they can if they want. If they want to make their review all about how their dog Foot Foot especially loved to pee on that particular book, they can."
[Blog entry, January 9, 2012]
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The conscious and intelligent manipulation of the organized habits and opinions of the masses is an important element in democratic society. Those who manipulate this unseen mechanism of society constitute an invisible government which is the true ruling power of our country. ...We are governed, our minds are molded, our tastes formed, our ideas suggested, largely by men we have never heard of. This is a logical result of the way in which our democratic society is organized. Vast numbers of human beings must cooperate in this manner if they are to live together as a smoothly functioning society. ...In almost every act of our daily lives, whether in the sphere of politics or business, in our social conduct or our ethical thinking, we are dominated by the relatively small number of persons...who understand the mental processes and social patterns of the masses. It is they who pull the wires which control the public mind.
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Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor - the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences -- good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as "ordinary courage.
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What is your friend: the things you know, or the things you don't know. First of all, there's a lot more things you don't know. And second, the things you don't know is the birthplace of all your new knowledge! So if you make the things you don't know your friend, rather than the things you know, well then you're always on a quest in a sense. You're always looking for new information in the off chance that somebody who doesn't agree with you will tell you something you couldn't have figured out on your own! It's a completely different way of looking at the world. It's the antithesis of opinionated.
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Jordan B. Peterson
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The so-called paradox of freedom is the argument that freedom in the sense of absence of any constraining control must lead to very great restraint, since it makes the bully free to enslave the meek. The idea is, in a slightly different form, and with very different tendency, clearly expressed in Plato.
Less well known is the paradox of tolerance: Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them. β In this formulation, I do not imply, for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would certainly be unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force; for it may easily turn out that they are not prepared to meet us on the level of rational argument, but begin by denouncing all argument; they may forbid their followers to listen to rational argument, because it is deceptive, and teach them to answer arguments by the use of their fists or pistols. We should therefore claim, in the name of tolerance, the right not to tolerate the intolerant. We should claim that any movement preaching intolerance places itself outside the law, and we should consider incitement to intolerance and persecution as criminal, in the same way as we should consider incitement to murder, or to kidnapping, or to the revival of the slave trade, as criminal.
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Karl Popper (The Open Society and Its Enemies)
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It is indisputable that the being whose capacities of enjoyment are low, has the greatest chance of having them fully satisfied; and a highly endowed being will always feel that any happiness which he can look for, as the world is constituted, is imperfect. But he can learn to bear its imperfections, if they are at all bearable; and they will not make him envy the being who is indeed unconscious of the imperfections, but only because he feels not at all the good which those imperfections qualify.
It is better to be a human being dissatisfied than a pig satisfied; better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied. And if the fool, or the pig, is of a different opinion, it is only because they only know their own side of the question.
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In this age, the mere example of non-conformity, the mere refusal to bend the knee to custom, is itself a service. Precisely because the tyranny of opinion is such as to make eccentricity a reproach, it is desirable, in order to break through that tyranny, that people should be eccentric. Eccentricity has always abounded when and where strength of character has abounded; and the amount of eccentricity in a society has generally been proportional to the amount of genius, mental vigor, and moral courage which it contained. That so few now dare to be eccentric, marks the chief danger of the time.
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It's just that the thing you never understand about being a mother, until you are one, is that it is not the grown man - the galumphing, unshaven, stinking, opinionated off-spring - you see before you, with his parking tickets and unpolished shoes and complicated love life. You see all the people he has ever been all rolled up into one.
I look at him and see the baby I held in my arms, dewing besotted, unable to believe that I'd created another human being. I see the toddler, reaching for my hand, the schoolboy weeping tears of fury after being bullied Β by some other child. I saw the vulnerabilities, the love, the history.
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Jojo Moyes (Me Before You (Me Before You, #1))
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They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they donβt have. It really isnβt about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you.
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1. Everyone is entitled to their opinion about the things they read (or watch, or listen to, or taste, or whatever). Theyβre also entitled to express them online.
2. Sometimes those opinions will be ones you donβt like.
3. Sometimes those opinions wonβt be very nice.
4. The people expressing those may be (but are not always) assholes.
5. However, if your solution to this βproblemβ is to vex, annoy, threaten or harrass them, you are almost certainly a bigger asshole.
6. You may also be twelve.
7. You are not responsible for anyone elseβs actions or karma, but you are responsible for your own.
8. So leave them alone and go about your own life."
[Bad Reviews: I Can Handle Them, and So Should You (Blog post, July 17, 2012)]
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My passionate sense of social justice and social responsibility has always contrasted oddly with my pronounced lack of need for direct contact with other human beings and human communities. I am truly a 'lone traveler' and have never belonged to my country, my home, my friends, or even my immediate family, with my whole heart; in the face of all these ties, I have never lost a sense of distance and a need for solitudeβ¦
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Difference of opinion is advantageous in religion. The several sects perform the office of a Censor morum over each other. Is uniformity attainable? Millions of innocent men, women, and children, since the introduction of Christianity, have been burnt, tortured, fined, imprisoned; yet we have not advanced one inch towards uniformity. What has been the effect of coercion? To make one half the world fools, and the other half hypocrites. To support roguery and error all over the earth. Let us reflect that it is inhabited by a thousand millions of people. That these profess probably a thousand different systems of religion. That ours is but one of that thousand. That if there be but one right, and ours that one, we should wish to see the 999 wandering sects gathered into the fold of truth. But against such a majority we cannot effect this by force. Reason and persuasion are the only practicable instruments. To make way for these, free enquiry must be indulged; and how can we wish others to indulge it while we refuse it ourselves.
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NO reader has ANY obligation to an author, whether it be to leave a review or to write a "constructive" one. I put out a product. You are consumers of that product. Since when does that mean you have to kiss my ass? Hey, I like Pop-Tarts and eat them a few times a year; since when does that mean I'm obligated to support Kellogg's in any way except legally purchasing the Pop-Tarts before I eat them? I wasn't aware that purchasing and consuming a product meant I was under some sort of fucking thrall in which I'm only allowed to either praise the Pop-Tart (which to be honest isn't hard, especially the S'mores flavor) or, if I am going to criticize a flavor, offer a specific and detailed analysis as to why, phrased in as inoffensive and gentle a manner as possible so as not to upset the gentle people at Kellogg's."
[Something in the Water? (blog post; January 9, 2012)]
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You know, I do believe in magic. I was born and raised in a magic time, in a magic town, among magicians. Oh, most everybody else didnβt realize we lived in that web of magic, connected by silver filaments of chance and circumstance. But I knew it all along. When I was twelve years old, the world was my magic lantern, and by its green spirit glow I saw the past, the present and into the future. You probably did too; you just donβt recall it. See, this is my opinion: we all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires, and comets inside us. We are born able to sing to birds and read the clouds and see our destiny in grains of sand. But then we get the magic educated right out of our souls. We get it churched out, spanked out, washed out, and combed out. We get put on the straight and narrow and told to be responsible. Told to act our age. Told to grow up, for Godβs sake. And you know why we were told that? Because the people doing the telling were afraid of our wildness and youth, and because the magic we knew made them ashamed and sad of what theyβd allowed to wither in themselves.
After you go so far away from it, though, you canβt really get it back. You can have seconds of it. Just seconds of knowing and remembering. When people get weepy at movies, itβs because in that dark theater the golden pool of magic is touched, just briefly. Then they come out into the hard sun of logic and reason again and it dries up, and theyβre left feeling a little heartsad and not knowing why. When a song stirs a memory, when motes of dust turning in a shaft of light takes your attention from the world, when you listen to a train passing on a track at night in the distance and wonder where it might be going, you step beyond who you are and where you are. For the briefest of instants, you have stepped into the magic realm.
Thatβs what I believe.
The truth of life is that every year we get farther away from the essence that is born within us. We get shouldered with burdens, some of them good, some of them not so good. Things happen to us. Loved ones die. People get in wrecks and get crippled. People lose their way, for one reason or another. Itβs not hard to do, in this world of crazy mazes. Life itself does its best to take that memory of magic away from us. You donβt know itβs happening until one day you feel youβve lost something but youβre not sure what it is. Itβs like smiling at a pretty girl and she calls you βsir.β It just happens.
These memories of who I was and where I lived are important to me. They make up a large part of who Iβm going to be when my journey winds down. I need the memory of magic if I am ever going to conjure magic again. I need to know and remember, and I want to tell you.
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Robert R. McCammon (Boy's Life)
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Since every country stands in numerous and various relations with the other countries of the world, and many, our own among the number, exercise actual authority over some of these, a knowledge of the established rules of international morality is essential to the duty of every nation, and therefore of every person in it who helps to make up the nation, and whose voice and feeling form a part of what is called public opinion. Let not any one pacify his conscience by the delusion that he can do no harm if he takes no part, and forms no opinion. Bad men need nothing more to compass their ends, than that good men should look on and do nothing. He is not a good man who, without a protest, allows wrong to be committed in his name, and with the means which he helps to supply, because he will not trouble himself to use his mind on the subject. It depends on the habit of attending to and looking into public transactions, and on the degree of information and solid judgment respecting them that exists in the community, whether the conduct of the nation as a nation, both within itself and towards others, shall be selfish, corrupt, and tyrannical, or rational and enlightened, just and noble.
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I agree with yours of the 22d that a professorship of Theology should have no place in our institution. but we cannot always do what is absolutely best. those with whom we act, entertaining different views, have the power and the right of carrying them into practice. truth advances, & error recedes step by step only; and to do to our fellow-men the most good in our power, we must lead where we can, follow where we cannot, and still go with them, watching always the favorable moment for helping them to another step.
[Comment on establishing Jefferson's University of Virginia, a secular college, in a letter to Thomas Cooper 7 October 1814]
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They spoke almost as loud as Feeling: and that clamoured wildly. "Oh, comply!" it said. "Think of his misery; think of his danger β look at his state when left alone; remember his headlong nature; consider the recklessness following on despair β soothe him; save him; love him; tell him you love him and will be his. Who in the world cares for you? or who will be injured by what you do?"
Still indomitable was the reply β "I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself. I will keep the law given by God; sanctioned by man. I will hold to the principles received by me when I was sane, and not mad β as I am now. Laws and principles are not for the times when there is no temptation: they are for such moments as this, when body and soul rise in mutiny against their rigour; stringent are they; inviolate they shall be. If at my individual convenience I might break them, what would be their worth? They have a worth β so I have always believed; and if I cannot believe it now, it is because I am quite insane β quite insane: with my veins running fire, and my heart beating faster than I can count its throbs. Preconceived opinions, foregone determinations, are all I have this hour to stand by: there I plant my foot.
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Once, very long ago, Time fell in love with Fate. This, as you might imagine, proved problematic. Their romance disrupted the flow of time. It tangled the strings of fortune into knots.Β The stars watched from the heavens nervously, worrying what might occur. What might happen to the days and nights were time to suffer a broken heart? What catastrophes might result if the same fate awaited Fate itself? The stars conspired and separated the two. For a while they breathed easier in the heavens. Time continued to flow as it always had, or perhaps imperceptibly slower. Fate weaved together the paths that were meant to intertwine, though perhaps a string was missed here and there. But eventually, Fate and Time found each other again.Β In the heavens, the stars sighed, twinkling and fretting. They asked the Moon her advice. The Moon in turn called upon the parliament of owls to decide how best to proceed. The parliament of owls convened to discuss the matter amongst themselves night after night. They argued and debated while the world slept around them, and the world continued to turn, unaware that such important matters were under discussion while it slumbered.Β The parliament of owls came to the logical conclusion that if the problem was in the combination, one of the elements should be removed. They chose to keep the one they felt more important. The parliament of owls told their decision to the stars and the stars agreed. The Moon did not, but on this night she was dark and could not offer her opinion.Β So it was decided, and Fate was pulled apart. Ripped into pieces by beaks and claws. Fateβs screams echoed through the deepest corners and the highest heavens but no one dared to intervene save for a small brave mouse who snuck into the fray, creeping unnoticed through the blood and bone and feathers, and took Fateβs heart and kept it safe. When the furor died down there was nothing else left of Fate.Β The owl who consumed Fateβs eyes gained great site, greater site then any that had been granted to a mortal creature before. The Parliament crowned him the Owl King. In the heavens the stars sparkled with relief but the moon was full of sorrow. And so time goes as it should and events that were once fated to happen are left instead to chance, and Chance never falls in love with anything for long. But the world is strange and endings are not truly endings no matter how the stars might wish it so.Β Occasionally Fate can pull itself together again.Β And Time is always waiting.
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4. Religion. Your reason is now mature enough to examine this object. In the first place, divest yourself of all bias in favor of novelty & singularity of opinion... shake off all the fears & servile prejudices, under which weak minds are servilely crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call to her tribunal every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blindfolded fear. You will naturally examine first, the religion of your own country. Read the Bible, then as you would read Livy or Tacitus. The facts which are within the ordinary course of nature, you will believe on the authority of the writer, as you do those of the same kind in Livy and Tacitus. The testimony of the writer weighs in their favor, in one scale, and their not being against the laws of nature, does not weigh against them. But those facts in the Bible which contradict the laws of nature, must be examined with more care, and under a variety of faces. Here you must recur to the pretensions of the writer to inspiration from God. Examine upon what evidence his pretensions are founded, and whether that evidence is so strong, as that its falsehood would be more improbable than a change in the laws of nature, in the case he relates. For example in the book of Joshua we are told the sun stood still several hours. Were we to read that fact in Livy or Tacitus we should class it with their showers of blood, speaking of statues, beasts, &c. But it is said that the writer of that book was inspired. Examine therefore candidly what evidence there is of his having been inspired. The pretension is entitled to your inquiry, because millions believe it. On the other hand you are astronomer enough to know how contrary it is to the law of nature that a body revolving on its axis as the earth does, should have stopped, should not by that sudden stoppage have prostrated animals, trees, buildings, and should after a certain time have resumed its revolution, & that without a second general prostration. Is this arrest of the earth's motion, or the evidence which affirms it, most within the law of probabilities? You will next read the New Testament. It is the history of a personage called Jesus. Keep in your eye the opposite pretensions: 1, of those who say he was begotten by God, born of a virgin, suspended & reversed the laws of nature at will, & ascended bodily into heaven; and 2, of those who say he was a man of illegitimate birth, of a benevolent heart, enthusiastic mind, who set out without pretensions to divinity, ended in believing them, and was punished capitally for sedition, by being gibbeted, according to the Roman law, which punished the first commission of that offence by whipping, & the second by exile, or death in fureΓ’.
...Do not be frightened from this inquiry by any fear of its consequences. If it ends in a belief that there is no God, you will find incitements to virtue in the comfort and pleasantness you feel in its exercise, and the love of others which it will procure you... In fine, I repeat, you must lay aside all prejudice on both sides, and neither believe nor reject anything, because any other persons, or description of persons, have rejected or believed it... I forgot to observe, when speaking of the New Testament, that you should read all the histories of Christ, as well of those whom a council of ecclesiastics have decided for us, to be Pseudo-evangelists, as those they named Evangelists. Because these Pseudo-evangelists pretended to inspiration, as much as the others, and you are to judge their pretensions by your own reason, and not by the reason of those ecclesiastics. Most of these are lost...
[Letter to his nephew, Peter Carr, advising him in matters of religion, 1787]
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All depression has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in people taking themselves too seriously.β
At the time Switters had disputed her assertion. Even at seventeen, he was aware that depression could have chemical causes.
βThe key word here is roots,β Maestra had countered. βThe roots of depression. For most people, self-awareness and self-pity blossom simultaneously in early adolescence. It's about that time that we start viewing the world as something other than a whoop-de-doo playground, we start to experience personally how threatening it can be, how cruel and unjust. At the very moment when we become, for the first time, both introspective and socially conscientious, we receive the bad news that the world, by and large, doesn't give a rat's ass. Even an old tomato like me can recall how painful, scary, and disillusioning that realization was. So, there's a tendency, then, to slip into rage and self-pity, which if indulged, can fester into bouts of depression.β
βYeah but Maestraββ
βDon't interrupt. Now, unless someone stronger and wiserβa friend, a parent, a novelist, filmmaker, teacher, or musicianβcan josh us out of it, can elevate us and show us how petty and pompous and monumentally useless it is to take ourselves so seriously, then depression can become a habit, which, in tern, can produce a neurological imprint. Are you with me? Gradually, our brain chemistry becomes conditioned to react to negative stimuli in a particular, predictable way. One thing'll go wrong and it'll automatically switch on its blender and mix us that black cocktail, the olβ doomsday daiquiri, and before we know it, weβre soused to the gills from the inside out. Once depression has become electrochemically integrated, it can be extremely difficult to philosophically or psychologically override it; by then it's playing by physical rules, a whole different ball game. That's why, Switters my dearest, every time you've shown signs of feeling sorry for yourself, I've played my blues records really loud or read to you from The Horseβs Mouth. And thatβs why when youβve exhibited the slightest tendency toward self-importance, Iβve reminded you that you and meβ you and I: excuse meβmay be every bit as important as the President or the pope or the biggest prime-time icon in Hollywood, but none of us is much more than a pimple on the ass-end of creation, so letβs not get carried away with ourselves. Preventive medicine, boy. Itβs preventive medicine.β
βBut what about self-esteem?β
βHeh! Self-esteem is for sissies. Accept that youβre a pimple and try to keep a lively sense of humor about it. That way lies graceβand maybe even glory.
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