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Flawed, imperfect creatures! That's what we both are, oga! That's what we ALL are!
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Nnedi Okorafor (Who Fears Death)
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Instead of asking whether someone is gritty, we should ask when they are. “If you get someone into a context that suits them,” Ogas said, “they’ll more likely work hard and it will look like grit from the outside.
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David Epstein (Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World)
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A man shouldn’t go crying like that, people will think you’re weak.
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Ryuhei Tamura (Beelzebub 01)
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Each dark horse had a novel journey, but a common strategy. “Short-term planning,” Ogas told me. “They all practice it, not long-term planning.” Even people who look like consummate long-term visionaries from afar usually looked like short-term planners up close.
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David Epstein (Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World)
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Dark horses were on the hunt for match quality. “They never look around and say, ‘Oh, I’m going to fall behind, these people started earlier and have more than me at a younger age,’” Ogas told me. “They focused on, ‘Here’s who I am at the moment, here are my motivations, here’s what I’ve found I like to do, here’s what I’d like to learn, and here are the opportunities. Which of these is the best match right now? And maybe a year from now I’ll switch because I’ll find something better.
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David Epstein (Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World)
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A man, see… The harder the situation, the more a man laughs!
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Oga Tatsumi
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When I was a college runner, I had teammates whose drive and determination seemed almost boundless on the track, and nearly absent in the classroom, and vice versa. Instead of asking whether someone is gritty, we should ask when they are. “If you get someone into a context that suits them,” Ogas said, “they’ll more likely work hard and it will look like grit from the outside.
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David Epstein (Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World)
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Here are the ten most common professions of the hero, derived from the titles of more than 15,000 Harlequin romance novels: Doctor Cowboy Boss Prince Rancher Knight Surgeon King Bodyguard Sheriff
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The process of the hero getting in touch with his tender side is one of the greatest pleasures of the romance. Scenes where an alpha male expresses his feelings are always described in rich detail. In the same way that women often find the breathless gasping and moaning of female porn stars to be absurdly inauthentic, male readers of romances might find the emotional confessions of romance heroes to be strangely unfamiliar.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire)
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vice versa. Instead of asking whether someone is gritty, we should ask when they are. “If you get someone into a context that suits them,” Ogas said, “they’ll more likely work hard and it will look like grit from the outside.
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David Epstein (Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World)
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The characters populating male fantasies have little in common with those inhabiting female fantasies. In porn, the mind of a woman is usually empty of all thought and feeling – except for an overwhelming urge to have sex with plumbers, pizza boys, and her BFF. Women’s hopes and fears are irrelevant. Their skills are inconsequential, except for the admirable ability to satisfy multiple lovers simultaneously and an impressive capacity for moaning. Their bodies, on the other hand, are depicted in lavish, graphic detail.
The heroes of romance novels often seem like members of a more evolved species. They are natural leaders, rich, powerful, and well-connected. Their minds are intelligent and savvy, though they are reticent about their abilities and hide their inner demons. Despite the fact that they are a five-star general or lord of southern England, they hide a troubled and tempestuous soul that can only be healed by the magical balm of a woman’s love.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire)
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For every search for a “skinny” girl, there are almost three searches for a “fat” girl.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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A man must follow through on something once he decides it. I said that, right? But watching your friends get done in without doing something? That’s not being a man at all!
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Oga Tatsumi
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The uncanny experience of meaning that enters our consciousness when we comprehend a word is entirely unrelated to the perceptual qualities of the word itself.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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A sailor was stranded on a desert island and managed to survive by making friends with the local natives—such good friends, in fact, that one day the chief offered him his daughter for an evening’s entertainment. Late that night, while they made love, the chief’s daughter kept shouting, “Oga, boga! Oga, boga!” The arrogant sailor assumed this must be how the natives express their appreciation when something is fantastic. A few days later the chief invites the sailor for a game of golf. On his first stroke, the chief hit a hole in one. Eager to try out his new vocabulary, the sailor enthusiastically shouted “Oga boga! Oga boga!” The chief turned around with a puzzled look on his face and asked, “What you mean, ‘wrong hole’?
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Osho (Emotional Wellness: Transforming Fear, Anger, and Jealousy into Creative Energy)
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Consciousness is a rich, intimate, symbiotic relationship between reality and itself. And the more conscious we are of consciousness, the more we will come to value other sentient beings as hallowed and exquisite flickers of feeling within the boundless darkness.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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A woman's sexual desire must be filtered through a careful appraisal of potential risks. During human prehistory, women who blindly gave in to every sexual urge likely faced a host of daunting challenges, including - in the extreme cases - death. Most important, from an evolutionary point of view, her children would have a harder time surviving than the children of a woman who limited the expression of her sexual urges to a strong and decent man willing to invest in a stable, long-term, child-rearing relationship. All modern women are the fruit of feminine caution. The result of this whittling away of the impulsive branches of our ancestral maternal tree is a female brain equipped with the most sophisticated neural software on Earth. A system designed to uncover, scrutinize, and evaluate a dazzling range of informative clues.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire)
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You know, we live in an ass-licking economy. The biggest problem in this country is not corruption. The problem is that there are many qualified people who are not where they are supposed to be because they won’t lick anybody’s ass, or they don’t know which ass to lick or they don’t even know how to lick an ass. I’m lucky to be licking the right ass.” She smiled. “It’s just luck. Oga said I was well brought up, that I was not like all the Lagos girls who sleep with him on the first night and the next morning give him a list of what they want him to buy. I slept with him on the first night but I did not ask for anything, which was stupid of me now that I think of it, but I did not sleep with him because I wanted something. Ah, this thing called power. I was attracted to him even with his teeth like Dracula. I was attracted to his power.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (Americanah)
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The best method for acquiring scientific data is direct observation. Nothing beats watching a subject in action. But scientist have an easier time gazing at intergalactic quasars than peeking into someone's bedroom. Quasars don't close the curtains out of modesty of suspicion. In contrast, most of us are unwilling to let curious scientists photograph us as we tumble between the sheets. Radio waves may be invisible, but they don't try do deceive curious physicists and they are incapable of self-deception. Humans are guilty of both.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire)
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Though social psychologist Elaine Hatfield is one of the nicest people you could ever meet, her life has been filled with controversy, mostly because of her independent streak. When she was a young professor at the University of Minnesota in 1963, there were two rules. Women were not allowed to hang their coats in the faculty cloak room. Women were not allowed to dine at the Faculty Club. One Monday evening, Hatfield decided to challenge the rules. She and fellow psychologist Ellen Berscheid approached the table where their male colleagues were sitting. When we walked into the Faculty Club and chorused: “May we sit down?” our six colleagues couldn’t have been more courtly. “Of course! Do sit down.” But, Colleague #1 glanced at his watch and declared, “Oh, do excuse me I have to run.” Colleague #2 shifted uneasily, then remembered that his wife was picking him up. Colleague #3 snatched up a dinner roll and said that he better walk out with his friend. The remaining men realized that they’d better be going, too. Within minutes Ellen and I were sitting alone at the elegant table, surrounded by six heaping plates. Shamed but undeterred, they kept returning to the Faculty Club until they finally obtained their own table. Eventually, Hatfield became a full professor at the University of Wisconsin, where she pioneered research into the psychology of falling in love. The
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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So far, all of the visual cues we’ve encountered draw a man’s attention to the female body. But not the penis. So why might the male organ captivate men’s attention? One possible explanation may lie with our primate cousins. Among New World monkeys, Old World monkeys, and the apes, the penis is a prominent and versatile social tool. The erect primate penis is used as a sign of male-
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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All modern women are the fruit of feminine caution. The result of this whittling away of the impulsive branches of our ancestral maternal tree is a female brain equipped with the most sophisticated neural software on Earth. A system designed to uncover, scrutinize, and evaluate a dazzling range of informative clues.
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Ogi Ogas
Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Amy Gramour (Curiouser Cryptograms: The Keys to Curiosity (Curious Cryptograms Book 2))
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due to their excessive hip size. But one thing is clear: willowy, toothpick-thin women are a rarity in male-targeted pornography.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Men’s interest in breasts, butts, and feet are well known and well documented. The next anatomical cue, however, may come as something of a surprise.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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of cover models? For every search for a “skinny” girl, there are almost three searches for a “fat” girl.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The fact of the matter is that men are more interested in penises than women are—and men are much more interested in large penises than women are. In a recent academic survey of more than fifty thousand respondents between the ages of eighteen and fifty, just 15 percent of women reported dissatisfaction with their partner’s penis size, while 45 percent of men wanted a larger penis. But it’s not
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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A mind is an activity. The mind has more in common with a basketball game than it does with a MacBook.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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What is the original source of our sexual interests? How does the initial impulse to seek out “best romance novels” or “free gay video” get into our brain in the first place? One possibility is that our desire software is influenced by social stimuli. Maybe our brains are designed to sample our cultural environment—including messages communicated by our parents, our peers, and the media—then set our desires according to the examples dictated by these social inputs. How could we test this “social inputs” hypothesis? Here’s one possible experiment: we could try to use social inputs to intentionally engineer a person’s most fundamental sexual desires.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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All conscious beings share a common privilege. We are all hoping and suffering, recognizing and realizing, fearful and fervent. We are all cosmic weavers: the frog mind and the hummingbird mind and the chimpanzee mind pluck out kaleidoscopic snapshots of the universe’s unfolding within their resonance, knotting the ceaseless torrent of chaos into a prismatic tapestry
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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For Obatalá Obatalá okunrin ati obínrin ni laye eleda ni gbogbo na dara dara ati buruku oba ati ayaba, afin oga ni na bala ati gbogbo na shishe babá alaye alabo mi ati mi gbogbo na ejun, dara dara babá wa afin alano. Jekua babá mi, adupe. Great male and female deity, world creator of all good, health, and evil, king and queen, albino owner of purity and of all justice, father who shields, grand protector of all the world, my protector and of all good and healthy things, our merciful albino father, hail, my father; thank you. For
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Ócha'ni Lele (Obí: Oracle of Cuban Santería)
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None of us are born with even the most rudimentary knowledge of alphabets, words, or grammar. Though the human brain springs from the womb well prepared for speech, like an aspiring diver in scuba gear, face mask, and wet suit poised on the edge of a dock, unless the brain plunges headlong into the ocean of language it will never learn how to talk.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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Women want to see foreplay, a lot of kissing, a lot of talking before the action gets going. They like to see women with a little more weight on them, a little older, not skinny young girls. The guys have to be clean, well-dressed, and well-kept. They hate men that are sloppily dressed.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire)
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Exploration is in our nature. We began as wanderers, and we are wanderers still. —Cosmos, Carl Sagan
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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All conscious beings share a common privilege. We are all hoping and suffering, recognizing and realizing, fearful and fervent. We are all cosmic weavers: the frog mind and the hummingbird mind and the chimpanzee mind pluck out kaleidoscopic snapshots of the universe’s unfolding within their resonance, knotting the ceaseless torrent of chaos into a prismatic tapestry. In these animal minds, as in our own minds, we gather up fleeting fragments of reality and transform them into feeling, a cosmos within a cosmos.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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When module minds began to communicate with one another through complex external representations it paved the way for the emergence of superminds and the mental powers of a god—a volatile and capricious god who tends to reach for the darkness with nearly the same likelihood as it reaches for the light.
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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But that doesn’t mean we are striving to form a union
that is perfect. We are striving to forge our union with purpose. —“The Hill We Climb,” Amanda Gorman
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Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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He crouched there, surrounded by the cozy clutter of his familiar things: soft moss, nuts, leaves, pieces of fruit, shiny stones, some twigs he was gnawing on, and the page that Freddie had given him that said “…oga for kids” on it, leaning against the wall.
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Christopher St. John (War Bunny (War Bunny Chronicles, #1))
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Amy Gramour (Curiouser Cryptograms: The Keys to Curiosity (Curious Cryptograms Book 2))
Ogi Ogas (Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos)
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This is Deejay Ar-three-ex spinning the galaxy’s latest hits. Here is ‘Black Spire Harvest’ by Mus Kat & Nalpak, playing at Oga’s Cantina tonight only.
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Zoraida Córdova (A Crash of Fate (Star Wars: Galaxy's Edge, #1))
Zoraida Córdova (A Crash of Fate (Star Wars: Galaxy's Edge, #1))
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On the Web, men prefer images. Women prefer stories. Men prefer graphic sex. Women prefer relationships and romance.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan, authors of Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Study after study has demonstrated the erotic appeal of male dominance. Women prefer the voices of dominant men, the scent of dominant men, the movement and gait of dominant men, and the facial features of dominant men.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The conclusions from Meredith Chivers’s groundbreaking research are inescapable: psychological and physical arousal are usually linked in men, but in women there’s a disconnect
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Women are more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and eating disorders. Men are more likely to suffer from schizophrenia and autistic spectrum disorders.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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But after the adolescent brain starts to change, women are twice as likely to suffer from mood disorders as men.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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man’s true character cannot be evaluated as swiftly or as easily as a woman’s bust size.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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A man’s true character cannot be evaluated as swiftly or as easily as a woman’s bust size.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Whereas male exhibitionism is usually considered a psychiatric disorder and a crime, female exhibitionism is rarely considered a social problem. Indeed, it’s frequently exploited commercially.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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One intriguing study examined the effects of ovulation on the tips that professional lap dancers received while working in gentlemen’s clubs. Women with normal ovulatory cycles earned about $185 when they were menstruating, $260 when they were not menstruating nor ovulating, and $335 when they were ovulating. Perhaps the increase in tips was because the dancers unconsciously behaved differently.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Women of all ages report dissatisfaction with their body far more often than men do. Anorexia and bulimia are about seven times more likely to occur in women than in men.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The maxim “All the best men are taken” is doubly true. If a man is already taken by a woman, then by definition, he’s the best man—or certainly a more desirable man. If the exact same man is not taken, then his value is questionable—he’s certainly not as desirable as a man who has already received the stamp of approval from another woman’s Detective Agency.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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There’s a reason they call it Girls Gone Wild and not Women Gone Wild. When girls go wild, they show their breasts. When women go wild, they kill men. —Comedian Louis C.K.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Bigger girls will have more fun, and will work twice as hard to meet the standards of the skinny girls most people find attractive.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Studies have found that high sex drive in women is associated with increased sexual attraction to both women and men, while high sex drive in men only enhances attraction to one or the other, depending on the man’s sexual orientation.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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So why are straight guys so appealing to gay men? Because gay men are attracted to masculinity.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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there is a common misconception that gay men are attracted to partners who are feminine and flamboyant.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The vast majority of gay men prefer to masturbate while thinking about cowboys, firemen, or David Beckham instead of drag queens, ballet dancers, or Elton John.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Unlike men, who become aroused after being exposed to a single cue, women need to experience enough simultaneous cues to cross an evervarying threshold.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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For a man, a single cue is often sufficient, and sometimes necessary. For women, no single cue is either necessary or sufficient.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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pleasure for their partner. The male cue for female sexual pleasure is entirely analogous to the female cue for a man’s emotional commitment.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The male cue for female sexual pleasure is entirely analogous to the female cue for a man’s emotional commitment.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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Authenticity is important to both men and women, but in different ways.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)
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The women are moaning and swooning for the men. Female sexual pleasure is one of the most potent psychological cues for male arousal. Indeed, this may be the most common cue across all varieties of online porn. “Seeing and hearing a woman who is truly turned on like crazy has to be the biggest aphrodisiac I can think of for me,” lauds one man on reddit. “If this happens in porn, and it rarely does, I find it to be fucking amazing.
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Ogi Ogas (A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships)