Norwood Quotes

Do something!" Norwood told him. "Do what?" Uncle Mort's face was furious. "Fly up there and get it? You bring your broomstick, Hel?

The key is in learning how to live a healthy, satisfying, and serene life without being dependent on another person for happiness.

They had completely failed to notice Norwood and Heloise storming out of the house, Uncle Mort scaling the ladder, and the fact he was now staring at them and had been for several minutes. "Good grief," he said. "As if I didn't have enough to worry about." Lex and Driggs jumped apart and wiped spittle from their mouths. "What's up?" Driggs said in a terrible attempt at nonchalance. "Hormone levels obviously.

Listen, here's what I'd like to do: I'd like to live in a trailer and play records all night.

Are you crazy? Flirting with Eli Stock in front of Belissa Norwood, in Belissa Norwood’s house, while eating Belissa Norwood’s cupcakes?

Make your own recovery the first priority in your life. ROBIN NORWOOD

It requires a hard look at what is, rather than what you hope will be. As you let go of managing and controlling, you must also let go of the idea that “when he changes I’ll be happy.” He may never change. You must stop trying to make him. And you must learn to be happy anyway.

Do they pay you by the hour or what? Norwood said to the monocled peanut face.

Don't let your mouth write a check that your ass can't cash, son.

Praising and encouraging are very close to pushing, and when you do that you are trying again to take control of his life. Think about why you are lauding something he’s done. Is it to help raise his self-esteem? That’s manipulation. Is it so he will continue whatever behavior you’re praising? That’s manipulation. Is it so that he’ll know how proud you are of him? That can be a burden for him to carry. Let him develop his own pride from his own accomplishments.

True acceptance of an individual as he is, without trying to change him through encouragement or manipulation or coercion, is a very high form of love, and very difficult for most of us to practice.

All my instincts are one way, and all the facts are the other, and I much fear that British juries have not yet attained that pitch of intelligence when they will give the preference to my theories over Lestrade's facts.

Under no circumstances are you to butter your entire roll and, my God!” she cried suddenly, switching Lan’s hand three times in rapid succession. “Never lick your knife!” “Ouch! Fine! Buggering fuck! Leave off with that beshitted thing!” The dead woman let out a sound like the chirping of a bird, staring at her with an indignation that was nearly horror. “Ladies,” she sputtered at last. “Ladies do not say bugger or fuck!” “But beshitted’s all right?” Lan asked cautiously. “No, it is not!” “You know, I may not be as mannered-up as you are, but in Norwood, it’s rude to yell at the table.

Hungry people make poor shoppers.

Damn you! Hear me now and hear me well. If you die, I will raze your Norwood. I will raze all of them--every village every waystation, every wall. I will make the whole of this world your grave. Do you hear me? How could you do this to me? How could you dare? Answer me!

Taking responsibility for yourself and your happiness gives a great freedom to children who have felt guilty and responsible for your unhappiness (which they always do). A child can never hope to balance the scales or repay the debt when a parent has sacrificed her life, her happiness, her fulfilment for the child or the family. Seeing a parent fully embrace life gives a child the permission to do the same, just as seeing a parent suffer indicates to the child that suffering is what life is all about.

Well married, a man is winged—ill-matched, he is shackled.

Self-will means believing that you alone have all the answers. Letting go of self-will means becoming willing to hold still, be open, and wait for guidance for yourself. It means learning to let go of fear (all of the “what ifs”) and despair (all of the “if onlys”) and replacing them with positive thoughts and statements about your life.

If you have an active faith, and you regularly worship and frequently pray, developing your spirituality may mean trusting that what is happening in your life has its own reason and its own results, and that God is in charge of your partner, not you. Take quiet time to meditate and pray, and to ask for guidance in how to live your own life while you release those around you to live theirs.

I like chickens,” said Norwood. “You can go in a chicken house at night and they’re all sitting there on them poles facing the front like they was riding an elevator.

Yes, but that was the way she wanted to do it. And furthermore she didn’t want him going out there with her now. Three exclamation marks appeared over Norwood’s head. No, her mind was made up.

There is an old joke about a nearsighted man who has lost his keys late at night and is looking for them by the light of a street lamp. Another person comes along and offers to help him look but asks him, “Are you sure this is where you lost them?” He answers, “No, but this is where the light is.

Perception is theory-laden.

I always thought I just wanted to be loved and the reality is I chose only people who weren’t capable of loving me.

it is this very practice of acceptance that allows another to change if he chooses to do so.

Watch it now. You’re taking liberties. Don’t make things any worse than they are. Don’t let your mouth write a check that your ass can’t cash, son.

Most of us have the ability to be far happier and more fulfilled as individuals than we realize. Often, we don’t claim that happiness because we believe someone else’s behavior is preventing us from doing so. We ignore our obligation to develop ourselves while we scheme and maneuver and manipulate to change someone else, and we become angry and discouraged and depressed when our efforts fail. Trying to change someone else is frustrating and depressing, but exercising the power we have to effect change in our own life is exhilarating.

They later moved to a tin-roof house that was situated in a gas field under a spectacular flare that burned all the time. Big copper-green beetles the size of mice came from all over the Southland to see it and die in it. At night their corpses pankled down on the tin roof.

Women from dysfunctional homes (and especially, I have observed, from alcoholic homes) are overrepresented in the helping professions, working as nurses, counselors, therapists, and social workers. We are drawn to those who are needy, compassionately identifying with their pain and seeking to relieve it in order to ameliorate our own.

We all tend to believe that suffering is a mark of true love, that to refuse to suffer is selfish, and that if a man has a problem then a woman should help him change.

The bloodstain expert who testified against Quincy was a former Denver homicide detective named Paul Norwood. After working crime scenes for a few years, he had decided to

After all, he had secrets to keep about his sexual identity and behavior, and having a wife made him look more ‘normal’ than not having one. I guess that was what he meant when he said he needed me.

THE SECURE, THE ANXIOUS, AND THE AVOIDANT Adult attachment designates three main “attachment styles,” or manners in which people perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships, which parallel those found in children:

A ‘library’ turned out to be a room where books were read. The fact that people used to have so many books that they needed a whole separate room just to store them, much less a word for the room, said everything Lan guessed she needed to know about the way the world used to be. In Norwood, loose pictures and salvaged magazines were locked up like other valuables. The mayor had a few books, including the town ledger where Lan’s own name had been written on the day of her birth and presumably crossed out along with her mother’s the day she’d left, but all of them together could have fit on one shelf. Here was a room the size of the dining hall, two stories tall and lined in bookshelves, with ladders on runners along every wall so that no shelf was out of reach. These were books that could not be measured in hundreds or even thousands, but in some greater number that had no name. If only she knew how to read.

The Greeks were smarter. They used different words, eros and agape, to distinguish between these two profoundly different ways of experiencing what we call “love.” Eros, of course, refers to passionate love, while agape describes the stable and committed relationship, free of passion, that exists between two individuals who care deeply for each other. The contrast of eros and agape allows us to understand our dilemma when we look for both these kinds of love at one time, in one relationship with one person. It also helps us see why eros and agape each have their champions, those who claim that one or the other is the only real way of experiencing love, for indeed each has its very special beauty, truth, and worth. And each type of love also lacks something precious, which only the other has to offer. Let’s look at how proponents of each would describe being in love.

To be without the relationship, that is to be alone with oneself, can be experienced as worse than being in the greatest pain the relationship produces because to be alone means to feel the stirrings of the great pain from the past combined with that of the present.

It has already been noted that children in dysfunctional families feel responsible for their family's problems and also for solving them. There are basically three ways in which children attempt to save their families: by being invisible, ,by being bad, or by being good.

Lewis B. Norwood, a wealthy North Carolina planter, was killed by two of his slaves. A husband and wife, they held him down, shoved a funnel into his mouth, and poured scalding water down his throat. (Norwood had just sold the couple’s baby and was preparing to sell the wife.)

To be invisible means to never ask for anything, never cause trouble, never make any kind of demand. The child who chooses this role scrupulously avoids adding any burden to her already stressed family. She stays in her room, or blends into the wallpaper, she says very little and makes what she does say noncommittal. In school she is neither bad nor good, in fact, she is rarely remembered at all, her contribution to the family is to not exist. As for her own pain, she is numb, she feels nothing.

Mrs. Whichcoat came in the back door with an empty wire basket. She hung it up in the pantry and took off her brown garden gloves. “All the hens have stopped laying,” she said. “I didn’t get one egg.” There was a note of despair in her voice but no surprise. It was as though she had warned all along that there would be treachery one day in the hen house.

There is no logical staircase running from the physics of 10-28 cm. to the physics of 1028 light-years.

The more lovingly and generously we treat ourselves, the less likely we are to allow anyone else to treat us badly.

You should of got a medal.” “You don’t get medals for things like that. Unless you’re a officer. They give ’em to each other.

Cuando sucede algo emocionalmente doloroso y nos decimos que la culpa es nuestra, en realidad estamos diciendo que tenemos control sobre ello: si nosotros cambiamos, el dolor desaparecerá.

In a dysfunctional family, there is always a shared denial of reality. No matter how serious the problems are the family does not become dysfunctional unless there is denial operating Further, should any family member attempt to break through this denial by, for instance, describing the family situation in accurate terms the rest of the family will usually strongly resist that perception. Often ridicule will be used to bring that person back into line or failing that the renegade family member will be excluded from the circle of acceptance, affection, and activity.

Developing your spirituality, no matter what your religious orientation, basically means letting go of self-will, of the determination to make things happen the way you think they should. Instead, you must accept the fact that you may not know what is best in a given situation either for yourself or for another person. There may be outcomes and solutions that you have never considered, or perhaps the ones you’ve most feared and tried hardest to forestall may be exactly what is necessary in order for things to begin to improve. Self-will means believing that you alone have all the answers. Letting go of self-will means becoming willing to hold still, be open, and wait for guidance for yourself. It means learning to let go of fear (all of the “what ifs”) and despair (all of the “if onlys”) and replacing them with positive thoughts and statements about your life.

Pero cuando usted trata de solucionarle sus problemas, él queda liberado de su propia responsabilidad por su propia vida. Entonces usted queda a cargo del bienestar de él, y cuando sus esfuerzos fallan, él la culpará a usted.

I wonder if you really love me. Do you?” “Yeah.” “Do you think you can say it?” “I will sometime. Not on the bus.” “You don’t mind saying it in a song, why can’t you say it talking?” “A song is different. You’re just singing a song there.” “It’s not hard for people who really mean it to say it.” “It is if somebody’s trying to make you say it. When somebody gets your arm around behind you and wants to make you say ‘calf rope,’ well, you don’t want to say it then.

After lunch they looked through some stuff in the garage and found a long narrow cage suitable for Joann to travel in. It had once served as a humane catch-’em-alive mink trap, and in fact no mink had ever entered it, such was its humanity.

Avem o anume senzaţie că aparţinem acelui bărbat - partener de dans - care ne lasă să executăm paşii pe care-i ştim deja. Cu el şi nu cu altul, hotărâm să stabilim relaţia pe care s-o facem să meargă. Nu există o substanţă chimică mai atrăgătoare decât sentimentul de tainică familiaritate apărut când se întâlnesc un bărbat şi o femeie ale căror modele de comportament se îmbină perfect ca piesele dintr-un joc de puzzle. (...) cu cât a fost mai mare durerea în copilărie, cu atât e mai puternic impulsul de a o reconstitui şi stăpâni la maturitate.

Instantaneous interpretation hails from the Limbo that produced unsensed sensibilia, unconscious inference, incorrigible statements, negative facts and Objektive. These are ideas which philosophers force on the world to preserve some pet epistemological or metaphysical theory.

She also saw an interesting sight. On a curve not far from Little Rock a busload of Elks had turned over. The bus was on its right side in the ditch, the front wheels still slowly turning, and the Elks were surfacing one at a time through the escape hatch on the left side, now topside. One Elk was lying on the grass, maybe dead, no ball game for him, and others were limping and hopping about and holding their heads. Another one, in torn shirt-sleeves, was sitting on a suitcase on top of the bus. He was not lifting a finger to help but as each surviving brother Elk stuck his head up through the hatchway, he gave a long salute from his compressed-air horn. The big Trailways cruiser began to slow down. When the man saw this he turned with his noise device and hooted it -- there could be no mistake -- at the driver. Norwood was talking to a man with bulging eyes across the aisle who had gone broke in Mississippi selling premium beer for $3.95 a case on credit, and they both missed it, that hooting part. They did help load the injured into ambulances. The former tavern keeper found a silver dollar in the grass and kept it.

IS The Mansion haunted, do you think?" "Naw. There ain't no REAL haunted houses--just in the fuckin movies. But if there ever WAS one, it'd be The Mansion. I heard that a couple of years ago, two kids from Norwood Street went in there to bump uglies and the cops found em with their throats cut and all the blood drained out of their bodies. But there wasn't any blood on em or around em. Get it? The blood was ALL GONE." "You shittin me?" "Nope. But that wasn't the worst thing." "What was?" "Their hair was dead white. Both of em. And their eyes were wide open and staring, like they saw the most gross-awful thing in the world." "Aw, gimme a break.

Eros: Real love is an all-consuming, desperate yearning for the beloved, who is perceived as different, mysterious, and elusive. The depth of love is measured by the intensity of obsession with the loved one. There is little time or attention for other interests or pursuits, because so much energy is focused on recalling past encounters or imagining future ones. Often, great obstacles must be overcome, and thus there is an element of suffering in true love. Another indication of the depth of love is the willingness to endure pain and hardship for the sake of the relationship. Associated with real love are feelings of excitement, rapture, drama, anxiety, tension, mystery, and yearning. Agape: Real love is a partnership to which two caring people are deeply committed. These people share many basic values, interests, and goals, and tolerate good-naturedly their individual differences. The depth of love is measured by the mutual trust and respect they feel toward each other. Their relationship allows each to be more fully expressive, creative, and productive in the world. There is much joy in shared experiences both past and present, as well as those that are anticipated. Each views the other as his/ her dearest and most cherished friend. Another measure of the depth of love is the willingness to look honestly at oneself in order to promote the growth of the relationship and the deepening of intimacy. Associated with real love are feelings of serenity, security, devotion, understanding, companionship, mutual support, and comfort.

This done and finished my Proclamation, I returned to the Nazeby, where my Lord was much pleased to hear how all the fleet took it in a transport of joy, showed me a private letter of the King's to him, and another from the Duke of York in such familiar style as to their common friend, with all kindness imaginable. And I found by the letters, and so my Lord told me too, that there had been many letters passed between them for a great while, and I perceive unknown to Monk. And among the rest that had carried these letters Sir John Boys is one, and that Mr. Norwood, which had a ship to carry him over the other day, when my Lord would not have me put down his name in the book. The King speaks of his being courted to come to the Hague, but do desire my Lord's advice whither to come to take ship.

Una familia disfuncional es aquella en que los miembros juegan papeles rígidos y en la cual la comunicación está severamente restringida a las declaraciones que se adecuan a estos roles. Los miembros no tienen libertad para expresar todo un espectro de experiencias, deseos, necesidades y sentimientos, sino que deben limitarse a jugar el papel que se adapte al de los demás miembros de la familia. En las familias disfuncionales, los aspectos principales de la realidad se niegan, y los papeles permanecen rígidos.

This stuff is cheap but it’s very nutritious.” He picked up the can and read from it. “Listen to this: ‘beef tripe, beef hearts, beef, pork, salt, vinegar, flavoring, sugar and sodium nitrite.’ Do you know what tripe is?” “It’s the gut part.” “That’s what I thought. I suspected it was something like that.” “It’s all meat. Meat is meat. Have you ever eat any squirrel brains?” “No, how are they?” “About like calf brains. They’re not bad if you don’t think about it. The bad part is cracking them little skulls open. One thing I won’t eat is hog’s head cheese. My sister Vernell, you can turn her loose with a spoon and she’ll eat a pound of it before she gets up. Some people call it souse.” “Why do they call it that?” “I don’t know. You got to have a name for everything.” “Yes, I hadn’t thought of that. Well, they’re both good names. Tripe. Souse.

All things seemed in their kinds to be my enemies... It seemed then to my apprehension to proceed from indignation, wrath, and as it were a gnashing of teeth against me.

But I was born here.” The tattooist laughed. “No, you weren’t.” Ezra’s tiny world began to twist and tumble. “I grew up down here.” “You came very young, it’s true—the youngest I’ve known. The only demon I’ve ever watched grow and age, but no child is born here. There are no children. No one under sixteen. You haven’t noticed?” “I thought I was different.” “You are. You look more…normal than the rest of us.

You’re not going to make it to the surface. Why don’t you fuck off and let someone else have your place in the Corriendo?

A reminder about hosts,” Vine said. “It’s wise not to stay inside one for too long, or you’ll leave them a gibbering wreck.

You use the hosts to find the right targets. Thieves, thugs, murderers, bankers, lawyers. The obvious fuck-ups. The ones like you.” A ripple of chuckles circled the room.

You—are the lucky ones. The vast majority of demons never have a chance to return to the mortal plane. You are our future vanatori—our hunters. Providing you meet the grade.” “Except for Worm,” someone whispered.

All heads swiveled to face Ezra, including those of the spiders. “He’s entitled to this opportunity,” Vine said. But Ezra knew he wasn’t being treated fairly. The others knew far more about this than him. He suspected there had been meetings he’d never been invited to.

Also in the wallet will be the details of one item you’re required to bring back,” Vine said, “apart from the energy of ten people. Remember, failure means this is the last trip you’ll ever make.

Make sure you maintain a disguise, or you’ll freak everyone out.” He glanced at Ezra. “Some of you have more work to do than others on that. Your tattoos will help you blend in.” “How?” Ezra asked. And why do I have more work to do than the others? As usual, Vine ignored him. Ezra hoped someone else would ask questions, but no one spoke.

He couldn’t help it. Level eight was bad enough from what he’d been told, though he knew better than to believe anyone. Air too hot to breathe, water too hot to drink, every surface sharp and jagged, but the pit was what they all feared—a place where they’d be torn apart over and over.

You know I don’t approve of you going to the surface,” Vine said. Ezra gave a small nod. He still didn’t understand why he’d been included in this group. “But it’s been decided you’re to have this chance.” Who decided? Why? He’d asked when he’d heard the news but had been told if he asked again, he was out of the Corriendo. He wasn’t going to risk pressing now.

Ask to be whipped, not fucked, and maybe you’d avoid a whipping. But Ezra no longer tried to manipulate the situation. He let Marax and any other demon more powerful than Marax do what they wanted. Acquiescence was less painful. Sucking Marax off and sucking up to him had kept Ezra relatively safe.

Ezra had been born in hell and lived there all of his life, though he’d never had anyone he remembered calling mother or father.

Of all the animals raised for food, broiler chickens, layer hens, and pigs are kept in the worst conditions by a considerable margin. The only quantitative estimates of farmed animal welfare I’ve been able to find come from Bailey Norwood, an economist and agricultural expert. He rated the welfare of different animals on a scale of –10 to 10, where negative numbers indicate that it would be better, from the animal’s perspective, to be dead rather than alive. He rates beef cattle at 6 and dairy cows at 4. In contrast his average rating for broiler chickens is –1, and for pigs and caged hens is –5. In other words, cows raised for food live better lives than chicken, hens, or pigs, which suffer terribly.

Todos, cada uno de nosotros, estamos llenos de horror. Si te casas para espantar tu horror, sólo lograrás casar tu horror con el de otra persona; los dos horrores tendrá el matrimonio, tú sangrarás y llamarás a eso amor. Michael Ventura,

Nuestra propia necesidad de amor, atención, cariño y seguridad quedó insatisfecha mientras fingíamos ser más poderosas y menos temerosas, más adultas y menos necesitadas, de lo que realmente nos sentíamos.

Es una mujer de buen corazón enamorada de un oportunista lo ama a pesar de sus modales perversos que ella no entiende. Mujer de buen corazón

Passion literally means suffering, and it is often the case that the greater the suffering, the deeper the passion. The price we pay for stable commitment is the boredom of safety and security.

Cuando estar enamorada significa sufrir, estamos amando demasiado.

El hecho de que Randy no la quisiera era algo que Jill no podía aceptar. Ella ya había decidido que Randy la necesitaba.

Tal vez su padre, al tiempo que proporcionaba un hogar económicamente seguro, sentía un profundo rechazo y desconfianza hacia las mujeres, y su incapacidad de amarla evitó que usted se amara a sí misma.

importante entender que lo que todas las familias disfuncionales tienen en común es la incapacidad de discutir problemas de raíz.

Una familia disfuncional es aquella en que los miembros juegan roles rígidos y en la cual la comunicación está severamente restringida a las declaraciones que se adecuan a esos roles. Los miembros no tienen libertad para expresar todo un espectro de experiencias, deseos, necesidades y sentimientos, sino que deben limitarse a jugar el papel que se adapte al de los demás miembros de la familia.

En las familias disfuncionales, los aspectos principales de la realidad se niegan, y los roles permanecen rígidos.

Porque gran parte de aquello hacia lo cual nos vemos atraídas es una réplica de lo que vivimos mientras crecíamos. Volvemos a lastimarnos una y otra vez.

3. Debido a que usted nunca pudo convertir a su( s) progenitor( es) en los seres atentos y cariñosos que usted ansiaba, reacciona profundamente ante la clase de hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles a quienes puede volver a intentar cambiar, por medio de su amor.

12. Es probable que usted esté predispuesta emocionalmente y, a menudo, bioquímicamente, para volverse adicta a las drogas, al alcohol y/ o a ciertas comidas, en particular los dulces.

Culpamos, nos aferramos a la esperanza de que podremos descubrir lo que estamos haciendo mal y corregirlo, controlando así la situación y deteniendo el dolor.

Inexorablemente atraída hacia alguien con quien pudiera recrear el clima emocionalmente carente de su niñez con su padre, su matrimonio fue una oportunidad de que volviera a intentar ganar un amor reprimido.

Cuando las experiencias de nuestra niñez son particularmente dolorosas, a menudo nos vemos obligados inconscientemente a recrear situaciones similares durante toda la vida, en un impulso de obtener el control sobre ellas.

Hemos amado y necesitado a un progenitor que no nos correspondía, a menudo nos comprometemos con una persona similar, o con una serie de ellas, en la edad adulta, en un intento de "ganar" la vieja lucha por ser amados.

Buscaba lo que faltaba en su vida, no donde tenía esperanzas de encontrarlo, sino donde le resultaba más fácil buscarlo, ya que era una mujer que amaba demasiado.

Más crítico aun es el hecho de que sus percepciones y sentimientos hayan sido, en su mayor parte, ignorados o negados en lugar de ser aceptados y valorados.

Las familias disfuncionales presentan muchos estilos y variedades, pero todas comparten un mismo efecto sobre los hijos que crecen en ellas: esos hijos sufren cierto grado de daño en su capacidad de sentir y relacionarse. 2. Habiendo recibido poco afecto, usted trata de compensar indirectamente esa necesidad insatisfecha proporcionando afecto, especialmente a hombres que parecen, de alguna manera, necesitados.

Las mujeres que provienen de hogares disfuncionales (y especialmente, según he observado, las que provienen de hogares alcohólicos) se encuentran en enorme cantidad en las profesiones asistenciales, trabajando como enfermeras, consejeras, terapeutas y asistentes sociales. Nos vemos atraídas hacia los necesitados; nos identificamos con compasión con su dolor y tratamos de aliviarlos para poder disminuir el nuestro.

Todas las mujeres que aman demasiado han experimentado por lo menos un profundo abandono emocional, con todo el terror y el vacío que eso implica. Pero lo que haya estado mal, lo que haya faltado o haya sido doloroso en el pasado es lo que usted está tratando de corregir en el presente.

Si nuestros padres no nos encuentran dignas de su amor y atención, ¿cómo podemos creer que realmente somos buenas personas?. Muy pocas mujeres que aman demasiado tienen la convicción, en el centro de su ser, de que merecen amar y ser amadas simplemente porque existen. En cambio, creemos que albergamos terribles defectos o fallas y que debemos hacer buenas obras para compensarlos. Vivimos sintiéndonos culpables por tener esas deficiencias y temerosas de que nos descubran. Nos esforzamos mucho en tratar de parecer buenas, porque no creemos serlo.

9. Necesita con desesperación controlar a sus hombres y sus relaciones, debido a la poca seguridad que experimentó en la niñez. Disimula sus esfuerzos por controlar a la gente y las situaciones bajo la apariencia de "ser útil". es inevitable que una niña sienta pánico por la falta de control de la familia. No puede contar con las personas de las que depende porque están demasiado enfermas para protegerla. Al ser fuertes y útiles para los demás nos protegemos del pánico que surge al estar a merced de otro. Necesitamos estar con gente a quien podamos ayudar, a fin de sentirnos seguras y bajo control.

A menudo forma equipo con un hombre de menor experiencia sexual, para poder sentirse en control. Anhela la intimidad física, pero debido a que teme verse envuelta por otro y/ o abrumada por su propia necesidad de afecto, sólo se siente cómoda con la distancia emocional creada y mantenida por la tensión de la relación. Se vuelve temerosa cuando un hombre está dispuesto a acompañarla emocional y sexualmente. Huye de él o bien lo aleja.

Agape: El verdadero amor es una sociedad con la cual dos personas que se quieren están profundamente comprometidas. Esas personas comparten muchos valores, intereses y objetivos básicos, y toleran de buen grado sus diferencias individuales. La profundidad del amor se mide por la confianza y el respeto mutuos. La relación permite a cada integrante de la pareja ser más plenamente expresivo, creativo y productivo en el mundo. Hay mucha alegría en las experiencias compartidas, pasadas y presentes, al igual que en las venideras. Cada integrante de la pareja ve al otro como su amigo más querido. Otra medida de la profundidad del amor es la voluntad de verse a sí mismo con honestidad a fin de promover el crecimiento de la relación y la profundización de la intimidad. Al verdadero amor se asocian sentimientos de serenidad, seguridad, devoción, comprensión, compañerismo, apoyo mutuo y bienestar.

El precio que pagamos por la pasión es el miedo, y el mismo dolor y el mismo miedo que alimentan al amor apasionado también pueden destruirlo. El precio que pagamos por un compromiso estable es el aburrimiento, y la misma seguridad y la misma solidez que cimentan una relación así también pueden hacerla rígida y sin vida.

cuando las cosas empezaron a desmoronarse entre ella y papá, quise compensarla. Su felicidad era para mí lo más importante del mundo. Yo sentía que tenía que compensarla por las cosas que hacía mi padre y que la lastimaban, y lo único que yo sabía hacer era ser buena

Sin embargo, si nuestros padres se relacionaron con nosotras en forma hostil, crítica, cruel, manipuladora, dictatorial, demasiado dependiente, o en otras formas inadecuadas, eso es lo que nos parecerá "correcto" cuando conozcamos a alguien que exprese, quizá de manera muy sutil, matices de las mismas actitudes y conductas. Sin embargo, si nuestros padres se relacionaron con nosotras en forma hostil, crítica, cruel, manipuladora, dictatorial, demasiado dependiente, o en otras formas inadecuadas, eso es lo que nos parecerá "correcto" cuando conozcamos a alguien que exprese, quizá de manera muy sutil, matices de las mismas actitudes y conductas... Sin embargo, si nuestros padres se relacionaron con nosotras en forma hostil, crítica, cruel, manipuladora, dictatorial, demasiado dependiente, o en otras formas inadecuadas, eso es lo que nos parecerá "correcto" cuando conozcamos a alguien que exprese, quizá de manera muy sutil, matices de las mismas actitudes y conductas.