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There is nothing around me but money, money, money.
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Stephen Richards
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If you want him to do it, you've got to change the picture of the world inside his head.
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Robert Penn Warren (All the King's Men)
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Without enthusiasm then what we have surrounded ourselves with becomes worthless.
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Stephen Richards
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To control your life, control your mind. To control your mind, control your breath.
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Stephen Richards
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The only secret of wealth creation is knowing how to use Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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When life's got you down, keep your head up... you can't see the ground anyway
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Nicole Rae
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No matter what your wishes, they are not crazy so long as they are not crazy to you!
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Stephen Richards
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Willful blindness sees no end of damage done.
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Stephen Richards
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Run and hide or rise and shine ...
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Stephen Richards
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It has taken me a lot of years, but I find silence is sometimes the best answer.
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Stephen Richards
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Human beings are incredibly slow, Cosmic Ordering is incredibly fast!
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Connection: Change your life within minutes!)
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but if forced to think about it, I was probably borderline demi-sexual. I found people visually appealing all the time, but my libido felt absolutely no motivation to pipe up.
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A.J. Sherwood (Jon's Downright Ridiculous Shooting Case (Jon's Mysteries, #1))
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Become your own success story, not someone else's.
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Stephen Richards
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Stop harboring grudges against those who have wronged you, it just holds you back when you really want to be in the NOW.
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Stephen Richards
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Just be you. That's the best advice I can give. There are seven billion people in this world and there is no one like you.
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Ed Sheeran (Ed Sheeran: A Visual Journey)
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Remove whatever you no longer need in your life, to make room for what you do need in your life.
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Avis J. Williams
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Your reality is a reflection of yourself
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Avis J. Williams
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Music is a complete evocation – like a smell. It can bring an entire memory and feeling back to you in a rush. Much more complete than even a photograph. You allow yourself a certain visual distance with photos – not music. It envelopes you – there’s no way to escape it. It’s a great test of sensitivity – the degree of reaction to music. I use it all the time. I call it my ‘Music Test.’ People today don’t want to hear the truth. They’re really afraid of tranquility and silence – they’re afraid they might begin to understand their own motivations too well. They keep a steady stream of noise going to protect themselves, to build a wall against the truth. Like African natives, beating on their drums, rattling their gourds, shaking the bells to scare off evil spirits. As long as there’s enough noise, there’s nothing to fear – or hear. But they will listen. Times are changing.
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Anton Szandor LaVey (The Secret Life of a Satanist: The Authorized Biography of Anton LaVey)
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To visualize that which doesn't exist, yet to believe with confidence that it can be realized, is truly something miraculous.
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Richard D. Sagor (Motivating Students and Teachers in an Era of Standards)
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Follow your heart. It will lead you to where you need to be.
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Avis J. Williams
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When I try to analyze my own cravings, motives, actions and so forth, I surrender to a sort of retrospective imagination which feeds the analytic faculty with boundless alternatives and which causes each visualized route to fork and re-fork without end in the maddeningly complex prospect of my past.
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Vladimir Nabokov (Lolita)
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Thoughts create emotions, emotions create feelings and feelings create behaviour. So it’s very important that our thoughts are positive, to attract the right people, events and circumstances into our lives.
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Avis J. Williams (The Psychic Mind: A Practical Guide to Psychic Development & Spiritual Growth)
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What I call “power vision” is the powerful effect that comes from visualizing something that you want to happen, believing in it, practicing that visualization, and then—shazam!—like a superpower, it becomes true. All you have to do is imagine what you want, envision it, and believe.
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Art Rios (Let's Talk: ...About Making Your Life Exciting, Easier, And Exceptional)
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As with visual illusions, we can’t make our minds work differently than they do no matter how smart we are. Just as we can’t unsee an illusion, intellect or willpower alone can’t make us resist motivated reasoning.
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Annie Duke (Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts)
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Ignite the light within you, it will make your world brighter.
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Avis J. Williams
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Focus on what you can do right now, not what you can't do right now
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Avis J. Williams
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To change your life, you need to become aware of yourself
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Avis J. Williams
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The real winners I've met in life weren't necessarily skilled or perfect. They just had the tenacity to never, ever give up.
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Curtis Rivers (Seven Paths to Freedom)
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We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we respond to things we can’t control.
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Avis J. Williams
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If you do not completely accept yourself, you can not love yourself fully. It would be hard to love anything unconditionally.
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Avis J. Williams
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Everybody talks about being rich, Cosmic Ordering does something about it.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful)
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Often the only difference between success and failure is not using Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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The universe only exist within us. All of what is outside of us is also within us.
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Avis J. Williams
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With a burning ambition, sustained focus, and daily action - there simply are no limits to what you will achieve.
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Curtis Rivers (Seven Paths to Freedom)
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When life gives you lemons, use Cosmic Ordering!
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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Believe and achieve with Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Connection: Change your life within minutes!)
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Cosmic Ordering success sticks to you like mud to a blanket.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful)
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On the road to success some will always expect tragedy ... ditch your doubts and experience success with Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Connection: Change your life within minutes!)
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Whatever your desire, use Cosmic Ordering to get what you require!
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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In the beginning man was poor, then along came Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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A clever person solves a problem; a wise person uses Cosmic Ordering!
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful)
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Twenty years from now you will be disappointed you never used Cosmic Ordering today.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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A man may fail many times, and then he turns to Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Connection: Change your life within minutes!)
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To fail is nothing, unless you continue to ignore Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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There are more triumphs than defeats with Cosmic Ordering.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful)
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Nobody is really an expert, as we are all still learning.
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Avis J. Williams
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Follow the dreams that your heart visualizes, as what you actually see is just an illusion of temporary contentment.
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Vikrmn: CA Vikram Verma
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What was it that motivated you to tidy in the first place? What do you hope to gain through tidying? Before you start getting rid of things, take the time to think this through carefully. This means visualizing the ideal lifestyle you dream of.
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Marie Kondō (The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing (Magic Cleaning #1))
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Your hopes and dreams are like a giant helium balloon, tugging on your hand to take you above the clouds, to that quiet place of peace and contentment. All you have to do is stop resisting, to let go - and ALLOW your hopes and dreams to take you there.
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Curtis Rivers (Seven Paths to Freedom)
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You cannot change the past, but you can make a difference now
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Avis J. Williams
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The more often you visualize your success and the more details you envision, the more motivated you’ll feel.
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Beverly K. Bachel (What Do You Really Want? How to Set a Goal and Go for It! A Guide for Teens)
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Love brings you closer to yourself
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Avis J. Williams
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Everything starts from inside of us, then comes outside of us.
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Avis J. Williams
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Don't believe everything you are told, if it resonates within you, then listen and act.
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Avis J. Williams
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Most anxiety and worry comes from imagining a worst case scenario. For one current fear, practice visualizing a best-case scenario instead.
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Lauren Martin (Fear is a Volcano (Emotion Series))
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We are already abundant, we have everything we need within us, to live a purposeful and fulfilling life.
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Avis J. Williams
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The difficulties and challenges in your life are the lessons you need to learn to grow and development.
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Avis J. Williams
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Failures and mistakes are lessons to be learned from. They are opportunities for growth.
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Avis J. Williams
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Your past karma is what you found difficult or challenging in this life. To heal your past karma you would need to learn your life lessons for this life.
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Avis J. Williams
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We are all teachers, we all have knowledge and experiences that can teach others.
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Avis J. Williams
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It doesn't matter what other people think of you. What really matters is what you think of yourself.
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Avis J. Williams
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You are consciousness within your body and mind
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Avis J. Williams
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Let go of how you perceive others and how others perceive you.
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Avis J. Williams
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What Are the Five Steps to Monroe’s Motivated Sequence? It goes like this: Attention Need Satisfaction Visualization Action
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Peter Andrei (Interpersonal Communication: How to Win Clients and Influence Teams: Know exactly what to say, gain communication skills, and master the people skills ... and job hunting. (Speak for Success Book 8))
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Different social media networks are used for different communication to the extent that the written word still prevails over visuals. However, in the future, it will be other way around.
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Maxim Behar (The Global PR Revolution: How Thought Leaders Succeed in the Transformed World of PR)
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In fact, one of the best predictors of dominance is the ratio of “eye contact while speaking” to “eye contact while listening.” Psychologists call this the visual dominance ratio. Imagine yourself out to lunch with a coworker. When it’s your turn to talk, you spend some fraction of the time looking into your coworker’s eyes (and the rest of the time looking away). Similarly, when it’s your turn to listen, you spend some fraction of the time making eye contact. If you make eye contact for the same fraction of time while speaking and listening, your visual dominance ratio will be 1.0, indicative of high dominance. If you make less eye contact while speaking, however, your ratio will be less than 1.0 (typically hovering around 0.6), indicative of low dominance.53
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Kevin Simler (The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Motives in Everyday Life)
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Dream big, dream fearless and dream beyond limits!
Visualize it, Believe and Take Action!, Do not allow anything or anyone to hinder or limit you.
Challenges come to strengthen you! No, it is not easy but worth it!
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Sparkles A. Summers
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That's why I don't like making fun of people for admitting they don't know something or never learned how to do something. Because if you do that, all it does is teach them not to tell you when they're learning something...and you miss out on the fun.
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Randall Munroe (How To Absurd Scientific Advice For Common Real-world Problems By Randall Munroe & How Technology Works The facts visually explained By DK 2 Books Collection Set)
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The apps start out with seemingly simple motivations, as entertainment that could lead to a business: Facebook is for connecting with friends and family, YouTube is for watching videos, Twitter is for sharing what’s happening now, and Instagram is for sharing visual moments. And then, as they enmesh themselves in everyday life, the rewards systems of their products, fueled by the companies’ own attempts to measure their success, have a deeper impact on how people behave than any branding or marketing could ever achieve.
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Sarah Frier (No Filter: The Inside Story of Instagram)
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Grab Bag of Questions for Coach and Coachee Who has given you feedback well? What was helpful about how they did it? Have you ever gotten good advice that you rejected? Why? Have you ever received good advice that you took years later? What motivates you? What disheartens you? What’s your learning style? Visual, auditory, big picture, detail oriented? What helps you hear appreciation? What’s something you wish you were better at? Whose feedback-receiving skills do you admire? What did your childhood and family teach you about feedback and learning? What did your early job experiences teach you? What’s the role of time/stages? What’s the role of mood and outlook? What’s the role of religion or spirituality? What has been the impact of major life events? Getting married? Getting laid off or fired? Having children? Death of a parent? What do you dislike most about coaching? About evaluation? What helps you change?
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Douglas Stone (Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well)
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When I try to analyze my own cravings, motives, actions and so forth, I surrender to a sort of retrospective imagination which feeds the analytic faculty with boundless alternatives and which causes each visualized route to fork and re-fork without end in the maddeningly complex prospect of my past. I am convinced, however, that in a certain magic and fateful way Lolita began with Annabel.
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Vladimir Nabokov (Lolita)
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The Sumerians considered themselves destined to “clothe and feed” such gods, because they viewed themselves as the servants, in a sense, of what we would call instinctive forces, “elicited” by the “environment.” Such forces can be reasonably regarded as the Sumerians regarded them—as deities inhabiting a “supracelestial place,” extant prior to the dawn of humanity. Erotic attraction, for example—a powerful god—has a developmental history that predates the emergence of humanity, is associated with relatively “innate” releasing “stimuli” (those that characterize erotic beauty), is of terrible power, and has an existence “transcending” that of any individual who is currently “possessed.” Pan, the Greek god of nature, produced/represented fear (produced “panic”); Ares or the Roman Mars, warlike fury and aggression. We no longer personify such “instincts,” except for the purposes of literary embellishment, so we don't think of them “existing” in a “place” (like heaven, for example). But the idea that such instincts inhabit a space—and that wars occur in that space—is a metaphor of exceeding power and explanatory utility. Transpersonal motive forces do wage war with one another over vast spans of time; are each forced to come to terms with their powerful “opponents” in the intrapsychic hierarchy. The battles between the different “ways of life” (or different philosophies) that eternally characterize human societies can usefully be visualized as combat undertaken by different standards of value (and, therefore, by different hierarchies of motivation). The “forces” involved in such wars do not die, as they are “immortal”: the human beings acting as “pawns of the gods” during such times are not so fortunate.
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Jordan B. Peterson (Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief)
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Zig Ziglar (n.d.) one of the most famous motivational speakers/coaches of all time said that “If you can believe it, you can achieve it” That is also a hugely important idea in Spiritually. The idea of faith and believing in things that you cannot see with your physical eye is also a visualization technique. By having faith we are asking ourselves to believe something is true simply by believing it. It's so simple, it's brilliant! God has given us the tools, we just need to tap into them!
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Shelly Madigan
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Because we don't know, do we? Everyone knows . . . How what happens the way it does? What underlies the anarchy of the train of events, the uncertainties, the mishaps, the disunity, the shocking irregularities that define human affairs? Nobody knows, Professor Roux. "Everyone knows" is the invocation of the cliche and the beginning of the banalization of experience, and it's the solemnity and the sense of authority that people have in voicing the cliché that's so insufferable. What we know is that, in an unclichéd way, nobody knows anything. You can't know anything. The things you know you don't know. Intention? Motive? Consequence? Meaning?
All that we don't know is astonishing. Even more astonishing is what passes for knowing.
As the audience filed back in, I began, cartoonishly, to envisage the fatal malady that, without anyone's recognizing it, was working away inside us, within each and every one of us: to visualize the blood vessels occluding under the baseball caps, the malignancies growing beneath the permed white hair, the organs misfiring, atrophying, shutting down, the hundreds of billions of murderous cells surreptitiously marching this entire audience toward the improbable disaster ahead. I couldn't stop myself. The stupendous decimation that is death sweeping us all away. Orchestra, audience, conductor, technicians, swallows, wrens—think of the numbers for Tanglewood alone just between now and the year 4000. Then multiply that times everything. The ceaseless perishing. What an idea!
What maniac conceived it? And yet what a lovely day it is today, a gift of a day, a perfect day lacking nothing in a Massachusetts vacation spot that is itself as harmless and pretty as any on earth.
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Philip Roth (The Human Stain (The American Trilogy, #3))
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THE SEVEN KEY CHARACTERIZATION VARIABLES Think of these as realms, as areas of potential character illumination. Here they are, in no particular order: Surface affectations and personality—What the world sees and perceives about a character, including quirks, ticks, habits, and visual presentation. Backstory—All that happened in the character’s life before the story begins that conspires to make him who he is now. Character arc—How the character learns lessons and grows (changes) over the course of the story, how she evolves and conquers her most confounding issues. Inner demons and conflicts—The nature of the issues that hold a character back and define his outlook, beliefs, decisions, and actions. Fear of meeting new people, for example, is a demon that definitely compromises one’s life experience. Worldview—An adopted belief system and moral compass; the manifested outcome of backstory and inner demons. Goals and motivations—What drives a character’s decisions and actions, and the belief that the benefits of those decisions and actions outweigh any costs or compromises. Decisions, actions, and behaviors—The ultimate decisions and actions that are the sum of all of the above. Everything about your characters depends on this final variable, and the degree to which the character’s decisions, actions, and behaviors have meaning and impact depends on how well you’ve manipulated the first six variables before, during, and after the moment of decision or action.
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Larry Brooks (Story Engineering)
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My Definite Chief Aim
I, Bruce Lee, will be the first highest paid Oriental super star in the United States. In return, I will give the most exciting performances and render the best of quality in the capacity of an actor. Starting 1970 I will achieve world fame and from then onward till the end of 1980 I will have in my possession $10,000,000. I will live the way I please and achieve inner harmony and happiness.
My aim is to establish a first Gung Fu Institute that will later spread all over the U.S. (I have set a time limit of 10 to 15 years to complete the whole project). My reason in doing this is not the sole objective of making money. The motives are many and among them are: I like to let the world know about the greatness of this Chinese art; I enjoy teaching and helping people; I like to have a well-to-do home for my family; I like to originate something; and the last but yet one of the most important is because gung fu is part of myself.
… Right now, I can project my thoughts into the future. I can see ahead of me. I dream (remember that practical dreamers never quit). I may now own nothing but a little place down in a basement, but once my imagination has got up a full head of steam, I can see painted on a canvas of my mind a picture of a fine, big five or six story Gung Fu Institute with branches all over the States. I am not easily discouraged, readily visualize myself as overcoming obstacles, winning out over setbacks, achieving “impossible” objectives.
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Bruce Lee
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Cohen continued to struggle with his own well-being. Even though he had achieved his life’s dream of running his own firm, he was still unhappy, and he had become dependent on a psychiatrist named Ari Kiev to help him manage his moods. In addition to treating depression, Kiev’s other area of expertise was success and how to achieve it. He had worked as a psychiatrist and coach with Olympic basketball players and rowers trying to improve their performance and overcome their fear of failure. His background building athletic champions appealed to Cohen’s unrelenting need to dominate in every transaction he entered into, and he started asking Kiev to spend entire days at SAC’s offices, tending to his staff. Kiev was tall, with a bushy mustache and a portly midsection, and he would often appear silently at a trader’s side and ask him how he was feeling. Sometimes the trader would be so startled to see Kiev there he’d practically jump out of his seat. Cohen asked Kiev to give motivational speeches to his employees, to help them get over their anxieties about losing money. Basically, Kiev was there to teach them to be ruthless. Once a week, after the market closed, Cohen’s traders would gather in a conference room and Kiev would lead them through group therapy sessions focused on how to make them more comfortable with risk. Kiev had them talk about their trades and try to understand why some had gone well and others hadn’t. “Are you really motivated to make as much money as you can? This guy’s going to help you become a real killer at it,” was how one skeptical staff member remembered Kiev being pitched to them. Kiev’s work with Olympians had led him to believe that the thing that blocked most people was fear. You might have two investors with the same amount of money: One was prepared to buy 250,000 shares of a stock they liked, while the other wasn’t. Why? Kiev believed that the reluctance was a form of anxiety—and that it could be overcome with proper treatment. Kiev would ask the traders to close their eyes and visualize themselves making trades and generating profits. “Surrendering to the moment” and “speaking the truth” were some of his favorite phrases. “Why weren’t you bigger in the trades that worked? What did you do right?” he’d ask. “Being preoccupied with not losing interferes with winning,” he would say. “Trading not to lose is not a good strategy. You need to trade to win.” Many of the traders hated the group therapy sessions. Some considered Kiev a fraud. “Ari was very aggressive,” said one. “He liked money.” Patricia, Cohen’s first wife, was suspicious of Kiev’s motives and believed that he was using his sessions with Cohen to find stock tips. From Kiev’s perspective, he found the perfect client in Cohen, a patient with unlimited resources who could pay enormous fees and whose reputation as one of the best traders on Wall Street could help Kiev realize his own goal of becoming a bestselling author. Being able to say that you were the
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Sheelah Kolhatkar (Black Edge: Inside Information, Dirty Money, and the Quest to Bring Down the Most Wanted Man on Wall Street)
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The external teacher figure in Tibetan Buddhism is considered more of a friend than a mentor. Your esoteric teacher, by contrast, is one you imagine and visualize to be indivisible from the Buddha himself, someone who is a living exemplar of enlightenment. You use your mental power of imagination to propel you toward the enlightened state, to mobilize you to become like your teacher. This altered focus makes the teaching more accessible and immediate. It gives you a personal guide from the outset, a companion on the path but one who is always ahead of you, motivating you. The mentor figure empowers you, not just to play at self-transformation but actually to realize the teaching, to experience the higher goal state. Thus, „mentor devotion“ is a practice of acknowledging or worshiping the Buddha in a model figure of your choice. (p. 9)
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Robert A.F. Thurman (The Jewel Tree of Tibet: The Enlightenment Engine of Tibetan Buddhism)
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Possibilities of your consciousness is beyond even your ability of visualization.
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Paramahamsa Nithyanandahamsa Nithyananda
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Ability to cognise larger visualizations, deeper verbalisations, is maturity of the mind.Maturity of the mind is mandatory for maturity of consciousness.
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Paramahamsa Nithyananda
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In summary, habit tracking (1) creates a visual cue that can remind you to act, (2) is inherently motivating because you see the progress you are making and don’t want to lose it, and (3) feels satisfying whenever you record another successful instance of your habit.
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James Clear (Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones)
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The way the Universe is designed, it is all just waiting for that insignificant little spark from your hearts to set all the beauty and Truth in motion. It is so unimaginably perfect”.
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Gino DiCaprio (The Universal Law of Creation, Chronicles: Book I Secrets and Laws of the Universe - Special Updated Edition)
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visualizes exactly what he wants to achieve; he visualizes much more, because Itzhak Perlman doesn’t just play the violin brilliantly. He reaches into the very depths of people. He grasps ahold of their souls and lifts them up as high as he can. Itzhak Perlman makes people cry, and they don’t know why they are crying. He makes people feel and hear things they have never felt or heard before—things that cannot be put into words but must be witnessed and experienced to be understood and believed. He shares his excitement and passion for life through his music, filling his audience with an inexpressible joy. He energizes people. He inspires people. He moves people. He motivates people. He touches people. He changes people. In his own way, he makes a difference in people’s lives. And having raised up their souls, he sends them home, knowing that he has instilled in them an excitement and passion for life that is almost uncontainable. Moments of genius. The inexpressible expressed.
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Matthew Kelly (The Rhythm of Life: Living Everyday With Passion and Purpose)
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When you decide to become sanyasi, everyday drinking neem juice is compulsory because it removes all parasites from your bio memory and muscle memory which triggers lusty, fantasy visualization.
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Paramahamsa Nithyananda
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If you drink neem juice everyday, all the parasites in your muscle memory and bio memory will be cleansed. Even when the sex hormones are pumped into your body, it just manifests an intense devotion, sweetest secret sacred sentiment. It does not trigger violent, lusty, uncontrollable, agitating, life-negative, suicidal, wild, self-destructive visualization or patterns.
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Paramahamsa Nithyananda
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Top 10 ideas from No More Meltdowns:
1. Each day for several months, have your child imagine the sensations of anger and rehearse the calming strategy, such as: holding a squeeze ball, counting to 10, taking deep breaths, taking a walk and swinging on the swing set. He will be able to do the calming strategy without too much conscious effort (42)
2. Create a schedule of routines that involves visual reminders of their schedule to provide comfort in understanding what to expect next (40)
3. Praise their effort when they are working on a project or attempting a new activity. Those concentrating on their ability get frustrated more easily. In contrast, those attending their level of effort respond to frustration with more motivation and positive feelings. Praise their continued efforts rather than simply praise their current ability (28)
4. Avoid meltdowns by anticipating and preparing for triggering events. Use the Prevention Plan Form (20, 147)
5. Self-calming strategies: Getting a hug, swinging on the swing set, taking a walk, taking deep breaths, counting to 10, holding a favorite toy (a pup) and a squeeze ball. (42) When using humor, ask “Is it okay if I try to make you laugh to get your mind off of this?”(39)
6. Creating rules and consequences is an important starting point. Without rules and consequences, our lives would be chaotic (5)
7. Gradually expose your child to new foods by asking him first to just look at the foods. Next, ask him to smell them, taste them and eventually eat a small piece. Begin with sweet items (even candy) to allow your child to be open to trying new things. Exercise just prior to trying a new food can increase appetite (77, 78, 80)
8. A child’s passion can be the most effective distraction. Suggestions: Getting hugs, stuffed animals, favorite toys, books and looking out the window (38)
9. Give your child a sticker for each night he sleeps in his own bed. Most importantly, praise him so that he can take pride in his independence (143)
10. Set a time to do homework soon after school, before he gets too tired, and right after as snack, so he’s not hungry. Break down the homework into small steps and ask him to do one tiny part of it. Once started, he will likely be willing to do other parts as well (70)
When children feel accepted and appreciated by us, they are more likely to listen to us (9)
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Jed Baker PhD (No More Meltdowns: Positive Strategies for Managing and Preventing Out-Of-Control Behavior)
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Life’s greetings
Yesterday, it was mildly sunny and life was seeking its usual delights,
Rejoicing in human struggles and their feelings of despondency and wretched plights,
It moved from one lane to another, one passage to the next and from the road to a new highway,
To claim its victims whose number always increased whether it was night or it was day,
And as it happened to cross an allay and it ogled at man who happened to be there,
She went towards him and into him life sank at that very moment, right there,
The man walked briskly clueless about what had happened,
Suddenly his emotional senses deepened,
And he ran in all directions, from lanes into gullies, from highways to narrow passages,
Life had held him in ceaseless array of cages,
Fate tossed him around, chance pushed him everywhere, and then serendipity held him somewhere,
Until the man was lost in the strifes of life that had possessed him from everywhere,
Life was happening right in front him but now it was acting through him,
It did not matter whether he was passing through endless highways or gullies slim,
Fate played its every trick on him while chance tried its best to make him believe in diabolic energy,
He appeared to have lost with his own life that faint sense of synergy,
Because life that represented everything was seeking something from this man,
He experienced worlds that existed beyond common imagination of any woman or man,
But life that stirred a heavock within him, wanted him to believe life was indeed pernicious,
But the man kept believing life was indeed beatiful and not so noxious,
So he dealt with fate, with chances, with serendipity as well,
While he was trying to deal with life that represented everything and had created in him a strife’s bottomless hell,
One day he realised it was but a cunning manipulation, where one street led to another, designed to go on forever,
And when he decided to observe everything, appreciate all, but follow them all he should never,
Because every street led to another lane, that further led to another street,
Where life at every turn was waiting in a new desire’s disguise from which he could never retreat,
And finally when he had reached the end of the street, that merged with another,
He looked around, felt his heartbeat and whispered slowly, “I know visual desires make you seek one after another!”
Then the life that had sank into him appeared before him and spoke,
“You are the only man who has uncovered this secret, and you shall be the only one who my spell broke,
So I grant you my all gifts and I shall be your guide now onwards, and never shall I leave you,
Because in you I shall now rest, because the peace I have been seeking for long now, I only find it in you,
And for this I shall live in you forever and be yours now and later too,
When life doesn't walk on the streets, but there where heavens meet; there too I shall be waiting for you,
Because you are the wonder life has never witnessed nor shall it witness ever,
And I loved being nestled inside you as your slightly cussed lover,
Go now, and seek your every wish, for I grant you the universe,
And for you there shall be life waiting not in this verse but in the multi verse!”
Since then the streets vanished, only the roads of reality reappeared,
And now neither the man nor the life strayed!
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Javid Ahmad Tak (They Loved in 2075!)
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You have the power to be the master of your physical destiny Eliminate negative self-talk Use visualization to enforce your positive mindset Create SMART goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound Learn to love exercise by forgetting the past, pacing yourself, ditching excuses and overcoming insecurities Build the exercise habit with cues, routines and rewards Use the FITT Principle to create your ideal workout program Work through all three energy systems to achieve total fitness Vary your training heart rate zone for total cardiovascular fitness
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Nick Swettenham (Total Fitness After 40: The 7 Life Changing Foundations You Need for Strength, Health and Motivation in your 40s, 50s, 60s and Beyond)
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But when the genetic manipulations began to take effect, the alterations had disastrous consequences. As it turns out, the attempt had resulted not in corrected genes, but in damaged ones,” David says. “Take away someone’s fear, or low intelligence, or dishonesty . . . and you take away their compassion. Take away someone’s aggression and you take away their motivation, or their ability to assert themselves. Take away their selfishness and you take away their sense of self-preservation. If you think about it, I’m sure you know exactly what I mean.” I tick off each quality in my mind as he says it—fear, low intelligence, dishonesty, aggression, selfishness. He is talking about the factions. And he’s right to say that every faction loses something when it gains a virtue: the Dauntless, brave but cruel; the Erudite, intelligent but vain; the Amity, peaceful but passive; the Candor, honest but inconsiderate; the Abnegation, selfless but stifling. “Humanity has never been perfect, but the genetic alterations made it worse than it had ever been before. This manifested itself in what we call the Purity War. A civil war, waged by those with damaged genes, against the government and everyone with pure genes. The Purity War caused a level of destruction formerly unheard of on American soil, eliminating almost half of the country’s population.” “The visual is up,” says one of the people at a desk in the control room. A map appears on the screen above David’s head. It is an unfamiliar shape, so I’m not sure what it’s supposed to represent, but it is covered with patches of pink, red, and dark-crimson lights. “This is our country before the Purity War,” David says. “And this is after—” The lights start to recede, the patches shrinking like puddles of water drying in the sun. Then I realize that the red lights were people—people, disappearing, their lights going out. I stare at the screen, unable to wrap my mind around such a substantial loss. David continues, “When the war was finally over, the people demanded a permanent solution to the genetic problem. And that is why the Bureau of Genetic Welfare was formed. Armed with all the scientific knowledge at our government’s disposal, our predecessors designed experiments to restore humanity to its genetically pure state. “They called for genetically damaged individuals to come forward so that the Bureau could alter their genes. The Bureau then placed them in secure environments to settle in for the long haul, equipped with basic versions of the serums to help them control their society. They would wait for the passage of time—for the generations to pass, for each one to produce more genetically healed humans. Or, as you currently know them . . . the Divergent.
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Veronica Roth (The Divergent Library: Divergent; Insurgent; Allegiant; Four)
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But when the genetic manipulations began to take effect, the alterations had disastrous consequences. As it turns out, the attempt had resulted not in corrected genes, but in damaged ones,” David says. “Take away someone’s fear, or low intelligence, or dishonesty . . . and you take away their compassion. Take away someone’s aggression and you take away their motivation, or their ability to assert themselves. Take away their selfishness and you take away their sense of self-preservation. If you think about it, I’m sure you know exactly what I mean.” I tick off each quality in my mind as he says it—fear, low intelligence, dishonesty, aggression, selfishness. He is talking about the factions. And he’s right to say that every faction loses something when it gains a virtue: the Dauntless, brave but cruel; the Erudite, intelligent but vain; the Amity, peaceful but passive; the Candor, honest but inconsiderate; the Abnegation, selfless but stifling. “Humanity has never been perfect, but the genetic alterations made it worse than it had ever been before. This manifested itself in what we call the Purity War. A civil war, waged by those with damaged genes, against the government and everyone with pure genes. The Purity War caused a level of destruction formerly unheard of on American soil, eliminating almost half of the country’s population.” “The visual is up,” says one of the people at a desk in the control room. A map appears on the screen above David’s head. It is an unfamiliar shape, so I’m not sure what it’s supposed to represent, but it is covered with patches of pink, red, and dark-crimson lights. “This is our country before the Purity War,” David says. “And this is after—” The lights start to recede, the patches shrinking like puddles of water drying in the sun. Then I realize that the red lights were people—people, disappearing, their lights going out. I stare at the screen, unable to wrap my mind around such a substantial loss. David continues, “When the war was finally over, the people demanded a permanent solution to the genetic problem. And that is why the Bureau of Genetic Welfare was formed. Armed with all the scientific knowledge at our government’s disposal, our predecessors designed experiments to restore humanity to its genetically pure state. “They called for genetically damaged individuals to come forward so that the Bureau could alter their genes.
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Veronica Roth (The Divergent Library: Divergent; Insurgent; Allegiant; Four)
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Napoleon Hill refers to this method as concentration, but today it is most often called creative visualization, and it is the autosuggestion technique widely taught by contemporary motivational experts.
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Napoleon Hill (Selling You!)
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Just before giving a presentation: Some of this century’s best-known speakers report using some version of visualization just before stepping into the spotlight. In fact, it would be unusual to find a great speaker who doesn’t. When clients ask me if they should use visualization before an important speech, I answer, “Only if you want it to go really well!
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Olivia Fox Cabane (The Charisma Myth: How to Engage, Influence and Motivate People)
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It takes a whole life to switch from imagination to visualization!
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Leena Duwadi
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trial and error. Other experimenters recorded the visual fields of target subjects exposed to the color red. Trainees who learned, through feedback, to approximate that same neural activity reported seeing red in their mind’s eye. Since those days, the field had shifted from visual learning to emotional conditioning. The big grant money was going to desensitizing people with PTSD. DecNef and Connectivity Feedback were being touted as treatments to all kinds of psychiatric disorders. Marty Currier worked on clinical applications. But he was also pursuing a more exotic side-hustle. “Why not?” I told my wife. And so we volunteered in her friend’s experiment. IN THE RECEPTION AREA OF CURRIER’S LAB, Aly and I chuckled over the entrance questionnaire. We would be among the second wave of target subjects, but first we had to pass the screening. The questions disguised furtive motives. HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT THE PAST? WOULD YOU RATHER BE ON A CROWDED BEACH OR IN AN EMPTY MUSEUM? My wife shook her head at these crude inquiries and touched a hand to her smile. I read the expression as clearly as if we were wired up together: The investigators were welcome to anything they discovered inside her, so long as it didn’t lead to jail time. I’d given up on understanding my own hidden temperament a long time ago. Lots of monsters inhabited my sunless depths, but most of them were nonlethal. I did badly want to see my wife’s answers, but a lab tech prevented us from comparing questionnaires. DO YOU USE TOBACCO? Not for years. I didn’t mention that all my pencils were covered with bite marks. HOW MUCH ALCOHOL DO YOU DRINK A WEEK? Nothing for me, but my wife confessed to her nightly Happy Hour, while plying the dog with poetry. DO YOU SUFFER FROM ANY ALLERGIES? Not unless you counted cocktail parties. HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED DEPRESSION? I didn’t know how to answer that one. DO YOU PLAY A MUSICAL INSTRUMENT? Science. I said I might be able to find middle C on a piano, if they needed it. Two postdocs took us into the fMRI room. These people had way more cash to throw around than any astrobiology team anywhere. Aly was having the same thoughts
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Richard Powers (Bewilderment)
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If you have a dream, make sure to write it down to see daily in front of you. More you see to it, more you visualize your future to achieve it
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Narayanan Palani
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You can live the life of your dreams. This sentiment reminds me of the quote, "If you can dream it, you can achieve it." This isn’t just a motivational saying. There is a science behind all of this that the most brilliant minds and rich individuals have used.
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Robin S. Baker
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Spend a couple of minutes in silence with your eyes closed and visualize yourself standing in the new life you’re presently focused on manifesting. Notice the details of your environment, feel your feelings, watch how you carry yourself, notice how you dress, what you think about, what you do. Now open your eyes and go about your day today as if you’re still in that environment, as if you’ve already reached success, as if you’re presently the person you’re becoming. Cop the knowing, happy attitude of the future you who’s already achieved this super-exciting thing. Acting as if your new life is already here is one of the most powerful things you can do, because when you match your energy to that of the new reality, you open yourself up to finding the path to get there.
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Jen Sincero (You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable)
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The flash of revelation is not a what but a how. It does not provide new facts; rather, finding the right image or metaphor tells one how to think about facts already at hand. Insights or implications come later, as guidelines emerge that serve to constrain and direct new combinations of facts. These guidelines, in both art and science, both maintain logical continuity with previous work and are at once visual, aesthetic and intuitive. Such a structure for thinking is a powerful motivator and ingredient of creativity.
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Arthur I. Miller (Einstein, Picasso: Space, Time, and the Beauty That Causes Havoc)
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Would you be comfortable travelling in a car or an air plane or maybe in a space shuttle in the future, knowing that the only safety mechanism that the engineers relied upon was positive thinking and visualization of everything being perfect?
Would you feel safe knowing that engineers did not imagine and solve most of the possible negative outcomes that could happen that dramatically increase the chances of an accident?
Would you want to live in a building built by someone who only relied on positive thinking and did not thinking of how to safeguard it from possible disasters? The buildings we live in, the things we travel in and the devices we use are relatively safe today BECAUSE of the positive steps taken as a result of negative and cautious thinking.
Confidence is a great thing but sometimes the lack of it is an even better thing. The fear motivates you to settle for nothing less than excellence.
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Anubhav Srivastava (UnLearn: A Practical Guide to Business and Life (What They Don't Want You to Know Book 1))
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Pretend for a moment that you are in the horrifying situation of watching one of your children being pulled out to sea in a riptide. Would you just go on eating your lunch? No way. The first thing you would do is to scream to get help rescuing your child. You would simultaneously get all other children out of the water as you dive in and try to rescue the missing child, even knowing the danger and that it is probably too late. If you were sensible enough not to swim out or fortunate enough to get back to shore safely, grief would promote endless rumination about what you could have done to prevent the loss. This would help prevent a repetition with other children. Your sobbing would signal your need for help and warn others about the danger. When a child dies of cancer or pneumonia, speculating about what you might have done to prevent it is mostly useless. However, the tendency to blame is built in, so people do it anyway, blaming themselves, doctors, anyone who was involved. Those motives can create marvelous initiatives, Mothers Against Drunk Driving being a spectacular example. Every community has organizations dedicated to preventing the kind of sickness or accident that carried off a loved member of the community. In our ancestral environment, loved ones must often have simply not returned to camp. Searching for them would have been essential. A loss creates mental preoccupation and a search image tuned to detect relevant cues. In the weeks after a loss, bereaved individuals often think that they see or hear the lost loved one. Tiny random sounds or sights are misinterpreted as the person’s voice or form. Visual and auditory hallucinations arise. Such experiences are sometimes interpreted as wish fulfillment, but a more plausible explanation is that they are products of a search image that makes it easier to find the missing person. False alarms in such a system would be normal, useful, and experienced as ghosts. Anniversary reactions are also common and fascinating. Many people occasionally experience sadness that seems unaccountable, until they realize it is the anniversary of a loss. I doubt that anniversary reactions are adaptive in general; however, in ancestral environments many opportunities and dangers recur with seasonal regularity. So smelling overly ripe apples in an orchard may bring back vivid memories of a fall long ago.
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Randolph M. Nesse (Good Reasons for Bad Feelings: Insights from the Frontier of Evolutionary Psychiatry)