Melanie Tonia Evans Quotes

It is only by finding and healing these old, original traumas that the narcissist has been using against you that you can break out of the insane emotional prison he or she has trapped you in. The irony is, this necessity brings with it an incredible opportunity: it can enable your evolution into the version of yourself that you have always wanted to be. It can allow you to free yourself at last from those wounded parts of your inner being that have prevented you from becoming your highest and best self.

We don’t even know that we are trapped in them. It was exactly those subconscious programmes of learned helplessness and powerlessness that we acquired as children which were causing us to hand over our power to abusers and to stay traumatised. It isn’t until we start shifting out of these ways of being that we can unravel the old self and begin to be released into our true self.

From this point forward, as a result of working with these Steps and being committed to honouring our inner being when in need, we are moving away from the illusions and traumas that once trapped us unconsciously in narcissistic abuse – and we are ready to emerge, as a butterfly does from a cocoon, spreading our winds fearlessly and soaring in life as an authentic being.