Marital Wisdom Quotes

A wife who obsesses on "fixing" her husband only succeeds in demeaning him.

In marriage, those who persevere are rewarded with the most precious thing this earth has to offer: Marital love--a partnership that conquers the years. It takes time, but those who persevere are rewarded with, falling in love with their spouse. pg v

Remain calm even in the mist of mistrust and accusations. Your integrity and track records will surely speak for you.

Every friend, every neighbor, and every family member wishes that you retain your golden heart. No one wants to see your love sullied. Yet, they all know a dark circumstance will find you eventually. Know this: You are being hunted--like game. Life will knock you down with some unexpected misfortune. Resolve now, to help your partner get back up. Only a determined family kills its wounded. When everyone else abandons him, come back for your husband.

When the woman said, “I don’t need a piece of paper to love you,” she was using a very specific definition of “love.” She was assuming that love is, in its essence, a particular kind of feeling. She was saying, “I feel romantic passion for you, and the piece of paper doesn’t enhance that at all, and it may hurt it.” She was measuring love mainly by how emotionally desirous she was for his affection. And she was right that the marital legal “piece of paper” would do little or nothing directly to add to the feeling.

Creativity is the LifeLine of Human Progression, Advancement and Survival.

If you want something, work for it. Prayer is super-fantstic, faith is 'mwah'! But work is necessary and important. So work for what you want.

Three psychologists, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ken Sheldon, and David Schkade, reviewed the available evidence and realized that there are two fundamentally different kinds of externals: the conditions of your life and the voluntary activities that you undertake.33 Conditions include facts about your life that you can’t change (race, sex, age, disability) as well as things that you can (wealth, marital status, where you live). Conditions are constant over time, at least during a period in your life, and so they are the sorts of things that you are likely to adapt to. Voluntary activities, on the other hand, are the things that you choose to do, such as meditation, exercise, learning a new skill, or taking a vacation. Because such activities must be chosen, and because most of them take effort and attention, they can’t just disappear from your awareness the way conditions can. Voluntary activities, therefore, offer much greater promise for increasing happiness while avoiding adaptation effects.

This principle, called “negativity bias,”13 shows up all over psychology. In marital interactions, it takes at least five good or constructive actions to make up for the damage done by one critical or

Sex is good, great and excited…. But not in friendships and relationships, only in marriage. When you engaged in sex before or outside marriage, you only suffer disappointment and regrets. Just wait, you will have the full benefit of sex when you married (appropriately).

Adolescent reproductive relationship is a period or moment of connection between adolescents of same or opposite sex in building networks and connections for the future and generations through their cordial and free mind (in their own forms and shapes) for impact making and friendship building while showing forth the light/glory of God in a sinful world

Now, we have gathered three different pieces of evidence—the county of birth, the marital status of the mothers of the top scorers, and the first names of players. No source is perfect. But all three support the same story. Better socioeconomic status means a higher chance of making the NBA. The conventional wisdom, in other words, is wrong.

WISDOM GROWS IN SILENCE.

Unless you’re able to look at marriage through the lens of Scripture instead of through your own fears or romanticism, through your particular experience, or through your culture’s narrow perspectives, you won’t be able to make intelligent decisions about your own marital future.

Here, unfortunately, is where Christians have succumbed to the fairy-tale syndrome of our society. It is a particular problem for young, single women. Many a young woman feels that if God wants her to be married, He will drop a marriage partner out of heaven on a parachute or will bring some Prince Charming riding up to her doorstep on a great white horse. One excruciating problem faced by single women—more so in past generations than today—is caused by the unwritten rule of our society that allows men the freedom actively to pursue a marriage partner while women are considered loose if they actively pursue a prospective husband. No biblical rule says that a woman eager to be married should be passive. There is nothing that prohibits her from actively seeking a suitable mate. On numerous occasions, I’ve had the task of counseling single women who insisted at the beginning of the interview that they had no desire to be married but simply wanted to work out the dimensions of the celibacy they believed God had imposed on them. After a few questions and answers, the scenario usually repeats itself: the young woman begins to weep and blurts out, “But I really want to get married.” When I suggest that there are wise steps that she can take to find a husband, her eyes light up in astonishment as if I had just given her permission to do the forbidden. I have broken a taboo. Wisdom requires that the search be done with discretion and determination. Those seeking a life partner need to do certain obvious things, such as going where other single people congregate. They need to be involved in activities that will bring them in close communication with other single Christians. In the Old Testament, Jacob made an arduous journey to his homeland to find a suitable marriage partner. He did not wait for God to deliver him a life partner. He went where the opportunity presented itself to find a marriage partner. But the fact that he was a man does not imply that such a procedure is limited to males. Women in our society have exactly the same freedom to pursue a mate by diligent search. What Do I Want in a Marriage Partner? A myth has arisen within the Christian community that marriage is to be a union between two people committed to the principle of selfless love. Selfless love is viewed as being crucial for the success of a marriage. This myth is based on the valid concept that selfishness is often at the root of disharmony and disintegration in marriage relationships. The biblical concept of love says no to acts of selfishness within marital and other human relationships. However, the remedy for selfishness is nowhere to be found in selflessness. The

Boaz married Ruth because of her marital wisdom (Ruth 1-4)

Treat marriage like a diamond necklace; if broken, fix it, but do not throw it away.

One really has to ask oneself how Socrates managed to maneuver himself into such conjugal misery, and this question can be posed in several variations. If Xantippe really was from the start the kind of woman the legend says she was, we would show very little understanding for our great philosopher because then it was his own carelessness that led him to choose precisely her and no other woman. Or is he supposed to have thought, ironic as he was, that a surly woman is just what a thinker needs? If, from the beginning, he recognized her "true nature" and put up with it, then this indicates deplorable marital behavior on his part because he thus unreasonably expected a women to spend her whole life with a man who obviously at best endured her but did not appreciate her. Conversely, if Xantippe had become as she is described only during her marriage to Socrates, then the philosopher would really come into a questionable light because then indisputably he himself must have caused his wife's vexation without having interested himself in it. No matter how the story is turned, Xantippe's moods fall back on Socrates. This is a genuine philosophical problem: How did the thinker and questioner manage not to solve the puzzle of Xantippe's bad temper? This great midwife of truth was obviously unable to let his wife's rage express itself or to help her find a language in which she would have been able to express the grounds and justifications for her behavior. The failure of a philosopher often consists not in false answers but in neglecting to pose the right questions —and in denying some experiences the right to become "problems." His experiences with Xantippe must have been of this kind—a misery that is not given the dignity of obtruding into the male problem-monopoly. Philosphers fail when they endure as a naturally given evil that for which they are to blame; indeed, their capacity for "wisely" enduring it is itself an intellectual scandal, a misuse of wisdom in favor of blindness. With Socrates, it seems, this misuse immediately avenged itself. When a thinker cannot refrain from equating humanity with masculinity, reality will strike back in the philosopher's marital hell. The stories about this thus have, I think, also a kynical meaning. They reveal the real reason for philosophicalclerical celibacy in our civilization. A definite dominating kind of idealism, philosophy, and grand theory becomes possible only when a certain "other kind" of experience is systematically avoided

You were my marital bliss,” he said to me this morning. “You can be again!” You know what I answered? “A marital blister, that’s what we’ll have if I stay.

I believe this particular part of 1 Corinthians 7 is an important practical resource. Each partner in marriage is to be most concerned not with getting sexual pleasure but with giving it. In short, the greatest sexual pleasure should be the pleasure of seeing your spouse getting pleasure. When you get to the place where giving arousal is the most arousing thing, you are practicing this principle. When I was doing research for this chapter, I found some old talks that Kathy and I did together. I had forgotten some of the struggles we had in our early days, and some of the notes reminded me that in those years we started to dread having sex. Kathy, in those remarks, said that if she didn’t experience an orgasm during lovemaking, we both felt like failures. If I asked her, “How was that?” and she said, “It just hurt,” I felt devastated, and she did, too. We had a great deal of trouble until we started to see something. As Kathy said in her notes:   We came to realize that orgasm is great, especially climaxing together. But the awe, the wonder, the safety, and the joy of just being one is stirring and stunning even without that. And when we stopped trying to perform and just started trying to simply love one another in sex, things started to move ahead. We stopped worrying about our performance. And we stopped worrying about what we were getting and started to say, “Well, what can we do just to give something to the other?” This concept also has implications for a typical problem that many couples experience in their marital relationship—namely, that one person wants sex more often than the other. If your main purpose in sex is giving pleasure, not getting pleasure, then a person who doesn’t have as much of a sex drive physically can give to the other person as a gift. This is a legitimate act of love, and it shouldn’t be denigrated by saying, “Oh, no, no. Unless you’re going to be all passionate, don’t do it.” Do it as a gift. Related to this are the differences that many spouses experience over what is the most satisfying context for sex. While I am not saying this is universal, I will share that, as a male, context means very little to me. That means, to be blunt, pretty much anytime, anywhere. However, I came to see that that meant I was being oblivious to something that was very important to my wife. Context? Oh, you mean candles or something? And, of course, Kathy, like so many women, did not mean “candles or something.” She meant preparing for sex emotionally. She meant warmth and conversation and things like that. I learned this, but slowly. And so we learned to be very patient with each other when it came to sex. It took years for us to be good at sexually satisfying one another. But the patience paid off. Sex

A WORD TO HUSBANDS To keep your marriage brimming. With love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong, admit it; Whenever you're right, shut up.

You didn’t do it, and the sooner you understand that, the better it will be for you and your marriage. You couldn’t have done it. You’re simply not that powerful and not that wise. You and I like to think that it was all our initiative, but it wasn’t. When you face the fact that your marital story is all about the wisdom and will of Another, your understanding of marriage completely changes forever.

Teen age is the period for young folks to be tender and be thought or be trivial and embrace temptation. It is a season for them to be empowered or endangered, encouraged or embattled dependent on their choices. It is a stage for them to either be natured or be naughty dependent on their readiness and preparedness. It is an era where they are to adore God or admire evil with their all in all. A moment of grace and glory or guilt and gory for their families and society as a result of impacts they received; and timeless celebration of Eternal God or enduring shame for generations on based on their clear choices. Whichever path a teenage choices have its blessings and rewards or its dangers and subsequent sufferings. Through our teens we aged either into foolish folks or wise and responsible adults.

When your Spouse or Partner invests their time informing very 'dick and harry' about your marital or relationship issues, tarnishing your name and destroying your marriage or relationship in the process, find your exit because YOU and that Marriage or Relationship were never of VALUE to them.

THANKFULNESS IS A SIGN OF TRUSTWORTHINESS.

The habit of Gratitude honors God.

The sign of a Graceful person is their Gratefulness.

Gifts are for free, but they can only be given out to people who have expressed a need for them. People have millions of substances to give out, until they see a need, they will not let them out.

Fruitfulness comes from within. The to nurture Your seeds to bring forth fruits that will meet the needs of humanity.

Fake life fails and fades, but real life relives and revolves.

Your worship to the Lord shows how worthy He (God) is to you. Your worship is your warfare. By your worship, you overcome, overflow and conquer. Worship to win.

Worship is Worth more than Worry. Worship weed off weariness.

Heedful and Yielding Heart Pleases the Lord, Our Maker and Saviour.

Every Soul (Human) is Precious. Pray to Lead with Pleasantness.

Prayer set you apart, preserve you and position you for your purpose (assignment/calling).

Dear Man of God (Osofo), The studies, reading & listening (soaking of messages) must not just to teach/preach to the sheep (church members), they're for your practice, benefits, growth and advancement as well.

The planting of the Lord Leads to flourishing. Allow the Lord to plant you. It's a process that you must not jump.

Our hunger must be to make impacts, and not to seek for applauds.

Your gifts are gates to treasures. Don't allow timidity and intimidation stop you from trading them. Trade your gifts to earn TRUST.

The Holy Spirit existed from Genesis to Revelation in the Bible. In the same manner, a believer's trip right here on earth have to begin with Him. He is the One who displays things in our heart. He is the breath of the Inner Man. An opener to the hidden in things. A partner of companions. An unwavering partner. A comforter to the brokenhearted. A counselor to the confused. A faithful listener and guider. Shine with The Holy Spirit.

Thanksgiving lifestyles open doors for boom while thankless existence leads to lifeless end.

Put Relationship above Money. Life might seems short but it is a Long Journey. You will need People to complete the mission.

Faith is not the absence of mind, thoughts, tactics, feelings and reasonings. It's the dependent on the author and finisher (God) of our origin.

When you appreciate others for things (matters) done, you speed up to greatness.

Overcome Your bad Habits with Good Habits.

Wisdom outweighs Foolishness.

Don't shut the Door, there are others waiting to enter same door you've used.

Don't Dim the Light(Smile), keep it Beaming, it Inspires someone every moment.

You've a false balance as a Christian if you can't lead OTHERS to Christ, or even speak to them about HIM.

A leader with words and without deeds is a hypocrite.

When your fruits (souls saved for the Lord) are doing great exploit, you beam with blissful smiles.

A hard follower study every bit about his mentor, teacher, father and a coach. Don't just be a follower, be a hard follower.

My honeymooner is pleasant and sweet.

Kindness Kindles Your Kingdom Purpose.

Often times, Our Tests and Trials are a Training ground for Our Transformation (Turnaround).

Patience is the weapon that forces deception to reveal itself.

Despite your Brokenness and Circumstances, you can still Beam and infect others with it.

Be Disciplined to wait for the Right Time. There's a Right Time for everything. Be it Success, Progress, Gratification, Growth, Promotion, etc. Waiting always worth the Wage.

Pay Attention to God, Your Call/Assignment, Ministry, Home and Impart to the Next Generation (Legacy). Ignore the noise.

The fact that you fail, doesn't mean you're a failure. Failure is "Faithfully pay Attention to your Inner man, Listen and Lead with Understanding while Repositioning in your Endeavours.

Be an active participant in building your home as a spouse. Don't be a visiting "Lecturer" who comes to instruct and go.

Make sure that your so called Good Life you live doesn't make you proud to reject, ignore or miss the Salvation God has made available to all mankind.

Let’s drop the competition mentality and start collaborating while connecting to impart our world.

Though we would be Tested, be assured that we can't be Trashed, but we can only come out Triumphantly with Tonnes of Testimonies to the Glory of Lord.

With a Trust in the Lord, He (God) shall deliver US (You) Through Our (Your) Trials and Tests.

Perhaps the most powerful way in which daily prayer for your marriage not only has the power to transform your marriage, but to transform you as well, is this: prayer reminds you that you are never alone. Prayer reminds you that you are never left to your own righteousness, wisdom, and strength. Prayer reminds you that each location or situation where your marriage exists is not only inhabited by God but, even more encouragingly, that each is ruled by him. The one who controls the situations in which your marriage lives is not only a God of awesome power but is the definition of everything wise, true, faithful, gracious, loving, forgiving, good, and kind. But there is even more that the Lord’s Prayer confronts you with. It is that this God who is powerful and near is your Father by grace. If you are God’s child, there is never a moment when you are outside the circle of his fathering care. Like a father, he loves you and is committed to faithfully providing what is best for you. When you are facing those disappointing moments of marital struggle, when you’re not sure what to think, let alone what to do, prayer can rescue you from hopelessness and alienation. Prayer encourages you to say, “I am not sure how we got here, and I am not sure what we are being called to do, but there is one thing I am sure of—I am never, ever alone because I have a Father in heaven who is always with me.” Acknowledging God will protect you from yourself. It will protect you from discouragement and fear and the passivity that always follows. It will protect you from the pride of self-reliance and self-sovereignty. If you are ever to have a marriage of unity, understanding, and love, you must begin with this humble admission: you have no ability whatsoever to produce the most important things that make a wonderful marriage. The changes of thought, desire, word, and action that re-create, rebuild, mature, and protect your marriage are always gifts of God’s grace. As you choose to do things God’s way, he progressively rescues you from your own self-interest and forms you into a person who really does find joy in loving another. It is only a God of love who will ever be able to change a fundamentally self-oriented, impatient, demanding human being into a person who not only desires to love but actually does it. There is a word for this in the Bible—grace. Prayer reminds you that you have been graced with a Father’s love and that love will not let you go until it has changed you in every way that is needed.

Without assessment, acceleration will be a mirage.

The aim of your detractors are to derail you from your assignment (call), don't give them room. Keep your calm and focus; the victory may delay, but you shall make it happen through the grace of God.

I believe on the whole, Failure is a Faith Boaster; That tiny thing/issue/moment that shakes your Foundation (Fundamentals). You can overcome failure by being Firm in Your stand to Soar.

Don't just be happy, be humbled as well.

Focus brings Fore Knowledge which results in Favour and Freedom.

Our dreams come to light not because we're the luckiest or most blessed, but the silent voices(voices out of the glare of the public) behind the scenes helped shown our light.

As you render services to others which bring joy/happiness to them, they'll sing your praises. But remember the God factor in you, and remain humble. For the Lord your God is Humble (Meek).

All that you need to WIN OTHERS for LORD (Fulfilling The Great Commission) is embedded in whatever Gifts, Talents, Capabilities, Callings, Assignments, Dreams, Visions, Missions and Aspirations you have. Just use them.

THE MORE YOU PREPARE YOURSELF, THE MORE THE OPPORTUNITIES GOD WILL GIVE YOU.

In the days of old, when one married, they're given a breathing space to bond with each other for days or weeks—free from many activities. They're treated with kindness, affections and love—even offered with many services as in house chores and others. This was (is) not an European thing. In the Bible, God told the Israelites not to allow a man who has married to go for war. He's to stay home for a year for certain activities. In our era, we referred to the above scenario as Honeymoon. Now the questions: —Are we to go or not to? —Is it beneficial or not? —Is it a money wasting venture or not? —Is it part of the marriage preparation or not? —Does it do anything to the marriage or not? —And above all, what is its essence for us(family or humanity), couples and posterity?

By love serve one another.

The Honeymoon must be humbling and not hurting.

Marriage is enjoyable; strive to enjoy each other.

Honeymoon is the only part you enjoy in your marriage processes or ceremonies. You don't need to break your bank account for it —with just a little over GH¢1000 ($300), you can have an unforgettable Honeymoon.

Wise men store up knowledge.

Truth leads to believe, which produces faith.

Pastor, Teacher, Preacher, Mr. Prophet, The Healing and Miracle Evangelist, and Brother/Sister Shepherd your Sheep are crying for a Balanced Meal because they are getting deformed. Teach them the Gospel of Jesus Christ (the Gospel of the Kingdom)—why He came to die for Humanity.

Books, counsellor, experience advice, and ancient wisdom are nuggets that will revitalise your love life.

Wedding is not the Marriage, it's a process for it. It's the Honeymoon that kick starts the Marriage.

Fruitfulness comes from within. Therefore nurture Your seeds to bring forth fruits that will meet needs of humanity.

When our Faith Resonates with God Undeniable/Unwavering Intents, Trust and Faith is built against losses/bareness.

Marriage is built on Trust, Love and Service. By love serve one another.

LOVE is reciprocal. Love is superior to knowledge. Confusion is rooted in absence of love. Therefore love, have love and you would be loved back. When you find LOVE, let your LOVE be built On VALUES that ENDURE.

The reason why children are seen as children is because they have not been resourced to show their worth beyond what is seen in them. Aside material resources, parents should train their children to appreciate values, independence and accept responsibilities before they become adults

Singlehood-ness should be enjoyed and live to its fullest. But not to the detriment of Standards, Intuitiveness, Neighbourliness, Godliness, Learning and Effectiveness. In you Singlehood, live in God’s guiding light.

MONEY in the hands of a Believer/Christian must be considered as Means to do MORE and giving Opportunities to OTHERS will NEVER END Your YIELDS. MONEY in your hands must be a motivation to operate in never ending generosity. Because one thing I know, God will compensate you fully and even in excess whatever you give out to others.

The glorious Church of God is YOU, and the Building.

The glorious Church of God is YOU, and NOT the Building.

Keep to the ancient Landmarks (Success Paths), it's a faith Booster for your Series of Victories.

Fools are bereaft of knowledge. Their ideas are like castle built in the air.

Be grateful to God for everything in Spirit, Mind, Body and Materially.

You can only see victory when you are involved, and not veiling. Same way, whatever that God is involved always comes with victory. Get involved with God, victory would surely come.

Gratitude for little things leads to gaining great ones.

Rightful Thoughts lead to Thriving Life.