Manipulation Hates Boundaries Quotes

Setting limits has to do with telling the truth. The Bible clearly distinguishes between those who love truth and those who don’t. First, there is the person who welcomes your boundaries. Who accepts them. Who listens to them. Who says, “I’m glad you have a separate opinion. It makes me a better person.” This person is called wise, or righteous. The second type hates limits. Resents your difference. Tries to manipulate you into giving up your treasures. Try our “litmus test” experiment with your significant relationships. Tell them no in some area. You’ll either come out with increased intimacy—or learn that there was very little to begin with.

The moment you put a stop to people taking advantage of you and disrespecting you, is when they define you as difficult, selfish or crazy. Manipulators hate boundaries

They hate your punctuality because it highlights their tardiness. They hate your dependability because it reveals their inconsistencies. They hate your honesty because it contradicts their lies. They hate your authenticity because it jeopardizes their false image. They hate your boundaries because it blocks their ability to manipulate you. This is why they diminish your achievements (e.g., “Anyone could do that.”), make fun of your emotions (e.g., “You’re so sensitive.”), and disregard your requests (e.g., “Nothing is ever good enough for you.”). For narcissists, contempt keeps them in control. They say things like, “You couldn’t even figure that out?” “Are you seriously that desperate?” or “What kind of person would think/say/do that?