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Success in life is not for those who run fast, but for those who keep running and always on the move.
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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You were born a winner, a warrior, one who defied the odds by surviving the most gruesome battle of them all - the race to the egg. And now that you are a giant, why do you even doubt victory against smaller numbers and wider margins? The only walls that exist are those you have placed in your mind. And whatever obstacles you conceive, exist only because you have forgotten what you have already achieved.
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Suzy Kassem (Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem)
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I prefer to be on the side of losers, the misunderstood or lonely people rather than writing about the strong and powerful.
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Núria Añó
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You don't need to work hard to earn an empire; there is an army of slaves to do it for you.
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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An entrepreneur is a man who knows he can fail, but he does not accept to fail before he actually fails, and when he fails he learns from his errors and moves on.
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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Magic always happens when you direct your inner powers to the object you want to change.
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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Nothing says "you're a loser" more than owning a motivational poster about being a winner.
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Justin Sewell
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Giving up doesn't make you a quiter, a loser or a failure.
It makes you wise enough to stop holding on to what refuses to be held.
Hence i say, letting go hurts,
but holding on to what is no longer there
hurts even more.
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Nomthandazo Tsembeni
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Never seek to please anyone. Seek to evolve thyself.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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You can perhaps, in a number of circumstances, tell yourself that you can't have more than you have until you do better than you're doing, but by all means steer clear of its reverse, the creed of defeat, in saying that you can't do better than you're doing until you can have more than you have.
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Criss Jami (Healology)
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Success sits on a mountain of mistakes
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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If your motives aren't clean, money itself becomes evil. But When we don't have money enough evil, the world tells us we're losers. So what determines our place in society is not how much kindness is in our hearts but how much evil is in our wallet.
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Todd McFarlane
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Think you're a slave and you'll find a master; think you're a master and slaves will find you
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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Don't fear mistakes, they are your stepping stone to success
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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Competition is for losers.
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Peter Thiel
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Winners win, Losers lose. It's YOU who decides what you want to be
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Andrew Rozario
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You don't have to finish today, what is important is that you finish. But remember today might be the last day of your life.
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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Failure is an opportunity to learn again
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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Run the race of life with all perseverance and endurance.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you're still trying, keep it up! You're right on track.
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Kathy Collins (200 Motivational and inspirational Quotes That Will Inspire Your Success)
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One who doesn't recognise an opportunity is bigger loser than one who tries his hand at an opportunity.
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Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)
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Winners play to win. Losers play to avoid defeat. Losing teaches you how to win; winning teaches you how not to lose.
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Matshona Dhliwayo
“
Winners have justification, losers have an excuse.
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Durgesh Satpathy (What We Think We Become)
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Table 3–1. Definitions of Cognitive Distortions 1. ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. 2. OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. 3. MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water. 4. DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences. 5. JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. a. Mind reading. You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out. b. The Fortune Teller Error. You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact. 6. MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION: You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.” 7. EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.” 8. SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment. 9. LABELING AND MISLABELING: This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded. 10. PERSONALIZATION: You see yourself as me cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
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David D. Burns (Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques)
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You were born a giver, don't die a taker.
You were born an earner, don't die a begger.
You were born a sharer, don't die a hoader.
You were born a lover, don't die a hater.
You were born a builder, don't die a destroyer.
You were born a creator, don't die an immitator.
You were born a leader, don't die a follower.
You were born a learner, don't die a teacher.
You were born a doer, don't die a talker.
You were born a dreamer, don't die a doubter.
You were born a winner, don't die a loser.
You were born an encourager, don't die a shamer.
You were born a defender, don't die an aggressor.
You were born a liberator, don't die an executioner.
You were born a soldier, don't die a murderer.
You were born an angel, don't die a monster.
You were born a protecter, don't die an attacker.
You were born an originator, don't die a repeater.
You were born an achiever, don't die a quitter.
You were born a victor, don't die a failure.
You were born a conqueror, don't die a warrior.
You were born a contender, don't die a joker.
You were born a producer, don't die a user.
You were born a motivator, don't die a discourager.
You were born a master, don't die an amateur.
You were born an intessessor, don't die an accusor.
You were born an emancipator, don't die a backstabber.
You were born a sympathizer, don't die a provoker.
You were born a healer, don't die a killer.
You were born a peacemaker, don't die an instigater.
You were born a deliverer, don't die a collaborator.
You were born a savior, don't die a plunderer.
You were born a believer, don't die a sinner.
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Matshona Dhliwayo
“
New Rule: Not everything in America has to make a profit. If conservatives get to call universal health care "socialized medicine," I get to call private, for-profit health care "soulless vampire bastards making money off human pain." Now, I know what you're thinking: "But, Bill, the profit motive is what sustains capitalism." Yes, and our sex drive is what sustains the human species, but we don't try to fuck everything.
It wasn't that long ago when a kid in America broke his leg, his parents took him to the local Catholic hospital, the nun stuck a thermometer in his ass, the doctor slapped some plaster on his ankle, and you were done. The bill was $1.50; plus, you got to keep the thermometer.
But like everything else that's good and noble in life, some bean counter decided that hospitals could be big business, so now they're not hospitals anymore; they're Jiffy Lubes with bedpans. The more people who get sick, and stay sick, the higher their profit margins, which is why they're always pushing the Jell-O.
Did you know that the United States is ranked fiftieth in the world in life expectancy? And the forty-nine loser countries were they live longer than us? Oh, it's hardly worth it, they may live longer, but they live shackled to the tyranny of nonprofit health care. Here in America, you're not coughing up blood, little Bobby, you're coughing up freedom. The problem with President Obama's health-care plan isn't socialism. It's capitalism. When did the profit motive become the only reason to do anything? When did that become the new patriotism? Ask not what you could do for your country, ask what's in it for Blue Cross Blue Shield.
And it's not just medicine--prisons also used to be a nonprofit business, and for good reason--who the hell wants to own a prison? By definition, you're going to have trouble with the tenants. It's not a coincidence that we outsourced running prisons to private corporations and then the number of prisoners in America skyrocketed.
There used to be some things we just didn't do for money. Did you know, for example, there was a time when being called a "war profiteer" was a bad thing? FDR said he didn't want World War II to create one millionaire, but I'm guessing Iraq has made more than a few executives at Halliburton into millionaires. Halliburton sold soldiers soda for $7.50 a can. They were honoring 9/11 by charging like 7-Eleven. Which is wrong. We're Americans; we don't fight wars for money. We fight them for oil.
And my final example of the profit motive screwing something up that used to be good when it was nonprofit: TV news. I heard all the news anchors this week talk about how much better the news coverage was back in Cronkite's day. And I thought, "Gee, if only you were in a position to do something about it.
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Bill Maher (The New New Rules: A Funny Look At How Everybody But Me Has Their Head Up Their Ass)
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You are not a loser when you lose, but when you give up.
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Udai Yadla
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ALWAYS REMEMBER , LOSERS ARE THOSE WHO GIVE UP AND THOSE
WHO DON'T GIVE UP, THEY'LL NEVER LOSE..
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Nandani Mehta
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Goals are for winners - dreams are for losers.
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Mark Taitz
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If you want to be extremely important in people's lives, give them extremely good services they can't find anywhere else
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (The Great Pearl of Wisdom)
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The only difference between a winner and a loser is that one second when the winner decided not to give up.
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Vikrmn: CA Vikram Verma (Guru with Guitar)
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To become a better you, do not see the failure of your first attempts and declare yourself a loser.
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Israelmore Ayivor (Become a Better You)
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An entrepreneur is not deterred by his lack of perfection, he knows no one else is
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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We are strengthening by different experiences in life;
Sad times, happy moments.
Poverty, riches.
Failure, success.
Troubles, good times.
Losing, winning.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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The difference between an achiever and a loser is,
An achiever never gives up, never settles and lastly never forgets.
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Akash Lakhotia (World Hypnotized: Making of the Fuhrer(1 of 3))
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Winning isn't as sweet if you don't see an enemy cry. But remember, losers wail loud no matter what.
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Ymatruz (The Coffee Cries Foul)
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Those who win are not always the WINNERS.
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Bhuwan Thapaliya
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You cannot be chosen as a winner without contest. Winners have many families but nobody wants to associate with a loser. I will prepare myself and one day my chance will come.
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Osunsakin Adewale (The Hour of Temptation)
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Once a loser finds a “good” excuse, he will hold on to it, and then always use this excuse to explain to himself and others: why he can no longer do it, why he cannot succeed. At first, he still knows how much his excuse are lies, but after repeated usage, he will become more and more convinced that it is completely true, and believe that this excuse was the real reason for his failure, and as a result his brain begins to be lazy and rigid, and the motivation to work hard to win in any way will be reduced to zero. But they never want to admit that they are a person who loves making excuses.
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G. Ng (The 38 Letters from J.D. Rockefeller to His Son: Perspectives, Ideology, and Wisdom)
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Persuasion is not coercion, and it is also not an attempt to defeat your intellectual opponent with facts or moral superiority, nor is it a debate with a winner or a loser. Persuasion is leading a person along in stages, helping them to better understand their own thinking and how it could align with the message at hand. You can’t persuade another person to change their mind if that person doesn’t want to do so, and as you will see, the techniques that work best focus on a person’s motivations more than their conclusions.
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David McRaney (How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion)
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Givers are worth more than takers.
Earners are worth more than beggars.
Sharers are worth more than hoarders.
Lovers are worth more than haters.
Builders are worth more than destroyers.
Creators are worth more than imitators.
Leaders are worth more than followers.
Learners are worth more than teachers.
Doers are worth more than talkers.
Dreamers are worth more than doubters.
Winners are worth more than losers.
Encouragers are worth more than detractors.
Defenders are worth more than aggressors.
Liberators are worth more than jailers.
Soldiers are worth more than murderers.
Angels are worth more than monsters.
Protectors are worth more than attackers.
Originators are worth more than copiers.
Achievers are worth more than quitters.
Victors are worth more than failures.
Conquerors are worth more than warriors.
Contenders are worth more than spectators.
Producers are worth more than users.
Motivators are worth more than discouragers.
Masters are worth more than amateurs.
Intercessors are worth more than accusers.
Emancipators are worth more than backstabbers.
Sympathizers are worth more than provokers.
Healers are worth more than killers.
Peacemakers are worth more than instigators.
Deliverers are worth more than collaborators.
Saviors are worth more than invaders.
Believers are worth more than sinners.
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Matshona Dhliwayo
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The strangest of all the doctrines of the cult of competition, in which admittedly there must be losers as well as winners, is that the result of competition is inevitably good for everybody, that altruistic ends may be met by a system without altruistic motives or altruistic means.
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Wendell Berry (What Are People For?)
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Never stop loving,
never stop evolving,
never stop existing,
never give up,
never resist to change
never lie,
never stop telling truth,
never stop trusting,
never stereotype,
never judge,
never cheat,
never be manipulated,
never be enslaved,
never stop learning,
never stop improving,
never stop moving,
never stop kicking,
never stop innovating,
never be shy,
never conceal facts,
never obstruct justice,
never fight for no reason,
never stop craving for knowledge,
never stop keeping your head up,
never stop shooting for stars,
never sell yourself short,
never give promises you can't keep,
never stop complementing,
never stop thanking,
never stop appreciating life,
never stop being grateful,
never be dishonest,
never be a loser,
never stop working hard,
never stop dreaming,
never stop imagining,
never forget your past,
never think in the box,
never be arrogant,
never stop trying, and
never stop...
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John Taskinsoy
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Preachers in the pulpit peddling their wares, while beggars in the street wonder if anyone cares.
Teachers in our schools talking bout math, while students are deciding which will be their path.
Faithful in their pews listening to the Word, while losers on the corner hope they’ll practice what they’ve heard.
Leaders in their meetings trying to save our nation, while voters ponder their true motivation.
With people filled with hate and doubt, God is in our boxes waiting to be let out!
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Eric D. Grizzle
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This isn’t some libertarian mistrust of government policy, which is healthy in any democracy. This is deep skepticism of the very institutions of our society. And it’s becoming more and more mainstream. We can’t trust the evening news. We can’t trust our politicians. Our universities, the gateway to a better life, are rigged against us. We can’t get jobs. You can’t believe these things and participate meaningfully in society. Social psychologists have shown that group belief is a powerful motivator in performance. When groups perceive that it’s in their interest to work hard and achieve things, members of that group outperform other similarly situated individuals. It’s obvious why: If you believe that hard work pays off, then you work hard; if you think it’s hard to get ahead even when you try, then why try at all? Similarly, when people do fail, this mind-set allows them to look outward. I once ran into an old acquaintance at a Middletown bar who told me that he had recently quit his job because he was sick of waking up early. I later saw him complaining on Facebook about the “Obama economy” and how it had affected his life. I don’t doubt that the Obama economy has affected many, but this man is assuredly not among them. His status in life is directly attributable to the choices he’s made, and his life will improve only through better decisions. But for him to make better choices, he needs to live in an environment that forces him to ask tough questions about himself. There is a cultural movement in the white working class to blame problems on society or the government, and that movement gains adherents by the day. Here is where the rhetoric of modern conservatives (and I say this as one of them) fails to meet the real challenges of their biggest constituents. Instead of encouraging engagement, conservatives increasingly foment the kind of detachment that has sapped the ambition of so many of my peers. I have watched some friends blossom into successful adults and others fall victim to the worst of Middletown’s temptations—premature parenthood, drugs, incarceration. What separates the successful from the unsuccessful are the expectations that they had for their own lives. Yet the message of the right is increasingly: It’s not your fault that you’re a loser; it’s the government’s fault. My dad, for example, has never disparaged hard work, but he mistrusts some of the most obvious paths to upward mobility. When
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J.D. Vance (Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis)
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So there is more to their stance than a wistful yearning for acceptance in a world they never made. Their real motivation is an instinctive certainty as to what the score really is. They are out of the ballgame and they know it. Unlike the campus rebels, who with a minimum amount of effort will emerge from their struggle with a validated ticket to status, the outlaw motorcyclist views the future with the baleful eye of a man with no upward mobility at all. In a world increasingly geared to specialists, technicians and fantastically complicated machinery, the Hell’s Angels are obvious losers and it bugs them. But instead of submitting quietly to their collective fate, they have made it the basis of a full-time social vendetta. They don’t expect to win anything, but on the other hand, they have nothing to lose. If
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Hunter S. Thompson (Hell's Angels)
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1. ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. 2. OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. 3. MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water. 4. DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences. 5. JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. a. Mind reading. You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out. b. The Fortune Teller Error. You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact. 6. MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION: You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.” 7. EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.” 8. SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment. 9. LABELING AND MISLABELING: This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded. 10. PERSONALIZATION: You see yourself as me cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
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David D. Burns (Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques)
“
[...]Many of those friends were self-declared socialists - Wester socialists, that is. They spoke about Rosa Luxemburg, Leon Trotsky, Salvador Allende or Ernesto 'Che' Guevara as secular saints. It occurred to me that they were like my father in this aspect: the only revolutionaries they considered worthy of admiration had been murdered.[...]ut they did not think that my stories from the eighties were in any way significant to their political beliefs. Sometimes, my appropriating the label of socialist to describe both my experiences and their commitments was considered a dangerous provocation. [...] 'What you had was not really socialism.' they would say, barely concealing their irritation.
My stories about socialism in Albania and references to all the other socialist countries against which our socialism had measured itself were, at best, tolerated as the embarrassing remarks of a foreigner still learning to integrate. The Soviet Union, China, the German Democratic Republic, Yugoslavia, Vietnam, Cuba; there was nothing socialist about them either. They were seen as the deserving losers of a historical battle that the real, authentic bearers of that title had yet to join. My friends' socialism was clear, bright and in the future. Mine was messy, bloody and of the past.
And yet, the future that they sought, and that which socialist states had once embodied, found inspiration in the same books, the same critiques of society, the same historical characters. But to my surprise, they treated this as an unfortunate coincidence. Everything that went wrong on my side of the world could be explained by the cruelty of our leaders, or the uniquely backward nature of our institutions. They believed there was little for them to learn. There was no risk of repeating the same mistakes, no reason to ponder what had been achieved, and why it had been destroyed. Their socialism was characterized by the triumph of freedom and justice; mine by their failure. Their socialism would be brought about by the right people, with the right motives, under the right circumstances, with the right combination of theory and practice. There was only one thing to do about mine: forget it.
[...]But if there was one lesson to take away from he history of my family, and of my country, it was that people never make history under circumstances they choose. It is easy to say, 'What you had was not the real thing', applying that to socialism or liberalism, to any complex hybrid of ideas and reality. It releases us from the burden of responsability. We are no longer complicit in moral tragedies create din the name of great ideas, and we don't have to reflect, apologize and learn.
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Lea Ypi (Free: A Child and a Country at the End of History)
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Life is once, Death is Once, You'll find happy and sad. If your life doesn't move into other side, you may be a loser.
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Ady Mifarizki
“
Dare to face your competition, because running from it is associated with losers.
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John Taskinsoy
“
Many of the people God used in Scripture looked like losers before they looked like winners. After the disciples fished all night and caught nothing, Jesus told them, ‘…Do not be afraid. From now on you will catch men’ (Luke 5:10 NKJV). They did, and they ended up: a) building a church that’s still thriving two thousand years later; b) writing history’s greatest books; c) having our sons named after them. Does that mean you can just dream a dream and God will fulfil it? No. Paul says, ‘…You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God…’ (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV).
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Patience Johnson (Why Does an Orderly God Allow Disorder)
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It was clear that only a handful of banks would emerge as winners in our changing, consolidating industry. And the winners likely would be those whose employees could take risks and innovate, who could work smoothly on teams and motivate colleagues, and who could not only cope with change but also spur change. In short, leadership would separate the winners from the losers.
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Chris Lowney (Heroic Leadership: Best Practices from a 450-Year-Old Company That Changed the World)
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ALWAYS REMEMBER , LOSERS ARE THOSE WHO GIVE UP AND THOSE WHO DON'T GIVE UP , THEY'LL NEVER LOSE.....
Hindi translation - हारने वाले वह होते हैं जो हार मान लेते हैं और जो हार नहीं मानते वह कभी हारते नहीं।
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”
Nandani Mehta
“
Mais il faut le voir à table comme il la regarde quand elle brille, ses yeux d'animal subjugué. D'où vient-elle donc cette créature ?
Pr les mots dans sa bouche, ces idées qui lui passent par la cervelle, son insatisfaction tout le temps, son intraitable enthousiasme, ce désir d'aller voir ailleurs, de marquer les distances, cet élan qui frise l'injure parfois? Ou va-t-elle chercher tout ça ?
Alors, quand leur fille a besoin de sous pour un voyage de classe ou acheter des livres, Mireille et Jean ne rechignent pas. Ils raquent. Ils font ce qu'il faut. C'est leur terrible métier de parents, donner à cette gamine les moyens de son évasion.
On a si peu de raison de se réjouir dans ces endroits qui n’ont ni la mère ni la Tour Eiffel, ou dieu est mort comme partout où la soirée s’achèvent à 20 heures en semaine et dans les talus le week-end
Car elle et Jeannot savent qu'ils ne peuvent plus grand-chose pour elle. Ils font comme si, mais ils ne sont plus en mesure de faire des choix à sa place. Ils en sont réduits ça, faire confiance, croiser les doigts, espérer quils l'ont élevée comme il faut et que ça suffira.
L'adolescence est un assassinat prémédité de longue date et le cadavre de leur famille telle qu'elle fut git déjà sur le bord du chemin. Il faut désormais réinventer des rôles, admettre des distances nouvelles, composer avec les monstruosités et les ruades. Le corps est encore chaud. Il tressaille. Mais ce qui existait, l'enfance et ses tendresses évidentes, le règne indiscuté des adultes et la gamine pile au centre, le cocon et la ouate, les vacances à La Grande-Motte et les dimanches entre soi, tout cela vient de crever. On n'y reviendra plus.
Et puis il aimait bien aller à l'hôtel, dont elle réglait toujours la note. Il appréciait la simplicité des surfaces, le souci ergonome partout, la distance minime entre le lit et la douche, l'extrême propreté des serviettes de bain, le sol neutre et le téléviseur suspendu, les gobelets sous plastique, le cliquetis précis de l'huisserie quand la porte se refermait lourdement sur eux, le code wifi précisé sur un petit carton à côté de la bouilloire, tout ce confort limité mais invariable. À ses yeux, ces chambres interchangeables n'avaient rien d'anonyme. Il y retrouvait au contraire un territoire ami,
elle se disait ouais, les mecs de son espèce n'ont pas de répit, soumis au travail, paumés dans leurs familles recomposées, sans même assez de thune pour se faire plaisir, devenus les cons du monde entier, avec leur goût du foot, des grosses bagnoles et des gros culs. Après des siècles de règne relatif, ces pauvres types semblaient bien gênés aux entournures tout à coup dans ce monde qu'ils avaient jadis cru taillé à leur mesure.
Leur nombre ne faisait rien à l'affaire. Ils se sentaient acculés, passés de mode, foncièrement inadéquats, insultés par l'époque. Des hommes élevés comme des hommes, basiques et fêlés, une survivance au fond.
Toute la journée il dirigeait 20 personnes, gérait des centaines de milliers d'euros, alors quand il fallait rentrer à la maison et demander cent fois à Mouche de ranger ses chaussettes, il se sentait un peu sous employé. Effectivement.
Ils burent un pinot noir d'Alsace qui les dérida et, dans la chaleur temporaire d'une veille d'enterrement, se retrouvèrent.
- T'aurais pu venir plus tôt, dit Gérard, après avoir mis les assiettes dans le lave-vaisselle.
Julien, qui avait un peu trop bu, se contenta d'un mouvement vague, sa tête dodelinant d'une épaule à l'autre.
C'était une concession bien suffisante et le père ne poussa pas plus loin son avantage.
Pour motiver son petit frère, Julien a l'idée d'un entraînement spécial, qui débute par un lavage de cerveau en règle. Au programme, Rocky, Les Chariots de feu, Karaté Kid, et La Castagne, tout y passe. À chaque fois, c'est plus ou moins la même chose : des acteurs torse nu et des séquences d'entraînement qui transforment de parfaits losers en machines à gagner.
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Nicolas Mathieu (Connemara)
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The research seemed to reveal that the depressed individual sees himself as a “loser,” as an inadequate person doomed to frustration, deprivation, humiliation, and failure. Further experiments showed a marked difference between the depressed person’s self-evaluation, expectations, the aspirations on the one hand and his actual achievements—often very striking—on the other. My conclusion was that depression must involve a disturbance in thinking: the depressed person thinks in idiosyncratic and negative ways about himself, his environment, and his future. The pessimistic mental set affects his mood, his motivation, and his relationships with others, and leads to the full spectrum of psychological and physical symptoms typical of depression.
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David D. Burns (Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques)
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If there is a winner. he cannot become a winner. Only one who was once a loser can become a winner.
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Vishesh Panthi
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Denis Waitley, a motivational speaker, says, “Losers try to escape from their fears and drudgery with activities that are tension-relieving. Winners are motivated by their desires toward activities that are goal-achieving.
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Brian Tracy (Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time)
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You wait to feel motivated or inspired before you act. Losers wait to feel motivated. People who never get anything done wait to feel inspired. Motivation and inspiration are not sustaining forces. They crop up once in a while, and they’re nice while they’re present, but you can’t expect to be able to summon them any given hour of the day. You must learn to work without them, to gather your strength from purpose, not passion.
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Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)
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Winners and losers have the same goal. They just have different processes.
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Anje Kruger
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While the winners are out working, the losers are planning, thinking, analyzing, and stuck in indecision.
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Anje Kruger
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Staying motivated when circumstances get difficult or when progress toward the goal is slow, mundane or tedious, you can find yourself grinding to a halt. Sometimes working toward a goal isn’t glamorous. It’s dirty, it’s sweaty, and it causes you to stay up until all hours of the night, hammering away at a project until it’s done. If you find yourself bogged down with discouragement, depression or even just plain boredom, consider taking the focus off your task for a moment.
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L. David Harris (If You're a Loser, Then Quit: Motivation For People Who Can't Afford to Give Up)
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I will never be a loser. Never. Because I will never stop trying to be better.
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Toni Sorenson
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Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you're still trying, keep it up!
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Kathy Collins (200 Motivational and inspirational Quotes That Will Inspire Your Success)
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making final judgments on people because we lack the knowledge and the wisdom to do so. We would even apply the wrong standards. The world’s way is to judge competitively between winners and losers. The Lord’s way of final judgment will be to apply His perfect knowledge of the law a person has received and to judge on the basis of that person’s circumstances, motives, and actions throughout his or her entire life (Luke 12:47–48; John 15:22; 2 Nephi 9:25).
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Dallin H. Oaks (With Full Purpose of Heart: A Collection of Messages by Dallin H. Oaks)
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I’m sorry, what’s your name again?” “Frank Tremont, Essex County investigator.” “You new on the job, Frank?” Now he spread his hands. “Do I look new?” “No, Frank, you look like a hundred years of bad decisions, but your statement about motive would be the kind of thing some oxygen-deficient rookie might try on a brain-dead paralegal. First off—pay attention here—the loser of the fight is usually the one who seeks retribution, correct?” “Most of the time.” “Well”—Hester
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Harlan Coben (Caught)
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To make matters worse, most companies use the same standards for evaluating both routine and innovative work. They use conventional idea #6: Reward success, punish failure and inaction. This is fine for routine tasks. When known procedures are used by well-trained people, failure does signal improper training, weak motivation, or poor leadership. But applying this standard to innovative work stifles intelligent risks. The usual reward scheme means that, because people who do routine work succeed most of the time, they are glorified as winners. In contrast, people who do innovative work fail a lot. So they not only get few rewards, they may be denigrated as losers. In many companies, people who do routine work complain that “if those creative types just acted more like us, they would be more efficient and wouldn’t make all those mistakes!
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Robert I. Sutton (Weird Ideas That Work: 11 1/2 Practices for Promoting, Managing, and Sustaining Innovation)
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Runner up is champion of the losers.
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Raheel Farooq
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Most men have stopped trying and have settled for a life devoid of discipline, which can only lead to stunted personal growth and little freedom. That’s partly because they try to change alone. But we can’t enact discipline alone; it’s too dangerous. Alone we are all guaranteed failure. Alone we are almost guaranteed discouragement. The more we try, the more difficult it becomes to change, as the habit of trying and failing becomes familiar to us. The temptation to believe we are simply losers will creep in, and our motivation to continue will erode.
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Darrin Patrick (The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits)
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In this book, the history of American religion is the history of human actions and human organizations, not the history of ideas (refined or otherwise). But this is not to say that we regard theology as unimportant. To the contrary, we shall argue repeatedly that religious organizations can thrive only to the extent that they have a theology that can comfort souls and motivate sacrifice. In a sense, then, we are urging an underlying model of religious history that is the exact opposite of one based on progress through theological refinement. We shall present compelling evidence that theological refinement is the kind of progress that results in organizational bankruptcy.
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Roger Finke (The Churching of America, 1776-2005: Winners and Losers in Our Religious Economy)
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A dearth of fiduciaries willing to place client interests foremost forces individuals to take responsibility for their investment portfolios. In the profit-motivated world of Wall Street, fiduciary responsibility takes a backseat to self-interest. What benefits the stockbroker (commissions), the mutual fund manager (large pools of assets), and the financial advisor (high fees) injures the investor. When profit motive meets fiduciary responsibility, profits win and investors lose. Understand
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Charles D. Ellis (Winning the Loser's Game: Timeless Strategies for Successful Investing)
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Keep running; keep dreaming, keep alive the flame of hope; defeat and despair will not catch up with you
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Bangambiki Habyarimana (Pearls Of Eternity)
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I built an idea in my head of the hero I wanted to be, a grab bag of traits from heroes, villains, and side characters. I did not have book role models, I had book blueprints.
But there remained a huge gap between the person I wanted to be and the person who I was. This was because no matter how many book blueprints I had, as much as I wanted to make myself the hero of my own life, it didn’t matter as long as I kept telling the story wrong.
Nowadays, as a storyteller, I know what the problem was. I had all the elements I needed to tell a good story. But I was telling it the wrong way, so I could never get to the ending I wanted.
If you tell yourself you’re a winner, you know what kind of story you’re telling, and you will march toward that... Likewise, if you tell yourself you’re a loser, you’ve made that your story, and you will march toward that instead. The same setbacks could happen in the loser’s story as in the winner’s story, but the self-defined loser would let them be proof that they were never going to be anything.
Here’s the story I was telling myself back when I was little edible child waiting to be carried away by hawks and making OCD rituals for herself: once upon a time, there was a girl who was afraid of everything. When I was 16, I realized that I knew what this story looked like and how it ended, and it wasn’t the life I wanted for myself. If I wanted my ending to look different, I needed to change the kind of story I was telling about myself. I needed to shape my events into a different genre: once upon a time, there was a woman who was afraid of nothing. At age 16, I legally changed my name from my birthname — Heidi — to one I thought sounded like the hero I wanted to be: Maggie. And I vowed that I would never be afraid of anything ever again.
Did it work? No, of course not. Not right away. But it became a mission statement, my hero’s journey.
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Maggie Stiefvater
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Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you're still trying, keep it up! You're right on track. - Matthew Keith Groves Life
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Kathy Collins (200 Motivational and inspirational Quotes That Will Inspire Your Success)
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The act of taking the first step is what separates the winners from the losers.
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Reza Nazari (Memorable Quotes: From Top 50 Greatest Motivational Speakers of All Time)
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When you associate with great people, dreamers, high achievers, inventors, entrepreneurs; you soon become like them. Conversely, when you walk with losers, liars, cheaters, or crooks; you transform into one.
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John Taskinsoy
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You can only achieve what you put your mind into. Now decide, you want to be a loser or you want to conquer the world.
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John Taskinsoy
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The idea of individuals being in control of their destinies gained significant popularity during the late 17th century and continued through the 18th century. The subsequent Industrial Revolution further reinforced these ideas by emphasizing self-made success and personal agency. They do motivate people to take matters into their own hands, but taken to the extreme, they have surely done more harm than good, because it divided the world into “winners” and “losers”, regardless of whether they deserved to be.
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Anubhav Srivastava (UnLearn: A Practical Guide to Business and Life (What They Don't Want You to Know Book 1))
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Your success—or anyone else’s—does not come at someone else’s expense. Other people don’t have to fail for you to succeed. Your winning doesn’t have to mean there are losers.
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Nate Green (Suck Less, Do Better: The End of Excuses & the Rise of the Unstoppable You)
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The more successful you are . The lesser you hate and the more unsuccessful you are . The more you hate .That is why losers are the biggest haters. Our own failures and shortcomings lead us to envy and have jealousy. Jealousy makes us bitter, and Jealousy lead us to hate .
Hate is heavy burden to carry. It weighs us down that we can't get far in life.
We Lose focus, direction, purpose, and we lose ourselves. We end up channeling our resources, abilities, talent, education, experience, skills, emotions, and time in trying to break others rather than to build ourselves.
Let go of hate and see how far you can go.
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D.J. Kyos
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Fortunately, that guy with the Ferrari has graciously agreed to put on a seminar to help you sell more crap nobody wants to people who will then try to sell more crap nobody wants to more people who will sell it . . . and so on. And at said seminar, most of the time is spent psyching you up with music and chants and creating an us-versus-them dichotomy (“Winners never give up! Losers believe it won’t work for them!”), and you come away from the seminar really motivated and pumped, but still with no idea how to sell anything, especially crap nobody wants. And instead of getting pissed off at the money-based religion you’ve bought into, you get pissed off at yourself.
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Mark Manson (Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope)
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The first problem we face in our Crucial Conversations is not that our behavior degenerates. It’s that our motives do—a shift that we are often completely unaware of. Instead, we cling to our “stated” motive and ignore what our behavior reveals about our true motive. The first step in achieving the results we really want is to stop believing that others are the source of all that ails us. Our sister is not the problem; our motives are. It’s our dogmatic conviction that “if we could just fix those losers, all would go better
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Kerry Patterson (Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High)
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Leadership literature promotes envy with false promises. Casinos and lotteries encourage gambling with two messages: first, you, too, can win buckets of money, and, second, this is only possible if you gamble. Most gamblers and lottery ticket consumers do not win but lose. The truth is: “You can be a loser too.”12 When leadership books dwell on five-star generals, corporation executives, metropolis mayors, and megachurch CEOs, the implicit promise is like gambling: you can only win if you enter the game, and you, too, might hit the big time. But the majority of people, no matter how talented, motivated, and connected, will never be generals, executives, mayors, or megachurch pastors.
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Arthur Boers (Servants and Fools: A Biblical Theology of Leadership)
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Your why is what you’re good at; it’s what keeps you waking up mornings and working late into the night. It’s your motivation, your passion. Ideally, it creates a direct correlation between the effort you put into it and your wellbeing in life. If you haven’t found your why, you may be thinking that you’re a loser, unlucky, or just not as skilled as some of your peers. But that’s bull. A lack of success in your life doesn’t mean you don’t have what it takes. It’s far more likely that you just haven’t found your why. Find your why, and you’ll amaze yourself at how motivated and hard-working you become.
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Michael Contento
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If we acknowledge that housing is a basic right of all Americans, then we must think differently about another right: the right to make as much money as possible by providing families with housing- and especially to profit excessively from the less fortunate. Since the founding of this country, a long line of American visionaries have called for a more balanced relationship, one that protects people from the profit motive, "not to destroy individualism," in Franklin D. Roosevelt's words, "but to protect it." Child labor laws, the minimum wage, workplace safety regulations, and other protections we now take for granted came about when we chose to place the well-being of people above money. There are losers and winners. There are losers because there are winners. "Every condition exists," Martin Luther King Jr. once wrote, "simply because someone profits by its existence. This economic exploitation is crystallized in the slum.
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Matthew Desmond (Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City)
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Do you think there’s some loss aversion there? Because once you diverge, you’re not sure if you’re diverging toward a positive outcome or a negative outcome? Absolutely. I think that’s why the smartest and the most successful people I know started out as losers. If you view yourself as a loser, as someone who was cast out by society and has no role in normal society, then you will do your own thing and you’re much more likely to find a winning path. It helps to start out by saying, “I’m never going to be popular. I’m never going to be accepted. I’m already a loser. I’m not going to get what all the other kids have. I’ve just got to be happy being me.” For self-improvement without self-discipline, update your self-image. Everyone’s motivated at something. It just depends on the thing. Even the people that we say are unmotivated are suddenly really motivated when they’re playing video games. I think motivation is relative, so you just have to find the thing you’re into. [1] Grind and sweat, toil and bleed, face the abyss. It’s all part of becoming an overnight success.
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Eric Jorgenson (The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness)
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The greatest winners were once losers
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Adrien Malcolm Pierre
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Losers try to escape from their fears and drudgery with activities that are tension-relieving. Winners are motivated by their desires toward activities that are goal-achieving.
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Brian Tracy (Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time)
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Critical feedback is the breakfast of champions. Defensiveness is the dinner of losers. Dharmesh Shah
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M. Prefontaine (501 Quotes about Life: Funny, Inspirational and Motivational Quotes (Quotes For Every Occasion Book 9))
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Losing does not make us losers and failing does not make us failures.
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Yedidah Spann (Don't Give Up: Acknowledging the Struggle, Celebrating Resilience (The Faith Forward Series))
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In a war between customers and the company, customers might lose the fight due to the difference of powers, but the company is the ultimate loser.
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Sukant Ratnakar (Quantraz)
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They will be the losers. They have power and knowledge, but they are unable to love anything. Whether or not the world is really as your father imagines it to be, or as I’m convinced it is, we are agreed on one thing: such men will be the servants of destruction. Nothing good will ever come from them, no matter how high their motives may seem. If they have lost respect for even one small human life, or one small freedom, they will not long retain it for this humanity they profess to love so well.
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Michael D. O'Brien (Strangers and Sojourners)
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Losers wait to feel motivated. People who never get anything done wait to feel inspired.
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Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)
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Here’s an example from the test Marty and his students developed to distinguish optimists from pessimists: Imagine: You can’t get all the work done that others expect of you. Now imagine one major cause for this event. What leaps to mind? After you read that hypothetical scenario, you write down your response, and then, after you’re offered more scenarios, your responses are rated for how temporary (versus permanent) and how specific (versus pervasive) they are. If you’re a pessimist, you might say, I screw up everything. Or: I’m a loser. These explanations are all permanent; there’s not much you can do to change them. They’re also pervasive; they’re likely to influence lots of life situations, not just your job performance. Permanent and pervasive explanations for adversity turn minor complications into major catastrophes. They make it seem logical to give up. If, on the other hand, you’re an optimist, you might say, I mismanaged my time. Or: I didn’t work efficiently because of distractions. These explanations are all temporary and specific; their “fixability” motivates you to start clearing them away as problems. Using this test, Marty confirmed that, compared to optimists, pessimists are more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety. What’s more, optimists fare better in domains not directly related to mental health. For instance, optimistic undergraduates tend to earn higher grades and are less likely to drop out of school. Optimistic young adults stay healthier throughout middle age and, ultimately, live longer than pessimists. Optimists are more satisfied with their marriages. A one-year field study of MetLife insurance agents found that optimists are twice as likely to stay in their jobs, and that they sell about 25 percent more insurance than their pessimistic colleagues. Likewise, studies of salespeople in telecommunications, real estate, office products, car sales, banking, and other industries have shown that optimists outsell pessimists by 20 to 40 percent.
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Angela Duckworth (Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance)
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Can you be totally intrinsically motivated? “Not necessarily, it’s not always black and white,” says Brad Feld, partner at the Boulder, Colorado-based venture capital firm Foundry Group. I consider Brad a good friend and an expert at understanding the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. I met Brad through a good friend, Bing Gordon, the founder of EA Sports, and we quickly became friends. As he explains, “People fall along a continuum.” Brad uses tennis star Rafael Nadal as an example. He sees Nadal as having a blend of both extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. Nadal clearly likes to win. He likes the limelight and the attention he gets. “Yet . . . Nadal, after he loses a match, he’s a very gracious loser, acknowledging that the other guy played better and did an awesome job,” Brad explained to me. Nadal recharges his battery by heading off to the beach, and then he is back in training for the next tournament. His daily training regime includes four hours of playing tennis on court, two and a half hours in the gym, and a strict stretching routine. He’s continued this training whether he is ranked at number one, five, or seven in the world. It’s for him, not for the ranking. Brad also believes something I’ve really taken to heart—that one person can’t truly motivate another person, a concept especially important in business when you manage people. “I can’t motivate another person, but [I can] create a context in which they are motivated, and part of being a leader is to understand what motivates other people,” explained Brad. “So if I’m the leader of an organization that you’re a part of, I have to understand what motivates you. Then I can create a context in which to motivate you. Most people struggle to understand how somebody else is motivated because they do it based on what motivates them.” Brad’s words ring true: While my own inspiration has come from various people, none of them actually motivated me. When I was extrinsically motivated, it was based largely on what others thought about me. My inner desire to win was based on extrinsic rewards. Only I had the power to change that.
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Jeremy Bloom (Fueled By Failure: Using Detours and Defeats to Power Progress)
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Loss, at first it naturally brings the pain, the restlessness, the feeling of being trapped; we struggle, try harder, but our mind stops thinking about the reason of loss, it just signals our body to go for the win, we keep running, mentally exhausted, physically drained but still no win; we try harder & harder but keep doing similar work which earlier decorated us with success, eventually it becomes a ritual triggering the euphoria of a absolute surrender, we get used to the loss. Every day the ritual is followed, but we get used to the loss like we get used to the unanswered prayers, we stop thinking about the win, although bad feelings grip us from time to time but it passes very quickly, And just as losers justify their loss, we become addicted to a thought process which only blames other people and situation for our loss.
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Shahenshah Hafeez Khan
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Finding and fixing every missing piece of life isn't easy. It sometimes takes the life out of life. But giving up is what losers do, not winners. At the end, whether you found all the pieces will not matter but how well you fixed what you found will..
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Shreya Naik
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All the world loves a winner, and has no time for a loser,
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Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow Rich: Granddaddy of All Motivational Literature)
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It is possible to be in the Way of Excellence and still lose. Think about this for a moment. Would you rather experience playing, competing and performing at your all-time best in the Zone and lose, or play awful, get lucky and win? When put in this perspective, the definition of winning and losing is not clear.
In other words, it is possible to lose and still perform like a winner,
just as it is possible to win and play like a loser.
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Tobe Hanson (Athlete's Way of Excellence: Ancient Chinese Wisdom Revealing the Secrets to Modern Day Athletic Peak Performance and How to Be in The Zone)
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Our results never decide what we are?
Just your hard work and your efforts decide whether you are a loser or not ..
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DASHING SHIBU
SHIBU CHANDRAN
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Shibu chandran
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What contribution are you making? You must take risks to break through, or you will always remain a loser. Put yourself out there. Stand up and be counted.
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Joe Dixon (The Ownership Wars: Who Owns You?)