Lori Desautels Quotes

The mother’s emotions, thoughts, and perceptions can cross the placenta in the form of hormones, reprograming and preparing how the child will adapt to his or her environment.46

persistent state of alarm (i.e.,

They are meant to cause some form of pain to teach a child a lesson.

Discipline focuses on solutions, not retribution

REGULATE then RELATE and then REASON.

relationship resistant.

The practice of co-regulating with children and youth begins when adults change their focus from the surface behaviors they see in class to the emotions and sensations driving that behavior.

Our issues with these students are not behavioral, they are regulatory.

In children, anger is fear’s bodyguard.

In Van der Kolk’s words, complex trauma occurs when a young person experiences “multiple, chronic, and prolonged, developmentally adverse traumatic events, most

Children who have experienced complex trauma exhibit a more pronounced deficit in developmental brain-aligned stress response systems. In other words, this trauma compromises these young people’s ability to self-regulate their behavior.

five hidden wounds of racial trauma, including: 1) internalized devaluation; 2) assaulted sense of self; 3) internalized voicelessness; 4) the wound of rage; and 5) the sense of being a nobody.

They share how they have learned how to duck bullets before learning to read. This

educational justice.

Chronic activation of the fear response can damage those parts of the brain responsible for cognition and learning.

the adversities and trauma of our children and others can create a secondary firestorm inside our own nervous systems.

This mentor could be another colleague or friend, but it must be a person who lifts us up and assists us in seeing the best parts of ourselves in the worst moments.

1. Symbolic Gifts A talisman symbolizes ritual and ceremony, which our brains enjoy.

Nothing is more uplifting than when we serve each other,

No one speaks of the pain that pain-based behavior causes those who work with them.

the language of the brain stem is sensation, the language of the limbic system is feelings. When

high emotional states equate to low logical states,

According to these scholars, the very event that has caused so much pain often becomes our source of meaning, identity, and a place of familiarity, no matter how dysfunctional it feels or looks.

An exercise roller is an effective tool in helping a student feel pressure and sensation in the body, which helps him or her focus within the frontal lobe regions of the brain, creating a sensation of feeling the body in the “here and now.

Sound. The use of sound is very powerful for engaging a calm response. You can use rain sticks, bells, chimes, and music.

Our shift comes from viewing discipline not as something that we do to another, but rather as something we want to create within another.

A dysregulated adult cannot regulate a child.

The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.

Behavioral management is about adults, not about children

Tapping: An Emotional Freedom Technique

Children are the most honest barometers of the health of our communities. Their disruptive behavior is a call to action to all of us—to tend to the broken links and suffering with compassion and wisdom.” TRAUMA INFORMED POSITIVE BEHAVIOR SUPPORT WEBSITE