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All my life, I’d been told, implicitly and explicitly, that I was a horrible person because I was moody, manipulative, bossy, selfish, rude. My parents, my teachers, my therapists all condemned me for these traits. Now here was Leah telling me they weren’t traits at all; they were merely symptoms. This was a huge distinction—the difference between being born with green skin versus a bully throwing a bucket of green paint over my head. Both made me unattractive. But paint, however thick, can be scrubbed off. Green skin, on the other hand, is in the DNA. It can’t be changed; it’s permanent.
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Michelle Stevens (Scared Selfless: My Journey from Abuse and Madness to Surviving and Thriving)