Janice Kaplan Quotes

On the off-chance you won't live forever, maybe you should try being happy now.

There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.

Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. —Marcel Proust

A central theme was recognizing what is in your control and what isn’t—and acting on the one and ignoring the other. It’s a philosophy that has resonated over the centuries. Reading

In other words, even though they might be doing better than boys at school (as is often the case), girls have gotten the message that the boys are supposed to be the smart ones.

Daniel Kahneman says ruminating on what went wrong makes evolutionary sense. Our ancestors survived by remembering the one poisonous berry they encountered and telling their friends about it. Describing the ten tasty ones didn’t do much good at all. We

I quickly realised that gratitude wasn’t the same as happiness—it has a much deeper resonance. Most of us feel cheered when something nice occurs—a friend sends flowers or we spend an afternoon in the park. But those moments can be fragile and fleeting, and what happens when they’re over? Because it’s not dependent on specific events, gratitude is long lasting and impervious to change or adversity. It requires an active emotional involvement—you can’t be passively grateful, you actually have to stop and feel it, experience the emotion. So it creates an inner richness that’s sustaining in difficult times as well as good ones.

The bias begins very early. At age six, to be exact. At least that was the finding from another recent study Leslie and Cimpian conducted, where they told little children a story about a person who was “really, really smart.” Then they showed them four pictures—two men and two women—and asked who the story was about. Up until age five, the boys and girls pointed to the grown-up who looked like them—the boys picked one of the men and the girls picked one of the women. But at age six, it changed. Asked to identify the “really, really smart” person, the boys picked a man—and the girls did, too.

The more hardship people have suffered, in my experience, the easier it is for them to be grateful for the little things—which, of course, are the things that, added up, comprise our whole

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chemical causes and effects of emotion also show connections to exercise. A substance called kynurenine builds up in your bloodstream when you’re stressed, and it can pass into the brain and cause the damaging inflammation that leads to depression. Researchers in

I don't understand why you bikers revere the Grateful Dead," I say, tentatively approaching the saddle. "I want to make it clear that if we end up dead, I'm not going to be grateful.

It’s one thing to think that your job has a purpose, and it’s another to meet a specific person who cares, appreciates, and values what you do,” Grant told me. “The call center people got a new sense of their worth—not only on the job but as individuals.

You only succeed if you’re willing to fail—and then pick yourself up and try again,

Researchers have found that people who write down three things they’re grateful for every night (or even a few times a week) improve their well-being and lower their risk of depression.

Me explicó que, para él, las mejores relaciones son una «alternancia entre tormentas y sol frente a un cielo permanentemente nublado».

The real issue separating men and women isn't talent or achievement or natural brilliance or hard work. It's being in the position to set the rules. Men have had that power, and women have not... It's time to change our perspective, to see and consider women's talents in a new way.

It’s such a waste of mental energy to be furious that something isn’t the way you want it to be. Fighting life is what causes problems. When you can accept life on life’s terms, you pave the way for a measure of peace that you miss otherwise,” she said.

reactive gratitude—an unconscious response that allows us to find redeeming value in the difficult event itself.

taking several short trips in a year is likely to give you more peak experiences—and grateful memories—than one long but unremarkable vacation.