Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

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Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.
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The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don't want.
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Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.
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You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them
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Iyanla Vanzant (Yesterday, I Cried)
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Remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here.
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Iyanla Vanzant (One Day My Soul Just Opened Up: 40 Days and 40 Nights Toward Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth)
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choice is a divine teacher, for when we choose we learn that nothing is ever put in our path without a reason.
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You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don't do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.
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One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.
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Yesterday, I cried. I came home, went straight to my room, sat on the edge of my bed, kicked off my shoes, unhooked my bra, and I had myself a good cry.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Yesterday, I Cried)
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When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.
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when you have something to do life will not allow you to move foward until you do it.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life.
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Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren't..
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When you can look a thing dead in the eye, acknowledge that it exists, call it exactly what it is, and decide what role it will take in your life then, my Beloved, you have taken the first step toward your freedom.
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I'd been taught not to like myself,because the people around me didn't, for whatever reason like me.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Everyone has a purpose because God is a purposeful God.
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The voice I had accepted as Divine Guidance was actually the voice of my ego leading me right into destruction.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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So many of us invest a fortune making ourselves look good to the world, yet inside we are falling apart. It's time to invest on the inside.
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You don't get to tell people how to love you; you get to choose if you want to participate in the way they love.
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Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.
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In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Release and detach from every person, every circumstance, every condition, and every situation that no longer serves a divine purpose in your life. All things have a season, and all seasons must come to an end. Choose a new season, filled with purposeful thoughts and activities.
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What is it that would make a creature as fierce, majestic and powerful as a lion is, subject itself to the intimidation of a man a whip and a chair? The lion has been taught to forget what it is.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Their issues are not your issues.
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Iyanla Vanzant (The Value in the Valley: A Black Woman's Guide Through Life's Dilemmas)
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When you enter a new experience, all that requires healing rushes to the surface . . . You have to pause.
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Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
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The road of life is strewn with the bodies of promising people. People who show promise, yet lack the confidence to act. People who make promises they are unable to keep. People who promise to do tomorrow what they could do today. Promising young stars, athletes, entrepreneurs who wait for promises to come true. Promise without a goal and a plan is like a barren cow. You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can't. Turn your promise into a plan. Make no promise for tomorrow if you are able to keep it today. And if someone calls you promising, know that you are not doing enough today.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations for People of Color)
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I now realize that lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done. Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in the first place.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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When two broken people bring their broken pieces together, chances are they will never become a whole anything.
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Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tipβ€”we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, Stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.
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God is love. Love is always present, surrounding us; guiding, growing, and teaching us. Even in the midst of total chaos, pain, and dysfunction, love is calling us to a higher experience and expression.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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When you feel unprotected, unsupported and unprepared to take care of yourself, your insides will feel if you have been through a train wreck. The best way to describe this experience is that you are having a head on body collision between your wannabe and your can never be.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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I’ve learned we all get exactly what we need, when we need it, in order to learn what God intends for us to know so we can be who God intends for us to be.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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When your life is going downhill, it doesn’t get better just because you want it to. Nor can you will it to be better. Your life will only get better when you get better.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering.
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Even though there is a part of me holding on to the belief that I am now, have always been, and will always be unworthy, I am still willing to love and accept myself.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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When you are starting your life over, with a new sense of self, who you once were is going to challenge you. Who you once were is going to dangle old carrots, old wounds and issues, in front of your face. When that happens, you will be tempted to revert to old feelings, old patterns of thought, and old patterns of behavior.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison. β€”NELSON MANDELA
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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FORGIVENESS ADDRESSES HOW WE THINK AND FEEL ABOUT OTHERS AND OURSELVES AND HOW THOSE THOUGHTS MANIFEST WITHIN OUR LIVES AS ENERGY.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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If you are a woman, you may need to forgive those whom you have loved or those who refused to love you; those who have hurt you, shamed you, and abandoned you; or those who left you scarred or wounded.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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A change of perspective may be all it takes to transform a painful experience into a powerful growth experience.
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Unworthiness always puts you in debt to anyone and everyone who shows you the slightest degree of attention or love or energy. Eventually, in this form of bankrupt relationship, your benefactors will demand or expect more than you are able or willing to give. This is the precise moment they will choose to call in the loan.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Feelings come and they pass. Whatever we are feeling in any given moment is just a passing experience. Our work is to learn to accept what we feel and to learn to let it pass.
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Whether or not we know what we are creating or how we are creating it, when things do not turn out the way we desire, our human instincts drive us to look for someone to blame.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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I now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself.
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Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.
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Today I am devoted to addressing all the little things about me and in my life that I have not mastered!
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Iyanla Vanzant (Until Today!: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind (New York))
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You simply cannot pay the debts that come along with believing you are unworthy.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move ahead smoothly. The truth is, in most cases, we could do just that. The reality is, we don’t do it! We keep moving. We allow little insults to become raging angers, little arguments to become festering feuds, little pains to become deep wounds, and we keep moving. In many cases, we keep hurting. When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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It doesn’t matter what road you take, hill you climb, or path you’re on, you will always end up in the same place, learning. β€” Ralph Stevenson
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Iyanla Vanzant (Acts of Faith: Meditations For People of Color)
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable. β€” Maya Angelou
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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If It's Not Your Story To Tell,Don't Tell It...
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HAD I NOT SPENT SO MUCH TIME DOING SOMETHING THAT MADE ME SO MISERABLE, I WOULD HAVE NEVER LEARNED HOW TO APPRECIATE DOING WHAT BRINGS ME JOY. Β 
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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COMPARISON IS AN ACT OF VIOLENCE AGAINST THE SELF
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I have a body, but I am not my body. I have a face, but I am not my face.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Don't Give It Away! : A Workbook of Self-Awareness and Self-Affirmations for Young Women)
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When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let go. Surrender all attachments to people and things that you have been struggling to hold on to.
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Honor your own Self. Meditate on your own Self. Worship your own Self. Kneel to your own Self. Understand your own Self. Your God dwells within you as you.
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Iyanla Vanzant (One Day My Soul Just Opened Up)
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Some of us will plant the seed and never see the plant.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Acts of Faith: Meditations For People of Color)
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The good news is that when you have something to do, life will not allow you to move forward until you do it. The bad news is the same.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Those whom the devil would tempt, He tells not a lie, but a lesser truth.
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The greatest gift of surrender was that it helped me to realize that it is arrogant of me not to forgive myself when God forgives me.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Help me to see new ways of being as I release old ways of seeing.
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Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now.
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The extent and extenuation of your pain renders you unconscious.
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Very often we claim to know something. We get an idea about what to do or not do, yet, for some reason our behavior doesn’t change. At times, we just can’t seem to do what we know. This is known as mental healing. Something has shifted in your thinking, but it has not reach the other levels of your beingβ€”the heart and the spirit.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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When you are in alignment with the desires of your heart, things have a way of working out.
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Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in the first place.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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FORGIVENESS IS A SILENT, INTIMATE TEACHER. SHE IS ALWAYS READY TO BRING THE LESSONS YOU NEED, WHETHER OR NOT YOU WANT TO LEARN.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Judgment is harsh and mean and meant to hurt, as if the pain of what we do or say will slap others into our way of believing.
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What we eventually uncovered was that I was afraidβ€”afraid to ask for what I wanted, afraid to speak up for myself, afraid that I didn’t have what it took to do what I really wanted to do. In response to my fears, I blamed other people for what I considered their failure to acknowledge me. The conversation didn’t stop there.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Self-trust is about having an inner voice, being connected to that inner voice, learning how to hear and follow that voice, and doing the personal healing work required to make sure that the voice you hear brings your best interests to the forefront of your mind. Connecting
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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Forgiveness is not an easy chore to undertake, nor is it for the weak. I forgive you, God, for leaving me out here to figure out all of this on my own. Yet forgiveness is the daily minimum requirement for a healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful life. I forgive my mind for believing that what was is what always has to be.
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I now understand that our life experiences come forth from our souls and that nothing really happens to us; it all happens for our benefit.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Until and unless you know that you are enough just the way you are, you will always be driven to look for more. Knowing that you are enough is a function of consciousness. Your enough-ness develops in direct proportion to the relationship you have with your true identity. Until you wholeheartedly believe in your own worth, in spite your of accomplishments and possessions, there will be a void in your Spirit. I had more than a void. I had a gaping hole that no amount of achievement, money, or acknowledgment could fill. I’m not good enough, and I will never be good enough to deserve this kind of attention.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)
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Once you become willing to let it all go, God will open a new space in your heart and rewire your brain to know, receive, and express love in healthy ways. I forgive myself for believing that what I made up about who they were is the truth I had to live with for years of my life.
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When we know, believe, and understand that we are individual expressions of God, trusting ourselves and trusting God are the same. There is no separation.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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The impact of a lack of self-acceptance is intensified in the relationships between and among women.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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THE REASON YOU KEEP ATTRACTING THE ONES WHO LEAVE IS BECAUSE YOU EXPECT THEM TO DO SO.
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When you spend more time being angry, hurt, and upset about what happened, you pretty much barricade the door of what is possible.
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Forgiveness frees the forgiver.
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Before you can live a part of you has to die.
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Until you trust you, you will be suspicious, disconnected and dishonest with yourself and everyone else
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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Live your life in PEACE, not in PIECES...
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Stop chasing things that are beneath the truth of who you are. Stop holding on to things and people that weigh you down. Stop behaving in ways that don’t honor the divinity and nobility within you.
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September 29 I will fear no evil: for thou art with me . . . β€” Psalm 23:4 No matter what is happening in your relationships, fear nothing and no one. When you walk with the consciousness of the Creator, there is nothing to fear. Do not fear that people will harm you or leave you. Do not fear people who threaten you. Do not fear obstacles that confront you. Have no fear of harm to your body or possessions, you are walking with the strong arm of the law. Do not fear disapproval. Do not fear criticism. Do not fear judgment. Know that the only energy that has any power in your life is the gift of breath from God. Do not fear places. Do not fear darkness. Do not fear separation or divorce. Do not fear being alone. Do not fear being east aside. When you walk with the Master, you are in the best company available.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Acts of Faith: Meditations For People of Color)
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Sharing what you’ve learned and helping others is a good source of renewal.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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When I asked Shaheerah why she believes it is so difficult for people to trust God, she said, β€œBecause God is intangible and invisible, it is easier to believe what you been told about God than it is to learn about God through experience.” As
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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Let yourself remember and visualize the ways you have hurt others. See the pain you have caused out of your own fear and confusion. Feel your own sorrow and regret. Sense that finally you can release this burden and ask for forgiveness. Take as much time as you need to picture each memory that still burdens your heart.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Comparison is an act of violence against the self. It also leads to judgments and jealousy of those we deem β€œbetter off” than we are. If we aren’t the ones doing the comparing, then we’re the ones against whom other women measure themselves. In either case, the comparison, judgments, and jealousy can lead to ugly behavior.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything)
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Trust is an essential soul need. The psychological injuries and emotional wounds we experience as children affect our soul. When the soul does not develop within the experience of trust, there remains within us a child who is in a constant search for attention, understanding, love, respect, and possibly justice for her abuse or neglect. These needs, when left unmet and unaddressed, will fester and grow into disruptive and/or dysfunctional behavior patterns that will impact every aspect of our lives. As
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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There is only one way to shift your consciousness from painful conditional attachments to peaceful unconditional love. You must create new love expectations based on honour, respect & support. Honour what you feel by believing you can have what you want. Respect where you are in your life, understanding that when you are ready to move forward you will. Support yourself by refusing to accept less than you want. This is your foundation.
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Iyanla Vanzant (In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want)
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It takes a great deal of energy to doubt yourself constantly, and even more to beat yourself upβ€”or downβ€”even if it’s only in your own mind. While you are engaged in mental or emotional battery, you are bound to feel exhausted. In the midst of mental or emotional exhaustion, the negative ego can and will trick you into believing that you now have a valid justification for why you should not, cannot, and do not trust yourself. This is what I call β€œthe dark side of trust,” the internal experience of questioning and doubting yourself, your desires, and your ability to hold your own.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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When you do not trust yourself, what you feel, and what you know, you will expect people to be who they are not. You will hope against hope that they will do things you already know they cannot do. You will expect them to be who you want them to be rather than trusting what you know about who they are and what they are capable of doing. This is not trust. This is magical thinking, and engaging in it will set you up for a big letdown. Trusting yourself is important when dealing with others because it protects you from repeated violations and devastating heartbreaks.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts: Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, Trust in Life)
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When doubt is present in your consciousness it indicates a much more profound problem. The real problem is the personal lie. Everyone has one: It is a story that we tell ourselves about who we are and what we do and do not deserve in life. Your personal lie is a function of all of the broken pieces of your puzzleβ€”all of the elements of your history, all of your experiences, all that you have been taught about yourself merging with all that you have made up about yourself. Your personal lie circulates throughout your entire being and determines how you move, or if you can move at all. It is a function of what is stored on your internal landscape, your perceptions and misconceptions about life and how you fit into the scheme of things.
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Iyanla Vanzant (Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through)