Iyanla In The Meantime Quotes

You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.

You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.

Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tip—we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves.

Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move ahead smoothly. The truth is, in most cases, we could do just that. The reality is, we don’t do it! We keep moving. We allow little insults to become raging angers, little arguments to become festering feuds, little pains to become deep wounds, and we keep moving. In many cases, we keep hurting. When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.

Sharing what you’ve learned and helping others is a good source of renewal.

There is only one way to shift your consciousness from painful conditional attachments to peaceful unconditional love. You must create new love expectations based on honour, respect & support. Honour what you feel by believing you can have what you want. Respect where you are in your life, understanding that when you are ready to move forward you will. Support yourself by refusing to accept less than you want. This is your foundation.

always a process involved in any healing endeavor. The first step in the process is to be willing to pray and ask questions. We must stop trying to figure out what is going on! Sooner or later you should realize that if you knew what you were doing to make yourself miserable or crazy, you would not be doing it. Stop!

You will discover that God has always and will always love you, no matter what you have done or what you may do. How do you know this? You will know because you realize that only God and the love of God could have picked you up out of the basement. You couldn’t have done it on your own, because you did not know what to do!

Truth is love’s mother, and we all know it is not wise to lie to anyone’s mother. Somehow, some way, Mother always finds out that you are lying. When she does, there is hell to pay!

Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tip—we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves.” ― Iyanla Vanzant