Fumitake Koga Quotes

PHILOSOPHER: Then, let’s dance in earnest the moments of the here and now, and live in earnest. Do not look at the past, and do not look at the future. One lives each complete moment like a dance. There is no need to compete with anyone, and one has no use for destinations. As long as you are dancing, you will get somewhere.

PHILOSOPHER: The greatest life-lie of all is to not live here and now. It is to look at the past and the future, cast a dim light on one’s entire life, and believe that one has been able to see something. Until now, you have turned away from the here and now and shone a light only on invented pasts and futures. You have told a great lie to your life, to these irreplaceable moments.

No te preocupes si te pierdes o te desorientas. No dependas de las relaciones verticales, no temas no gustar a los demás y avanza con libertad.

Mais les gens qui essaient de paraître plus importants en empruntant le pouvoir de quelqu'un d'autre vivent essentiellement selon le système de valeurs d'autrui - ils vivent la vie d'autrui.

I have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist, but he never seems to be able to complete his work. According to him, his job keeps him too busy, and he can never find enough time to write novels, and that's why he can't complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of "I can do it if I try" open, by not committing to anything. He doesn't want to expose his work to criticism, and he certainly doesn't want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and face rejection. He wants to live inside that realm of possibilities, where he can say that he could do it if he only had the time, or that he could write if he just had the proper environment, and that he really does have the talent for it. In another five or ten years, he will probably start using another excuses like "I'm not young anymore" or "I've got a family to think about now

Ce n'est pas parce que le monde est compliqué. C'est parce que tu le rends compliqué.

La première étape avant de pouvoir changer, c'est de savoir.

Mais personne, pas même le plus endurci des criminels, ne se lance dans le crime par pur désir de s'engager dans le mal. Chaque criminel a une raison interne de se livrer au crime. [...] Pour celui qui le commet, c'est quelque chose qui a une justification et qui pourrait être considéré comme "bon, bien". Bien sûr, il ne s'agit pas de bon au sens moral, mais dans le sens "qui apporte un bénéfice".

Notre monde est plein d'injustices et de méfaits de toutes sortes, et pourtant il n'est pas une personne qui désire le mal au sens le plus strict du terme, c'est-à-dire quelque chose "qui n'apporte pas de bénéfice".

A un moment dans ta vie, tu as choisi de "ne pas être heureux". Ce n'est pas parce que tu es né dans un milieu malheureux ou que tu t'es retrouvé dans une situation malheureuse. C'est que tu as jugé que "ne pas être heureux" t'apporterait quelque chose.

Pourquoi se précipiter pour obtenir des réponses? Tu devrais parvenir aux réponses par toi-même, et ne pas compter sur ce que quelqu'un d'autre peut te procurer. Les réponses venant des autres ne sont rien de plus que des solutions de dépannage ; elles n'ont aucune valeur.

Je me suis retiré des endroits qui se préoccupent de gagner ou de perdre. Quand quelqu'un essaie d'être lui-même, la compétition est toujours un obstacle.

La solitude, c'est lorsqu'on est entouré par les autres, la société, la communauté, et qu'on a le profond sentiment d'être exclu de leur cercle.

Chúng ta bước trên một không gian phẳng không tồn tại trục thẳng đứng. Chúng ta bước đi không phải để cạnh tranh với ai. Giá trị nằm ở chính nỗ lực tiến lên vượt qua cái bản thân trong hiện tại.

Cho dù chưa trở thành kẻ thua cuộc, cho dù vẫn vào thế thắng thì người luôn đặt mình trong trạng thái cạnh tranh sẽ chẳng có lúc nào đượ bình yên trong lòng cả. Không muốn trở thành kẻ thua cuộc, và để không trở thành kẻ thua cuộc thì phải tiếp tục chién thắng. Không thể tin tưởng người khác. Có nhiều người đạt được thành công trong xã hội nhưng không cảm thấy hạnh phúc là vì họ luôn sông trong tâm thế cạnh tranh. Đối với họ thế giới là một nơi nguy hiểm, đầy rẫy kẻ thù.

People are never truly alone or separate from community, and cannot be.

Dan protagonis dalam kehidupan seseorang adalah "aku". Sampai di titik ini, tidak ada yang salah dengan pemikiran itu. Tapi "aku" bukanlah pusat dunia ini. Meski "aku" adalah protagonis kehidupan, "aku" tidak lebih dari anggota masyarakat dan bagian dari satu kesatuan.

Philosopher: Look, people are extremely selfish creatures who are capable of finding any number of flaws and shortcomings in others whenever the mood strikes them. A man of perfect character could come along, and one would have no difficulty in digging up some reason to dislike him. That’s exactly why the world can become a perilous place at any time, and it’s always possible to see everyone as one’s enemies.

PHILOSOPHER: If one really has a feeling of contribution, one will no longer have any need for recognition from others. Because one will already have the real awareness that “I am of use to someone,” without needing to go out of one’s way to be acknowledged by others. In other words, a person who is obsessed with the desire for recognition does not have any community feeling yet, and has not managed to engage in self-acceptance, confidence in others, or contribution to others.

Admitting is a good attitude. But don't forget, it's basically impossible to not get hurt in your relations with other people. When you enter into interpersonal relationships, it is inevitable that to a greater or lesser extent you will get hurt, and you will hurt someone, too. Adler says, "To get rid of one's problems, all one can do is live in the universe all alone." But one can't do such a thing.

Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.

Con người không được tạo ra bởi trai nghiệm của bản thân trong quá khứ, mà bởi ý nghĩa chúng ta gán cho những trải nghiệm đó

Con người không được tạo ra bởi trải nghiệm của bản thân trong quá khứ, mà bởi ý nghĩa chúng ta gán cho những trải nghiệm đó

You’re the only one who’s worried about your face. —ICHIRO KISHIMI AND FUMITAKE KOGA, KIRAWARERU YUKI (COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED)

I am not saying it’s fine to be “just as you are.” If you are unable to really feel happy, then it’s clear that things aren’t right just as they are. You’ve got to put one foot in front of the other, and not stop.

You notice only your shortcomings because you’ve resolved to not start liking yourself.

Loneliness is having other people and society and community around you, and having a deep sense of being excluded from them. To feel lonely, we need other people.

La subjetividad de CÓMO VEMOS lo es todo, y es imposible escapar de la propia subjetividad.

Never again can we return to those days of tranquility, when we were enveloped in warm amniotic fluid.

No matter what has occurred in your life up to this point, it should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on.

with dance, it is the dancing itself that is the goal, and no one is concerned with arriving somewhere by doing it

Earlier, didn’t you say, ‘I can’t celebrate other people’s happiness with all my heart’? You think of interpersonal relationships as competition; you perceive other people’s happiness as ‘my defeat’, and that is why you can’t celebrate it. However, once one is released from the schema of competition, the need to triumph over someone disappears. One is also released from the fear that says, Maybe I will lose. And one becomes able to celebrate other people’s happiness with all one’s heart. One may become able to contribute actively to other people’s happiness. The person who always has the will to help another in times of need—that is someone who may properly be called your comrade.

It is connected with the subject of competition. Please remember that. If there is competition at the core of a person’s interpersonal relationships, he will not be able to escape interpersonal relationship problems or escape misfortune. YOUTH: Why not? PHILOSOPHER: Because at the end of a competition, there are winners and losers.

Por otro lado, si elegimos un estilo de vida nuevo, no podemos predecir lo que nos sucederá, ni tenemos la menor idea de cómo abordaremos lo que nos vaya sucediendo. Anticipar el futuro será difícil y la vida estará llena de ansiedad. Quizá nos aguarde una vida más dolorosa e infeliz. En pocas palabras, aunque la gente suele quejarse de muchas cosas, lo más fácil y seguro es seguir como se está.

las personas solo nos convertimos en «individuos» cuando estamos en un contexto social.

Crees en tu pareja; esa es tu tarea. Sin embargo, cómo actúe ella en relación con tus expectativas y tu confianza es tarea suya.

vivir con la preocupación constante de cómo nos ven los demás es un estilo de vida egocéntrico cuya única preocupación es el «yo».

Me alejé de los lugares en los que la máxima preocupación es ganar o perder.

Talvez seja mais fácil viver satisfazendo as expectativas alheias, porque assim você confia a própria vida a elas.

Najteže nije znati zašto živiš,nego uspjeti pobjeći tom pitanju.

Adlerovska psihologija jest psihologija hrabrosti. Ne možete kriviti svoju prošlost ili okruženje za vlastitu nesreću. Niti vam nedostaje sposobnosti. Nedostaje vam samo hrabrosti. Mogli bismo reći da vam nedostaje hrabrosti da budete sretni.

U adlerovskoj psihologiji osobnost i narav opisujemo izrazom “životni stil”. Životni stil su tendencije mišljenja i djelovanja u životu. Kako netko vidi svijet. I kako vidi sam sebe. Gledajte na životni stil kao na koncept koji objedinjuje načine pronalaženja smisla. U adlerovskoj je psihologiji životni stil nešto što sam izabereš.

Težnja prema superiornosti mentalitet je u kojem činimo jedan korak naprijed vlastitim snagama, a ne mentalitet natjecanja u kojem moramo pokušavati biti veći od drugih. Dovoljno je samo nastaviti se kretati naprijed, ne natječući se ni s kim. I, naravno, nema potrebe da se čovjek uspoređuje s drugima. Zdrav osjećaj inferiornosti nije nešto što proizlazi iz uspoređivanja s drugima nego iz uspoređivanja s vlastitim idealnim “ja”.

Čim smo uvjereni da smo “u pravu” u nekom međuljudskom odnosu, već smo zakoračili u borbu za moć.