Deborah Frances White Quotes

Much of confidence is recognising times when there is nothing truly at stake and that failure can be seen as ‘gathering data’ rather than evidence that we as individuals are ‘no good’ at something.

The further away you are from being a white man, the less you are seen by society as being a neutral ‘person’. That’s pretty devastating, isn’t it?

start to assess your life step by step and work out who you are and how much more dangerous you could be if you got fearless and ferocious.

There are garments in all of our wardrobes we don't wear because we don't dare. We bought the jumpsuit for when we were feeling brave and it turns out we never are. A friend of mine had a party and asked us to wear that thing we already own that we never dare wear and it was the most wonderful night. One woman wore her bridal gown. Others wore more cleavage than clothes. Some wore glam rock shoes and velvet capes. Others, tight jeans and crop tops. Some, cosplay cos times. We were all given permission to say yes to our most daring selves. The one we leave hanging up at home. You don't have to be queer to leave the best part of yourself in the closet. Most of us are doing it all the time,

What if we fear we will die at ninety-five, still wanting desperately to have smooth legs and a flawless forehead and without having read The Bell Jar?

But I would suggest the more privilege you have, the more obligation you have to persuade rather than just vent.

We don't have to be perfect to dare ourselves to be better

Feminism has always been a request, or demand, for inclusion. Inclusion is the watchword of the second decade of the 21st century and in recent waves of feminism, but its nothing new.

Feminism is a combination of social and political movements with a common goal to define, develop, and demand political, social, and fiscal rights for women. I'm sorry to tell you that a man coined the term. Charles Fourier, Utopian French Philosopher, came up with the word. Of course he did. It was 1837 when no one listened to women. I'm willing to bet his girlfriend coined it half an hour before, but no one took it seriously until he said it and then mansplained it to her. He didn't have a wife because he thought traditional marriage was damaging to women's rights. He was also a queer positive, socialist.

First-wave feminism includes the terrifyingly brave suffragettes, who chained themselves to railings, blew up buildings, set fire to landmarks, and were force-fed horribly in prison, all so we could have the right to vote for Donald Trump and Brexit. I'm glad they're dead and don't know this.

Including each other is the basis of our survival. The cost of complete exclusion is our mental health. Inclusion is vital to humanity. So the question can only ever be: who is included and why? Women have been routinely excluded in places of power and influence. Socially they've been included tentatively and conditonally.