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Treating different things the same can generate as much inequality as treating the same things differently.
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Kimberlé Crenshaw
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Imaginary friends are like books. We're created, we're enjoyed, we're dog-eared and creased, and then we're tucked away until we're needed again.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Fun fact, Jackson. You can't see sound waves, but you can hear music.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Government does not exist to end your suffering; it exists in order to create the proper structure, based on equality and justice, so that you may pursue your own happiness.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Unfortunately, these days, too many people are overcoming their knowledge deficits with passion, and too many more people are mistaking “passion” and “authenticity” for righteousness and sophistication. It is an unhealthy trend.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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I like not knowing everything. It makes things more interesting.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Meantime, I was going to enjoy the magic while I could.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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The number of decibels your voice hits as you scream about how right you are is not necessarily an indicator of how much sense you are making.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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But in fact, a truly democratic society is one that protects its citizens’ rights to be who they want, while also not forcing others to believe the same.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Carl Jung, the renowned psychologist, summed it up: “The foundation of all mental illness is the avoidance of true suffering.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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What bothered me most, though, was that I couldn’t fix anything. I couldn’t control anything. It was like driving a bumper car without a steering wheel. I kept getting slammed, and I just had to sit there and hold on tight.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Here’s the thing, Jackson. Life is messy. It’s complicated. It would be nice if life were always like this.” He drew an imaginary line that kept going up and up. “But life is actually a lot more like this.” He made a jiggly line that went up and down like a mountain range. “You just have to keep trying.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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And right then I knew, the way you know that it’s going to rain long before the first drop splatters on your nose, that something was about to change.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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It has grown terribly difficult to separate objective journalism from opinion journalism.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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As Kimberlé Crenshaw reported1 in 2014, the median wealth, defined as the total value of one’s assets minus one’s debts, of single black women is $100; for single Latina women it is $120; those figures are compared to $41,500 for single white women. And for married white couples? A startling $167,500.2
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Rebecca Traister (All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation)
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If ever a woman deserved to be shot, it was Miss Crenshaw. But dawn appointments weren't meant for the weaker sex. Weaker sex. The lady was anything but weak, which is why Erroll intended to throttle her.
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Tarah Scott (To Tame a Highland Earl (A MacLean Highlander Novel #1))
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If you’re losing your cool, you are losing. If you are triggered, it is because you allowed someone else to dictate your emotional state. If you are outraged, it is because you lack discipline and self-control. These are personal defeats, not the fault of anyone else. And each defeat shapes who you are as a person, and in the collective sense, who we are as a people.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Crenshaw and I didn’t chat much during those weeks on the road. There was always someone around to interrupt us. But that was okay. I knew he was there and that was enough. Sometimes that’s all you really need from a friend.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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I seek out hardship. I do not run from pain but embrace it, because I derive strength from my suffering.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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John Adams said, “Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The basic message is this: If you’re losing your cool, you are losing. If you are triggered, it is because you allowed someone else to dictate your emotional state. If you are outraged, it is because you lack discipline and self-control. These are personal defeats, not the fault of anyone else. And each defeat shapes who you are as a person, and in the collective sense, who we are as a people. This book is about actively hardening your mind so that you can be the person you think you should be. It is about identifying who that person is in the first place, and taking responsibility for the self-improvement required to become them. It is about learning what it means to never quit. It is about learning to take a joke and giving others some charity when they make a bad one. It is about the importance of building a society of iron-tough individuals who can think for themselves, take care of themselves, and recognize that a culture characterized by grit, discipline, and self-reliance is a culture that survives.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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My mom told me once that money problems sort of sneak up on you. She said it’s like catching a cold. At first you just have a tickle in your throat, and then you have a headache, and then maybe you’re coughing a little. The next thing you know, you have a pile of Kleenexes around your bed and you’re hacking your lungs up.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Outrage is weakness. It is the muting of rational thinking and the triumph of emotion. Despite what you’ve been hearing and seeing as of late, it is not a virtue. It is not something to be celebrated, nor praised, nor aspired to. It is a deeply human emotion—even understandable at times—but rarely is it productive, virtuous, or useful. It is an emotion to overcome, not accept, and overcoming it requires mental strength. This book is about acquiring that necessary mental fortitude.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Bad or good, movies nearly always have a strange diminishing effect on works of fantasy (of course there are exceptions; The Wizard of Oz is an example which springs immediately to mind). In discussions, people are willing to cast various parts endlessly. I've always thought Robert Duvall would make a splendid Randall Flagg, but I've heard people suggest such people as Clint Eastwood, Bruce Dern and Christopher Walken. They all sound good, just as Bruce Springsteen would seem to make an interesting Larry Underwood, if ever he chose to try acting (and, based on his videos, I think he would do very well ... although my personal choice would be Marshall Crenshaw). But in the end, I think it's best for Stu, Larry, Glen, Frannie, Ralph, Tom Cullen, Lloyd, and that dark fellow to belong to the reader, who will visualize them through the lens of the imagination in a vivid and constantly changing way no camera can duplicate. Movies, after all, are only an illusion of motion comprised of thousands of still photographs. The imagination, however, moves with its own tidal flow. Films, even the best of them, freeze fiction - anyone who has ever seen One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest and then reads Ken Kesey's novel will find it hard or impossible not to see Jack Nicholson's face on Randle Patrick McMurphy. That is not necessarily bad ... but it is limiting. The glory of a good tale is that it is limitless and fluid; a good tale belongs to each reader in its own particular way.
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Stephen King (The Stand)
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I saw a future with you, baby, when I couldn’t even pick you out of a lineup. Last thing you gotta worry about is me leaving. I wanted to give you the world before I even saw you. Now I wanna give you the moon, stars, and every fucking thing in between.
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Shvonne Latrice (Love Letters from a Gangsta (Crenshaw Kings #3))
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She said she sometimes wondered if maybe bats are better human beings than human beings are.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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More and more, we are putting a preference on victimhood, glorifying weakness instead of strength, and outright shaming anyone with more traditional characteristics.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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I felt like I’d taken off an itchy sweater on a cold day: relieved to be rid of it, but surprised by how chilly the air turned out to be.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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The phrase “check your privilege” becomes the favorite tactic used to discredit opponents and subvert real discourse.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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While our own citizens burn our flag or sneer at our pledge of allegiance, millions of people around the world would do anything to be here.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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A shallow reading of a problem begets outrage; a detailed approach to a problem encourages moderation.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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intersectionalism,” as Crenshaw said in her 2016 TED Talk, is that “where there’s no name for a problem, you can’t see a problem, and when you can’t see a problem, you pretty much can’t solve it.”61
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Jonathan Haidt (The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure)
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You want to be humble. This can mean a lot of things, so let’s be a little specific. You say “please” and “thank you” often, and practice the good manners that are a timeless doctrine of civil society. You do not expect people to do things for you that you can do yourself. You put your shopping cart away instead of leaving it in the parking lot, for instance. You have confidence but it isn’t overbearing.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Kimberlé Crenshaw’s “Mapping the Margins: Intersectionality, Identity Politics, and Violence Against Women of Color”; Jennifer L. Morgan’s Laboring Women: Reproduction and Gender in New World Slavery; All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men, but Some of Us Are Brave, edited by Akasha Gloria Hull, Patricia Bell-Scott, and Barbara Smith; bell hooks’s Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism; and Alice Walker’s In Search of Our Mother’s Gardens are all like scripture to me. Zora Neale Hurston’s Their Eyes Were Watching God was my first introduction (on the page) to a Black feminist heroine as well as to the African American southern vernacular that my mother’s family spoke.
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Honorée Fanonne Jeffers (The Love Songs of W.E.B. Du Bois)
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Thomas Sowell, the preeminent economist and social theorist, put it in stark terms. “One of the sad signs of our times,” he wrote, “is that we have demonized those who produce, subsidized those who refuse to produce, and canonized
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The question isn’t about the existence of injustice, but whether our reaction to said injustice is productive—or strewn with self-pity. The former reaction allows for growth beyond the injustice, and the latter imprisons you in victimhood.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The common story being told by many people, especially in the outrage mob Twitter-sphere, is that their opinion is true simply because it is their truth. There is no sense of shame whatsoever in their inability to explain why they hold that opinion
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The first time I met Crenshaw was about three years ago, right after first grade ended. It was early evening, and my family and I had parked at a rest stop off a highway. I was lying on the grass near a picnic table, gazing up at the stars blinking to life. I heard a noise, a wheels-on-gravel skateboard sound. I sat up on my elbows. Sure enough, a skater on a board was threading his way through the parking lot. I could see right away that he was an unusual guy. He was a black and white kitten. A big one, taller than me. His eyes were the sparkly color of morning grass. He was wearing a black and orange San Francisco Giants baseball cap. He hopped off his board and headed my way. He was standing on two legs just like a human. “Meow,” he said. “Meow,” I said back, because it seemed polite.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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I am a conservative. We can define conservatism generally as an approach to governance that values individual freedom, personal responsibility, and moral virtue as a bulwark for that same freedom. We believe in a limited role for government, fiscal discipline, and an understanding that government exists to protect our inalienable rights, among them life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Government does not exist to end your suffering; it exists in order to create the proper structure, based on equality and justice, so that you may pursue your own happiness.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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It was a nice story, but most fairy tales had a dark side to them, especially when it came to a princess’s fate. “A footman or maid?”
“I—I don’t believe anyone else is missing,” Lady Crenshaw said. “But Elizabeth wouldn’t… she’s such a good girl. She probably didn’t wish to ruin our trip. It’s not as if she’s a lower-class trollop.”
I chomped down on my immediate response, face burning. If she were a he, I doubted they’d call her such names. And her station had nothing to do with the matter whatsoever. Plenty of less fortunate families had more class than Lady Crenshaw had just showed.
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Kerri Maniscalco (Escaping from Houdini (Stalking Jack the Ripper, #3))
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when someone says they’re ‘good at multitasking,’ they’re really saying they’re inefficient. It’s like publicly admitting you’re going to make it a habit to screw up multiple things at the same time. “And, ironically, people who consider themselves great at multitasking are statistically more likely to be the worst at it.
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Dave Crenshaw (The Myth of Multitasking: How “Doing It All” Gets Nothing Done)
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There is nothing wrong with saying, “I don’t know.” Ignorance on its own is not cause to feel ashamed. There are plenty of things that I am not an expert on and never will be. But ignorance coupled with strong opinions is a reason to feel ashamed, and it is one of the hardest things to get people to actually feel ashamed about.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Admiral McRaven, the senior Navy SEAL who planned the Bin Laden mission, said this starts with the mundane: making your bed. “If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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I will not quit in the face of danger or pain or self-doubt; I will not justify the easier path before me. I decide that all my actions, not just some, matter. Every small task is a contribution toward a higher purpose. Every day is undertaken with a sense of duty to be better than I was yesterday, even in the smallest of ways. I seek out hardship. I do not run from pain but embrace it, because I derive strength from my suffering. I confront the inevitable trials of life with a smile. I plan to keep my head, to be still, when chaos overwhelms me. I will tell the story of my failures and hardships as a victor, not a victim. I will be grateful. Millions who have gone before me have suffered too much, fought too hard, and been blessed with far too little, for me to squander this life. So I won’t. My purpose will be to uphold and protect the spirit of our great republic, knowing that the values we hold dear can be preserved only by a strong people. I will do my part. I will live with Fortitude.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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There’s always a logical explanation, I told myself. Always.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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There is only one timeline. There is only one you.
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Dave Crenshaw (The Myth of Multitasking: How "Doing It All" Gets Nothing Done)
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Why can’t you just be like other parents?” I demanded. I was crying hard. I gasped for breath. “Why does it have to be this way?
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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What’s that expression?” asked my mom. “Fall down seven times, get up eight?
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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If I never talked about it, I felt like it couldn’t ever happen again.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Thoughtful conversations have been substituted by social media snark and insult, where your opponent is assumed to have the worst intentions—simply because they are an opponent.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The meme has replaced good argument, the tweet has replaced the well-reasoned op-ed, and the op-ed has replaced objective journalism.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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this is the difference between normal citizens and the abnormal outraged: One tells stories about what they’ve done, and the other tells stories about what was done to them.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Identity politics becomes the new normal, and cultural leaders and politicians take advantage of these stories and even encourage them.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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A mentally tough, confident person does not have a problem admitting they are wrong or unknowledgeable on a subject.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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of the sad signs of our times,” he wrote, “is that we have demonized those who produce, subsidized those who refuse to produce, and canonized those who complain.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The dismissive and insulting tone of today’s political debate is a reflection of mental weakness.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Forming an opinion without the relevant facts is a phenomenon that I believe is getting worse—probably because of social media and the echo chamber of disinformation it can create.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The stories we tell ourselves ultimately make up our characters and decide our fate. These small stories make up the larger narrative that we build together as Americans.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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It’s surprising how much stuff adults don’t know.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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When they enter, we all enter.
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Kimberlé Crenshaw (Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory and Antiracist Politics)
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For the first time, Rose understood the danger before her. The difference between a man and a boy was as subtle as that of a wolf and a hound.
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Harper St. George (The Devil and the Heiress (The Gilded Age Heiresses, #2))
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7 hours 22 minutes
The average amount of times teens spend on their phones each day.
4 hours 44 minutes
The average amount of time kids aged eight to twelve spend on their phones each day
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Dave Crenshaw (The Myth of Multitasking: How “Doing It All” Gets Nothing Done)
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I guess becoming homeless doesn’t happen all at once. My mom told me once that money problems sort of sneak up on you. She said it’s like catching a cold. At first you just have a tickle in your throat, and then you have a headache, and then maybe you’re coughing a little. The next thing you know, you have a pile of Kleenexes around your bed and you’re hacking your lungs up.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Which person do you think is happier? Which one do you think has less stress? The person who finds ill intent with every interaction, or the person who chooses to give the benefit of the doubt?
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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A good rule of thumb is this: If you aren’t making someone laugh with your complaints, then you might be doing it wrong. Lighthearted humor wrapped up in your menial grumbling should be the goal.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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If you find yourself calling someone a communist, traitor, or RINO because they disagree with you, it is a good indication that your arguments are shallow and your emotions are driving your thinking.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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I noticed several weird things about the surfboarding cat. Thing number one: He was a surfboarding cat. Thing number two: He was wearing a T-shirt. It said CATS RULE, DOGS DROOL. Thing number three: He was holding a closed umbrella, like he was worried about getting wet. Which, when you think about it, is kind of not the point of surfing. Thing number four: No one else on the beach seemed to see him.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Wealthy celebrities in particular are all too eager to jump onto the proverbial bandwagon of oppression, and lecture us about the evils within our country. In Vogue magazine, Taylor Swift said, “Rights are being stripped from basically everyone who isn’t a straight white cisgender male.” Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, elected to Congress at twenty-nine years old, famously said that her generation “never saw American prosperity.” Such overstatements, totally devoid of evidence, only make sense in the context of a culture that has become accustomed to seeking victimhood over self-empowerment
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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With a great show of effort, Crenshaw sat up. He stretched, easing his back into an upside-down U. “I don’t think you understand what’s going on here, Jackson,” he said. “Imaginary friends don’t come of their own volition. We are invited. We stay as long as we’re needed. And then, and only then, do we leave.” “Well, I sure didn’t invite you.” Crenshaw sent me a doubtful look. His long, whiskery brows moved like strings on a marionette.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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What bothered me most, though, was that i couldn't fix anything. I couldn't control anything. It was like driving a bumper car without a steering wheel. I kept getting slammed, and I just had to sit there and hold on tight.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Run down the list of those who felt intense anger at something: the most famous, the most unfortunate, the most hated, the most whatever: Where is all that now? Smoke, dust, legend…or not even a legend. Think of all the examples. And how trivial the things we want so passionately are. An emotional response is a human response, I get it. I too have succumbed to emotion, more often than I care to admit. But it is also a futile response. It isn’t an objectively beneficial response. This is central to Stoicism.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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You have a duty to accomplish something every day. You have a duty to live up to your best self, the person you want to be, the hero archetype that you admire. You have a duty to embrace shame and learn from it. You have a duty to be polite, thoughtful, patient. You have a duty to overcome your hardships and not wallow in self-pity. You have a duty to contribute, even if your contribution is small. You have a duty to be on time. You have a duty to do your job, even if your job sucks. You have a duty to stay healthy, both for yourself and so that you do not become a burden on others. You have a duty to be part of the solution, not the problem. In other words, don’t join the Twitter mob. You have a duty to try hard not to offend others, and try harder not to be offended.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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My mental outcomes were a consequence of my habits—and my habits were a consequence of my choices. It is true that character is to some extent innate. Our genetic makeup imbues in us certain proclivities. But it is as true that character is mostly a consequence of choices. We all make them. And we should make them deliberately, with the knowledge that these choices are part of our responsibility toward a purpose other than our own selfish aims. That responsibility is to your family, friends, community, and country.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Fine, Jackson,” he whispered, eyes lasering in on the frog. “You win. I’ll leave, do bit of hunting. I am, after all, a creature of the night. Meantime, you get to work.” I crossed my arms over my chest. “On what, exactly?” “The facts. You need to tell the truth, my friend.” The frog twitched, and Crenshaw froze, pure muscle and instinct. “Which facts? Tell the truth to who?” Crenshaw pulled his gaze off the frog. He looked at me, and to my surprise, I saw tenderness in his eyes. “To the person who matters most of all.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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I wasn’t lying, exactly. It was more that I left out certain facts and focused on others. I didn’t want to do it, of course. I liked facts. And so did Marisol. But sometimes facts were just too hard to share. I decided to tell Marisol something about a sick relative,
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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Thoughtful conversations have been substituted by social media snark and insult, where your opponent is assumed to have the worst intentions—simply because they are an opponent. Fairness and due process have been supplanted by self-righteous hysteria and public shaming. The meme has replaced good argument, the tweet has replaced the well-reasoned op-ed, and the op-ed has replaced objective journalism. The result is nothing short of information chaos, a culture of contempt, and a deep sense of unhappiness that is blamed on everyone but ourselves
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Acceptance for what you truly can’t control, but responsibility for what you can control. The Stoic does not believe in categorizing so many things as ‘outside your control’ that you simply become a victim of circumstance. Far more is within your control than you might think.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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My parents were more complicated. It’s hard to explain, especially since I know this sounds like a good thing, but they were always looking on the bright side. Even when things were bad—and they’d been bad a lot—they joked. They acted silly. They pretended everything was fine.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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In Hate Inc., Matt Taibbi notes that this is partly because the financial incentives for incendiary opinion journalism are so strong: “There is a financial pull toward research-free stories. Writing 1,200 words of jokes about a Trump tweet costs less than sending a reporter undercover into a Mexican maquiladora.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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But my parents were optimists. They looked at half a glass of water and figured it was half full, not half empty. Not me. Scientists can’t afford to be optimists or pessimists. They just observe the world and see what is. They look at a glass of water and measure 3.75 ounces or whatever, and that’s the end of the discussion.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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When describing the importance of duty, that is one of my favorite phrases: “If not me, then who?” It isn’t just applicable to joining the military; it applies to everyday life. If you won’t help that homeless person get a meal, who will? Why is it someone else’s job? If you care, if you really care, then why not take action?
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Perspective doesn’t necessarily have to be gained through experience, though it certainly helps. It can be self-taught. You can open your mind to the obvious truth that your experience, your hardship, your inclination to outrage, can be overcome because others have done so. Perspective, and the benefits of it, can be a simple choice you make.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The continuing struggle to align word and action, our heartfelt desires with a workable plan—didn’t self-esteem finally depend on
just this? It was that belief which had led me into organizing, and it was that belief which would lead me to conclude, perhaps for the
final time, that notions of purity—of race or of culture—could no more serve as the basis for the typical black American’s self-esteem
than it could for mine. Our sense of wholeness would have to arise from something more fine than the bloodlines we’d inherited. It would have to find root in Mrs. Crenshaw’s story and Mr. Marshall’s
story, in Ruby’s story and Rafiq’s; in all the messy, contradictory details of our experience.
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Barack Obama (Dreams from My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance)
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I guess getting out of homelessness doesn’t happen all at once, either. We were lucky. Some people live in their cars for years. I’m not looking on the bright side. It was pretty scary. And stinky. But my parents took care of us the best they could. After a month, my dad got a part-time job at a hardware store. My mom picked up some extra waitressing shifts, and my dad kept singing for tips. Every time his fishing sign got wet, I made him a new one. Slowly they started saving money, bit by bit, to pay for a rental deposit on an apartment. It was sort of like getting over a cold. Sometimes you feel like you’ll never stop coughing. Other times you’re sure tomorrow is the day you’ll definitely be well.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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You will be someone who is never late. You will be someone who takes care of his men, gets to know them, and puts their needs before yours. You will be someone who does not quit in the face of adversity. You will be someone who takes charge and leads when no one else will. You will be detail oriented, always vigilant. You will be aggressive in your actions but never lose your cool. You will have a sense of humor because sometimes that is all that can get you through the darkest hours. You will work hard and perform even when no one is watching. You will be creative and think outside the box, even if it gets you in trouble. You are a rebel, but not a mutineer. You are a jack of all trades and master of none.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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Outrage culture is the weaponization of emotion, and the elevation of emotion above reason. It is the new normal, where moral righteousness rises in proportion to your level of outrage. The more outraged one is, the more authentic one is perceived to be. And the more authentic one is, the greater one’s moral standing. Reason, rationale, and evidence be damned.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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When failure comes, there are a series of questions we have to ask ourselves: ‘Which actions of mine caused this? What could I have done differently? What will I do when and if it happens again?’ Note something important about these three questions: They’re all inwardly focused. They’re all about personal responsibility. They all accept and face circumstances.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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Facts are so much better than stories. You can’t see a story. You can’t hold it in your hand and measure it. You can’t hold a manatee in your hand either. But still. Stories are lies, when you get right down to it. And I don’t like being lied to. I’ve never been much into make-believe stuff. When I was a kid, I didn’t dress up like Batman or talk to stuffed animals or worry about monsters under my bed.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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I will not quit in the face of danger or pain or self-doubt; I will not justify the easier path before me. I decide that all my actions, not just some, matter. Every small task is a contribution toward a higher purpose. Every day is undertaken with a sense of duty to be better than I was yesterday, even in the smallest of ways. I seek out hardship. I do not run from pain but embrace it, because I derive strength
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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For an individual or a group to move forward or to progress, something unpleasant must be endured (suffering) or something pleasant must be given up (sacrifice). Humanity’s most effective and inspiring spiritual leaders have sustained immense suffering, made harrowing sacrifices, or both. These leaders’ suffering and sacrifice set them apart from ordinary people who deny, decry, or defy these seemingly unsavory experiences.49
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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I was amazed how easy the lying came. It was like turning on a faucet. The words just rushed right out. I felt guilty for not feeling guilty. I mean, I’d shoplifted. I’d taken something that didn’t belong to me. I was a criminal. But I told myself that in nature it’s survival of the fittest. Eat or be eaten. Kill or be killed. They say those things a lot in nature films. Right after the lion eats the zebra. Of course I wasn’t a lion. I was a person who knew right from wrong. And stealing was wrong. But here’s the truth. I felt crummy about the stealing. But I felt even worse about the lying.
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Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw)
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My ancestors’ history gives me perspective when I want to complain about the Wi-Fi on a passenger jet being too slow or intermittent. I need only recall that Sarah Howard, my first ancestor to settle in Texas, at age sixteen, had to walk across the frontier for weeks. Drinking water had to be discovered daily. During her travels, she had a run-in with Comanches that resulted in the death of her first husband. She remarried, and her new husband was killed in similar circumstances, as was her infant. She was held captive and miraculously escaped. She remarried again.2 And here I am, complaining about the Wi-Fi.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: Resilience in the Age of Outrage)
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The media’s goal is to literally challenge your ability to be still. A tough American, intent on improving upon their current self, is not tricked into an emotional reaction by these headlines. You do not write an angry tweet, you do not hurl an insult. You are cool and measured, and skeptical. You are curious what the agenda of the journalist might be and what facts or context they might be leaving out. You seek out a different story on the same topic from an opposing view, and you find out that many of the claims made in the original story were convincingly debunked. And just like that, you are a Zen master of stillness and Stoicism.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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You have purpose in this life. God has you here for a reason. You may not know it, but He does. Your job is to find it. No one else can. You need to understand that your purpose may be great in the eyes of the world, or it may be commonplace and seemingly small.
Your purpose might be your family, your children.
Your purpose might be tutoring a child and changing their life.
Your purpose might be the business you started.
Your purpose might be cleaning up your block.
Your purpose might be in the help you give others.
Your purpose might be in the example you set.
Only you and God know. Only you and God need to know. Search until you find it - and until then, act as if you have it, because you're wasting time otherwise.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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A mathematician I consulted, Dr. Sanjeev Mahajan, had this to say: Crenshaw’s axiom can be rephrased as follows: Two categories of oppression when combined yield an entirely new, irreducible category of oppression. This seems a fair reading of her contention that the discrimination suffered by a Black woman is distinct from the sum of the discrimination that a Black person suffers plus the discrimination that a woman suffers. Let’s then consider a single individual who suffers four categories of oppression: Black (B), Female (F), Paraplegic (P), Lesbian (L). But then, per Crenshaw, we can form entirely new categories such as {BF}, {BP}, and {BL}. Then these categories can be combined to form yet another irreducible category such as {{BF}{BP}} or {{BL}{BP}}. These categories can be further combined to yield entirely new categories of oppression such as {{{BF}{BP}} {{BL}{BP}}}, etc. Now let us, per Crenshaw’s axiom, enumerate all possible irreducible categories of oppression. Given the 4 options, B F P L, there are 15 non-empty subsets, each of which is an irreducible category. Since these 15 categories are irreducible and independent, they can be combined every which way to give us 215-1= 32,767 non-empty subsets of the set of the 15 categories. Each of these 32,767 categories is an irreducible category of oppression. But then again, applying Crenshaw’s axiom, since we now have a set of 32,767 categories of oppression, we can combine them in all possible configurations to get 232767-1 non-empty subsets of a set of 32,767 categories. Repeating this process, ad infinitum, we get infinitely many categories of oppression.
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Norman G. Finkelstein (I'll Burn That Bridge When I Get to It! Heretical Thoughts on Identity Politics, Cancel Culture, and Academic Freedom)
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My dearest Violet,
A belated birthday gift along with my regrets for not celebrating as we should have.
All my love,
C
Tears filled her eyes as she touched her chest where the locket rested beneath her clothing. She wore it still because she couldn't forget the morning he had given it to her, nor how she had felt, dumbstruck and silly with her love for him. A terrible but true way to describe the sheer bliss that had surrounded them. Blinking away the tears, she unwrapped the package revealing four books: Jane Eyre, Wuthering Heights, Agnes Gray, and The Tenant of Windfell Hall. A quick examination revealed them to be all first editions.
Dropping into the chair, she read his note again two more times. Her finger traced the C. As much as she despised what he had done, she couldn't stop herself from missing him.
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Harper St. George (The Devil and the Heiress (The Gilded Age Heiresses, #2))
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Be someone who is cool under pressure. Value serenity instead of outrage. It seems that our culture is moving in the wrong direction here. If you are blessed enough to not be on social media, you might be surprised to learn that the angriest, most passionate public figures are rewarded with the most clicks and biggest audiences. Our culture has begun to confuse passion with substance, reward the loudest and angriest voices, and thus incentivize behavior wholly at odds with Stoic wisdom. The number of decibels your voice hits as you scream about how right you are is not necessarily an indicator of how much sense you are making. As a society founded on reason and Western Enlightenment ideals, we must hold ourselves to a higher standard. We have to collectively stop allowing emotion and passion to pass for reason and factual debate.
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Dan Crenshaw (Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage)
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We've known for a long time that this day would come. Today, an illegitimate Supreme Court-- stacked with justices who have been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault, installed by presidents who took power via undemocratic sleights of hand-- ratified their cause of eroding the 14th amendment and the right to bodily autonomy. The decision to overturn Roe v. Wade will be lethal to Americans - particularly, Black women and queer people - who now will lose their already limited access to abortions. If establishment Democrats sit back and allow this Court to continue to dismantle every right protecting marginalized people, this decision won't just cost lives - it also will cost us our democracy. Our leaders in Washington must recognize how the tyranny of the minority, white supremacy, misogyny and bigotry brought us to this dark day. And they must act now to protect voting rights and enshrine the right to an abortion into federal law -- before it's too late.
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Kimberlé Crenshaw
Katherine Applegate (Crenshaw Chapter Sampler)