Brooke Castillo Quotes

You need to remember the best legacy you can give your kids is an example of a life well lived. They may listen to what you say, but they will do what you do. If you tell them to take care of yourself but you don't do it yourself, what kind of message are you sending?

if you are practicing negative thoughts, you are getting better at thinking them. If

Are you creating your thoughts? Or, are your thoughts creating you?

You can either make your habits or your habits can make you.

Whatever you’re practicing—you are getting better at. If

We have been trained not to waste food in the garbage, but to waste it on our bodies. Either way it is wasted. In one way, we just carry the waste with us.

When my clients stop overeating they are typically bombarded with negative emotion. Their knee jerk reaction after years of practice is to fight the emotion, escape the emotion, or bury the emotion. Picking up more food is a way to escape the emotion temporarily. BUT if we are willing—and many of us are—to RELAX INTO THE EMOTION and feel it deeply, we can watch it pass through us. Eventually, as we get better at experiencing the truth of our emotional state, we can find the thought that is causing the feeling

It was always meant to happen that way.

The pain seems so much more difficult than the cookies. But it’s not. The pain covered in cookies becomes pain covered in fat covered in more pain. Pain is hard. To go through and feel the emotion instead of avoiding/distracting takes courage. Sometimes

Trying to control other people and what they think is impossible. We can barely control what we think, how do we expect to control what others think? And

In almost any situation a client can ask me what to do and I can answer with “Be yourself. Tell the truth. The people who accept your truth are your people. The people who don’t accept your truth aren’t your people and that is OK.” I

The basic premise/truth that I teach my clients is this: Your THOUGHTS create your FEELINGS—which create your ACTIONS—which create your RESULTS. Your results will always prove the original thought, whether you like it or not. So basically, if you believe that you will always be fat, you will feel fat, you will eat too much, and then you will gain weight proving your original thought. The

So worry is focusing on the worst. Worrying is actually thinking about what you don’t want. If you are worried it is because you have a belief or a thought that is not serving you. Okay,

You aren’t good enough.” “No, thanks.” “You know you aren’t going to be able to pull this off.” “No, thanks.” “You aren’t really good at this.” “No, thanks.” “You should join the PTA.” “Seriously, no.” “You are the luckiest girl in the world.” “Don’t mind if I do.

what you are really saying when you say you deserve food you don’t want or need: I deserve to be uncomfortable. I deserve to feel guilty. I deserve to jeopardize my health. I deserve to be disconnected from my body. I deserve to not really enjoy or taste my food. I deserve to live heavier than my natural weight. I deserve to struggle. You do not deserve any of the above. It is punishing and unkind. Eating past fullness or when you aren’t joy-eating is like turning your back on yourself and looking over your shoulder at yourself and saying, “Too bad, you deserve this.” YOU

Anyone who has grown spiritually, mentally or physically knows that growth is not found in comfort. My

more importantly, they learn that they are the one in control of their interior experience and how they feel. They learn that discouragement is a feeling caused by a thought—not an inevitable result of working towards something they want. I

I did not ask her to go from disliking her sister to loving her sister. I asked her to try to go from disliking her sister to feeling neutral about her sister. To do this for her own sake, so she didn’t have to feel the unpleasant feeling of disliking someone. She did. Her thought changed from: “My sister is unreasonable.” To: “My sister doing what my sister does.” She felt relief. Isn’t

We avoid our feelings by consulpting. (Consuming something compulsively.) This always just adds a layer of ick to the negative feeling we already have. We feel lonely. We avoid it with three bowls of Lucky Charms. We feel full instead. We feel our feelings by naming them. Noticing them in our bodies. Paying attention. We listen for the thoughts causing the feelings and write them down. We stay connected even when it feels bad. We use our feelings when we find the thoughts causing them and do the thought work to change them.

Instead of trying to “have” fun, focus on “being” fun. I

Negative emotion is fed by the fight or the habit that compounds it. If I am feeling lonely and I overeat, I will feel even more so when the eating is done. Most likely I will get an added dose of shame and frustration after the food coma passes. No matter what the unwanted action is you have in your life, you can start to eliminate it by doing this process: 1.   Stop taking the action. 2.   Notice the desire to “fight” or use “willpower” against the emotion that arises (you will typically lose this battle). 3.   Relax into the underlying emotion and breathe. Notice the emotion from the witness perspective. 4.   Keep relaxing and keep breathing and notice the thoughts that come up. 5.   Write down the thought. 6.   Acknowledge that if you want to change the habit, you must change the thought. Permanent change is never made by fighting or intense willpower.

Thoughts create our pain. Byron

Pretending to be cool is exhausting. Yelling

But happiness is something you can create or access. Being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself can connect you to yourself and the happiness that is already residing within you. You cannot go on a path of self-criticism and expect to find joy at the end.

We refuse things we don’t want all the time. It is not hard to do. We just say no. This is what I recommend we do with the negative thoughts that appear in our minds. Just refuse the thought. “No, thank you, not today. That thought doesn’t feel good.” No

The true measure of a man is in how much it takes to discourage him.” I

The true measure of a woman is in how much it takes to discourage her.” I

People who play the victim role in their lives love to feel self-pity. They want you to think that what “happened” to them is who they are.

Victims are passive aggressive. When you don’t acknowledge their old pain, they get pissed. Then

I have enough in this moment, and I love wanting more from a place of enough. Wanting is only exhausting when we believe we can’t have what we want or that if we don’t have it, we can’t be happy.

Here is what you deserve no matter what you think you have done: You deserve to be happy. You deserve to stop eating when your body doesn’t need more fuel. You deserve to enjoy each bite of a joy food. You deserve to say “no” to food when you aren’t hungry. You deserve your own love. You deserve your own protection. You deserve kind thoughts toward yourself. You deserve to live in a healthy, strong and lean body. You deserve the feeling of lightness and freedom. So please don’t eat some chocolate concoction in the name of “deserving it.” You deserve better.

Sometimes just showing up for someone else is good enough. I

They want you to see them as fragile. By so doing, they don’t have to put themselves back together. Don’t

Victims are not vulnerable. They just haven’t done their work. Do

Stop right now and watch your thoughts for a minute. Does this come naturally to you? Have you been practicing observing yourself from a place of compassion? Do you know where your mind tends to go when it is not being managed? I

I was willing to suck at it. When I train new coaches I have to remind them regularly to be willing to be imperfect, be willing to make mistakes, and be willing to do a terrible job. It really is the only way we can improve and get better at anything.

You Can’t Get Enough… of Something You Don’t Really Want I first heard this from one of my favorite authors, Geneen Roth. She was talking about binge eating and describing why we keep eating huge amounts of food beyond fullness and sometimes even beyond feeling sick. She explained: We are trying to get something we desperately want, from something that can’t give it to us. In

what you are really saying when you say you deserve food you don’t want or need: I deserve to be uncomfortable. I deserve to feel guilty. I deserve to jeopardize my health. I deserve to be disconnected from my body. I deserve to not really enjoy or taste my food. I deserve to live heavier than my natural weight. I deserve to struggle. You do not deserve any of the above. It is punishing and unkind. Eating past fullness or when you aren’t joy-eating is like turning your back on yourself and looking over your shoulder at yourself and saying, “Too bad, you deserve this.” YOU DON’T DESERVE PUNISHMENT. Whatever

Whatever messed up belief you have pulled from your childhood that you blame yourself for has no relevance in your life now. Punishing yourself for something you THINK you did in your past is useless. Here

And the world out there is not within our control, our past -even that we keep trying to change it- it's just not within our control to change, but everything else is. Everything in our present experience is within our control [...]. What we decide to think, what we think about, are completely within our control. We forget this. We think that our thoughts are not within our control and in fact most of us don't even know what we're thinking. We are responding to our thoughts that we aren't even aware of. This really matters because our thoughts are what create our feelings. Everything you do in your life is becase you want to feel a certain way. Every single thing you do is because you want to feel a certain way. That is really good to know, and if your feelings are caused by your thoughs and what you do in your life you do it to feel better wouln't it be important to know what you're thinking?

thought (the cause), we end up back with the same spin cycle and same results over and over again.

It’s not a race, so no one’s ahead of you.” Not sure why, but the way she said it on that particular day, knocked the wind out of me. It’s not? We’re not in a race? Then why are we all running so fast? Looking over our shoulders? Checking our watches? Frantically looking for the finish line? Why are we freaked out when people are ahead of us? Someone forgot to tell us that we aren’t in a race against each other.

I am convinced that some of the people I come into contact with have their minds set to complaining. Or worry. Or failure. Or self-pity. Why? The only reason I can think of is that they aren’t paying attention. They don’t consciously set their minds. They just “cook” on whatever setting was left yesterday. Think about it. What is YOUR mindset? What result have you set YOUR mind to?