Asa Quotes

Ang maganda sa pag-asa, hindi ‘to nakukuha sa’yo nang hindi mo gusto.

Self-talk reflects your innermost feelings.

Spune-mi, daca te-as prinde-ntr-o zi si ti-as saruta talpa piciorului, nu-i asa ca ai schiopata putin, dupa aceea, de teama sa nu-mi strivesti sarutul?

All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.

Terkadang aku berharap dapat membaca hati orang. Melongok ke dalam sanubari mereka, membaca apa yang tertulis disana. Menghirup dalam - dalam keraguan mereka, mengecap asa yang tidak diucapkan, dan menggali alasan di setiap debar perasaan mereka...

Life has a way of taking its toll on the person you thought you were.

Trauma does not have to occur by abuse alone...

kung alam ko lang na pwersado rin akong magtatrabaho nang ganito, nagsikap na lang sana ako sa eskwelahan nung bata ako. parehas lang naman palang nakakapagod. at least pag nakapag-aral ka, may pag-asa ka pang magkaroon ng magandang kinabukasan at makatulong sa iba.

Cinta bukan melemahkan hati, bukan membawa putus asa, bukan menimbulkan tangis sedu sedan. Tetapi cinta menghidupkan pengharapan, menguatkan hati dalam perjuangan menempuh onak dan duri penghidupan.

At least pag nakapag-aral ka, may pag-asa ka pang magkaroon ng magandang kinabukasan at makatulong sa iba.

Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.

Love shouldn’t feel like added weight. It should make you feel as light as air. Asa

Pada setiap napasnya ayah memancangkan tiang-tiang asa agar langkahmu sampai pada bianglala

Kadang-kadang cinta bersifat tamak dan loba, kadang-kadang was-was dan kadang-kadang putus asa.

Calm down, Braveheart." Gabriel searched through the weapons. "I'm trying to find something not quite as fatal as...a scythe? Really?" Gabriel held the wicked half-moon blade up and looked at Tristan. "What are you, the Grim Reaper?" "Yes. Yes, Gabriel. I'm the Grim Reaper. You caught me. I drive around in my car full of weapons collecting souls.

Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.

Kamu seorang Muslimah. Kecewa seumur hidup bukanlah cara hidup Islam kerana Allah melarang hamba-hambaNya hidup berputus asa

Não é segurando nas asas que se ajuda um pássaro a voar. O pássaro voa simplesmente porque o deixam ser pássaro.

Children are barometers of the chaos that exists within their lives.

Other people are not here to fulfill our needs or meet our expectations, nor will they always treat us well. Failure to accept this will generate feelings of anger and resentment. Peace of mind comes with taking people as they are and emphasizing the positive.

कुणीसं म्हटलयं - कसा मी ? कसा मी ? कसा मी ? कसा मी ? जसा मी तसा मी असा मी असामी!... खर सांगू का? हे कुणीसं वगैरे म्हटलेलं नाही. मीच म्हटलयं. पण कुणीसं म्हटलयं अस म्हटल्याशिवाय तुम्हीही कान टवकारून काय म्हटलयं ते ऐक्लं नसत. हे असच आहे. जगात काय म्हटलयं यापेक्षा कुणी म्हटलयं यालाच अधिक महत्व आहे हे मला कळून चुकलंय.

Toata noaptea mi-a ars carnea de dorul tau. Am sa innebunesc asa

She didn't know then that life has a way of backing you into a corner. You make your choices when you're far too young to understand their implications, and with each choice you make the field of possibility narrows. You choose a career and other careers are lost to you. You choose a mate and commit to loving no other.

There are lots of reasons why a woman stays with a man, even when she's given up on changing him and can predict with certainty the shape that the rest of her life with him is going to take.

You are stronger than me," Asa says. "And in bravery and strength, there is a kind of beauty.

In asserting that people don't change, what she means is that they don't change for the better. Whereas changing for the worse, that goes without saying.

Forgiveness must be initiated before life can begin.

We were marked and had been marked in unforgettable and forever ways. We were all better men for it. Marked men. None of us would have it any other way.

Stiu ca orice tovarasie este o iluzie a anularii singuratatii,dar si asa traiesc pentru cele cateva iluzii,asa incat una in plus sau in minus...Si albastrul cerului e o iluzie,dar nu ma incanta mai putin din cauza asta.

Ancient whore secret: to give enjoyable head, enjoy giving head.

Selapis kelopak mata membatasi aku dan engkau Setiap napas mendekatkan sekaligus menjauhkan kita Engkau membuatku putus asa dan mencinta Pada saat yang sama

Kita boleh saja bermimpi sesuka hati... tapi jangan karena mimpi itu belum tercapai lantas kamu putus asa.

Tungkulin mong tumulong sa kapwa dahil may kakayahan ka at gusto mong tumulong pero wag mong kalimutan na hindi mo mababago ang mundo at hindi mo matutulungan ang lahat ng tao. Hindi ikaw ang unang nagtangka hindi ikaw ang magiging huli hindi ka solusyon. Pero hindi yun ang dahilan para mawalan ka ng pag-asa at tumigil na magbigay nito. Mang Ernesto: Kapitan Sino by Bob Ong

Personal responsibility is the willingness to completely accept choices that we have made throughout our life.

Love,' Asa said, 'is like a pigeon shitting over a crowd.' 'How so?' 'Where it lands hasn't got much to do with who deserves it.

Resiliency is the essence of a global positive framework...

Challenge the negative by focusing on the positive of life.

Nu gasesti umilitor ca ai fi putut fi cu desavarsire altul daca te-ai fi nascut la New York in loc de a te naste la Bucuresti? Noi toti suntem din intamplare asa cum suntem. Am fi putut citi alte carti in liceu, am fi putut cunoaste alti oameni, am fi putut calatori in alte tari, am fi putut iubi alte femei...

I was just stunned; Aunt Kathy had actually moved on to another dimension! It finally happened! That lady was damn near invincible! She had survived assaults, coronaries, fevers, famines, flus, floods, plagues, pandemics, strokes, andglobal warming for almost 100 years. I’m willing to bet she outlived the Ice Age, but there’s no way to confirm it. If anyone told the devil “You’re a Lie,” it was Aunt Kathy. She just had a way of coming back and back like a sequel to a never-ending horror story. Whenever she fell ill, she reappeared as a new being more hostile than the previous entity.

Kau akan tahu ketika ia datang. Tahu begitu saja. Dulu orang-orang menyebutnya cinta pada pandangan pertama. Cinta sejati selalu datang pada saat yang tepat, waktu yang tepat, dan tempat yang tepat. Ia tidak pernah tersesat. Cinta sejati selalu datang pada orang-orang yang berharap berjumpa padanya dan tak pernah berputus asa.

Life is a combination of our positive and negative choices.

Our human quest is to survive; our spiritual quest is to unite.

Change: How much do you want it? Change: How much do you need it?

Jangan biarkan kebencian menguasai hidupmu. Kematianku tidak perlu dibalaskan. Hiduplah sebagai vampir yang bebas, bukan sebagai makhluk putus asa gila dan terobsesi untuk membalas dendam.

You make your choices when you’re far too young to understand their implications, and with each choice you make the field of possibility narrows.

Pure happiness and peace are at their peak when your body is in harmony with itself.

Remind children that their successes and failures are not representations of their worth.

If you wait to live you will never succeed. Living begins today and it begins within you.

Resiliency is not gender-, age-, or intellectually specific...

Shame and blame should have no place in our body, mind, or spirit.

Blame and shame are simply mind games.

Basic personality traits develop early in life and over time become inviolable, hardwired. Most people learn little from experience, rarely thinking of adjusting their behavior, see problems as emanating from those around them, and keep on doing what they do in spite of everything, for better or worse.

Am sa viermuiesc singur, am sa umblu razna prin lume, ca un sicriu, purtînd în mine imaginea ei aproape lesinata pe care o iubesc neînchipuit de mult, am sa-i vorbesc, în gînd, prin paduri si prin gari, am sa-i fac patul în mine, s-o culc, în fiecare seara, s-o învelesc în cîrpe, voi stiti foarte bine cîte cârpe poarta în sine fiecare dintre noi, si ea n-o sa-mi raspunda niciodata pentru ca n-o sa ma auda cînd o sa-i spun nani-nani, pentru ca acolo, în mine, în cîrpele din ea, are sa-l înveleasca pe iubitul ei care o va purta învelita în cîrpele din el si o va legana si îi va spune nani-nani si asa mai departe;

We live alone in our cluttered psyches, possessed by our entrenched beliefs, our fatuous desires, our endless contradictions - and like it or not we have to put up with this in one another.

Secure attachment has been linked to a child's ability to successfully recover and prove resilient in the presence of a traumatic event.

You will not be the same person coming out of a relationship as you were going into it.

Your core beliefs are the central part of your internal belief system.

Asa had a sharp understanding of the future--that is, a time when this would be past. Time was rushing through and around him, he almost heard it whistling, and this awareness rounded the world somehow and made it sweet.

Karma has a way of catching up with you, especially when you laughed in her face one too many times.

Our perceptions are influenced by our surroundings.

Life is a purposeful action.

I, too, have made many mistakes, but one valuable lesson that I have learned is that we cannot allow our mistakes to become our identity.

Be clear with your desires.

Cred ca...dupa cum sunt atatea pareri,cate capete...tot asa si cate inimi,atatea feluri de dragoste

Poate si viata e asa. Mergem intr-un cerc, in jurul unui punct pe care nu-l vedem si care totusi, poate e aproape, foarte aproape.

Di dalam iman tidak ada tempat untuk berputus asa.

I never claimed to be an angel and even the devil could only play with fire for so long before he gave in to unholy temptation and danced in the flames.

Love is a sacrificial item

Your spiritual mind is greater than your physical mind.

Responsibility is the admission that you have a role in this game called life.

Fiecare îsi comunica erorile cum poate iar ele cuprind totdeauna un pic de adevar; ceilalti înteleg cît pot; fiecare spune mai putin decît întelege si întelege mai mult decît i se spune, iar ce întelege nu i se spune, fiindca ce i se spune nu întelege, si asa mai departe.

Perfectionists are not all negative, miserable, unhappy and over controlling individuals

Be motivated. No one else can achieve or receive the merits of happiness on your behalf.

Be you. It is important that you allow your spiritual being to shine through each request and moment...

Flow is the ability to be so focused that all of life's obstacles seemingly and smoothly pass you by.

Where knowledge is a duty, ignorance is a crime.

Ce-i vom raspunde oarbei care se plange in poezia lui Rilke: «nu mai pot trai asa cu cerul pe mine»? Oare am mangaia-o de i-am spune ca nu mai putem trai cu pamantul sub noi?

Bukankah hanya pada saat mencemooh, putus asa, marah, dan sejenis itu kita menekankan suku kata terakhir pada kata-kata yang terdiri atas empat suku kata?

Dr. Hoenikker used to say that any scientist who couldn't explain to an eight-year-old what he was doing was a charlatan. - Said by Dr. Asa Breed; chapter 15

Allow yourself to be an anchor and anchored by others.

Do not own negative self-talk.

Be attentive, paying close attention to your internal and external needs.

Sadly, we give little thought or consideration to the messages that we entertain.

Nu toti barbatii vor iubi asa. Nu toti barbatii stiu sa alinieze cuvinte care sa devina versuri spre a vorbi despre femeia pe care o iubesc - dar le simti privirea si un fel anume de a se purta cu ea care-ti spune tot. Ii ador pe barbatii care vad la femeilor lor amanunte sublime, care observa mici si rafinate detalii pe care le iubesc ca pe intreg. In afara de sani, fund, picioare si buze, femeile norocoase au privilegiul, din partea barbatilor lor, de a fi admirate pentru felul in care-si trec mana prin par...pentru cat sunt de frumoase cand gatesc si fredoneaza balade rock...pentru pielea si aroma lor...sau pentru zambetul fierbinte cu care-i intampina mereu...pentru felul ciudat in care se ung cu creme si mirodenii de femeie...sau pentru glezna impecabila..pentru modul adorabil in care stau bosumflate superficial, asteptand sarutul de impacare...pentru linistea din glas...sau pentru tinuta lor cand merg pe strada...pentru felul in care converseaza cu prietenii si pentru bunatatea lor...pentru cat de sexy sunt cu samponul in ochi...pentru cat de fragile sunt cand plang...pentru cat de frumos isi iubesc barbatii si cum stiu sa aiba grija de ei...

Apa yang dikatakan persatuan (oleh Soekarno) sebenarnya tak lain dari per-sate-an. Daging kerbau, daging sapi, dan daging kambing disate jadi satu. Persatuan segala golongan ini sama artinya dengan mengorbankan asas masing-masing.

Ne blocam de mici in niste idei fixe si ne aliniem altora si mai gresite ca ale noastre, ca, nu-i asa, cine mai are timp astazi de analize profunde, de cunoastere mai pe-ndelete?...Toti ne pricepem la pus etichete, toti stim sa “citim” oameni din prima si putini avem calitatea rara si pretioasa de a recunoaste ca ne-am inselat in privinta unui om, in bine sau in rau. Aparentele insala mai abitir ca barbatii nesiguri pe ei, dar nu stiu cum facem de nu le abandonam.

For far too long, the female gender has been plagued with stereotypes, typecasting, as well as, subtle and blatant discrimination.

In spite of what anyone says it’s women who make the rules.

Trauma can have a masking effect.

Traumatic experiences in early childhood may interfere with the child's ability to securely attach.

Still in bed at noon. Everyday is Saturday, when you are a whore.

Discipline is a vital aspect of growth, but of equal importance is praise.

Be engaged; attract that which you desire.

Sudah bosan takut. Dan sudah bosan putus asa

O livro é um pássaro com mais de cem asas para voar.

Que eu possa despir as camadas da tua hesitação e soltar as asas do teu zelo adormecido.

It’s a known fact that in certain contexts people’s great strengths become their epic failings.

Children are sponges, soaking up every verbal and nonverbal interaction.

You don’t judge me, you don’t try and make it better. You just let me feel bad while making me feel really good . . . I want to do that for you, too.

Are you living in the moment?

Eventually we all need someone to try and save us; even if they fail, the fact that someone tried might be what matters most in the end.

Begitulah, tapi kalau manusia sama sekali tidak pernah merasa putus asa, kita tidak akan tahu bagian mana dari diri kita yang tidak sanggup kita singkirkan. Lalu kita akan tumbuh dewasa tanpa benar-benar mengerti apa saja yang bisa membuat kita gembira. Aku bahagia karena bisa menderita

Do not forget that children are like rainbows; they come in an array of personalities, levels of resiliency, and a variety of temperaments.

The mind of a child is a precious thing.

Some people screw up, and then some people are screw-ups.

Bersamamu adalah menyatukan asa. Tak perlu menunggu hujan turun untuk membuat kita berlari bersama.

Aku benci kata seharusnya. Ada waktu yang terlewat dan asa yang gagal terbangun di dalam kata seharusnya.

Nici nu ar fi numit iubire decat acel sentiment eroic ce se putea intalni in Franta lui Henric al III-lea si Bassompierre, sentiment care nu ceda in fata obstacolelor, ba, departe de asa ceva, dadea nastere unor lucruri marete.

- Molly e asa de rea cu toata lumea, sau sunt eu un caz special? Pentru o clipa, Penn paru ca avea sa-i dea un alt raspuns, dar o batu pe spate. - Este felul ei fermecator de a fi, draga mea.

Reading is a source of liberation.

Worldview is often confused with perception; rather, it is our perception that influences our worldview.

Are you seeking to be offended?

Praise, Praise, Praise a child for the good they commit and the wrongs they rectify.

Teachers often fail students by complimenting the successful students and ignoring those who do not prove as successful. Teachers need to embrace and praise all children.

Smiling can lift one's spirits, and moreover, make a difference in each life you encounter.

Love is abundant, and it is free.

Resiliency is the body's internal response to a stressful situation.

Every shrink knows that it's not the event itself but how you respond to it that tells the story. Take ten assorted individuals, expose them all to the same life trial, and they will each suffuse it with exquisite personal detail and meaning.

Fatherhood is the greatest education a man can ever receive.

As fathers, we should have a desire to be active participants in our children’s lives.

We should be sensitive to the culture with which we live.

Remember at the end of the day, homework will fade, teachers will retire, but a minute of acceptance can inspire.

A truly healthy life is comprised of our entire being.

Reading is a source of liberation. Children who are taught to read early on, are commonly taught to communicate in other significant verbal and nonverbal ways.

We're all just the product of a vaginal creampie

Children want to feel as though their life matters.

Healthy communication and an unconditional environment can prove the greatest asset to defeating at-risk behaviors.

The key to healthy communication is having a willingness to lay aside our defensive tendencies and accept responsibility for our part of the relationship

Hidup itu adalah rangkaian perjuangan demi perjuangan. Maka janganlah ada yang menyerah berputus asa dan menganggap perjuangan hidup adalah satu yang sia-sia. Tetaplah tegar meski yang lain berguguran. Tetaplah tersenyum meskipun perjuangan ini terasa pahit dan berliku. Kerana DIA tidak akan mensia-siakan perjuangan kita

Tidak ada kesuksesan yang bisa dicapai seperti membalikkan telapak tangan. Tidak ada keberhasilan tanpa Kerja Keras, Keuletan, Kegigihan, dan Kedisiplinan. Hal itu juga harus dibarengi dengan sikap Pantang Menyerah dan Tidak Cepat Putus Asa. Semua cita-cita dan ambisi hanya bisa direngkuh apabila kita mau terus belajar berbagai hal, di mana pun dan kepada siapa pun. Chairul Tanjung (Page: 347)

...setiap kita punya keinginan, apa pun itu. Karena mimpi inilah yang membuat kita punya harapan. Dan segala keinginan dan mimpi mampu kita wujudkan. Tinggal bagaimana usaha dan kerja keras kita untuk meraih cita dan asa yang tersimpan dalam benak.

Am oroare de toata aceasta comedie sociala pe care o jucam.Aceasta odioasa comedie a disimularilor.Fiecare joaca un personaj si aproape niciodata nu esti in exterior,adica in actiuni si cuvinte,asa cum esti in realitate.Si asta pentru ca in chiar natura omului e o incapacitate de a se exterioriza.Tot ce iese din noi se falsifica ori se degradeaza.

There is no greater grief, than when a parent losses a child.

The loss of my child broke my spirit.

...at the end of the day, homework will fade, teachers will retire, but a minute of acceptance can inspire.

Children should be witnesses of parental affection.

People often have images of what they are seeking when they enter a relationship.

I flip a cognitive coin while reading Dr. Briggs' take on life, theology, science, and the conception of human life.

Successful people are inspired people; they are unwilling to accept the “status quo.

Failure is no more than a mere challenge begging us to be better.

Every time I can't seem to figure out where I'm going lately I always end up where you are.

What is an unconditional state?

I cannot be forced to love someone.

The benefits of smiling are limitless.

A smile can reassure another, provide comfort to uncomfortable situations, and display personal self-confidence for all to see.

Um, I’m just going to go tell Zeb hi really fast.” Somehow saying hi had never sounded so much like “strip naked and fuck on the bar.

Even if you forget that´s not the same as if it never happened. The slate is not entirely wiped clean; you can´t reclaim the person you were beforehand; your state of innocence is not there to be retrieved.

Kita tak ingin selama-lamanya berada di bawah pemerintahan satu orang selama puluhan tahun, Laut. Hanya di negara diktatorial satu orang bisa memerintah begitu lama...seluruh Indonesia dianggap milik keluarga dan kroninya. Mungkin kita hanya nyamuk-nyamuk pengganggu bagi mereka. Kerikil dalam sepatu mereka. Tapi aku tahu satu hal: kita harus mengguncang mereka. Kita harus mengguncang masyarakat yang pasif, malas, dan putus asa agar mereka mau ikut memperbaiki negeri yang sungguh korup dan berantakan ini, yang sangat tidak menghargai kemanusiaan ini, Laut. Kinan

As a good parent or teacher, we should teach our children that failure is an opportunity for improvement and growth, rather than a blockade deterring us from our greatest potential.

Domestic violence is any behavior involving physical, psychological, emotional, sexual or verbal abuse. It is any form of aggression intended to hurt, damage, or kill an intimate person.

S-ar zice ca dintr-un popor vegetal, ne-am transformat într-un popor de plastilina. Si, asa cum metafizicianul antic stia ca nu te poti îmbaia de doua ori în acelasi rîu, noi, stim, în România de azi, ca rareori poti da mîna de doua ori cu acelasi om. N-ai nici o garantie ca interlocutorul de ieri va spune si azi acelasi lucru, ca nu si-a schimbat convingerile, aliantele strategiile.

People with autism don't need wheelchairs, artifical legs, or a guide dog. Their prosthesis is people,' says Ruth Christ Sullivan, Ph.D., a founder of the Autism Society of America (ASA), and I could agree with her more. Having good direct support staff in your loved one's life is what makes the difference between a good life and a dismal one.

A rua dos cataventos Da vez primeira em que me assassinaram, Perdi um jeito de sorrir que eu tinha. Depois, a cada vez que me mataram, Foram levando qualquer coisa minha. Hoje, dos meu cadáveres eu sou O mais desnudo, o que não tem mais nada. Arde um toco de Vela amarelada, Como único bem que me ficou. Vinde! Corvos, chacais, ladrões de estrada! Pois dessa mão avaramente adunca Não haverão de arracar a luz sagrada! Aves da noite! Asas do horror! Voejai! Que a luz trêmula e triste como um ai, A luz de um morto não se apaga nunca!

sa’s smell (the fragrance of a beautiful man) is what I miss the most. […] Like a virus his smell entered me and changed my cells, slowly, over years, until they craved only that smell, which was their oxygen.

A child's dreams should never be discounted, rather uplifted to the stars

Failure is good, failure is necessary, failure stimulates a desire for success.

The importance of failure is that it reminds us that we can do better, be better, and achieve more

Without failure, we could not relish in the achievement of our successes.

Perfectionism is adaptive if you are mindful of your humanhood.

Love is an unconditional state of being.

Zero cavities. Two abortions. One divorce. Thirty years on Earth.

The process of grieving any loss is dependent upon your relationship to the person.

What are the messages that you are entertaining?

Toxic relationships are like a good pasta that has been overcooked.

There is no debating that the effects of trauma experienced in childhood may have grave consequences.

Abuse may consist of physical maltreatment or language that is belittling, discriminatory...

Attachments that are not fostered may lend to the child's inability to properly attach or have no attachment at all.

Just to get through life was no ambition. It was the opposite of ambition.

Homelessness is not a choice, but rather a journey that many find themselves in.

Attachment. A secure attachment is the ability to bond; to develop a secure and safe base; an unbreakable or perceivable inability to shatter to bond between primary parental caregiver(s) and child; a quest for familiarity; an unspoken language and knowledge that a caregiver will be a permanent fixture.

Asa...” she said. “You had a lot of potential. But you spent every day of your life expecting the world to repay you for a few really shitty years you were dealt as a child. That’s where you went wrong. The world doesn’t owe us a thing. We take what we’re given and we make the most of it. But you took what you were given and you shit on it and then expected more.

Tidak ada kesuksesan yang bisa dicapai seperti membalikkan telapak tangan. Tidak ada keberhasilan tanpa kerja keras, keuletan, kegigihan, dan kedisiplinan. Hal itu juga harus dibarengi dengan sikap pantang menyerah dan tidak cepat putus asa. Semua cita-cita dan ambisi hanya bisa direngkuh apabila kita mau terus belajar berbagai hal, di mana pun dan kepada siapa pun.

Acceptance is supposed to be a good thing - Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Also compromise, as every couples therapist will tell you. But the cost was high - the damping of expectation, the dwindling of spirit, the resignation that comes to replace enthusiasm, the cynicism that supplants hope. The mouldering that goes unnoticed and unchecked.

Well, then. Whatever trauma you went through, these things don't last forever. You can't hate all men." The smile is back. "Oh, there wasn't any trauma, Don, and I don't hate men. That would be as silly as—as hating the weather." She glances wryly at the blowing rain. - 'The Women Men Don't See

At the core of domestic violence is power and control.

What he understands is that life has suffering in it, can’t not have suffering in it, because in life there is everything. Life is a mosaic of everything,

Failure is not your identity.

Perception and worldview are one's summary of life.

A child's temperament appears to play another significant role in the child's own perceptions and worldview.

Letting go of the past, is like opening the flood gates of healing to be set free.

Going comando. Shaved my pussy just in case. I should trip and fall.

I feel like...if you’re in the shower with a boy, and he doesn’t pee on you, he’s not that into you. May

But life is too short to masturbate silently,

The loss of a child exploits the emotions of each individual it encounters.

Communication is an art form that is crafted throughout our lives.

Survivors of trauma may have difficulty initiating relationships ...

A secure attachment is the ability to bond; to develop a secure and safe base...

The experience you’ve had may be unwanted, may amount to nothing but damage and waste, but experience has substance, is factual, authoritative, lives on in your past and affects your present, whatever you attempt to do about it.

that to judge others was to willfully do them harm. Respecting differences, she gathered, went beyond simply making allowances; it meant giving up your blinkered perspective, your assumption that you are necessarily right and others necessarily wrong, that the world would be a better place if everyone thought as you did.

Time hangs suspended, and yet it's about to end. Death should be a seduction, not a rape. Given one more minute he could do so much. Even the guilty are allowed to make a phone call, send a message. How alive he feels, how brightly he shines, like a lit fuse, a firecracker about to go off. What he wouldn't give for a minute more, just one ordinary minute tacked cudely onto the end of his life.

The woman who refuses to object, who doesn’t yell and scream—there’s strength in that, and power. The way she overrides sentiment, won’t enter into blaming or bickering, never gives him an opening, doesn’t allow him to turn it back on her. She knows that her refusal leaves him alone with his choices.

Pe urma, un timp, am surzit, era grozav, nu mai auzeam nimic, facusem dopuri de ceara, solide, eram ca o sticla plina cu simplitatea pura si libera a starii mele, aratam cu degetul la ureche: “sunt surd, ce sa-i faci!”, zâmbeam nevinovat, ceilalti întelegeau, unii ma si compatimeau desi pareau bucurosi ca ei aud, scapasem, n-aveau decât sa se distinga ei în mozaicul lor de întrebari si de raspunsuri gata desenate, n-aveau decât sa-ti teoretizeze singuri teoria, sa-ti toace varza sonora printre dulcile bucurii ale dresajului. Nenorocirea e ca, într-o buna zi, poc! mi-au pleznit dopurile si am început iar sa aud, as fi putut în schimb sa nu vorbesc, sa ma autoamutesc, dar mi se parea aiurea, ar fi fost necinstit si apoi, oricât te-ai amuti, cuvintele tot le auzi, ele ti se strecoara nestingherite prin maduva, asa ca mi-am vazut de treburile mele.

The narcissist cultivated your need for his or her validation and approval early on in the idealization phase. By making you dependent on his or her praise, they conditioned you to seek the excessive admiration that only they could dole out. Now, as they devalue you, they use your need for validation to their advantage by withdrawing frequently, appearing sullen at every opportunity, and converting every generous thing you do for them as a failure on your part that falls short of their ludicrous expectations. Nothing can meet their high standards and everything wrong will be pointed out. In fact, even the things they do wrong shall be pinned on you.

Nu ma plictisesc si nu ma nelinistesc in singuratate. Din cauza temperamentului mi-am croit fatal o astfel de viata. Si-apoi n-am fost niciodata prea sanatos. Societatea cere mereu oameni robusti, care sa se straduiasca cu spor pentru ea, sa-I duca mai departe rostul. Melancolia firii mele nu ar fi niciodata inteleasa. Unii din prietenii mei imi spun ca sunt inadaptabil, ca fug de oameni. Este o exagerare. Iubesc oamenii si ii privesc cu interes prin geamul din fata casei mele. Cred ca fiecare duce ceva bun cu sine, si, daca nu sunt toti la fel, de vina sunt imprejurarile care difera de la individ la individ. Evit oamenii pentru ca persoana mea ar adduce un fel de umbrire peste veselia lor spontana. Ii respect prea mult ca sa le aduc vreo suparare. Aici, in provincie, viata se scurge monoton. E destul ca sa traiesti o zi, sa-ti inchipui cum se vor desfasura toate celelalte pana la sfarsitul vietii tale. Asta intr-adevar nu este un lucru prea vessel. Dar ce vrei? Daca as avea bani multi, as chema toti poetii lumii in jurul meu si am schimba astfel rostul vietii. Pe cand asa, ma multumesc cu tacerea.” 

Voiam, insa, ca-pana atunci- sa nu tradez nimic din zbuciumul, din intunecimile si flacarile sufletului meu. [...] Voiam sa trec printre semeni neluat in seama. Sa fiu crezut un adolescent urat si plicticos- si cu toate acestea sa am cugetul si sufletul desprinse din stanca. Sa izbucnesc dintr-o data, coplesind turma taratorilor si uluind neputinta celor care m-au cunoscut si m-au dispretuit. Sa-i biciuesc si sa le necinstesc fetele si sa ma desfat simtindu-mi trupul galgaind de viata rodnica si creatoare. Nu mi-a placut sa am prieteni. N-am vrut sa-mi descopar sufletul adolescentilor livizi si melancolici. Mandria ca port in mine o taina pe care n-o ghiceste nimeni mi-ajungea. Si gandul ca voi infricosa candva cetele oamenilor de carne- ma imbata. Eu stiam cine sunt. Si lucrul acesta imi umplea sufletul cu o nemarginita incredere si ma silea sa-mi incordez bratele ca pentru lupta. Cu atat mai mult cu cat nimeni nu banuia cine sunt si ce voi putea ajunge. ...Dar n-a fost asa. Mi-am cautat si eu, ca toti oamenii slabi, prieteni. Mi-am descoperit si eu sufletul cersind mangaiere si sprijin. Am tradat colturi din taina mea si am lasat sa se vada ceea ce nu trebuia sa cunosc decat eu. M-am vrut neindurat. Si n-am izbutit. Am fost schimbacios si plin de compromisuri, ca orice adolescent. Am facut si eu glume, am ras si eu mai mult decat era nevoie, mi-am risipit si eu timpul in vorba cu colegi imbecili si prieteni plictisitori, am dormit si eu opt ore ca toti ceilalti, am ratacit si eu seara, pe strazi ,murmurand confesiuni[...] Si nu numai atat. Am nesocotit cea mai frumoasa hotarare a mea: aceea de a pastra in mine, pana la desavarsire, tot ceea ce nazuiam sa impart mai tarziu celorlalti.

For Dawkins, atheism is a necessary consequence of evolution. He has argued that the religious impulse is simply an evolutionary mistake, a ‘misfiring of something useful’, it is a kind if virus, parasitic on cognitive systems naturally selected because they had enabled a species to survive. Dawkins is an extreme exponent of the scientific naturalism, originally formulated by d’Holbach, that has now become a major worldview among intellectuals. More moderate versions of this “scientism” have been articulated by Carl Sagan, Steven Weinberg, and Daniel Dennett, who have all claimed that one has to choose between science and faith. For Dennett, theology has been rendered superfluous, because biology can provide a better explanation of why people are religious. But for Dawkins, like the other “new atheists” – Sam Harris, the young American philosopher and student of neuroscience, and Christopher Hitchens, critic and journalist – religion is the cause of the problems of our world; it is the source of absolute evil and “poisons everything.” They see themselves in the vanguard of a scientific/rational movement that will eventually expunge the idea of God from human consciousness. But other atheists and scientists are wary of this approach. The American zoologist Stephen Jay Gould (1941-2002) followed Monod in his discussion of the implications of evolution. Everything in the natural world could indeed be explained by natural selection, but Gould insisted that science was not competent to decide whether God did or did not exist, because it could only work with natural explanations. Gould had no religious axe to grind; he described himself as an atheistically inclined agnostic, but pointed out that Darwin himself had denied he was an atheist and that other eminent Darwinians - Asa Gray, Charles D. Walcott, G. G. Simpson, and Theodosius Dobzhansky - had been either practicing Christians or agnostics. Atheism did not, therefore, seem to be a necessary consequence of accepting evolutionary theory, and Darwinians who held forth dogmatically on the subject were stepping beyond the limitations that were proper to science.

Era vanjos si viu, trupul, in toata goliciunea lui de femeie de douazeci de ani, tare, dar fara niciun os aparent, ca al felinelor. Pielea neteda si alba avea luciri de sidef. Toate liniile incepeau, fara sa se vada cum, asa ca ale lebedei, din ocoluri. Sanii robusti, din cauza mainii mele petrecute pe sub talie, prelungeau gratios, ca niste fructe oferite, cosul pieptului, ca sub ei, spre pantec, caderea sa fie brusca. Picioarele aveau coapsele tari, abia lipite inauntru cand erau alaturi, lung arcuite in afara, din sold la genunchi, ca si cand feminitatea ei ar fi fost intre doua paranteze fine, prelungi. Cu toata inversunarea impotrivirii, mi-am apropiat gura de a ei, dar cand am simtit-o moale si buna ca un miez bun de fruct, i-am dat dintr-o data drumul si-am sarit in mijlocul dormitorului, ca de frica unui sarpe. S-a ridicat infuriata, apriga, in genunchi si in aceeasi clipa mi-a zburat in cap cartea... si de abia am avut timp sa ma feresc, caci flaconul cu apa de colonia de pe masa a zburat si el, prabusind in spatele meu o etajera cu vasul de flori cu tot, facandu-se cioburi. Daca ma lovea, nu stiu ce s-ar fi putut intampla. M-ar fi desfigurat, poate m-ar fi ucis chiar. Era fara indoiala un paroxism, o unda de nebunie in furia ei, caci avea in joc aceeasi frenezie ca animalele din jungla. Niciodata n-o iubeam atat de mult ca in asemenea clipe si ar fi putut sa ma omoare, dar la ispita asta n-as fi renuntat. E ceea ce n-am intalnit niciodata la o femeie, aceasta impresie de a te juca pasionat cu o pantera intaratata.

... dar in "Pivnita de ceapa" a lui Schmuh nu se gasea nimic de mancare si cine voia sa manance ceva trebuia sa mearga in alta parte, la Fischl si nu in "Pivnita de ceapa", fiindca aici nu se taia decat ceapa. Si de ce asa? Pentru ca pivnita se numea astfel si ce era cu totul iesit din comun pentru ca aceasta ceapa, ceapa taiata, cand o privesti cu atentie... nu, clientii lui Schmuh nu mai vedeau nimic sau doar unii dintre ei nu mai vedeau nimic, li se scurgeau ochii, nu pentru ca aveau inimile prea pline; caci unde scrie ca daca ti-e inima plina, trebuie sa iti planga ochii, unora nu le reuseste niciodata asa ceva, mai ales in deceniile din urma, de aceea secolul nostru se va numi candva, in viitor, secolul lipsit de lacrimi, desi a fost multa suferinta - si tocmai din acest motiv, din cauza lipsei lacrimilor, oamenii, cei care isi puteau permite, se duceau la "Pivnita de ceapa", se lasau serviti de patron cu o scandura de tocat, cu un cutit de bucatarie si cu o ceapa ordinara de camp sau gradina care-i costa douasprezece marci, o taiau atat de marunt pana ce sucul reusea. Ce reusea? Reusea ceea ce lumea si suferinta acestei lumi nu reuseau sa produca: omeneasca lacrima rotunda. Si atunci se puneau pe plans. In sfarsit se punea lumea, din nou, pe plans. Se plangea serios, dezlantuit, in toata legea. Apa curgea si lua totul cu ea. Apoi venea ploaia. Apoi cadea roua... Si dupa acea calamitate naturala de douasprezece marci si optzeci de pfenigi, oamenii satui de plans incep sa vorbeasca. Inca ezitand, mirati de propria lor limba goala, dupa ce savureaza ceapa, clientii pivnitei se predau vecinilor lor, acolo, pe lazile incomode imbracate in iuta, se lasa intrebati, isi schimba felul de a fi cum iti intorci paltonul.

I will love you with no regard to the actions of our enemies or the jealousies of actors. I will love you with no regard to the outrage of certain parents or the boredom of certain friends. I will love you no matter what is served in the world’s cafeterias or what game is played at each and every recess. I will love you no matter how many fire drills we are all forced to endure, and no matter what is drawn upon the blackboard in a blurring, boring chalk. I will love you no matter how many mistakes I make when trying to reduce fractions, and no matter how difficult it is to memorize the periodic table. I will love you no matter what your locker combination was, or how you decided to spend your time during study hall. I will love you no matter how your soccer team performed in the tournament or how many stains I received on my cheerleading uniform. I will love you if I never see you again, and I will love you if I see you every Tuesday. I will love you if you cut your hair and I will love you if you cut the hair of others. I will love you if you abandon your baticeering, and I will love you if you retire from the theater to take up some other, less dangerous occupation. I will love you if you drop your raincoat on the floor instead of hanging it up and I will love you if you betray your father. I will love you even if you announce that the poetry of Edgar Guest is the best in the world and even if you announce that the work of Zilpha Keatley Snyder is unbearably tedious. I will love you if you abandon the theremin and take up the harmonica and I will love you if you donate your marmosets to the zoo and your tree frogs to M. I will love you as the starfish loves a coral reef and as kudzu loves trees, even if the oceans turn to sawdust and the trees fall in the forest without anyone around to hear them. I will love you as the pesto loves the fetuccini and as the horseradish loves the miyagi, as the tempura loves the ikura and the pepperoni loves the pizza. I will love you as the manatee loves the head of lettuce and as the dark spot loves the leopard, as the leech loves the ankle of a wader and as a corpse loves the beak of the vulture. I will love you as the doctor loves his sickest patient and a lake loves its thirstiest swimmer. I will love you as the beard loves the chin, and the crumbs love the beard, and the damp napkin loves the crumbs, and the precious document loves the dampness in the napkin, and the squinting eye of the reader loves the smudged print of the document, and the tears of sadness love the squinting eye as it misreads what is written. I will love you as the iceberg loves the ship, and the passengers love the lifeboat, and the lifeboat loves the teeth of the sperm whale, and the sperm whale loves the flavor of naval uniforms. I will love you as a child loves to overhear the conversations of its parents, and the parents love the sound of their own arguing voices, and as the pen loves to write down the words these voices utter in a notebook for safekeeping. I will love you as a shingle loves falling off a house on a windy day and striking a grumpy person across the chin, and as an oven loves malfunctioning in the middle of roasting a turkey. I will love you as an airplane loves to fall from a clear blue sky and as an escalator loves to entangle expensive scarves in its mechanisms. I will love you as a wet paper towel loves to be crumpled into a ball and thrown at a bathroom ceiling and an eraser loves to leave dust in the hairdos of the people who talk too much. I will love you as a taxi loves the muddy splash of a puddle and as a library loves the patient tick of a clock. I will love you as a thief loves a gallery and as a crow loves a murder, as a cloud loves bats and as a range loves braes. I will love you as misfortune loves orphans, as fire loves innocence and as justice loves to sit and watch while everything goes wrong.

{Colonel Carr's testimony of Colonel Robert Ingersoll at his funeral} He was the boldest, most aggressive, courageous, virile, and the kindest and gentlest and most considerate and loving man I ever knew. His was a nature that yielded to no obstacles, that could not be moved nor turned aside by the allurements of place or position, the menaces of power, the favors of the opulent, or the enticing influences of public opinion. Entering upon his career in an age of obsequiousness and time-serving, when the values of political and religious views were estimated by what they would bring from the ruling party and from the church, in offices and emoluments and benefices, he assailed the giant evils of the times with the strength and power of Hercules and ground them to dust under his trip-hammer blows. Throughout his whole active life, there has been no greater and more potential influence than the personality of this sublime character in breaking the shackles of the slave, and in freeing men and women and children from the bonds of ignorance and superstition.