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Have the strength to realise what’s happening and ensure that you define yourself. Meet that
negativity with positivity, every single time.
Fear of taking action is fear of the unknown. True leaders don’t underestimate the potential
destructive power of what lies behind that door, but neither do they let that stop them bursting
through it, as long as it’s done carefully and intelligently.
You have a choice. Allow that negativity in, and let it obsess you and
eventually poison you. Or turn it around. If you’re smart, these enemies become a gift – a battery that
never runs out.
A part of the reason I struggled at Pre-Para was the length of my legs. Rather than throw my
hands up, which I very nearly did, I realised I could compensate in another area. We all have reasons
to make excuses for failure. Most people use them. Be the exceptional person – find the route around.
There’s an
expectation, especially when you’re new, that you’ll ‘join in’ and become one of the gang. You need
to hit that balance. If you completely separate yourself, you won’t win trust. But never forget – if you
have your sights set at the top, you need to resist coming across as just another dog in the pack.
Every group you’ll ever belong to will tell themselves they’re the best.
As a leader, you need to let that myth flourish, because it creates motivation. But you should also be
constantly on guard not to believe it yourself.
Do what you have to, even if people judge you for it. I know some of the lads probably found
my attitude to letters and calls to my family harsh or unfeeling. But I had my reasons, and I wasn’t
going to let their preconceptions bully me into not doing what I knew was best for me.
It’s allowing that mistake to take you over
that’s the real problem. When you make a mistake you should accept that it’s happened, push all the
self-recriminations aside and calmly make a new plan.
Don’t be intimidated by all the people you have to beat to get to the top. It was a dizzying
moment for me, in Sennybridge, when I saw the amount of bodies in that room, knowing that only a
handful would pass. The numbers are irrelevant. The only thing that counts is you.
You can’t trust your body. It tells you it’s got nothing left when
it’s still a hundred miles from breaking. And when it does actually break, it heals. The only true war
you’ll ever fight is with your own mind.
Wins are rarely clean. Life is complex, people are dangerous, and real fights usually cause
damage to both sides. I was furious when I discovered that Khalida’s mother had been assaulted, but
I also knew that there was nothing I could have done about it.
. I guarantee that life will offer you the opportunity to prove why you’re the leader. And
when it does, it’s all up to you.
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Ant Middleton (First Man In Leading from the Front & SAS Who Dares Wins Leadership Secrets from the Special Forces By Anthony Middleton 2 Books Collection Set)