Alison Armstrong Quotes

Objectification is the female equivalent of emasculation.

A person's will is enabled, strengthened, by love. The greater their ability to dwell in love, the more potent their will.

Unlike the fairy tale princes, real men do not like having to save someone.

Being able to let go of a righteous position is a key to creating partnership.

some women turn frogs into princes. But that takes a queen, not a princess — or a shrew. Like most women, you, my dear, turn princes into frogs!

She'd assumed the prince was for show, and the frog was their true nature being revealed. What if they actually were Princes? And something I did changed them?

she fell asleep wondering if turning frogs into princes could be learned. Or do you have to be born royalty?

Men do not get credit for their wisdom about partnership. In fact, while they instinctively compete and conceal, men are more compelled to partner than women.

A compulsion to get married is not the same as a desire to partner.

A smart man will always choose an ounce of prevention over a pound of cure,” he

If you're always trying to impress me, how come you don't take out the trash?” The look on his face was priceless. He blurted out in undisguised bewilderment, “That would impress you?

Women are instinctively motivated by perfection, and the need to be perceived as perfect enough to be pleasing — and therefore, protected and provided for. But not too perfect so as to cause jealousy in other women. This is the source of our drive to improve ourselves, and our fear of standing out at the same time.

The bigger your commitments, the more help you are going to need.

gifts of words and time and touch.

compassionate humor is an expression of Human Spirit. As you battle your own most primitive, defensive reactions, there is no better weapon.

Armstrong,

You have a good argument, Karen. And, would you be willing to consider this from another point of view?

Ninety-nine percent of the confusion and frustration between men and women is because we assume we’re versions of each other. It goes both ways, although men are a little bit more forgiving. They allow for the mystery of women. But honestly, when men look at women they see a softer, more lovely, multitasking, emotionally-indulgent man. And they interact with us as if we’re men! Realizing that we’re not versions of each other meant that I needed to pay much closer attention to men than I’d originally planned.

Celebrate your accomplishments so thoroughly as to burn the bridge to whom you were before,’” Claudia responded. “This is extremely important, especially on a lifelong journey. You must stop from time to time and lay claim to the progress you have made. And close off the option of retreating to a smaller version of yourself. Your accomplishments may be new skills or abilities, or new horizons that you could not see before. It could be new relationships or new possibilities in existing relationships. By claiming them, you mark your progress. It helps to fight off the despair when the way before you seems endless.

Here are some additional books that I recommend… The Queen’s Code – Alison Armstrong For Women Only – Shaunti Feldhahn The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida

do with each other?” Claudia smiled a knowing smile.

Women are instinctively motivated by perfection, and the need to be perceived as perfect enough to be pleasing — and therefore, protected and provided for. But not too perfect so as to cause jealousy in other women. This is the source of our drive to improve ourselves, and our fear of standing out at the same time.” Karen

She is miserable because women tend to think that whatever bad thing is happening now will continue forever. While they often think that a good thing will disappear any moment. We lack perspective since the worry part of our brain — the amygdala — is more active than in men. It can make us lose faith.

hope that somehow the partnership that eluded her would come within reach. Though she felt pessimistic, it was hope that made her try one more time. It was also hope that had her marry Mathew. The hope that after their wedding, he’d resume being the affectionate and engaging companion he was during their courtship. When Mathew remained as distant as he had become during their engagement, despite the ring on his finger, she blamed it on her flaws. She set out to make Mathew love her more and want her more by perfecting herself. She lost weight, she learned to cook the same meals as his mother, she even climbed mountains in the dead of winter. But nothing worked. After four years of trying, she concluded she lacked “the Grace Kelly gene.” This was the only way Kimberlee could justify why her husband never pursued her with gifts. Especially the ones she craved most: gifts of words and time and touch. Again, it was hope that had her leave Mathew. She’d rather risk being alone for the rest of her life to have a chance at the union she believed was possible. Yes, she wanted children and a family. But she needed support and attention, and laughter and passion. She wanted love and affection, and couldn’t live without interest and respect. It wasn’t hope that led her to Brett. That was pure chemistry and charisma. And for a while, it worked. He was attentive,