Alexander Den Heijer Quotes

When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.

You often feel tired, not because you've done too much, but because you've done too little of what sparks a light in you.

It's not finding yourself that's hard; it's facing yourself that is.

Don't spend your entire life building a ship, without ever tasting the salt of the ocean.

The eternal tension between what is and what ought to be either leads to frustration or transformation. The choice is yours.

The reason many people suffer is not that life is too tough; it's that they haven't found something worth living for.

Getting to know a diverse group of people leads to a better understanding of yourself.

Being confident doesn't mean we have to show everyone how good we are; it means that we know we are enough without having the need to show off.

Now is always the right time to deal with life. Face it.

Be bold enough to know that you can make a difference. Be humble enough to know that you're a limited creature.

The secret of being at peace with yourself is to always do what you know you must do.

The problem with fear is that it suppresses creativity, joy, curiosity, and spontaneity.

Listen to your internal compass and let it guide you.

When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower. -Alexander den Heijer

Most people fear change because change brings challenges and challenges bring discomfort. People don't like discomfort, because they are attached to the way things are. Comfort is addictive. It leads to laziness and inaction. It slowly dulls the spirit. It makes us stop growing. Change may bring challenges, but with every challenge comes an opportunity to grow and evolve.

If we have something to aim for, then the unavoidable struggle will have a sense of meaning to it. Hardship stretches us and enables us to realise our potential. This is how we grow. We don't grow without pressure. But if we are unable to find meaning in hardship; we just wither. Do we see hardship as a meaningless way to make us suffer, or do we see it as a meaningful way to make us stronger?

To live our lives trying to avoid mistakes is one of the biggest mistakes we can make.

There’s a saying that goes, ‘The best way out is always through.’ If we want to live without fear, or any other emotion, we must first learn to live with it.

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.

If we don't do what we know we must do, we disturb our peace of mind. If we do this often, we may harm our self-esteem. We all make mistakes and we all make excuses. This is part of being human. The key is to correct ourselves as fast as we can.

But in reality, it’s the way we relate to things that matters. It’s not social media that makes us depressed; it’s our relationship to it. It’s not money that makes us unhappy; it’s our relationship to it. It’s not our partner that makes us happy; it’s our relationship to him or her. Instead of changing the world around us, it may be better to change the way we relate to the world.

When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower. – Alexander Den Heijer

Too many of us believe happiness is a future event. And before we arrive, we need more money first, have a successful career, find a partner, settle down. And only then we will arrive at the destination of happiness. But when we arrive, we will realise happiness isn't there. Happiness is not found at the finish line. There isn't even a finish line. Life is not a race to be finished; it's a dance to be danced.

As inspirational speaker and trainer, Alexander Den Heijer says: “You often feel tired, not because you've done too much, but because you've done too little of what sparks a light in you.

You don't inspire people by revealing your super powers; you inspire people by helping them reveal their own super powers.

Until we have inner permission to be who we are, we will always be searching for it in the outside world.

The moment we discover our purpose is the moment we tap into an infinite source of energy. This is the moment we realize we weren’t tired; we were just uninspired. As Mark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.

In time, peace cannot be found. In expectation, it is suspended. In surrender, it is right here.

Wisdom begins where certainty ends

Sometimes, when we become a friend to ourselves, we become a stranger to others.