Adachi Quotes

To me, socializing was like sinking to the bottom of a deep, deep ocean... Until eventually you couldn't take it anymore, and had to come up for air" - Shimamura - Adachi to Shimamura

When you care about something, you try to do it well. When you care about everything, you do nothing well, which then compels you to try even harder. Welcome to being tired.

The secret to making yourself stronger is to absorb the strength of the people around you—energy begets energy.

Our culture is obsessed with being real, but we've been using the wrong measuring stick.

That’s the irony of perfection: the walls that prevent your vulnerability from being seen also keep you from being known.

efficient systems fail to deliver if they’re implemented without kindness.

I’m very headstrong. Once I’ve caught fire, there’s no dousing the flames—all engines full speed ahead.

I'm all for letting go of perfection, but we've somehow conflated order with being fake. I want to stop applauding chaos as the only indicator of vulnerability. You can be real when life is in order and falling apart. Life is beautifully both.

Use the Same Ingredients My biggest stressor is seemingly limitless options. I want every ingredient, every new cookbook, and the time to make every new recipe I can get my hands on. Oh, and I want kids who will eat every bite without complaint. Fat chance.

We create unnecessary stress by remaking decisions about how we shop every time we need food, so find a way to decide once and lower the stress.

as a self-righteous perfectionist, I was obsessed with keeping score, avoiding failure, and being impressive.

Rest is not a reward. It’s a right. A requirement. Please stop waiting to rest until you have more time to do it.

Living in your season means letting your frustrations breathe but not be in charge.

Theodore Roosevelt’s daughter Alice—quite the subversive herself—said she’d “always lived by the adage, ‘Fill what’s empty, empty what’s full, and scratch where it itches.

You can desire things that someone else doesn’t. You can struggle with something that gives someone else joy. You can care about what matters to you even if it doesn’t matter to someone else, and we can all lovingly and compassionately exist together in that tension.

Streamline your products by choosing the bare minimum for your most necessary jobs. Don’t force yourself to choose among five different cleaners like you’re scrolling a Netflix queue of disinfectants. Pick up a bottle and go clean. You don’t need to waste time choosing

Laziness, especially in this context, is not bad. In fact, part of being a wholehearted, integrated person is embracing that you can’t do A-level work in every part of your life. You must actively choose to let some things be easy or lazy so that you can focus on what matters the most.

IS A CAPSULE WARDROBE WORTH THE HASSLE? A capsule wardrobe is not for everyone, but here’s where the concept is helpful to us all: every item you own is a fixed decision. When you buy something, you’re deciding it’s worth choosing over and over again. You’re deciding to give it space—in your closet and your mind. If your closet is full of items that aren’t worth choosing, they’re taking space away from the items that matter and make you feel like yourself. Keep in your closet only fixed decisions you’re happy making, no matter how many items you have or how well they go together.

power comes when you decide once for yourself. Here’s a surprise: every item you own is a fixed decision. When you buy a shirt, a new set of pens, or a gallon of olive oil from Costco, your choice to buy it is also a choice to use, store, and take care of it. Every item you own is a fixed decision.

Hear me now or regret it later: Everything you write must be read aloud. Once all the context items are in place, this is the final test for any written piece...Do not neglect your sense of hearing in the process of writing and reading. As a longtime teacher of English as a foreign language, I can tell you on good authority that you have been listening to the English language at least five or six years longer than you have been writing and reading. And, most probably, your ears also had eighteen or more years of familiarity with the language before you began to read or write with a writer's sensibility. For these reasons, your ears know when things sound okay, good, beautiful, strange, awkward, or just plain bad, before your eye can pick up on such things...Your written voice should burn with the fire of fervent prayer, soothe like a friend's voice during a late-night phone call, alure like a lover's whisper. You must, through your accessible, infinitely read-aloudable voice, make your audience into an insatiable reader of your words.

Hear me now or regret it later: Everything you write must be read aloud. Once all the context items are in place, this is the final test for any written piece... Do not neglect your sense of hearing in the process of writing and reading. As a longtime teacher of English as a foreign language, I can tell you on good authority that you have been listening to the English language at least five or six years longer than you have been writing and reading. And, most probably, your ears also had eighteen or more years of familiarity with the language before you began to read or write with a writer's sensibility. For these reasons, your ears know when things sound okay, good, beautiful, strange, awkward, or just plain bad, before your eye can pick up on such things... Your written voice should burn with the fire of fervent prayer, soothe like a friend's voice during a late-night phone call, alure like a lover's whisper. You must, through your accessible, infinitely read-aloudable voice, make your audience into an insatiable reader of your words.

you’re tired not because of your schedule but because you’re trying so hard to be a perfectly optimized human.

When you care about everything, you do nothing well, which then compels you to try even harder. Welcome to being tired.

I figured weak, unimpressive people ask for help. Outwardly confident, inwardly crumbling people go solo.

I cared too much about the wrong things.

Constant decision-making is one of the reasons you don’t have energy for things that matter to you.

I hated the pressure of Mondays because I felt like every decision reset to zero.

True fulfillment comes from subtraction, from removing everything that distracts you from what matters and leaving only what’s essential.

When you fill your life with things that are not essential to what matters to you, you unintentionally add noise to your life.

Self-care should be a regular practice of doing what makes you feel like yourself. It’s a practice of remembering who you are.

If cleaning your house is tending to your home and making space for what matters, think about that for a minute. Breathe.

Essential doesn’t have to mean minimal; it simply means eliminating distraction from what matters.

if you habitually look behind and beyond where you are, discontentment will be an eager companion

Most people cannot and, frankly, should not approach every day the same way. That’s a recipe for unmet expectations and exhaustion.

What is your realistic output today? Some days, you just don’t have enough gas in the tank, and as much as you’re able, honor that.

Do not judge every day against your best day.

Sometimes things feel upside down because we’re not letting our season teach us what we need to know.

TO RECAP Ask, What can I do now to make life easier later? Tend to what’s necessary before it becomes urgent. Get specific with the Magic Question, and Lazy Genius literally anything.

ONE SMALL STEP — Name something that stresses you out, and make one fixed decision to make it easier. One, not thirty-seven. And that is the perfect segue into our next Lazy Genius principle: start small.

THE RIGHT ORDER FOR EVERYTHING Any task, from filling out a spreadsheet to having a hard conversation, can be improved by following these three steps: Remember what matters. Calm the crazy. Trust yourself.

if getting ready for our future comes at the expense of our present, we will always feel discontent. We will continuously struggle to truly live our lives because we’re not really here. Preparation cannot be our primary focus.

The mental energy needed to get dressed each morning is nonexistent. This one decision even spills over into how he does laundry, how and where he stores his clothes, how he packs for a trip, and how he adjusts his clothes based on the weather.

What do you need to accept today? Because you live in a production-driven society, low-energy days often lead to shame because you can’t do what you think you should. I don’t want that for you. Instead, learn to accept the reality of what’s in front of you.

Little did I know you can be just as exhausted from not trying as you can from trying too hard. Managing apathy and survival mode takes as much energy as managing rules and perfection. Still, I leaned into “messy hair, don’t care” to hide the fact that I cared deeply.

TO RECAP Limit your decisions by making certain choices once and then never again. Deciding once doesn’t make you a robot but leaves more time for you to be human. You can decide once in any area, including giving gifts, getting dressed, making meals, cleaning the house, and creating traditions.

We need a filter that allows us to craft a life focusing only on what matters to us, not on what everyone else says should matter. My friend, welcome to the Lazy Genius Way. HOW TO READ THIS BOOK Here’s your new mantra: be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don’t…to you.

Streamline your products by choosing the bare minimum for your most necessary jobs. Don’t force yourself to choose among five different cleaners like you’re scrolling a Netflix queue of disinfectants. Pick up a bottle and go clean. You don’t need to waste time choosing something when you can decide once.

DECIDE HOW YOU CLEAN ONCE I loathe cleaning, and regardless of whether you share my hatred, deciding once can help the entire process feel manageable. Streamline Your Products When you buy a cleaner that’s on sale, a fancy microfiber cloth, or a magic mop you saw on Shark Tank, you’re making a fixed decision to use that item. If you use it and it adds value to your life, high five. If you don’t use it, it becomes clutter. Stuff is the enemy of clean, and the more stuff you have, the harder it is to clean your house. Ironically, when I’m discontented with my home, I buy things to make it prettier or cleaner, which only makes the problem worse by adding to the noise.

I eventually signed up for breakfast duty not out of kindness but because I wanted my breakfast to be the gold standard. Yes, I cringe with humiliation as I publicly share such hubris, but as a self-righteous perfectionist, I was obsessed with keeping score, avoiding failure, and being impressive. Comparison and judgment were par for the course.*

You’re “on” all the time, trying to be present with your people, managing the emotions of everyone around you, carrying the invisible needs of strangers in line at the post office, and figuring out how to meet your own needs with whatever you have left over—assuming you know what your needs are in the first place. It’s too much. Or maybe it feels like too much because you haven’t read the right book, listened to the right podcast, or found the right system.

Make the Same Meal When You Have People Over Inviting new people over can feel scary, so make it easier by offering the same meal each time. Choose a crowd-pleasing recipe you feel confident making, and always serve it the first time someone comes to your home. Now you can enjoy being hospitable rather than stressing out over what to have or how it’s going to turn out. Homemade pizza is my personal go-to. I love making it for new friends because it’s fun and everybody likes pizza.*6

Streamline Your Routine Vacuum on Thursdays. Clean the mirrors when you dust. Clean the shower before you get out. Clean the toilet before you shower because toilets are gross. Your cleaning routine doesn’t have to be elaborate, be based on days of the week, or even be a routine at all. Deciding once simplifies cleaning, period. Pause and think about the cleaning tasks that sap you dry. What would happen if you made one decision just one time to make the process a little bit easier?

This is when you bleed. A delight. But this is also when you are slower, you retreat, and you easily notice what’s happening in and around you. Winter is your model. In winter, nature slows down. It rests. It moves inward. And when you are in your menstrual phase, so do you. As much as it’s in your control, during this phase each month, don’t be overly social. Do mindless, slow tasks like paying bills, folding laundry, and filling out spreadsheets. Make comforting dump-and-stir dinners. Go to bed earlier on these days and take advantage of the rest your body naturally craves. Don’t expect a lot of creativity to come out of you. It’s on a break right now, and that’s expected and part of your rhythm.

Does everyone else have this figured out? Is my hole too deep? And where is all the water going? We pause to catch our breath, wondering if everyone else feels like an epic failure too. One person can’t possibly keep up with a clean house, a fulfilling job, a well-adjusted family, an active social life, and a running regimen of fifteen miles a week, right? With silence our only answer, we decide, No, it’s just me. I need to get it together. What follows is a flurry of habit trackers, calendar overhauls, and internet rabbit holes to figure out how to be better, until we pass out from emotional exhaustion or actual adrenal fatigue or we give up completely and head back to the beach house for a shame-filled margarita.

That’s the irony of perfection: the walls that prevent your vulnerability from being seen also keep you from being known. I also tried to be the perfect friend. I didn’t rock the boat, I kept my problems to myself, and I was a chameleon in each relationship. No one knew that I was ashamed of having divorced parents, that I desperately wanted to be pretty, or that I was one mistake from falling apart. I assumed letting people see the imperfect, broken parts of me would put the friendship in jeopardy, and that simply wasn’t an option. That’s the irony of perfection: the walls that prevent your vulnerability from being seen also keep you from being known. I was always trying to hide behind perfection because I didn’t think my full self was enough.

Create a Meal Matrix A meal matrix is a way to decide once what you’ll eat on certain days of the week. Meatless Monday, Taco Tuesday, and Instant Pot Wednesday are all forms of deciding once. At my house, we always have Pasta Monday, Pizza Friday, and Leftovers Saturday. My choices within those categories are open, but I’ve already made a helpful choice. The nice thing about a meal matrix is that it’s completely customizable. You don’t need me to tell you what to decide once; you can make your own choices and plug them in where they make sense. You don’t have to be overly specific with any day or even have every day filled. Three days are enough for me; fewer or more might work better for you. Regardless, deciding your meal matrix once creates an easy, actionable meal planning system that’s the perfect combination of lazy and genius.

You can be real when life is in order and when it’s falling apart. Life is beautifully both.

However, when you don’t follow through with that choice and leave the shirt in the bag, the pens in a desk drawer you never open, and the gallon of olive oil on the floor of your pantry because it’s too big for the shelf, you’re adding to the clutter and noise of your life, not the ease and margin that fixed decisions can offer.

What’s important, then, is to make good fixed decisions—ones that will add value to your life instead of taking value from it. Decide once, on purpose, about everything, from the items in your closet to what’s on your calendar. A single, intentional decision relieves your brain of effort, freeing you to think about what matters to you instead of living in a cycle of choosing this and that over and over again.

I’m thinking about all the questions the potential gift raises: Am I contributing clutter to a house that isn’t mine? Am I wasting my energy searching for a gift when I’m flying blind on what the kid likes? Am I just going through the motions of a cultural expectation that’s rooted in materialism and consumerism?

Every time a random kid needs a birthday present, buy the same one: a puzzle, a book, art supplies, a gift card.

Gifts for Family Members You might have an easier time choosing gifts for people you know well, but you still have opportunities to decide once. The popular “something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read” is its own form of deciding once when buying gifts for those you love. If limits like that help, use them. I like to buy my stepdad a book every year because he enjoys reading but doesn’t always seek out books on his own, especially when a newspaper is close by. The book changes, but the gift itself is a fixed decision. My little sister is a beauty product whiz, so my new fixed decision is to always get her some kind of skin care product she might not get for herself.

be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don’t…to you.

You don’t have to be fine all the time. You’re allowed to struggle, to feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities

Without affection for ourselves, without softness on the inside, without being kind to ourselves, we will always be tired.

I want to stop judging women who have it all together, assuming they have something to hide. I want to stop applauding chaos as the only indicator of vulnerability. The Lazy Genius Way

It’s easier to clean up a cup of spilled milk than it is to mend a second-grader’s hurt feelings. The Lazy Genius Way

The goal isn’t to maintain control but to be in a better headspace to engage with what matters—namely, your people.

Your tasks aren’t necessarily the origin of your stress; trying to fit into a mold of who you think you should be almost always is.

Maybe we could... have a thumb wrestling match”, I proposed. My real goal, of course, was to get to hold her hand.

When you’re beginning a task, remember what matters and then ask yourself, What one thing can I do that will most calm the crazy?

When you feel too overwhelmed to make a decision, Pick One. Literally, just pick one thing on your list. Or add a new thing that you know you can do to honor your own humanity, like “take a nap.” You are in charge of your list. Your list is not in charge of you.

What worked and what didn’t work? What filled me up and what emptied me out? What’s one thing I know for sure moving forward?

It’s only by facing our finitude that we can step into a truly authentic relationship with life.”[1]

DR ADACHI SPELL CASTER HELP TO BRING BACK EX LOVER

PLEASE JOIN ME AND THANK PROPHET ADACHI FOR HIS HELP ON BRINGING BACK MY MAN TO ME. my name is Lady Ruth Panrylon. I never believe there will ever be a solution to my relationship problem with my lover. My lover called Jerry Panrylon threw me out of his house and brought in another lady who he now feels the only best for him. Until one day I receive a phone call from a friend in the city that my man is going out on a date with another woman in town, I told her I am also surprise too, because since Jerry has left me he hardly think nor call me. so after some few days my friend called Martha called me and told me that she has found a man that is very powerful, and he is a great herbalist, she heard that the man is blessed with so much herbal voodoo powers which they use to help much people, so he told me that the man name is Prophet Adachi, that she will forward his email address to me so that I can contact him for help, so truly she sent me prophet Adachi email address and I contacted him that faithful day. He mailed me after a great while that my man will be back to me if only I believe on his work, so after 36hrs I receive a phone call from Jerry, and he started begging that I should please forgive him all he had done to me.. He begged me for breaking my heart and letting the other lady a new heart. He promise me never to let go. Now I and Jerry are now planning to get married as soon as possible. We are brought back with the great powerful love spell and bonded with prophet Adachi spell, we are happy and glad. so I thank you sir for the great help you offer to me, because I think this might be the only ways and means I can ever thank you of your work.. I am glad. You can contact him for a love spell or for any kind of spell at: adachispirit@yahoo.com

INSTANT DEATH SPELL CASTER I am very glad for what Prophet Adachi did for me, he help me to cast a death spell om my friend life who was really troubling my life and future, they never needed me to progress, each time I get a job from a company, I get drove back because of the witch craft friends I have, I never knew my friend was the one troubling me, until one day I contacted Prophet Adachi for help and he told me Ramson my friend is the one troubling me and he help me to cast unto him a death spell. I am happy because Ramson the evil doer is dead yesterday with the great death spell of Pophet Adachi. contact him now if you need a death spell at: adachispirit@yahoo.com

If he works hard to love me well by cleaning up after dinner, knowing full well how much I value a clean space, and then I go behind him and “fix it,” that’s putting my preference over my person. That’s dismissing him for the sake of the toaster’s being put back in the cabinet. Name what matters most, especially when it comes to your people. To personalize something doesn’t mean to have it your way; it’s about feeling like yourself and allowing your people to feel the same way.

I'm not lying..." My voice shook, but I had to defend myself. I knew I was weird and awkward here. Since I always forgot my hat, my skin was darker, not the pale shade people thought was pretty here. I knew I had a funny haircut, and maybe I was a burden, maybe I was a nuisance--no, I knew I was, a burden to my aunts, uncles, cousins, Mr. Adachi, Reiko. and maybe the way I spoke made me seem rude when I didn't mean to be... but I didn't say that. I did not lie.

When you notice without kindness, nothing good comes of it. You are judgmental toward others. You are ashamed of yourself. You resent your season of life. You compare yourself to strangers on the internet. Honestly, judgment doesn’t notice anything that matters.

My guess is that even if you've checked off your list, you've checked out on yourself.

This is our biggest misstep with lists in general. Just because things are written one after the other doesn’t mean they’re connected or will require the same level of commitment, energy, or decision-making from you. They were just written at the same time.

I have a more accurate and even joyful perspective about my future when I stay rooted in my present,

Naming what matters is aligning your needs with your season, no matter what is happening. You are paying attention to right now, honoring the life that is in front of you.

As Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks, puts it, “When you’re trying to Master Your Time, few things are more infuriating than a task or delay that’s foisted upon you against your will, with no regard for the schedule you’ve painstakingly drawn up in your overpriced notebook.”[

We simply do not adjust well, and we definitely don’t trust those adjustments when they are small. Incremental adjustment is not a skill we practice, and it’s not a skill the industry widely promotes.

The more you patiently take small steps, whether in your work, your hobbies, your relationships, or your home, the more you experience how trustworthy they are. Small steps can be trusted. Small adjustments lead to true change.

When you’re struggling to adjust with small steps, these three mindsets can help bring balance again: Match your expectations to the energy you’re willing to give. Now isn’t forever. You’re allowed to change your mind.

Adjustments are small not only in scope but also, potentially, in duration. You can make an adjustment in your PLAN that is for just today or just this week, knowing full well it won’t stay like that forever.

Decide once is one of the original thirteen Lazy Genius principles, and it is what it sounds like: Make one decision one time about one thing, and then keep doing that thing until it doesn’t work anymore.

You’re not measuring life by greatness, success, or completed goals. In fact, I personally don’t want to “measure” my life at all. I want to live it. You’re likely the same.

Oliver Burkeman posits that our culture is obsessed with productivity and the future in part because we’re afraid to die. “It’s only by facing our finitude that we can step into a truly authentic relationship with life.”[

You cannot be a genius about everything.

The more you choose what's essential and intentionally support what matters, the less noise you have to manage and the more energy you have for a fulfilling life. (p.147)

It’s not that we don’t have time to invest in communities and relationships. It’s that our time doesn’t line up.

When we are integrated, we compassionately love our true selves and seek to live smack-dab in the center of who we know ourselves to be.

This season. This body. This family. This crisis. This financial situation. This transition. This holiday. This school project. This work deadline. This tantrum. This headache. This meal. This walk. This deep breath. This moment.

Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch what itches.

Life is a painting, not a puzzle.

Our culture was not built for, nor does it adequately support, a woman’s variable hormones, whether you have a typical or an irregular cycle, are on birth control, or have gone through menopause. The way a woman’s body uniquely works matters, and I want it to get its spotlight.