Rt Kendall Total Forgiveness Quotes

The ultimate proof of total forgiveness takes place when we sincerely petition the Father to let those who have hurt us off the hook—even if they have hurt not only us, but also those close to us.

Detached forgiveness—there is a reduction in negative feelings toward the offender, but no reconciliation takes place. Limited forgiveness—there is a reduction in negative feelings toward the offender, and the relationship is partially restored, though there is a decrease in the emotional intensity of the relationship. Full forgiveness—there is a total cessation of negative feelings toward the offender, and the relationship is fully restored.

nine out of ten people I have had to forgive sincerely do not feel they have done anything wrong. It is up to me to forgive them from my heart – and then keep quiet about it.

Forgiveness is worthless to us emotionally if we can’t forgive ourselves.

When speaking to or about another person, ask yourself if what you are about to say will meet their need: Necessary – Is it necessary to say this? Encourage – Will this encourage? Will it make them feel better? Edify – Will it edify? Will it build them up and make them stronger as a result of what you would say? Dignify – Will it dignify that person? That’s the way Jesus treated other people; he gave them a sense of dignity. Criticism

Not keeping a record of wrongs is also a refusal to keep a record of the things you have done right. It is just as dishonoring to God’s grace to keep a record of your rights as it is to keep a record of others’ wrongs. Why? Because it is a form of self-exaltation. You are implicitly saying, “I told you so,” in order to make someone else look bad. It takes spiritual maturity to refrain from saying, “I told you so.

I’ve been in situations where forgiveness has been withheld from me. And I’ve come to understand it’s their choice. But just because they choose to live in a prison of unforgiveness doesn’t mean I have to sit in there with them. Another perspective comes from R.T. Kendall in his book, Total Forgiveness, “Forgiving yourself may bring about the breakthrough you have been looking for. It could set you free in ways you have never experienced before.” The things we’ve been through, even if they are shameful or destructive, could very well be things God wants to use in our lives to help others. And if we’re standing in the way of our forgiveness, healing, and freedom, how can God do His work in our lives?

In our case, God often raises up an enemy to see if we really want to be like Jesus.

When you totally forgive your enemy, you have crossed over into the supernatural realm. Perhaps you are like me and wish

grace is getting what we don’t deserve (favour) and mercy is not getting what we do deserve (justice).

the greater the sin you forgive them of, the greater the measure of the Spirit that will come to you.

A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offence’ (Prov. 19:11).

God designs an enemy to keep us on our toes, but also on our knees.

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But how can I know that there is no bitterness left? I would reply: (1) when there is no desire to get even or punish, (2) when I do or say nothing that would hurt their reputation or future, and (3) when I truly wish them well in all they seek to do. 9

face up to the seriousness – possibly a high-handed wickedness – of what they did; and still to forgive. This